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Valerius Constantine
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04-28-2009 18:32
From: Blondin Linden
I just thought this deserved a re-post :-)



Of *course* it did.

^V^
Colette Meiji
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04-28-2009 18:33
From: Blondin Linden
If you are advertising sex in your parcel description, your store will only show up in adult searches. Otherwise, your store will show up and your items will show up in the parcel details when someone clicks on it.


What about a store on Adult land with "PG" level advertising?

Where does it show up?
Valerius Constantine
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04-28-2009 18:36
From: Alexander Harbrough
By the way, if you try the current list in the San Franciso yellow pages the words are not filtered. The actual ads likely are (based on what comes up), but the keywords are not.

For instance the 'f-word' results in hits for adult-oriented shops.


Actually, that's not a bad question- Does SL allow the use of "meta-tags"? that could solve a lot of problems for merchants on mature land.

^V^
Colette Meiji
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04-28-2009 18:37
From: Darien Caldwell
hehe I don't know about that. If LL thinks people will just stop being who they are to stay in SL, they would be sorely mistaken. I give them more credit than that.

If I wanted to get rid of Sex in SL, it would be pretty simple. Wipe out all the obvious sex related content, ban all the words completely so they return no results, And start aggressively banning any accounts that didn't comply with the no sex ban. Basically what they did with Gambling. It worked pretty well, and no it wasn't perfect.

Companies tend to be creatures of habit. If they wanted it gone, they would do the same thing again. They are doing quite the opposite I think it's plain.

But you know you guys are putting me in the uncomfortable position of lobbying on LL's side. :P Believe me, LL is not my favorite company. Some things they do makes me downright angry. But I have to be as fair and impartial as I can when dealing with these kinds of things. I don't hold past history or the acts of individuals as factors in my decision.

So in the interests of not becoming a cheerleader, and because I think i've said all I have to say, I'm now bowing out of the discussion. Thanks for the lively, yet polite debate. :)


there is a WHOLE lot more sex in SL than there ever was gambling.

I think though that they are okay with Adult content being on Adult rated land.

But I think they will severely control how much adult land their is ..

Unless of you want to fork over for a private island .. cha ching.
Argent Stonecutter
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04-28-2009 18:53
From: Valerius Constantine

Therefore "tit", "cock", etc. are *slang*. not used the same way by everyone. making them verboten simply because one or two countries in the world happen to use them as sexual slang would generate *quite* a list, including plenty of *English* words which have other meanings in other languages.
Don't forget: half the tits out there are cocks.
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Thorn Witrial
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04-28-2009 18:55
http://icanhascheezburger.com/2009/04/28/funny-pictures-sigh-nudists/

Again, the fount of timely commentary.
janeforyou Barbara
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04-28-2009 19:03
Search word like LL are telling us wil be a isue, but i bet that some wil be inventing othher types of words like this:
-Goren = Garean
-Sex= sax
-Porn=Parn
-BDSM= BSDM
-Cock=Cack

And so on, i got no idea if its against the TOS or not but i bet there will be ways to get "round" all this,its just a matter of info from shop owners out to the users, if i got a Mature set mall and a shop rentor there that sells Gorean silk i wil like them to stay there and i will like advertise for them by setting Gorean silk in my classified ad for the mall.
A mall will soon die if ONLY users with pay info will be able to shop there, moust newbees that want to shop usly do not got pay info on file and any mall do depend on NEW costumers.So LL are excluding a lot of users to be able to shop items.

You can not denie a person to buye a adult rated item if thay dont got pay info in file, thats just wrong.
I know many that host and Djs and also do securety work in SL that never had payinfo in file, thay make there linden$ by working all week, this users got cash to spend but are not alloerd to get a adult rated item?
Miro Collas
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04-28-2009 19:08
From: Valentine Young

+ The ability to choose "Adult" as a category of Places to search for will disappear after the 60-day transition period. Any places still categoried as "Adult" at that time will then be migrated by Linden Lab to the "Other" category.



