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Imnotgoing Sideways
Can't outlaw cute! =^-^=
Join date: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 4,694
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09-23-2008 07:41
Nehehe... Cybernetic! Batteries included. =^-^= _____________________
Somewhere in this world; there is someone having some good clean fun doing the one thing you hate the most. (^_^)y
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Randoym Randt
SL2RLlove.blogspot.com
Join date: 2 Sep 2007
Posts: 77
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09-23-2008 07:58
What an interesting concept this is! We are all virtual humans, anyway, so SL is really not much different than RL. It does seem that there are few differences between activities in SL and activities in RL, except people are more open to trying new experiences in SL because the risk is so much lower and trying new experiences is so much more doable. There is really nothing wrong with the concept of meeting friends, or people who become more than friends, on Second Life. You know, I started the blog because I couldn't believe what I had done in my RL because of SL. I wanted to know if RL and SL relationships (romantic, friends, whatever) were similar...the research, anecdotal evidence, stuff that doesn't always make it into the news...because if you notice, the only stuff you see there is sensational...bad...as in..."cheating", and online lovers getting murdered, etc. Just a bunch of typical crap that makes you think that's all there is. But there's more. The further I dug, the more I found actual data supporting that...yeah! SL and RL are gonna be the same in many ways! Make sense, but it is hard and sometimes scary to believe in...even now for me...when I look at my boyfriend...who is sitting behind me...the real man behind the AV that I met on SL...and I feel the SL2RL baby girl that is due any day now...kicking as I write this... it's pretty hard to make any other conclusion than it's real...even the bad happenings...those are still real people doing real people things...  Check the blog (go back thru the monthly headers)if you haven't. Its worth a view! And...helping people understand the concequences of their SL actions in RL is THE reason I started it! http://sl2rllove.blogspot.com/ |
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Yosef Okelly
Mostly Harmless
Join date: 26 Aug 2007
Posts: 2,692
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09-23-2008 07:59
/me sighs and scrolls through all the posts of people telling her she shouldn't be asking her question and wonders if anyone will answer the question..... We met ... sort of. We talked a little. You seemed happy where you were at the time. I have a very limited amount of time to spend so rather than persuing it further, I let it go. It happens a lot, actually. I like to think I am reasonably intelegent (if somewhat illeterate since I kant spel  ) mid 40's, married with two childern. My RL wife also plays. Has her friends and love interests, knows what I am doing and we encourage each other in our persuits. (I just wish she would quit stealing my potiential girl friends ... J/K, I really don't mind it)Some of the greatest guys you can meet are usually found in the Forum Cartel channel if not the hangout. I know NCI and The Shelter are also friendly places, but I know the FC and have only been to the others in passing or while showing new people around. Rose, you also have to realize that there are a disproportionant number of women to men. Even at the larger Jazz dance clubs, you are still competing for a limited number of prospects. If all you want is a dance partner for the night and a random person to chat with, you will find it there. If you want something more along the lines of a deeper friendship whether romantic or not, my honest advice is to go meet people and make friends. Male or female, just get to know other people with similar interests. Your best bet is other women who have a partner and are very happy with them. I have not met a happily married woman yet who did not try to play match-maker any chance she could  _____________________
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Randoym Randt
SL2RLlove.blogspot.com
Join date: 2 Sep 2007
Posts: 77
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09-23-2008 08:02
Rose, you also have to realize that there are a disproportionant number of women to men You mean in the dance clubs, right? Coz on SL proper I haven't seen that phenom. Any data around for that, I would like to know actually or if you mean just in the clubs proper. Thanks! |
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LittleMe Jewell
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Join date: 8 Oct 2007
Posts: 11,319
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09-23-2008 08:05
... Cybernetic! Batteries included. _____________________
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-Lil Why do you sit there looking like an envelope without any address on it? ~Mark Twain~ Optimism is denial, so face the facts and move on. ♥♥♥ Lil's Yard Sale / Inventory Cleanout: http://slurl.com/secondlife/Triggerfish/52/27/22 . http://www.flickr.com/photos/littleme_jewell |
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 08:18
