Best Place to Meet a Guy in SL

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Rose changed the question . . .

Pep (Have you joined the thread police now then, Colette?)

/me cheers for Nichole with an H!

I agree with you about not falling in love in SL EVER again! If you meet someone on SL that you click with, my thought is that you should meet face to face before you allow yourself to believe you are more than acquaintances. On a different forum, one of the veterans of on-line dating posted that when you meet someone face to face that you know from the internet, you are meeting a stranger. It doesn't matter how much you have texted and phoned. You have to meet face to face to know if you will click. I have learned that one for myself the hard way as well.

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Here's a laugh. Men please don't take offense its just to funny not to share with the ladies

For all those men who say why buy a cow when you can get milk for free. Here's an update for you: Nowadays, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.

Men are like Laxatives . They irritate the crap out of you
Men are like. Bananas . The older they get, the less firm they are.
Men are like Weather . Nothing can be done to change them.
Men are like Blenders You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
Men are like Chocolate Bars .. Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips
Men are like Commercials . You can't believe a word they say.
Men are like Department Stores ... Their clothes are always 1/2 off
Men are like . Government Bonds ... They take soooooooo long to mature.
Men are like .. Mascara They usually run at the first sign of emotion.
Men are like Popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
Men are like Snowstorms . You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last
Men are like Lava Lamps . Fun to look at, but not very bright.
Men are like Parking Spots All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

Oh, all women are angels and would NEVER lie

I do think men tend to not talk about such things as much as women do. I was told by a friend with a master degree in such things that men process information differently than women. Women process information by talking it out. Men process it by immediately finding ways to fix it.

My only advice, if you're a guy.... don't put "looking for a girlfriend" in your profile or think being a "nice" and "shy" guy is a benefit. Take the bull by the horns and be a man, have your own interests, don't look for a girl to cling to, gain some confidence, take the lead. Girls sayin they want a nice shy guy are lying or in the minority. Those are the kind of relationships where they end up with both people saying "I dunno, what do you wanna do?" and having no direction or passion. People settle for that because they're scared. You need to challenge one another.

Ok...ok... I get the hint. I'm fleeing this thread while I'm still whole!

/me rofl

Yep. We were supposed to meet but think about it, I couldn't nor would have wanted too because he was married. I am no home wrecker. Now that we are no longer together I can see what I was blinded by. I can see clearly now.

/me waves Jerboa back to the thread.

Awww. We were just joking. We really like men. Honest!

Your friend was doing a masters in "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"?

Pep (Talking never solves any problems; action does)

Aww don't go. I said it was just for laughs. I am sure you have said things about us woman. Hands you a tissue

/me would bet L$1000 that Pep is a guy in RL.

Women process things by talking. We're different. It's some of those differences that make men and women so attracted to each other, as well as so frustrated we're ready to pull our hair out. ^_^

Ok I lied. I'm not really leaving the thread.

Actually men would talk it out. But if we try, there is a long pause, someone scratches himself, and says 'stop acting like a girl (ok it's the "p" word really)'. Then someone takes a drink of his beer, burps, and we move on to talking about important things like nascar.

or in worse cases there is Lorena Bobbit!

Once again, I regret there is no good Lorena Bobbit clip Art/cartoons/smileys on the Web.

lol you said clip art...

/me groans

Well I have dated some jerks in sl. My "first sl love" found out he was getting married in group im when everyone got an invite to the wedding. The second, I was partnered for 6 months and found out half the time he was cheating with a girl he ended up cheating on as well. He and I are just good friends. I also had some meaningful relationships. So I can say for the most part up to now, I broke even.

So after the last breakup which was not terrible at all it was mutual due to him moving 9 hours away. I just decided to explore and enjoy sl. Yes I have been to Phats, Sweethearts and similar places and enjoyed myself I do agree the number of women just standing there is disporportional. Me, personally I felt like I was a car on the lot waiting to be taken out for a test drive. So I tried other venues such as concerts, exhibits etc.. to expand my sl experience. Through those, I have met some real nice guys and made a few good friendships.

Just like a prior posting the moment when I least expected thats when I met my fiance' at a Dex concert. We will be married next month. As far as bringing it into rl, this is a very deliberate process for both of us. We are taking our time. We've exchanged photographs, nothing sexual just regular photographs. We do have each other's rl telephone number but havent phoned each other. We correspond through email outside of sl. Every increased interaction into rl is thoroughly discussed and agreed upon. We are working through the sl - rl transition very slowly.

Even after all this time we have been together, he still opens the doors for me everywhere we go even when we are at home. That maybe insignificant to others but to me it one of the qualities I adore about him.

hi Rose
I was interested in your post.........best place to meet people i find, is purely by mooching about. Male perspective - I know this thread is supposed to be the other way around, but take today for instance, I got elbowed out of the way at the Eiffel Tower by a pretty french girl who then apologised and we spent a pleasant afternoon in cafes and shops and went parachuting off the tower. Relationships I find easy come and easy go, I have had a few that I suppose you could call serious for SL, but time differences usually scupper them. Who knows if they were female, or some great hairy trucker from Quebec. They were nice to me and we got on. I always make it my business to find out as much as I can about that person from other friends etc. Everybody has the capacity to lie and most do I am afraid, it's all part of the second life phenomena. We create a reality that suits us as individuals, so I am under no illusion. I have only been in SL for three months (bar intermittent efforts in 2006/7) and of the 25 or so good friends I started with, I only speak to say half a dozen or so now regularly. To be honest these few are women I truly know to be women, I have very few bloke mates.

Call me in-world and maybe we can find ourselves gazing into each others eyes at a foggy railway station at midnight waiting for the last train home......or better still I could be your friend..
oh and p.s. I really am male.honest.

Dog

Pointless in sl . . .

Pep (You already KNOW I am male Rose you cheeky thing . . .)

Wait! What have I been doing here.

I need to just take notes, and figure out where you ladies are going to meet the nice guys, and then just happen to be in the neighborhood.

Be right back!

/me runs off to find a notebook and pen.

rolls eyes

/me rofl and admits she doesn't like to have her tires kicked.



I have tried a few concerts, with the goal of enjoying the music, not the goal of meeting people. I sometimes achieved my goal of enjoying the music. Perhaps I should try more of this. I have to admit, standing around at a mega-laggy club can be very boring.



Congratulations! It sounds like you've found a keeper there, andyou never know, it might even work out in RL! I love hearing happy success stories. ^_^