Blondin, could you kindly clarify that point? What is the purpose of moving "adult" places into "other"? And how does this make Search more "predictable"?
Ceera Murakami
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04-28-2009 19:12
Reading the transcripts of the brown bag meetings, I notice some glaring fallacies in the Linden Assertions:

From the merchant meeting transcript:

From: someone
: Now that we are talking about key words - I sell lingerie and dance apparel and my target market are strippers. I can't use 'strippers' now in my keywords when it is not a strip club, even though it is a dance apparel store. This is where the line of overt and illicit gets really gray and starts becoming really unfair to a lot of users. These are the things I am worried about.

A: One question I guess that I would have for you is would it be useful for you if users of search, if Residents could do 'adult only' search? In other words, you are looking for a pair of shoes, let's say. You are looking for a pair of stiletto heels you would wear to a BDSM club or something.

I guess, one way to do it would be to type in 'shoes' plus 'BDSM' or something like that. But, search is not always a hugely targeted or efficient tool. So, would it be useful if you could type in 'shoes' and then confine that only to adult search? And then you are going to get back listings that are more customized to what you are looking for. Would that be a marginal significant help?
Apparently no one told that Linden that keywords like "BDSM" will be verboten and banned!

From: someone
Q: It would, but even though the sex industry is my target market, the other half of my sales are from your average two users who are couples. You know, a guy and a girl, and they have a sex bed off in their apartment. They don't go to the adult Region. They have a sex bed off in their apartment and she wants to buy some sexy lingerie for him.

All of a sudden, if I am classified as adult, I just lost that half of a user base, because they don't want to search adult. They don't want to go to adult, but they want to have their intimate time with their partner and only their partner.

And I just lost that half of a user base, because all of a sudden I am classified as adult. I am just a small business...

A: And you are concerned that they wouldn't be able to get to you because they don't...

Q: Yeah.

A: But, if they have ever done a transaction with you, then they would already be able to get to you because they have got a payment method on file.

(and later in the transcript...)

We are pretty confident from the outset. Most people who want to access adult content in Second Life are already able to do that. There won't be a great deal of work to be done. The payment relationship is already established. It really is a matter, at that point, for them deciding to set the toggle and access the content.
BUZZZT! Dead wrong!

What about alts where they have one main account that buys or earns all their L$, and sends L$ to the alts. None of those alts needs any payment info on file, and all are valid consumers. Let's say I have a dozen alts, and only one credit card. I have payment info on my main, and spread the L$ to the alts as needed. I CAN NOT put more than 5 or so accounts on a single credit card, because LL will not allow me to do so! And don't tell me this isn't so. The ONLY reason all my accounts have payment info on file is that I was able to them spread across four different payment methods! YOU WON'T LET ME PUT THEM ALL ON ONE CARD!

What about people who earn 100% of their L$ by working in-world, and never need to buy L$? They do exist, and they do spend money in world.

What about couples where the boyfriend has payment info, and provides the L$ for his girlfriend's purchases in-world? She has no payment info, and can NOT use his to validate...

From: someone
And as we roll this out, let me just reassure this again. The AR process will not be used to go against content. It will not be used to go against Residences selling these items.
This is all well and good, but NOTHING in the posted maturity ratings guidelines SAYS THIS!

From: someone
The AR process, should people decide they want an AR for content after the fact, is not going to result in somebody's suspension. It is not going to result in somebody's suspension from Second Life.

There will be dialogue. There will be engagement. There will be some coming to some understanding about what this is. I think we are going to learn through the process every bit as much as the residence will. This isn't hard and preset.
That "policy" is a complete about-face from what is done today with AR's, where most often the accused is immediately suspended while the G-Team "looks into the matter". "Hang the accused first and decide if they might have been innocent later" has been the guideline for the AR process to date.

From: someone
Q: We're assuming that anyone that's purchased has payment on file?

A: We've done research into that. We have found, in fact, that most people who are purchasing do so with payment on file. We found, I can't remember exactly how we came up with this number, about two percent of people making purchases in Second Life do so without payment on file. So, it's ultimately representative of a significant population, to be certain, but it is a smaller population than the other side of the equation.
And yet, most merchants surveying their stores and posting results in these forums indicated it was more like 40% to 50% of their customers who were NPOF!