We met ... sort of. We talked a little. You seemed happy where you were at the time. I have a very limited amount of time to spend so rather than persuing it further, I let it go. It happens a lot, actually. I like to think I am reasonably intelegent (if somewhat illeterate since I kant spel ) mid 40's, married with two childern. My RL wife also plays. Has her friends and love interests, knows what I am doing and we encourage each other in our persuits. (I just wish she would quit stealing my potiential girl friends ... J/K, I really don't mind it)Some of the greatest guys you can meet are usually found in the Forum Cartel channel if not the hangout. I know NCI and The Shelter are also friendly places, but I know the FC and have only been to the others in passing or while showing new people around. Rose, you also have to realize that there are a disproportionant number of women to men. Even at the larger Jazz dance clubs, you are still competing for a limited number of prospects. If all you want is a dance partner for the night and a random person to chat with, you will find it there. If you want something more along the lines of a deeper friendship whether romantic or not, my honest advice is to go meet people and make friends. Male or female, just get to know other people with similar interests. Your best bet is other women who have a partner and are very happy with them. I have not met a happily married woman yet who did not try to play match-maker any chance she could /me hugs Yosef and smiles at him Yes, we did meet in SL. Yes, I am happy where I am. I also didn't pursue things with you because I got the impression that we were both interesting in virtual friends who had the potential to become virtual lovers. Many people in SL have no problem with hopping onto poseballs and/or cybering with someone married in RL, and it may be right for them, but it is wrong for me. (All those "Is it cheating" threads? I just don't know ...) So, from my end, the fact that things never went further was nothing to do with your considerable charm and intelligence, but to do with you being married in RL. Thanks for your advice. |
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Imnotgoing Sideways
Can't outlaw cute! =^-^=
Join date: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 4,694
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09-23-2008 08:19
And another great siggy. _____________________
Somewhere in this world; there is someone having some good clean fun doing the one thing you hate the most. (^_^)y
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 08:20
You know, I started the blog because I couldn't believe what I had done in my RL because of SL. I wanted to know if RL and SL relationships (romantic, friends, whatever) were similar...the research, anecdotal evidence, stuff that doesn't always make it into the news...because if you notice, the only stuff you see there is sensational...bad...as in..."cheating", and online lovers getting murdered, etc. Just a bunch of typical crap that makes you think that's all there is. ... <snip> Check the blog (go back thru the monthly headers)if you haven't. Its worth a view! And...helping people understand the concequences of their SL actions in RL is THE reason I started it! http://sl2rllove.blogspot.com/ Thanks, Randoym. ^_^ |
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Cherry Czervik
Came To Her Senses
Join date: 18 Feb 2006
Posts: 3,680
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09-23-2008 08:51
Rose, you also have to realize that there are a disproportionant number of women to men. Even at the larger Jazz dance clubs, you are still competing for a limited number of prospects. If all you want is a dance partner for the night and a random person to chat with, you will find it there. If you want something more along the lines of a deeper friendship whether romantic or not, my honest advice is to go meet people and make friends. Male or female, just get to know other people with similar interests. Your best bet is other women who have a partner and are very happy with them. I have not met a happily married woman yet who did not try to play match-maker any chance she could There IS a disproportionate number of women to men, both sides of that equation are often wearing a frock. _____________________
To exchange power is sublime. To steal from another ... well, what goes around comes around.
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Ghosty Kips
Elora's Llama
Join date: 2 May 2008
Posts: 2,386
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09-23-2008 09:15
You MIGHT get lucky and find one...quite a few people have. /raises hand _____________________
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Scott Savira
Not Scott Saliva
Join date: 10 Aug 2008
Posts: 357
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09-23-2008 10:00
Love like you've never been hurt, right? That's what they say. Don't be jaded or you'll miss out. That said, SL is similar to RL in some aspects. Love has a way of sneaking up on you when you least expect it. If you devote your SL time to finding it, you might make yourself miserable. Go have fun and meet people.
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ConductorX Nieuport
NO LONGER RELEVANT
Join date: 29 Nov 2007
Posts: 86
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09-23-2008 10:12
Rose,
I know a guy that throws a pool party every Sunday afternoon. Lots of females show up but this past Sunday two gentlemen showed up that may meet your requirements. No promises but we always have a ton of fun. Contact me inworld for more information. "CX" _____________________
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 10:19
Batteries included. =^-^= /me checks to be sure her batteries are fresh.....Yep ^_^ |
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Lindal Kidd
Dances With Noobs
Join date: 26 Jun 2007
Posts: 8,371
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09-23-2008 10:21
Rose, I know a guy that throws a pool party every Sunday afternoon. Lots of females show up but this past Sunday two gentlemen showed up that may meet your requirements. No promises but we always have a ton of fun. Contact me inworld for more information. "CX" No wrinkles in HIS duct tape! ^ _____________________
It's still My World and My Imagination! So there.
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Nichole Vanbeeck
Registered User
Join date: 18 Dec 2006
Posts: 153
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09-23-2008 10:26
Smiles and thinks this might become another long running thread.
