Second Life without sex?

How did I wander into the locker room again?

All of this is distracting us from the ASTONISHING revelation that I made at post #214:


This thread is NOT really about sex!!!!

It's about the emotional entanglements that are ASSOCIATED with sex.

Discuss.

(Yes, I know, emotions are harder to talk about boys. But give it a shot . . . )

ETA: And try to do so without using the words "slap" or "choke," kk?

Oh, alright. Sigh. You know how much we love to talk about this stuff

As I have stated before, my preference is to do the sweet virtual lovemaking (How's that???) with a girl I am emotionally attached with... I have been seeing a girl for almost a month now and I am disgustingly devoted to her... and she rocks my world in all kindsa ways... we chat, we voice, we hang out with friends, we go dancing, we stay home, she makes me say "Oh God, Yeah!!!" and she cuddles me afterward (if I don't get hella honesty points for revealing that in front of my male peers then I give up ) If we are still together in like 3 months I go visit her and see if it translates

My post acknowledging that you are a woman and thus complicated was directly related to emotions and stuff. For most men, the emotion is "Yes I would" or "No, I wouldn't". Of course it is always better when you know the person and have some connection.

BTW I was eating turkey salad when I read that and I almost, ironically, choked on it.

YAY!!!!

See, that wasn't so difficult, was it?

(And I promise to tell the other boys not to make fun of you for saying it.)

NOW . . .

Address the OP's implicit question in the light of this:

How is it possible to have a satisfying emotional life in SL without having sex? OR without getting entangled emotionally (and probably sexually) to the point that that relationship becomes a negative, rather than a positive?

I await your insights with bated breath . . .

YAY again!!!

Ok, this is good. Now, for the next step, do you boys want to hug?

/me slaps you (yes, that WORD!) virtually on the back . . .

That depends on if your body parts are cold or prickly. Or even worse, cold and prickly. Of course, don't get upset when we have to go to the bathroom when you want to hug.

Long ago but not so far away *glances at the thread* I floated the notion of an erotic writing contest at the Hangout, which was met with enthusiasm, but never quite happened. Anyone who feels inspired, let me know and I'll dig up my notes for you on how people thought it should be done ...
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My best erotic writing is done with a partner to respond to and with.

Neat idea!

Actually, it occurred to me a long time ago that you could probably make real money in SL by producing a scripted "Cybersex HUD" for verbally-challenged males. With REALLY good, well-written, erotic dialogue, that could, with a click of the mouse, be inserted into IM or chat.

You know, a sort of virtual Cyrano de Bergerac for guys whose lines are limited to things like "I slap against you hard . . ."

Owww, my brain!!!!



I am all about entanglements. I guess this question is for the only in SL crowd mostly? I guess I would just say that as long as both parties are honest about their intentions then everything should be groovy for the most part. Other than that, you can always just have casual sex and don't ask any personal questions or friend each other. (Pretty hard to get entangled emotionally when you can't remember their name the next day...)

Interesting.

MY best erotic writing is done with a can of coke, a thesaurus, and enough time to really think about what I am saying. NOT while I'm typing frantically as fast as I can, scouring my brain at light speeds looking for a new way to say the same thing again, and wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long . . .

/me points out that logging is on by default in some clients nowadays.

Of course, getting any partner to agree to share would require FAR more creativity than any writings you wished to submit.

I have pixel sex but I don't get involved. Pixel sex is mostly about laughs anyway...

I think you might enjoy your pixel sex more if you didn't mix it up with how you feel about bio-sex.

My partner would never agree to that, nor would I ask her. Behind closed doors stays behind closed doors.

Now you're pushing it, Scylla!!! (Nothing personal, Chris, buddy!!)

There WAS this set of notecards on SLX ... but I'm not venturing into the morass LL has made of that site to look for them!

Somewhere I'm sure there is a group of alternate text files for people's talking genitalia; I know there's at least two popular brands that allow you to supply your own. Perhaps our own Pep contributed an erudite (and, of course, grammatically flawless) version at some point? I remember him making reference to erotic stories on some website ...

There, there. Poor baby! Keep it up, though, you are doing quite well.


Ok, good, good . . . expand on this, please.


This only works for some people, though. And I suspect that many people who THINK that it will work for them discover to their dismay, too late, that it doesn't.

In the final analysis, I think, it is the emotional component of this that is both the most powerful stimulant and, paradoxically, the greatest peril.

My girl is so good that I keep her chat logs to smack off to when she's not online

But I think I would rather commit hari kari than share them with anyone!!

You do realize that you could circumvent the need for this HUD by just doing it with other girls directly

Who, ME? Nah.

And if I DID try it with another woman, I'd probably discover later that she was a guy, and the whole point of the experiment would be lost anyway.

You are sort of missing part of the point, though. Who knows better what kind of language is likely to turn on a woman, than a woman?

For example, the word "slap" would be excised in all but a very few and highly particular contexts . . .

I am all about expanding... Sorry LOLz...

OK I mean if two people are just gonna be slapping pixels and they never intend to take it RL then as long as both are OK with that, it could probably work out. It's when there are RL spouses involved and things like that when things get messy. Or when people aren't honest. Or when one person has one idea about things are gonna go and the other has a completely different idea.



Sure not everybody is gonna enjoy boinking a stranger. But I prefer that over a close friend... cause I would probably get attached and it would get messy and possibly ruin a friendship.



Well being extremely stubborn and refusing to become jaded about love keeps me from becoming a Buddhist monk (that, and the horrible urges to touch myself).

It's almost worth looking them up, if only for a laugh. I wonder how good they are? Are they full of the quaint pseudo-poetic euphemism that one finds in those novels people read on the subways, with the lurid bumpy covers? You know, "Taking the flower of his manhood in hand . . . "?


I don't think talking genitalia really cut it in this context. There has to be at least the illusion of the personal touch.

And I'm not going anywhere NEAR your Pep reference . . .

And I would posit that a lot fewer babies would get made if we weren't doing something right


Smith Peel slaps yer ass