Second Life without sex?

I'll summarise: Women need a reason to do it; men just need a place.

Pep (If you can't stand the heat, Key, stay out of the kitchen! )

She's been around these forums longer than you have Treasure.

Pep (And should know me better than to taunt me. )

I say a few sexy lines on one of my stud groups and whoosh! I'm tped to someone's skybox. Smith knows a lot about those groups. Ask him.

I thought this thread was about "Second life WITHOUT sex"?

You are NOT helping!!

Two men? "Good friends"? "Don;t take advantage"? You ever think they may be gay?
You and your dancing!
No, babe you need soem lessons in man-control. You need some love-glue-gunning baby.
I used to grab them at mahulu infohub. That's how I met hal. Sheltering in a corner. I yelled at him and it was love at first sight.

I honestly thought the poster needed help to have sex.

In best SNL voice:

Scylla, you slut, those poor men facing a ravenous demonic female all revved up with barry manilow songs on the dance floor.

Well, I'm pretty sure not. But it wouldn't matter if they were. In any case, most of the gays I know are MUCH better dancers than the straights.


No I don't! If I didn't already have some skills in "man-control," I'd probably have carpal tunnel syndrome by now, and need a new keyboard.

/me facepalms . . .

I have to go to sleep - I gotta dance tomorrow in real - honest!!

I did!!

And it was taught by a 300 lb Nun.

DAMN YOU CATHOLIC SCHOOL!!!!!!!

I have not.

Have you had good sex with emotional involvement?

Pep,

YOU started this. This was your first post in this thread:



Three separate insults, with my name on it. It took me several hours after Lil's comment to realize that this wasn't directed at me, but at 3Ring.

You can dance all around it if you like, but you can't change that fact.

I was not insulting you or lying when I called you a bully. I was simply describing.

When I made my diagnosis of your sexual frustration toward 3Ring, I was not being flippant. I don't think there is any other explanation for your obvious anger toward her which you vent at every opportunity -- for example, in your inappropriate first post to this thread.

The reason I posted the question is that after a inworld relationship came apart recently, I began to question my reasons for being in SL. My friends inworld, who are very supportive, expect me to get over it, move on, meet a new guy eventually.

While I think I've gotten over the relationship, I'm still questioning what I'm doing here.

Up to now, I've been gratifying my desires, finding ways to do things inworld that I can't easily do in real life.

It doesn't seem like a good idea any more.

However, I'm at a loss as to what to do instead. I've been going to different places, but the same things always happen.

It's difficult to think of what to do instead of what I've been doing, but it's clear that the first step is to quit hooking up with other people in that way.

This probably isn't the best place to do the sort of thinking out loud that I want and need to do, but I didn't know where else to go.

In spite of the drama, I have gotten some good ideas and encouragement. It was worth the trouble.

what, sl without sex??? god forbid the day that happens.

As with many other over-emotional participants here, you take things overly personally it seems. You ask a question in a public arena, then assume that when you get a "you" in a response it applies to you specifically, as opposed to a generalised opinion - albeit one that nevertheless has widespread relevance, and which you must have felt was appropriate to your situation, but which you didn't want to be. If you are unable to cope with these reflections why do you instigate them? I would have thought that your previous experience would have deterred you from entering the melee again. Or is it like childbirth and the pain recedes?

You are entitled to your opinion. Calling me a bully when you ask for an opinion and don't like it is once again your problem not mine. I didn't feel insulted by your transference of your problem to me, but by your laughable suggestion that I could feel any sort of attraction for someone like 3Ring.

Just because you are intellectually limited and emotionally disposed to a single explanation which would support your skewed view of my exposition of the inadequacies of relationships here, does not mean that other more cogent explanations exist for my antipathy towards posters here, which encourage me to illuminate the inaccuracies of their views for the benefit of others, rather than allow, for example, the impressionable to assume that someone with 10,000 "me too" posts has something valid or interesting to say.

Pep (I would recommend that you take time out from the forums and inworld until your emotions stabilise sufficiently to enable you to approach your problems coherently.)

It is fairly apparent that your underlying problem lies in the second sentence of your first paragraph.

Pep (Perhaps you should find some new friends who have less limited views of what sl is about? )

I dunno who Lessie is but she sure does have Pep figured out. (Not that it is that hard to do.) Everything she said about him is right on the money. Just too bad that this had to become yet another Pep is a frustrated, pathetic dickhead thread. People should be able to come here for advise without having to be subjected to the forum bottom-dweller's obsessions and agendas.

lessie.....no worries, having been in and out of sl for ages, albeit in different forms..believe me I have been there, seen that, done all that and got the t-shirt...if you wanna hang out sometime, with no agenda I am a neutral bloke. Give us a shout.

I do.
She doesn't.
It is.
It's not.
It hasn't. It was a desperately over-emotional thread from the original post.
I agree.

Pep (So why do you and 3Ring insist on posting?)

LOL.
She does, it isn't, it is, it has, and whatever. We can do this all day.

The funny part is... for the most part i have lost interest in this forum. if you would just stop with constant bashing of me my girl I probably wouldn't be posting. So STFU.

Lessie.....a lot of people come here do things that they can't do in real life. Nothing wrong with that, unless it's counterproductive to your real life. Questioning what you're doing here is a good thing. Makes you think. If during that thinking process, I find that something I'm doing here has a negative impact on RL....then I change it up or take a break. Sounds like you have a grip on that.

This isn't a bad place at all to think out loud. Just put Pep on Ignore. Click on his name....look to your upper right....and "add to ignore list."

You asked a very odd question. The reason why some people don't do SL sex is because they don't want to do it. And people tend not to do what they don't want to do. It's as simple as that. It's no different to anything else. Some poeple enjoy exploring SL, for instance, and others don't. Those who enjoy it, do it, and vice versa.

I used to enjoy SL sex, but I grew out of it a very long time ago and it hasn't interested me since then. There's no secret - just do or don't do what you want to do or not do.

Nothing wrong with that, that is pretty much what I use SL for. Romantic relationships and comitments are things I prefer to keep in RL. You do have to exercise caution, but it can be done. I try to keep my intentions clear to anyone I meet, and keep watch for signs that things may be headed where I don't want. I've had a few bumps along the way, but it's been fairly smooth for awhile now. But there is the possibility that you can't deal with the pitfalls in SL regarding affairs of the heart, and that is fine too. If you do have to walk away, don't worry about it.