That is enough for one post, and that was less than half of one brown-bag transcript...
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Kara Spengler
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04-28-2009 19:14
From: Valentine Young
do like the thought that LL will have to banish their own name or forever be tarred
with LindenSex,..,LindenXXX being in the same category as the Edsel.

/me points to sig
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Hypatia Callisto
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04-28-2009 19:23
This is my reply to this whole nonsense going on - I found it better to write a blog post.

http://minervan.wordpress.com/2009/04/29/the-potential-corporate-customers-and-adult-ratings/

to copy here -

If anyone believes this whole nonsense about Second Life adult ratings is about all those corporations and businesses who turned down coming to Second Life, you are believing a spin-doctored half-truth.

How soon we forget the CNet disaster with Anshe Chung.

The problem there was not that there were adult strip clubs dotting the mainland, or Hard Alleys on private sims, although some of these certainly had other issues. Most serious adult businesses made the effort to leave the mainland years ago. When I first came to Second Life in 2006, I had interest, like many do, in the erotic potential of the platform. We are humans after all, and most humans find sex pleasurable in certain circumstances. When I went looking for those products for purchase - I invariably went to those sims which specialised in it. I never found the good products on the mainland.

I found them first in Eros - Stroker Serpentine’s sim, and I found them in Eventide - the home of Xcite, Javier Puff’s sim. And countless other private sims. They had been, for many years now, doing the right thing and self separating themselves out. Not out of any silly idea of protecting the children - but out of the very real need to have more control over the areas in which they sell merchandise. Same reason most merchants end up buying private sims, or renting on one.

Private rental estates generally have rules to keep the sex out of public view. Caledon for instance makes it clear in the covenant that obvious public activity be along PG ratings and in theme, while making no restriction to renters to do in privacy in their homes what they would like on their land. As a bonus, above the 512 meter level - the theme is relaxed, even security orbs are allowed over 512 meters. They were, like the sellers of sex animations and scripted items, doing due diligence to keep sexual conduct discreet.

None of them needed the Lab’s assistence for any of this. And they rightfully see the Lab’s current policy as destructive to their business. Oddly enough, that also means it’s destructive to the Lab’s business, but I digress.

No, what the real problem for the corporate users who turned down Second Life was that anyone could come to their sim, and rez a tubgirl shooting scat, or wear a hud shooting pictures of penises, in any event and nobody could do anything about it *before* the fact. The corporations had no control over your inventory. There are no ratings of inventory, no filtering of inventory BEFORE entering a sim.

The problem remains that anyone can rez anything they like in any area of Second Life. So this great experiment is nothing more than More Mainland Land Sales, with a happy helping of coercion to buy it on the side, aimed directly at their CURRENT customers. It’s not a solution to those potentials who turned Second Life down. I predict they will continue to turn Second Life down, until some fundamental problems are addressed. Which I shall illustrate further, now.

The corporations had another problem, dating from the days of Wells Fargo. Years ago, they wanted to set up shop in Second Life. They wanted to keep their data in, and they did not necessarily trust keeping sensitive information on LL’s servers. This has nothing to do with the adult content question and everything to do with security, just like the adult shopkeepers who moved to private sims. They didn’t have it. Linden Lab turned them down back then. And Wells Fargo voted with their feet. They didn’t stay, and who could blame them?

The real answer for these security-conscious corporations was making a standalone Second Life. Well, LL is doing that *now*. But it should have been thinking about it when Wells Fargo asked for it.

There is another problem, and answer I can supply. The problem is the question of content. Corporations are also attracted to Second Life because there is an abundance of content to purchase for small fees. These stand-alone Second Lifes don’t have access to that vast wealth of content or to a competitive market of content creators. And this is a problem.

There is an obvious solution, and I have been advocating for variations of this solution for quite a long time now. I will articulate it here.

Create an inventory system that can be ported across grids. That is, a Second Life member can still be attached to their Second Life inventory while in a stand alone Second Life sim.

