Best Place to Meet a Guy in SL

nnno boys have them an you do know that young male furries have coofleas!!!!

Probably because most here at least, aren't actively looking for a sweetheart, even an inworld one. Most people just go about and make friends and whatever develops develops if anything.Whatever your interests are, that's where you should go, and hopefully meet someone of similar interests.

Maybe there just aren't many places in SL where people go for a bit of conversation and light flirting? Lots of people go to Sweetheart's or Frank's for this reason. The main activity in these places is standing around, reading profiles,and meeting people. Maybe Sweetheart's and Frank's are the main places for this sort of thing. It's much too laggy to do much else. Often, if you click with someone, the two of you TP out to go somewhere less laggy to dance. Most people don't bring dates to these places, because of the lag. =P

Wel Rose i am the owner and creator or Sweethearts and Also the creator of Phat cats.
we try to run tight ships and dispite our efforts there will always be a bad seed in the crowd. It never fails. We as humans should use our best judgment in any case. There is not one club owner than can guarantee the caliber or people you meet IN sl. It all boils down to your convictions and ability to discern the bad from the good

Well, it may sound funny, but a lot of that goes on in a place like this. Almost all of the people on my friends list who aren't RP contacts have come from either here or SLU. After a bit of banter and whatnot, I've sent friend invites to people on the forum or vice versa. The right person for you could be right here in front of you. Just a suggestion. As much as the conversational tone RA has been decried by some, I have found it an invaluable resource as an icebreaker.

Yes, I know of your connection to Phat Cat's and to Sweetheart's. You and your partner (whose name I can't remember just now - sorry) have done a wonderful job of creating excellent venues. I don't know the story of what happened to Phat Cat's, but I'm extremely pleased that Sweetheart's has taken off for you.

I'm not complaining about Sweetheart's - I think it's great!! It's just that I've been to Sweetheart's many times, and I'm wondering if there are others like it. Perhaps there aren't, and what you have is a uniquely excellent venue for meeting new people.

There! Free plug for you. You deserve it. ^_^

Looks like I'll probably be back to Sweetheart's. *grins*

/me has met most of the interesting men she still enjoys the company of years later at art galleries and live music events. It seems shared music tastes also tend to draw similar age ranges, not surprisingly perhaps?

What is SLU? Now I'm curious. Would I find it if I just searched on "SLU" or is it an abbreviation for something like SL Unitarian or SL United?

QFT
... as much as I hate to agree with you.

SLUniverse. It's a 3rd party SL Forum.


http://www.sluniverse.com/php/vb/

I've never heard of it. Thanks!

I am taking a picture of this.

It looks like Sweetheart's and Frank's are the main places to go specifically to meet new people.

True, if you just go about your business in SL, you bump into people all the time. But there are those times when you've been struggling with getting the bumps out of your landscaping or lining up those prims in your latest build, and you just want to relax, but no one on your friend's list is on just now. It seems Sweetheart's and Frank's are the best places to go to meet new people for a bit of conversation.

Seems like most people responding here aren't familiar with this sort of thing, so perhaps these places are unique.

Warning! Not all of the people there are nice. It can be pretty crude at times as the moderation is far looser then here. I think what Brenda is saying (and as hinted at by many others) Venues or forums that give you an oppourtunity to get to know people with whom* you have a common interest are the best ways to find someone that you might want to develope a closer relationship with.

*OMG I can't believe I said "whom".

So pursue your interests in SL and you will meet like minded individuals there. Whether they are single or not is yet to be determined regardless of where you meet them.

Warning! #2 there are "players" in SL who think it is a game to play with peoples hearts and may have multiple partners they are trying to string on all at the same time. I know several people who have had their hearts broken and other relationships ruined by this. So, Hey... be careful out there!

I don't really go anywhere specific for my flirting. I have a tendency to flirt with guys no matter where I am -- here on the forum, any number of dance venues, a variety of jazz venues, the Hangout, on some of the various hunts that I do, and even out shopping.

Go do what you like to do. When you come across a guy that seems interesting, talk to him. What kind of music do you like? Go to those types of dance/music places. What type of activities do you like? FInd places for those things and go see who is there. If you want someone that has common interests, the best way to find them is to go explore those interests.


ETA:
I will add some of my favorite dance places where I have met people: Hot Sax Jazz, Avilion (not everyone goes there with someone), Franks, the Hangout

At least you didn't say "more looser".

But all the resy of what you said is right on. SLU is definitely a different animal than here. If it weren't, there wouldn't be a reason to go there.

Try WoW,

The percentage of single men is a lot higher ...

Just make sure they don't know what a "Scene Kid" is .. and they should be old enough.

You can also try The Savoy, Jade's, The Common Grounds Coffee Shop, The Blarney Stone and The Bubblegum Music Factory. The Forum Cartel Hangout and Madhu's Cafe are 2 places where many forum people are known to turn up at any given time as well.

whats a scene kid?

i play wow...and i'm single

man i must be old

I was trying to impress you.

hmmm, i was pretty sure it was the other way around...

Umm....cooties have boys? ^_^

hiding on my island...

Good luck1 with finding someone! I've heard good things with Bogart's but that was a while ago. Try joining groups with events and activities that you genuinely enjoy in SL and maybe you will find someone who shares your interests from within that group.

Omg from what I have found in sl no guy is sl is sincere. I thought I knew someone after almost a year and come to find he ended up just being an opportunist. I really loved this man. But now that I can stand back and look at the big picture it was just a big lie for what he must have been lacking in his RL marriage. Never seems to amaze me how one can play with ones emotions and feelings. So what they say is true, Love is blind and I was. Despite what I have been through I still love him but have learned to let go. When you truly love someone you will stick by their side through thick and thin, the good, the bad and the ugly. All of which I did. I won’t say it was mistake but just a lesson I have learned.