Second Life without sex?

I'm not clear on the instructions. What do we do with the RL stranger? emotionally involved or detached? Dang....that's going to keep me an extra hour tonight....at least....if we are supposed to get emotionally involved with the stranger.....then two extra hours.

It very much is. It's both the greatest motivator for those who want/can have that in their SL, and the biggest bane to those don't/can't.



Lmao - That's funny but there's an element of truth in that too.



There's articles all over the web by assorted notable people that suggest a truly platonic relationship, as in way more than just friendship, is not even possible due to human nature. There's going to eventually be a time when the next step calls so loudly that it'll fall apart. Although modern definition says it's romantically intimate, but without sex, I define it as torture.. and a good recipe for a massive breakdown for her, and giant blue balls for him.
I'd also say that the point where emotional entanglements become inhibiting is the point when what you feel for that person is elevated above what you feel for other really good friends. Everyone's different, but IMO it's when the person gains substantial favorable status, and you start to alter your thinking and routine FOR that person that seems to be the starting place.

Happy 2000th post btw

Need to find the one that you can feel comfortable in telling, as it happens, that things are getting too close to the danger zone for you. Should also be one who'll understand that, accept it, and isn't so emo that he'll get all zomg clingy mental on you.

OMG, I've hit 2000? Who'd have thunk it? Maybe I DO need to "get a life"!

Thanks!

I have some male friends, a couple, to whom I feel very close, but who don't yet seem to be in the danger zone, as you put it, for me. One of them is already attached to another very close friend anyway. The other would probably take it further, but I think understands, and is in any case very sensible and sensitive.

The status quo, for me right now, is one with which I am generally pretty happy.

This is a bit depressing, but probably fairly accurate. In other words, a really stable platonic relationship may be impossible. I suppose that shouldn't be surprising: no relationship is ever entirely stable, I suppose.


That's not a bad benchmark. I use one that is pretty similar: when I start feeling a bit jealous of time NOT spent with me, or feeling unduly "hurt" by little things that happen. The problem is that one learns that it is time to retreat at the exact point where it has become emotionally MORE difficult to pull back.

*sigh*

Such is life, I guess.

usually those who don't get it on in SL at all already have a real life lover that satisfies them.

Are Smith and Scylla having sex?

Yeah, that happens I seem to be getting better at not only seeing the signs leading up to that point (so nipping it if I have to isn't so bad for both), but also in choosing more compatable people; so if it ever does get that far, it's not so much of an imminent, "for sure going to happen" thing that I would tend to stress about.


Generally speaking, that's probably very true. I guess I'm unusual in that sense because I do have a very satisfying RL with all the RL love, intimacy, sex, etc.., but still love to "get it on" in SL. Then again, I may not be that unusual in that both RL and SL each have their own dedicated things when it comes to all this, and they really don't overlap at all. I save my romance, love, commitments, etc.. for my RL where it belongs, and in SL I let my bad girl out to explore all the fantasies, kinks, and embarassing things I wouldn't dream of letting out in RL.

I guess that's a functional "win/win" situation.. which is what I wanted, but I'm sure that doesn't qualify me for the typical female stereotype. If anything, it's *other* people that have issue with me being relatively unromantic and slutty in world, because I don't fit that typical "thrives on love/romance" mold.. but that really is their problem to sort out, not mine. I know for a fact it gives guys major fits trying to figure me out lmao, because they can't use their "proper ways to romantically seduce a woman" book. Only the original, creative, and non-tradishional ones seem to get past that and that's just fine by me

Move along, nothing to see here.

Pep (I have known - not biblically - and have amused and annoyed Lessie in another identity some time ago, ultimately to the disintegration of our friendship and cessation of her participation in the forums; she knows only too well that I am a big cuddly bear, but one that it is disastrous to provoke.)

You'll have to ask Smith. I wouldn't know.

/me returns to filing her nails . . .

Hmmm, thought so.

I think I like Lessie. And you (eventually) were quite sweet to her. I think you are good for each other. You have my approval.

(Unless, of course, you are still carrying a torch for Laurin. )

True.

I'd like to get my hands on that book, if only so that I could scribble some corrective marginalia in it for future users.

I think I like you too, Scylla.

Although I may need to start a thread about how to avoid getting matched up with people.

That rules me out LOLz

Oh, I shouldn't bother if I were you. We have all the angles worked out now. Really, there is no escape.

And as you can see, even the perpetrators are not immune. Apparently, for instance, I am having sex with Smith . . .

No but I suspect the guy who can get her to loosen up and let go will probably see stars for like a month

Oh, you would know. So would the neighbors ))))

LOL

Pride goeth before the fall, Smify . . .

This.

Yeeeeeesh . . . !

Not pride... Knowledge + Will to Please ))))

That's nothing. Just wait until down the road when dozens of adult children start coming out of the woodwork

Wow, I can't wait for that. When I die, they will all be fighting for their share of my giant penis hotel.

By then, deflation will have significantly reduced its worth, I should think . . .