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Lindal Kidd
Dances With Noobs
Join date: 26 Jun 2007
Posts: 8,371
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09-23-2008 10:28
Smiles and thinks this might become another long running thread. Noooo! Just ignore and let this one...oops.  _____________________
It's still My World and My Imagination! So there.
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 10:31
Noooo! Just ignore and let this one...oops. /me giggles and buries her head under a pillow. |
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Jerboa Haystack
TGTKFMA
Join date: 23 Sep 2008
Posts: 2,283
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09-23-2008 10:35
Hmm...the best place to meet a guy in SL...
Wherever I am at the moment. No, really. I love meeting people. I just don't stay in one spot very long. There might not be romance, but heck so many things have to go right for that it's hard to predict. But I can guarantee I try to make it fun. Seriously though, I think looking too hard for romance, or 'the one' whether in SL or RL is just setting yourself up for heartache and epic fail. Meet people...have fun...and maybe you'll click with someone. Maybe not, but at least you can then say you've had fun trying! J |
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Nichole Vanbeeck
Registered User
Join date: 18 Dec 2006
Posts: 153
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09-23-2008 10:41
I just say HAVE FUN and ENJOY life no matter which life it is! Without mistakes we can't learn. And I can sit here go on and on but I am working here ppl. Yes in RL. Lmao
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
Posts: 8,839
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09-23-2008 11:04
Why have you changed the original question Rose? Found someone already?
Pep (Or has Yosef convinced you to give married men another try?) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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Malina Chuwen
Evotive
Join date: 25 Apr 2008
Posts: 502
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09-23-2008 11:09
When I was new to SL, I hung out with a guy for about a month who was married in RL. I thoroughly enjoyed his company, but I had to break it off because I was feeling like the other woman. If his wife had known what he did in SL, she would have been very upset. Why do I prefer guys who are middle-aged, more or less, just to talk to? Because if I want to talk to young men, I'll talk to my sons. Don't we all tend to enjoy talking with people in our own age range? Now qualities that I would want if I were looking for a RL romance include living near me and a reasonable income. I didn't include these, because neither are pertinent to friendly conversation. I didn't read it all, mind you, but I did catch this post.. I've "dated" a few here on SL. Heck, I even dated one and his "friend". I've found though that being single and totally alone, no one within 1000M is sometimes the best option. I still talk with one of my SL ex's, even though every day I see something else he is undoubtedly lieing about. RL.. SL love.. It all comes to the same person. When you make a friend in SL, you feel it in RL. So be sure you're very fussy before giving someone your heart. I'll never "date" again on here. Leary enough about making a friend. Been hurt and lied to enough times, and I'm still technically "new" here. _____________________
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 11:19
Why have you changed the original question Rose? Found someone already? Pep (Or has Yosef convinced you to give married men another try?) /me chuckles Umm...I edited the original question because I really got tired of all the people telling me: 1. I shouldn't ask that question. 2. I was probably crazy to have asked that question. 3. Answers to a question I didn't ask. Most of these people all meaning well, and so, to be polite, I should respond to all of them. So I changed the question. Ummmm...I was rather hoping no one would notice. =_= I don't think even Yosef could induce me to give married men another try. |
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
Posts: 8,839
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09-23-2008 11:22
/me chuckles Umm...I edited the original question because I really got tired of all the people telling me: 1. I shouldn't ask that question. 2. I was probably crazy to have asked that question. 3. Answers to a question I didn't ask. Most of these people all meaning well, and so, to be polite, I should respond to all of them. So I changed the question. Ummmm...I was rather hoping no one would notice. =_= I don't think even Yosef could induce me to give married men another try. Do you want me to delete my post (something for which I am infamous) and then you can delete this one. Pep (Well, if *I* couldn't persuade you . . . ) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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Rose Dove
Registered User
Join date: 16 Mar 2008
Posts: 288
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09-23-2008 11:24
I've found though that being single and totally alone, no one within 1000M is sometimes the best option. /me gives Malina a high five on this one. ^_^ RL.. SL love.. It all comes to the same person. When you make a friend in SL, you feel it in RL. So be sure you're very fussy before giving someone your heart. I cuoldn't agree more. That's why I have a firm rule of no more married men. I wouldn't date a married man in RL, why would I date one in SL? SL experiences happen to the same person as RL experiences. I've heard of a number of marriages damaged or broken because of SL dating. |
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Pserendipity Daniels
Assume sarcasm as default
Join date: 21 Dec 2006
Posts: 8,839
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09-23-2008 11:26
I wouldn't date a married man in RL, why would I date one in SL? I only date married women. Pep (They are more grateful) _____________________
Hypocrite lecteur, — mon semblable, — mon frère!
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