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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 18:56
From: Smith Peel I am all about expanding... Sorry LOLz... S'ok. You need to take baby steps before you can really get this stuff completely out of your system. From: Smith Peel OK I mean if two people are just gonna be slapping pixels and they never intend to take it RL then as long as both are OK with that, it could probably work out. It's when there are RL spouses involved and things like that when things get messy. Or when people aren't honest. Or when one person has one idea about things are gonna go and the other has a completely different idea. Ok, but cut sex completely out of the equation now. At what point in a relationship does the emotional entanglement become inhibiting? At what point does sex become the ONLY "next step"? Is it not possible to sustain an emotionally satisfying PLATONIC relationship? From: Smith Peel Sure not everybody is gonna enjoy boinking a stranger. But I prefer that over a close friend... cause I would probably get attached and it would get messy and possibly ruin a friendship. YES! And that is precisely the problem. What you SEEM to be suggesting here is that you prefer meaningless sex over meaningful, emotionally attached sexual engagement, because you are afraid of the consequences? From: Smith Peel . . . (that, and the horrible urges to touch myself). Now, there then! That really IS much nicer than "slapping my meat," or whatever it is that you were using earlier . . . Well done! YOU get a smiley face!! 
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10-05-2009 18:57
From: Smith Peel Smith Peel slaps yer ass  *AHEM* Yes, that would indeed be the context. But to be used sparingly, or it ceases to be effective.
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 19:09
From: Scylla Rhiadra S'ok. You need to take baby steps before you can really get this stuff completely out of your system. OK but don't hold your breath  From: Scylla Rhiadra Ok, but cut sex completely out of the equation now. At what point in a relationship does the emotional entanglement become inhibiting? At what point does sex become the ONLY "next step"? Is it not possible to sustain an emotionally satisfying PLATONIC relationship? Ohhhh...here's where I go blank. I love my friends but I don't LOVE on my friends. If I couldn't have sex ever again and I wasn't already married or something, I would probably, in all honesty, become a monk. So I don't think my answer is gonna apply to most people anyway. From: Scylla Rhiadra YES! And that is precisely the problem. What you SEEM to be suggesting here is that you prefer meaningless sex over meaningful, emotionally attached sexual engagement, because you are afraid of the consequences? Well not exactly. I prefer meaningful mind-blowing sex with someone awesome that I have feelings for. Barring that, I would rather have meaningless sex with a stranger than with someone I feel friendship-affection for, because I don't wanna get my little heart broken no more than anyone else does, nor do I want to bork any close friendships. But I do got needs. Really bad needs!!! From: Scylla Rhiadra Now, there then! That really IS much nicer than "slapping my meat," or whatever it is that you were using earlier . . . I didn't say slapping my meat... but good one, Scylla From: Scylla Rhiadra Well done! YOU get a smiley face!! LOLz... Thanks?  |
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 19:27
From: Scylla Rhiadra MY best erotic writing is done with a can of coke, a thesaurus, and enough time to really think about what I am saying. NOT while I'm typing frantically as fast as I can, scouring my brain at light speeds looking for a new way to say the same thing again, and wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long . . .  Oh God, how did I miss this post I'm not sure which of those images is more amusing BTW it is pretty easy to hurry a guy up if you are trying to get back to shopping or something. You just gotta start talking about the end part. You know, the end part, that he does. And where you would like it. (Was that PG enough??? ) |
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Dagmar Heideman
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10-05-2009 19:36
From: Scylla Rhiadra MY best erotic writing is done with a can of coke, a thesaurus, and enough time to really think about what I am saying. NOT while I'm typing frantically as fast as I can, scouring my brain at light speeds looking for a new way to say the same thing again, and wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long . . . If you're wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long, you're doing it wrong. So for Chris it is like jazz improv and for you a classical music composition.  |
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 19:44
From: Dagmar Heideman If you're wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long, you're doing it wrong. He would probably be grateful for a clue that it's time for that happy moment... The Universe knows most of us are only holding out as long as we can to try to please her!! (We know most of you in SL are actually browsing Xstreets, but on the off chance...) |
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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 19:47
From: Dagmar Heideman If you're wondering why the hell the whole thing is taking so long, you're doing it wrong. So for Chris it is like jazz improv and for you a classical music composition. LOL Well, it is frankly the writing part of it that I enjoy the most. And yeah, maybe I have been doing it wrong. As I say, I need my can of coke . . .