ALLOW content creators to make PG, Mature and Adult rated content that can be rezzed across grids, while preserving the permissions system.

Allow standalones and private sim owners to decide which of this content can be rezzed in their systems.

Make this system OPT IN. Content creators need to *submit* their merchandise for ratings. I will be happy to pay a small fee for this. There is no doubt the Teen grid would love to buy PG rated content from the Adult grid too. I am certain many content creators would be FINE with a controlled content system that is cross grid portable, as long as they have the choice whether to participate in it or not.

UNSCREENED content should be allowed as usual, in Second Life proper (the Linden Lab main grid), in Mature sims and up, and also in private sims on the discretion of the sim owners. NOT on standalone grids.

Problem solved.

HAI LL, I HAZ IDEA 2 MONETIZED CONTENT 4 U. Don’t forget to thank me if you use the idea :P

I would be DELIGHTED if the Lab used it!
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Maleena Tiraxibar
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What?
04-28-2009 19:49
o NOTE: After a 60-day transition period, the Options tab will no longer display the 'Adult' dropdown choice on Show Place in Search under: [possible categories] <<< what exactly does this mean?! Does it mean after 60 days phase 2 is to even if you are verified shunt adult off the dropdown, Or does it mean after 60 days anyone none adult verified does not get rhe adult dropdown?!
Colette Meiji
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04-28-2009 20:36
Interesting Post Hypatia

I dont think its entirely correct. I am pretty sure LL wants to "clean up" the mainland and Gate off both the Adult continent and Adult sims from the new users.

Thus making SL a more "family" type place. Google with the filters on, etc.


Still you bring up some really good points. The one about Content being able to be rezzed/worn anywhere regardless of a rating (at least until AR'd for it)

It seems to me INVENTORY items need to have a Adult / Non-Adult tag

actually moreso than Parcels do.

especially since all content is rezzed inventory - after all.
Valentine Moana
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Blondin???
04-28-2009 20:40
From: Maleena Tiraxibar
o NOTE: After a 60-day transition period, the Options tab will no longer display the 'Adult' dropdown choice on Show Place in Search under: [possible categories] <<< what exactly does this mean?! Does it mean after 60 days phase 2 is to even if you are verified shunt adult off the dropdown, Or does it mean after 60 days anyone none adult verified does not get rhe adult dropdown?!


[/mistress mode]Explain your self Blondin, what is this "60-day transition period"
& it's implications
[/mistress mode]
Sindy Tsure
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04-28-2009 20:44
From: Colette Meiji
...I dont think its entirely correct. I am pretty sure LL wants to "clean up" the mainland and Gate off both the Adult continent and Adult sims from the new users.

Thus making SL a more "family" type place. Google with the filters on, etc.

/me doesn't buy it.


Blondin, if I have a parcel on a mature mainland region that is not advertised in search or anywhere else and has nothing for sale and I spend all my prims building a 100m tall penis, will I have to move?
Kira Welty
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04-28-2009 20:56
just a quick note:

Blondin's office hours are tomorrow at 3:30PM SLT
@
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Hanley/205/218/25/

Have a nice time ;)
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Tabliopa Underwood
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04-28-2009 21:06
Just a personal note to my wonderful new ex-neighbours on my PG land. I really hope you like it there and you get your moneys worth. Dont know who from though. I moved. Again. It costs people a fortune when they chase after me. I have no sense of value when it comes to money, mine or yours, you wonderful ex-neighbours you =p =)
Colette Meiji
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04-28-2009 21:07
From: Sindy Tsure
/me doesn't buy it.




Not permanently gate .. just cover up to those without access.

But even those with access will have to choose to use it, so SL will seem much more "Safe for work" on the surface.
Mars Lake
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04-28-2009 21:09
Yes, interesting post Hypatia, but I think off the mark. I'm not sure how it could ever be about inventory when nasty stuff can be made by anyone including a griefer who would label them PG.

