Second Life without sex?

Totally agree, at least in my personal experience. Which is why I am chaste in SL; I DO connect emotionally with people here, but there is, ultimately, a limit to how close one can become with someone who lives 2000 miles away, even with the aid of Skype, webcams, and the like.

'whistles a tune and tries to look innocent'

I've been in Sl for over two years and I haven't had nor have I been tempted to have a romantic involvement or sexual experience here. The virtual world simply doesn't trigger that kind of response in me. After a few months, I wrote in my profile that I am not interested in dating or partnering. Ever since I included that statement in the profile, I have not been bothered with overtures of a romantic nature.

Lessie's original question was how do you avoid having sex? For me it is easy.

Of course I was intrigued by the idea at first, but I was never outgoing enough to smoothly chat the ladies up, and was never comfortable with idea of hiring it out. I mean, if you have to hire it, it feels like compensating someone for doing something unpleasant which is really an insult to you. Oh I did go to a strip club once to get a taste for that side of SL. I'm afraid I found it shallow, shallow, shallow! "Caresses his chiseled chest" indeed! No one was more surprised than me at my reaction to this. The chiseled chest caress was as far as my SL sex life went.

So I became a dog. Problem solved. I have more friends now than I ever had as a human, partly because the avatar is disgustingly cute (and I can take no credit fore that) and partly because all sexual tensions are gone.

Second Life still has more things to offer than I can keep up with. Sex is only a small part of what is available. There are far far more ways to cook an egg than soft boiled.

One reason to have sex in SL...

My RL wife is my SL partner. Sex in SL is a wonderful method of fore-foreplay.

If it weren't for following it up with the "real thang," pixel-sex would be far less satisfying.

The Holy Grail!

Your exposition of your interpretation is as confused as the interpretation itself.

Pep (maybe you should check where you wrote "he" instead of "she". )

PS You definitely fall into the "too emotional to think or type straight" category.

PPS The rest of you girlies who read what you thought she wrote fall into the same category too.

I dunno, I found it quite enlightening as I had always just assumed you were a bit of a git.

When I said "you" I specifically meant the OP, rather than having a pop at any one "female" . . .

Pep ( . . . but if the cap fits, wear it. )

It seems that everyone understood Lessie just fine, and must say that Lessie is quite Intuitive!

Perhaps you fall into the "too emotional to read comprehensively" category.

This is my rl wife's favourite explanation, to which I usually respond that I am actually most of a git.

Pep (which is of course a much more accurate perception than the naive and inexperienced OP's. )

Ah! "Intuitive". That is what irrational "females" advance as an explanation for getting things right very occasionally by mistake without thinking, isn't it?

Pep (I would suggest that you read the OP's words again but it's rather pointless in your case. )

You now what...you're right....intuitive really wasn't the right word. Her observation was based on blatant behavior....no intuition necessary. Thanks for correcting.

Acknowledging that you are wrong once again, Mickey?

Pep (I really don't know why you bother posting in the first place.)

I said "thanks".....stop whining.

I am not whining, just being helpful.

Pep (Pointing out a strategy to prevent Mickey from making a continuing fool of herself.)

You are whining. Cut the emotional crap.

Oh dear, it is impossible to help those who don't want to be helped, of course.

Pep (The rest of you will have to put up with her until she works it out, sorry.)

oh geez....here come the histrionics.

Sorry, Lessie.....he does this in other threads, too.....usually just a temporary distraction.

Has your therapist recomended that you express yourself in public then?

Pep (Go on, continue venting your histrionics; I am sure the rest of the over-emotional "females" here will appreciate and applaud your efforts at self-awareness.)

As I said, I know your type. You throw around insults because you know you're wrong. There is nothing new about you.

You came into this thread barking like a dog at 3Ring. I diagnosed you. The only reason a man carries on like that with a woman is because he wants her and can't have her.

I've seen his type many times before. Bullies are nothing new.

QFT - that's it.

and LOL

I have just had to change my trousers again because of you!

Pep (Are you 3Ring's alt? If not might I suggest a 3some with her and Eli. )

PS What has an IQ of a genius? Lessie, 3Ring and Eli . . . aggregated.

PPS Is that actually you, Key, hiding behind an alt? LOL

*sigh*

To return to the OP for a second . . .

I'm with those, such as Treasure and Petronilla, who haven't really found it much of a problem avoiding sex in SL. And I haven't needed to turn into a furry or child avatar, or develop a case of virtual Elephantiasis to do so, either.

For the vast majority of my time in SL I have been "chaste," from choice; pixel sex doesn't much appeal to me (although I will confess to enjoying COMPOSING cybersex dialogue; I find it stretches my imagination and writing skills. The problem is that whoever is on the other end WILL insist on trying to cyber back . . . ).

I have made it pretty clear from my entry into SL that I am not "looking" for a relationship or for sex, and (with one signal, and ultimately disastrous exception) my male friends, some of whom I AM quite close to, have respected that. Maybe it's just because I am much less appealing than I think I am , but I don't have to beat them off with a stick. I think MOST men are willing to accept that limitation, and there are even those (a few, anyway) who are happy to enter into a pretty close friendship that doesn't involve sex. (Pace Smify)

Sure, one still has to fend off the occasional moron who tries to grope you on the dance floor, or thinks that "U R HAWT" is a brilliant opening line, but they are easily dealt with, usually.

Honestly, I haven't found it (mostly) very difficult to manage a sex-free SL experience. What it generally seems to require for the most part is self-control and a willingness to be firm.