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10-05-2009 19:49
From: Smith Peel The Universe knows most of us are only holding out as long as we can to try to please her!! In RL, sure. But in SL? Why does that make any sense? Do you WANT to wear our poor typing fingers to stubs?
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 19:51
From: Scylla Rhiadra In RL, sure. But in SL? Why does that make any sense? Do you WANT to wear our poor typing fingers to stubs? Like I said, on the OFF chance that you're not just playing along... I know them's not good odds lolz... Just give em a little shove in the right direction... Most of us do not require much of a shove!!! |
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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 19:55
From: Smith Peel I prefer meaningful mind-blowing sex with someone awesome that I have feelings for. Barring that, I would rather have meaningless sex with a stranger than with someone I feel friendship-affection for, because I don't wanna get my little heart broken no more than anyone else does, nor do I want to bork any close friendships. Ok, this is pretty good, I think. So, you DO have purely Platonic women friends? With whom you have emotional ties, that you value enough NOT to want to bork them? Good stuff, Smify. A- (I deducted a half grade for the claptrap about "having needs" . . . )
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 19:56
From: Scylla Rhiadra LOL Well, it is frankly the writing part of it that I enjoy the most. And yeah, maybe I have been doing it wrong. As I say, I need my can of coke . . . I think this proves that your HUD idea is mostly to benefit the ladies... but if the women are mostly not touching themselves... what is the point? Why not just learn to go along with the "I slap you with my meat" thing and get it over with faster? LOLz (And BTW I feel another soda intervention coming on!) |
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Chris Norse
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10-05-2009 19:59
From: Scylla Rhiadra In RL, sure. But in SL? Why does that make any sense? Do you WANT to wear our poor typing fingers to stubs? When a couple are good together, things will find their point of ........climax naturally. No need to drag it out.
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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 19:59
From: Smith Peel I think this proves that your HUD idea is mostly to benefit the ladies... but if the women are mostly not touching themselves... what is the point? Why not just learn to go along with the "I slap you with my meat" thing and get it over with faster? LOLz (And BTW I feel another soda intervention coming on!) OF COURSE it's mostly for the benefit of the women! Yeesh. That's the whole point! And who said we are "mostly not touching" ourselves? Our desire to do that is directly proportional to the quality of what our partners are giving us. HENCE, the rationale and need for a HUD thingy. Incidentally, don't think I haven't noticed how you managed to get this back on to sex, after I so carefully tried to divert the thread to a discussion of emotional involvement!
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:00
From: Scylla Rhiadra Ok, this is pretty good, I think. So, you DO have purely Platonic women friends? With whom you have emotional ties, that you value enough NOT to want to bork them? Of course I do!!!! I am honestly shocked that people think just cause I'm a perv that I don't have male and female friends who I totally love and honor. From: Scylla Rhiadra Good stuff, Smify. A- (I deducted a half grade for the claptrap about "having needs" . . . ) You spend one night alone with nothing but a high testosterone level and your right hand then we talk )))) |
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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 20:00
From: Chris Norse When a couple are good together, things will find their point of ........climax naturally. No need to drag it out. I think that's certainly the theory. But in practice, even in RL, does it always really work that way? Remembering too, that if you are not in voice (and probably even if you are), you have to take turns. Unless you are REALLY accomplished at multitasking!
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:03
From: Scylla Rhiadra And who said we are "mostly not touching" ourselves? Our desire to do that is directly proportional to the quality of what our partners are giving us. Gathering empirical evidence to support this will be difficult LOLz |
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Scylla Rhiadra
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10-05-2009 20:04
From: Smith Peel Of course I do!!!! I am honestly shocked that people think just cause I'm a perv that I don't have male and female friends who I totally love and honor. Awww. You've been sooooo misunderstood! (Yeah, I know this already about you Smify. You aren't nearly the irredeemable perv that you -- for some reason -- want people to think you are. ) From: Smith Peel You spend one night alone with nothing but a high testosterone level and your right hand then we talk )))) Well, I HAVE. It just wasn't MY testosterone or MY right hand! And it was dull, dull, dull . . .