Based on my time in corporate IT management and reading the recent press surrounding SL, it would seem to me that the core reason for them to clean up "public" SL to be much safer for the corporate desktops in the workplace. LL has a real opportunity to break into the corporate mainstream, but it won't last forever. There are many corporations though where the things that will be labeled as adult content are NSFW (not safe for work). Casting adult content off into it's own lands could make entry by employees at work much more acceptable.

I wouldn't be surprised if some time after this segregation of adult content occurs if LL makes available business avatars. Get your own business name (or variation of it) as a last name AND the avatars would not be able to switch or verify into adult mode.
Ilana Debevec
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04-28-2009 21:13
From: Kira Welty
just a quick note:

Blondin's office hours are tomorrow at 3:30PM SLT
@
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Hanley/205/218/25/

Have a nice time ;)


I'll bring popcorn, who want's some?
Sindy Tsure
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04-28-2009 21:25
From: Colette Meiji
Not permanently gate .. just cover up to those without access.

But even those with access will have to choose to use it, so SL will seem much more "Safe for work" on the surface.

If I can still build a 100m tall penis on mature mainland without being forced to move, nothing's getting covered up except search results.

Nothing except search results are being made safe for work/schools.
Alexander Harbrough
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04-28-2009 21:30
From: Blondin Linden
No


Heh, is that the word 'adult' won't be censored, or that it would not be ok to say 'adult poseballs' in an ad without it being censored?
Erick Gundersen
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04-28-2009 21:41
From: Pari Perenti
Hey SL, you're becoming too much like a Big Brother to us. As in real life supposedly here in America, and as it should be everywhere, there should be 'Freedom of Speech', 'Freedom of the Press', and all the other freedoms and rights. We pay an awful lot to you guys for everything and I think it would be nice to be away from Big Brother. Those who get too queasy about things they see in SL need to stay in the PG places. Gee, how did you ever get along in the early days of SL.

We should be able to have our fanstasies here the way we want them, and if people infringe on stuff, well that's what the eject and ban button and tp's are for. It was bad enough you took away gambling in SL, which caused an awful lot of businesses to go under in SL, and it was even worse when you changed the Open Spaces and brought in the Homesteads, you just wanted even more money. Heck your the only ones who are really making money in SL from the high tiers you make us pay, and now you want to restrain us even further with the Adult monitoring. Just keep on SL, til you will not have an SL anymore because people will get fed up and go elsewhere to be able to carry out their dreams and fantasies!!!


Personally I am ready to abandon my virtual mainland and hit the delete key on any and all of my builds, items and avatars if the Lindens implement these insane & suicidal changes for Adult content. Second Life was a great experiment and I guess now its time to move on. Have fun Lindens with all the empty virtual space. At least you will have gotten the lag problem licked.

With the Open sims now available SL will become an internet footnote. Its sad to see it happen.
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04-28-2009 21:47
From: Valerius Constantine
JUst because an argument doesn't convince *you*, doesn't make it "spurious". Any word that shares a meaning between an animal and an anatomical reference belonged to the *animal first*.

Therefore "tit", "cock", etc. are *slang*. not used the same way by everyone. making them verboten simply because one or two countries in the world happen to use them as sexual slang would generate *quite* a list, including plenty of *English* words which have other meanings in other languages.

If you are advocating a massive "cleanup" to remove all *possible* "dirty words" on SL, good luck with that, k? :)

^V^


Language changes over time despite causalties, some of which are very lamentable. *And* in this particular case, anyone searching for a 'tit bird' who looked for 'songbirds' would find that vendor's shop and only two others. *In that case* there is likely no damage done.

*Also* I did suggest an alternative search engine that would operate just the same as the current one but leave the keywords hidden, thus allowing the more generic description of a place or business to come up as a response to what would otherwise might be considered by some in need of filtering.

For example, someone could search for 'tit birds' and still have that vendor's shop come up, likely as the only candidate without giving anyone an excuse to whine about seeing a bad word.

Try the San Fransico yellow pages search engine. It seems to find 'adult content' just fine without said shops needing to display any vulgar words in their descriptions.

