What is wrong with this Secondlife world?

Is it just me or is it very hard to find men on secondlife that actually want to get partnered up, because im not having any luck finding a guy that wont cheat or lie and definitely is not married or has a gf/bf alreadyand plus is not just after sex , that seems to be the mainstream in sl. I am very frustrated.

u can pritty much say it about the womans in here aswell lolz

What's the old saying? "Quit looking for it, and it will find you?"

yes and how often does you finding someone when not looking, work out

Try being friends first. Also the type of men you are looking for may not be the ones that partner up so quickly.

and no i cant say that about myself I am not the type of person that cheats or lies or whatever. I am very genuine and want LOVE

i am friends with guys then later i find out they are not lookign for partners just sex

Wanting love is great; most of us want to find an ideal partner. But if you come on to a guy with a desperate sort of attitude, he'll run away screaming. Like Xplorer said; become friends first. Love will come later. You can't be in love with someone with out being friends with them.

haha im not desperate just fed up of always finding losers

They're not losers. They just have a different view of the world. I remind myself that most men have the mental maturity of a 12-year-old and I get along with them fine.

(joke! it was a joke!)

haha tht joke may be right tho

I think what first attracted me to my SLoulmate was her impatience. Then I found my heart pitter-pattering for her argumentativeness. But I think it was the pejorative way in which she categorized men was the biggest turn on...

Nope, I just can't continue. Sorry.

LOL! LOL! Now I can grocery shop with a grin on my face. Thanks Mal.

don`t forget that alot of males play female for various resons like most men are so stupid that with using an female account u don`t have to prove anything, also interaction with an female avi is alot easier with both men and women, the men think they`re talking to a female to hit on at a later state and the female thinks she`s talking to another 1 and not getting hit on

don`t forget that the same goes for womens aswell using an male avi just to avoid the crap u get with using an female avi when ur female


lesson, hit on females instead

We are still animals at heart...nature still dictates that perpetuation is a prime aim.. but age and experience changes one... i only speak for myself.. now i approach fifty, ive not found a partner that fits me..or that i can adapt enough to fit.. maybe my expectations are too specific.. i have no idea.. if i had i would be with that partner i guess.. ive kinda shelved the whole thing now.. i fit me.. so be it..it would be an accident that i find my true partner now..

Most men have two brains.

They hang in a little pouch between their RL legs.

SL is wonderful. It is an amplifier for creativity.
It is also extremely superficial. Everyone can be drop-dead gorgeous for a few bucks.
If there was an avatar attachment that magically revealed the soul of the person behind the avatar, for many guys exposed to the pulchritude of SL, the attachment would rezz as a tongue - hanging down to the ground.
Unfortunately, there isn't a magical soul-rezzer. There is however the dreaded penis attachment - which could be considered a non-magical soul-rezzer.

If you find a male avatar who does not have a penis atached to his person or inventory, you may have found what you are looking for.

You'd have to take the absence of a penis on trust however.
"Hi! I'm X, and I don't have a penis" - the new-man SL chatup line.


LOL!

I've seen guys hit on newbie ruth avies, I don't think looks are even a requirement .

Hey, is my Ruth fetish all that wrong? And how did you know about it?

Nevermind.

Perhaps they're reduced to hitting on Ruthies because the drop-dead gorgeous women are so vain they won't have anything to do with anything but drop-dead gorgeous men!

Or else the drop-dead gorgeous women are all so aware that drop-dead gorgeous women are mostly woefully exaggerating and assume all the drop-dead gorgeous men are also phonies, and the NOT drop-dead gorgeous men are just losers who don't have the resources to be drop-dead gorg....oh, you know.

As a man in SL who is married to a wonderful woman I can tell you how it was done. I didn't come to SL for love, I just wanted to play. I have numerous interest in SL and found my SL wife while enjoying one of my many interests. I suggest you pursue your interests in SL and make friends with people with similar interests, eventually you will find your guy. I don't understand the rush to partner in SL but many people do if quickly and often. My SL wife and I dated 1 year to the day we married and most of our friends found that extremely long. Good luck and try to have fun exploring SL and all it has to offer.

PS: Both of us are single and have met twice in RL before the SL marriage but that is not a prerequisite I just took forever to ask her. We live on opposite coasts so SL offers us an opportunity to spend time together we don't have in RL.

So true, so true

"Your world, Your imagination"

Some people's imaginations are unimaginable.

I'm not looking for sex or romance in SL, just creativity, fun and friendship. OK, I have had sex a few times in the early days but I don't have a high virtual libido - I'm more of a 'look but don't touch' type!

Which brings me to an interesting encounter I had outside my home the other day.
I was standing daydreaming (miles away, like I had map or search screen up). When I finished looking at these, I looked up to see a macho looking newbie guy standing in front of me. He did at least have trousers on. I noticed he'd been chatting to me and I hadn't replied. His conversation went something like this:

[macho newbie]: Oi!
[macho newbie]: (something unintelligible in Portuguese)
[macho newbie]: Oiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!
[macho newbie]: sex
Me: NO!

To be honest, if I was interested in a guy, and he DIDN'T want sex, I'd be a little concerned.

maybe you should get a RL guy, and get him in SL to partner up with you. i mean, RL is where it's at, SL is just gravy.