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:06
From: Scylla Rhiadra Remembering too, that if you are not in voice (and probably even if you are), you have to take turns. Unless you are REALLY accomplished at multitasking! Take turns??  |
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:09
From: Scylla Rhiadra You aren't nearly the irredeemable perv that you -- for some reason -- want people to think you are. Naw, I *am* a huge perv... I just don't know what is so irredeemable about perversion! From: Scylla Rhiadra Well, I HAVE. It just wasn't MY testosterone or MY right hand! And it was dull, dull, dull . . . What!? LOLz |
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lala Pixelmaid
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10-05-2009 20:10
If you are getting emotionally involved when having pixel sex you must have something seriously lacking in your real life. I can understand if you are handicapped in some way and so cant get out to meet people but otherwise if you feel you are addicted I suggest you see a psychologist to help you work through the underlying issues. What are you avoiding? Are you shy? Introverted? Do you suffer from social anxiety? Second life and any other online game is not meant to be a substitute for real connection with real people. Its a game nothing more nothing less. How exactly are people getting off on this anyway? Do they have one hand on the keyboard and one hand on their privates? Try joining a social club and go meet a real live person who wants to have real live sex and a real live emotional connection. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit and longer to break an addiction. Dont log on for a few weeks and see if you feel better. Hope this helps |
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lala Pixelmaid
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10-05-2009 20:11
From: Lessie Lexington I've been in SL for over a year and have done a lot of different things, but one constant is that it is difficult to not end up emotionally involved with somebody.
"Emotionally" ... yeah I do mean sex but not only.
I've met people who don't get involved and don't have pixel sex. I used to think it was strange, but lately I've been wanting to be that way too.
This is going to sound really stupid, but I don't care: I want to know how do you do it? What do you do?
It's easy to SAY to not do something or other, not respond, but I'm a social creature. I like people.
I would like to hear from people who are active in SL who don't do sex, who don't have boyfriends or girlfriends or lovers or whatever. If you are getting emotionally involved when having pixel sex you must have something seriously lacking in your real life. I can understand if you are handicapped in some way and so cant get out to meet people but otherwise if you feel you are addicted I suggest you see a psychologist to help you work through the underlying issues. What are you avoiding? Are you shy? Introverted? Do you suffer from social anxiety? Second life and any other online game is not meant to be a substitute for real connection with real people. Its a game nothing more nothing less. How exactly are people getting off on this anyway? Do they have one hand on the keyboard and one hand on their privates? Try joining a social club and go meet a real live person who wants to have real live sex and a real live emotional connection. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit and longer to break an addiction. Dont log on for a few weeks and see if you feel better. Hope this helps |
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:16
From: lala Pixelmaid If you are getting emotionally involved when having pixel sex you must have something seriously lacking in your real life. I can understand if you are handicapped in some way and so cant get out to meet people but otherwise if you feel you are addicted I suggest you see a psychologist to help you work through the underlying issues. What are you avoiding? Are you shy? Introverted? Do you suffer from social anxiety? Second life and any other online game is not meant to be a substitute for real connection with real people. Its a game nothing more nothing less. How exactly are people getting off on this anyway? Do they have one hand on the keyboard and one hand on their privates? Try joining a social club and go meet a real live person who wants to have real live sex and a real live emotional connection. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit and longer to break an addiction. Dont log on for a few weeks and see if you feel better. Hope this helps ZOMG!! Wow... I don't even know where to start on this one. If it wasn't in such a sincere tone I would totally think it was a brilliant attempt at trolling. EDIT: I perused a few posts by lala and I conclude it is indeed a brilliant attempt at trolling. |
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Chris Norse
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10-05-2009 20:19
From: lala Pixelmaid If you are getting emotionally involved when having pixel sex you must have something seriously lacking in your real life. I can understand if you are handicapped in some way and so cant get out to meet people but otherwise if you feel you are addicted I suggest you see a psychologist to help you work through the underlying issues. What are you avoiding? Are you shy? Introverted? Do you suffer from social anxiety? Second life and any other online game is not meant to be a substitute for real connection with real people. Its a game nothing more nothing less. How exactly are people getting off on this anyway? Do they have one hand on the keyboard and one hand on their privates? Try joining a social club and go meet a real live person who wants to have real live sex and a real live emotional connection. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit and longer to break an addiction. Dont log on for a few weeks and see if you feel better. Hope this helps So glad you know everyone's situation and can sit in judgment of people you don't even know. Did it take you many years to develop these mind reading powers you have? Or were you born with them? You do have a degree in Psychiatry? Or are you just talking out of your ass?
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Smith Peel
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10-05-2009 20:22
From: Chris Norse So glad you know everyone's situation and can sit in judgment of people you don't even know. Did it take you many years to develop these mind reading powers you have? Or were you born with them? You do have a degree in Psychiatry? Or are you just talking out of your ass? Probably a first year Psych student. God they are obnoxious |
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Dagmar Heideman
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10-05-2009 20:30
From: Chris Norse Or are you just talking out of your ass? This. Remember the baaa baaa thread? |
