Second Life without sex?

I've been in SL for over a year and have done a lot of different things, but one constant is that it is difficult to not end up emotionally involved with somebody.

"Emotionally" ... yeah I do mean sex but not only.

I've met people who don't get involved and don't have pixel sex. I used to think it was strange, but lately I've been wanting to be that way too.

This is going to sound really stupid, but I don't care: I want to know how do you do it? What do you do?

It's easy to SAY to not do something or other, not respond, but I'm a social creature. I like people.

I would like to hear from people who are active in SL who don't do sex, who don't have boyfriends or girlfriends or lovers or whatever.

I doubt I could get very emotionally involved with someone without sex. But I am sure it is possible for some.

i was always like that until just recently. you just don't let it go there. you use (kind) words to make sure people know you aren't interested in 'that'. you just don't let yourself get caught up in it. that is, until you do. sometimes people are very stealth, and like ninjas, quietly sneak in and steal your heart. that's when you have to call upon Batman.... but that's another story entirely.

It's easy enough Lessie. You keep saying that you don't want anything to do with it and then you change your mind.

Pep (If you are female, that is. )

PS And desperate.

i need to quote this as i've been changing my mind a lot lately (duh, i'm a woman. what's new?) and i need someone to know it's not really my fault.

That's the thing.

Random insults are easy. You don't know me but now I know you.

Hi Lessie; I don't do pixel sex in SL. I have a big friends list, and they all know I don't go there. I've kind of wanted to, once or twice but in the long run I know it's not for me, so I've always just walked away from it. I'm involved with a group in SL and RL (Virtual Ability) where I want my reputation/image to be clean. I want that more than I want pixel sex so it's easy. I'm married in rl and that means something to me, it doesn't feel right to me, but that's another thread, eh, and I don't disrespect people with a different opinion, am only talking about me here. I don't role play well enough to pull it off. If I were single, I still don't think pixel sex would attract me. What does attract me is friendship and I've been able to find a couple of male friends that I really trust and have managed not to end up in the Sexgen bed with. To me that's more important than pixel slapping. To be honest, if I hadn't found something that I felt was meaningful to do in SL, I probably would have been gone by now. So maybe that's the key. Find something to do that feels important to you that you enjoy and 'just say no' to naked avatars.

Actually, knowing Pep, his insult was aimed primarily at 3 and secondarily at females in general.

I know the type.

Best way to deal with Pep is to reply to anything he says with "Bugger off you bloody wanker."

well, Pep nailed this one. it's true, eh?

Now that is probably the best way to get him - let him know that his intended insult isn't cuz it is true. LOL

Strangely, I have met a lot of guys who were far more desperate in that regard than any female I know will ever be. And strangely, those very same guys never took the "I am not interested in you that way" seriously and acted like I just needed one or two more weeks of being talked nicely to to overcome my believe that they are not like and worth so much more than all the other desperate guys .

No he didn't nail it, it's a generalization, and could be true 'sometimes'. Since this is the 'no pixel sex' thread, I don't think he nailed it at all; I've been in SL since 2007 and haven't changed my mind yet. Wavering slightly momentarily doesn't count.

Firstly 3, secondarily Eli? (Judging by 3's tagline there?) With the tertiary being females in general.

Just ignore Pep as all good "emotional beings" (his words) should

It is what he does. Peeweee seems to live for hate and self-loathing. You can report his posts from now till the end of time but nothing will happen
Other than a couple of people with the ability to lock threads, no one moderates this board.

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So what is the point in social interaction if you are not going to get emotionally involved?

True, and there are some girls who have no problem with pixel slapping and don't tend to change their minds about that either. I think it's more of a continuum (for both sexes). Those in the middle tend to flounder one way or the other. The people on the far ends tend to stay there.

well the best way is to say to yourself..don't do anything i don't want to do and then stick to that rule..
I hang out with people that have a lot of the same interest..this way there are more avenues to get out of doing the nasty hehehehe

we still go dancing or whatever..If they start hitting on me i usually act like i didn't hear it and just talk about something else or anything else that comes to mind..if you are already on a topic it's much easier..

either way ..if you find things you like to do you are bound to find others with those interest..try new areas..i took up building and creating different things..plus i toy around with musical instruments with some friends in world..you can really make the clock tick fast when you get to playing rock stars lol..

All you really have to do is put the whole sex thing way on the bottom of your list of things to do and do the rest..if anyone gives you a hard time cause you won't do something like sex..send them on their way..

i had to do that to a few people i thought were wanting to be business partners or good friends but only wanted other things..sex is a very small part of sl..there is soo much more to do out there

I read "emotionally involved" as romantic type feelings. I only ever have one position open for that (and it comes with a lot of other interesting positions )))) )

If the cap fits, wear it . . .

Pep (Why are you trying to be logical? Just give in to your emotions. )

Ah, but see that is the point. There is more to emotional involvement than sex.

Of course there is. But that doesn't mean that I consider myself emotionally involved in all my social interactions.

I just thought I would pop in again to say that I am killing myself laughing at everything being posted here . . .

Pep ( . . . especially the bits where people supposedly on the same side are appearing to disagree with each other because they can't work out how to say what they would really like to say. )

Fixed it for ya!

Pep (Just to confuse things even more. )