Edit: I notice you did read and reply to my suggestion a little later. Even if SL does not allow such at the momment, how hard would it be to implement? Wouldn't it just involve adding an additional text field (for the display description) and changing the display to show only the contents of the new field while having leaving the rest of the search engine intact?
Valerius Constantine
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04-28-2009 22:10
From: Kalderi Tomsen
No, I mean threaten to boycott their business, and any other business that supports this idea, and suggest that others do as well. Do you think that creates a nice, warm nurturing environment where people can freely express their opinions without reprisal?

The post in question didn't sound arrogant in the least to me - it was, maybe in the eye of the beholder? The pile-on attitude towards it (oooh, let's find the other people she mentioned so we can boycott them too!) starts sounding like the start of a pogrom and I wanted to try to head that one off at the pass.


First of all, let me say that I am *not* questioning the right of anyone to have an opinion or express it.

that said, the post in question said that the only merchants that would be harmed by the decision would be the "crappy" ones. That doesn't sound arrogant to you? that doesn't sound like "fighting words"? They do to me, especially after having listened to a couple dozen people trying to figure out exactly how badly their businesses will be hurt over the last month and a half.
And as far as it goes, suggesting that we refrain from buying from people who are actively *seeking harm to our businesses* by supporting this policy isn't *bullying*. It is trying to bring a little economic leverage to our argument, because people don't seem to be listening to anything else. As long as they aren't affected by it/won't lose money from it, they could care less about it, or support it, seemingly without any sympathy to those who *will* be harmed by it. At least as far as that single post was concerned. again, it wasn't the opinion, it was the *delivery*.

From: someone
Maybe, but I was going with:
<definition of "bully snipped>
Those in favour of the Adult plan are in the minority, and this call for a witch-hunt and boycotting simply because they have an opinion and posted it here aligns with how I interpret the definition of bullying. Your opinions may differ, and you are more than welcome to your opinion, but instead of engaging the poster about the issues, there were cries of arrogance and taking of offence.


Those in favor of the adult plan are only the minority in this forum. Actually, the * real minority* are the people who even *know* about the adult plan. that's one of the reasons why we are angry. Granted, most of us here believe that if the rest of SL knew what was happening, they wouldn't like it, but to neglect even the *possibility* of athe majority of residents expressing an opinion? Shameful!

And the post *was* offensive in part because of its characterization of anyone being hurt by the policy as being a "crappy" business. How many people here have said that the policy would hurt them? why shouldn't they be upset by that comment?
In what way is assuming that anyone who disagrees with you must peddle *crap* or else they wouldn't be worried *not* an arrogant act? The posted dashed off a flip opinion, phrased poorly, and got everyone stirred up.
You'll notice that the subsequent posts were mostly cordial and measured. questions and answers rather than hostility. That isn't the sort of widespread bullying that you seem to think is going on here. in fact, it is the *opposite*.

From: }If you want a conversation about all sides of the issue, then respect other people's opinions. If you don't, then don't start complaining about how you're only hearing one side of it. You can't have it both ways.[/QUOTE


I respect *everyone's* opinions. What I don't respect sometimes is their *tone*. that's different. I can actually *agree* with what someone is saying but still be mortally offended by the *way* they said it. especially if they are saying it to someone other than *me*. that isn't illogical, or weird. it happens all the time.

From: someone
And, if you are taking an aggressive attitude to those that disagree with you, then you can not claim that you have the force of the majority behind you simply because those that disagree with you haven't posted.


A. there is no vice in aggressively questioning someone's opinion. opinions are there to be defended. so are *facts* for that matter. I don't know if you were here for the Nany Kyo episode, but that was a perfect example of how people with opposing opinions weren't in the least shy about expressing them.
Unfortunately Nany expressed herself in a condescending, derogatory way and didn't make many friends in the process- which was fine by her, because she evidently wasn't looking for any.
Still, she aggressively pursued her opinions, and the people who disagreed with her aggressively pursued *their* opinions. Expressing the strength of one's convictions isn't "bullying". Telling someone "Shut up, or else!" is bullying.

Nobody told anyone to stop expressing their opinion. Some people took issue with the *tone* of the post and reacted to it *as* aggression.

There's a difference.

