Second Life without sex?

Control discourse? How could I? As well as stating my own opinions (perhaps forcefully in comparison with others who don't necessarily have the same clarity of expression) I note when someone says something that I disagree with or don't understand fully and comment upon it.

Pep (Isn't that what the forums are about? Not waiting for someone to specifically ask *you* what you think?)

Sure it is! (Unfortunately so is the "Oh God...WTF!!?"

And... that would be my right hand

I am a Buddhist.. and I call my version of god "The Universe"... but for some reason I never yell out "Oh Universe"! If I did, I would probably laugh instead of orgasm.

Come again?

Once is never enough

"Once a King , always a King, but once a night is enough."

Oh come one! That was a set-up!!!

I think twice a night is about right.. or at least twice a night three times a week

Come one??? Come one???!



Et tu Scylla

Dear SL,

I don't use my _____ anymore, can I return it or sell it to the next newb? I really don't feel comfortable with it hanging out in my back pocket anymore, and I always ended up leaving it at a party in the medicine cabinet.

Sincerely,

Reformed Resident

Is it transferrable? If so, I believe the answer to your question is "yes."

I was gonna put my newbie dick on display at my boardwalk. (Man if that thing could talk... Oh wait... it can )

Yer doing it wrong!

What do you want to know?

Mind you, I (not as 'me') have still had people 'fall in love' with 'me,' despite this. Your emotional boundary might not be theirs, and hurt feelings will still result. People fall in love with an idealised version of people in RL, and without sex. The same happens in SL.

ROFL!

Wow, this is a great thread for a Monday.

My first 2 years in sl was mostly sexually and camping (when casinos were around) focused. I have my share of one time stands and engaging in sexual activities that I would never dream of doing in rl. Towards the end of year 2, I got bored with it and I too started questioning my "purpose" in sl. By chance, I found a business that appealed to me and threw my energies in my first venture. New and different experiences were opening up for me and sl became alive again to me. Funny thing happened, the sl sex thing returned as started engaging with extremely interesting, witty men who had other things going on in sl than just sex. The problem with that was I had too many and it was increasingly hard to manage my time with them. I still chuckle at myself when I accepted 3 dates to the concierge party and they all showed up. Thanks to lag, I was able to pull that off effectively.

Anywho, when I met my partner all that changed. After a year of being together in sl and finally meeting this year irl , pixel sex became virtually non-existent. One poster said sl sex is a form of foreplay for rl sex. My partner and I have always said once we relocations issues are settled and we are least in the same city, we would uinstall sl because we wouldn't need it anymore. I never considered using sl as a method of foreplay. Hmmm.... I think I will ask him about that tonight.

For us, pixel sex is not nearly as satisfying as cuddling and just talking. Plus I rather enjoy the intensity of all that pent up energy being released when we vacation together irl. Two weeks from this coming Wednesday, it's going to be on and poppin.

I did a similar thing in RL once. I had to climb out of the toilet window

I have thrown pixie sex in de the dustbin, a long time ago. (year plus)
There are enough other options. ANd RL sex, just beats the living daylights out of pixie sex.

My question was very vague, I know. And maybe like asking "How do you not eat apples?"

What I want to know is what the experience of SL is like when you don't make sex a part of it.

It's fine. Sex has never been part of SL for me. Theres 'everything else' to do and see.

Hooray!

Pep (You got there in the end. Almost all by yourself. )

Just fine...

But then, they'd/we'd think so, since that was a conscious choice.

So have a sensible answer now you have worked out what your question is.

You avoid sex by first changing your profile so it deters advances. There are any number of ways to do this. Then you change the social environment in which you appear to operate so that you make it clear that your primary interests do not include sex. There are any number of ways of doing this. Then when you engage with those who might conceivably see you as a potential partner you make it quite clear to them that you are uninterested in sex. There are any number of ways of achieving this.

The experience of SL when you exclude sex is the same as when you include it. Except for the sex. It means that you can do everything else that you did before (and more, as you will have more time) without having to worry about someone looking over your shoulder and asking why you have no clothes on.

Pep (and if you are very lucky you will find someone literate, imaginative and amusing who will enjoy your company without wanting to show you his xcite bits.)

It's very possible, and with the right partner it's also very probable. Nearly all of it happens in your own mind anyway.. a manufactured response to stimulus received from your partner. Your RL body isn't contributing to most of that received input, but that's still just a small percentage of what "takes you there". I've had much better than "Oh God, Yeah!!" sex in SL.. all it takes in an open mind and a good imagination, and the body will follow reguardless.

Yes, but then that takes a level of emotional commitment to do.

I still feel that sex without emotion is still just sex. "Oh, God, Yeah!!!" is better than meh, but is still just sex. If you can form a word at all within the 15 minutes prior to me letting you reach the final 'O', it is not quite "good sex" as I see it. It requires a high level of trust and commitment for me to take someone to sub space. But once you do it the first time ... well, there are no words to describe the feelings.