From: someone
Now, since then, happily, others have been posting and NOT been ridiculed. I hope that trend continues.


Me too. I'm always glad when people have arguments in the classic sense rather than "fights". I enjoy debate, and discussion. but I don't see any reason to call disagreement anything other than what it is- especially not "bullying" Ridicule is what those talking boycott have been *reacting* to.

From: someone
This isn't about freedom of speech, this is about creating a respectful environment where everyone can be heard and respected for their opinion - that is what an open discussion should be, in my mind. Having a sword of Damoceles hanging over the head of anyone that has an adult business and in favour of the current plan (or even aspects of it) doesn't encourage that.


I agree that discussions should be kept respectful, and opposing points of view should be heard. It what way has Linden Labs or their proponents done this? LL will do whatever they wish. those who *agree* with what LL are doing are, by definition, in the "power position". Who exactly has the Sword of Damocles hanging over their head again?
And whether or not one agrees with *aspects* of LL's plan (We *all* agree with *aspects* of the plan, if only the baseline argument that there ought to be a way to avoid content that one doesn't wish to see) isn't the point.
LL has an all-encompassing plan which will change the very nature of Second Life forever. They have decided to implement it, regardless of whatever input they receive from us. We are trying to accomplish three things on this forum- two of which are fairly hopeless, and the third of which seems to be proceeding at a snail's pace.

1. Try to convince Linden Labs that regardless of their intentions, This *particular* plan is a bad one, and will do *much* more harm than good.

2. Offer them alternatives to their plan, both in whole and in part; in the hope that they will adopt them, thus making their plans less damaging to everyone.

3. Find out exactly what the details of LL's plan *are* and convince LL to *tell all* of their customers about the plan, so that we can all prepare for mitigating the damage as best we can.

Even the cheerleaders for parts of the plan take issue with other parts. this plan is a giant mess, and if there is anyone who completely agrees with the whole thing and the way LL is implementing it, they haven't posted here! :)

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It's easy to ridicule and pick apart, to be honest, it would be easy to ridicule and pick apart a lot of the uninformed "anti" posts that are in these threads. But it is counter-productive and does nothing to resolve issues or further the discussion.


Frankly, I for one would *like* to see my suggestions "picked apart". why wouldn't I? how else am I going to know whether or not they will stand up in the real world?
"picking apart" isn't hostility. it is *argument*- Even ridicule has it's place, once the same dead horse has been beaten into a frothy merangue! :)

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I think the only people "yelling Freedom of Speech!" are the ones against this plan. But as I said, what I am talking about isn't about Freedom of Speech it's about common courtesy when having a debate about serious issues, and the art of not turning it into a battle.


Common courtesy is good. Calling disagreement "discourtesy" isn't. And freedom of speech includes other people expressing how *they* feel about *your* speech.

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Absolutely I agree. But ( to take this to an extreme) if you want to have an environment where people feel free to express their opinion, you can't having roving mobs going around and threatening to boycott anybody who doesn't agree with them.... and I was concerned that this was what it was turning into.


Well, yes, that is taken to an extreme. there were two or three people who talked about a boycott. and frankly, I fail to see anything wrong with that. it is a perfectly valid action and suggestion under the circumstances.
Some people on this forum are finding that some people they thought they could count upon to help safeguard the interests of all, aren't going to do so. Some have been rather snide about doing so. Why shouldn't someone say "well, then they don't need any of *my* money, do they?" and why shouldn't someone else have the right to say "Mine either!"?
That is *all* that has happened, by the way- there hasn't been any sort of organized effort, just individuals getting upset with what appeared to be a snide attitude towards those who disagreed with them.


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So once again, this is not about "Freedom of Speech" it is about creating a mutually-respectful dialogue of all sides of the issue without resorting to recriminations on others for holding a view different from yours, which, to me, seemed to be the case in the posts to which I was referring.


I understand your point, and I agree with you. this should be a respectful space, where everyone can say what they think and feel about this policy. However, that doesn't mean that they have to tie their hands behind their back and turn the other cheek- Well, unless they *want to! ;)

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