Can you realy trust your SL lover?

My answer is that everyone is different, and you can't generalize.

Oh, yeah. everyone says that

I have never said that.

That's the thing; if you have to prove it, it's not trust.
No risk, no reward.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
To me, trust that may or may not be broken is better than living with doubts and suspicion.

If you want a realist's look at it, every relationship you have had before has ended. You can either live in fear or enjoy the time you are given.

It was a joke about the whole generalization thing ... obviously a poor joke tho.

I did not know how far these relationships can be taken and it is very uplifting to read that some ventured enough to take into RL from SL.

In my experience Love often transcends the need for trust.

Love comes in many shapes and forms and to be honest romantic love is neither the most complex nor deep seated.

I have known romantic love to disintegrate with the loss of trust, and I've seen people continue to love.. and perhaps love more.. when that love is unrequited or proven time and again to be spent on someone who to all objective observance did not seem to deserve it.

I'm not particularly religious, but there is a passage from Corinthians which pretty much sums it up for me;

Love knows no limit to its endurance
no end to its trust,
Love still stands
when all else has fallen.

anyway, just my thoughts.. do with them as you see fit..

GIVE HIM A BABY!

The perfect gift for the man who dates you once and never calls back, cheats or dumps on you, or is nasty and unpleasant after having had his way with you.

Give him a gift he will never forget. GIVE HIM A BABY !!

The permissions are set at Modify/NO Copy /Give Away, so you can give the baby its fathers name, then set the Next Owner permissions in the edit window to No Modify before you give the baby to its father.

I suggest you put the baby in a folder in your inventory. Name the folder "Gift to (fathers name) from (your name)" so he does not know that you are giving him a baby, until after he has accepted the gift. Won't he be surprised when he opens the folder to see what you gave him. A BABY!!! LOL

And since you removed the modify permissions he won't be able to change the name. He will be stuck with it.

The baby is 16 prims. The baby is modifiable so you can tint the skin for different skin tones.

Eversoft store, Suisun 120, 124, 301


http://uncensored.slexchange.com/modules.php?name=Marketplace&file=item&ItemID=570399

Love Hurts

Love Stinks

Your love won't pay my bills

I don't believe in love I never have, I never will

And it also renders his delete options useless?

GIVE HIM A BABY!

The perfect gift for the man who dates you once and never calls back, cheats or dumps on you, or is nasty and unpleasant after having had his way with you.

Give him a gift he will never forget. GIVE HIM A BABY !!

The permissions are set at Modify/NO Copy /Give Away, so you can give the baby its fathers name, then set the Next Owner permissions in the edit window to No Modify before you give the baby to its father.

I suggest you put the baby in a folder in your inventory. Name the folder "Gift to (fathers name) from (your name)" so he does not know that you are giving him a baby, until after he has accepted the gift. Won't he be surprised when he opens the folder to see what you gave him. A BABY!!! LOL

And since you removed the modify permissions he won't be able to change the name. He will be stuck with it.

The baby is 16 prims. The baby is modifiable so you can tint the skin for different skin tones.

Eversoft store, Suisun 120, 124, 301


http://uncensored.slexchange.com/modules.php?name=Marketplace&file=item&ItemID=570399

There is some old topic in the archive, but it does not give tips on what to do if you are in doubt. No, you will never completely be able to know your virtual lover I think, but there are tips to help you out. I whished I had known a few up front. Though I prolly would have said “I can trust my Louis.” But maybe, just maybe I would have checked it out of curiosity. To prove I could trust him.

My story in short: I met him in my 3rd week. He from the other side of the world. We fell in love deeply and we enjoyed a relation. He had to leave sl for his work after 6 weeks; no internet access in that part of the world. We kept mailing from time to time and meeting on MSN. Promises made to meet irl whenever he would be in Europe.

A couple of weeks after he left I met a guy. It clicked and we got a relation. I felt guilty, but was very much in love. That relation lasted for month, faded eventually to friendship until he left sl to deal with health problems irl.

Recently a guy contacted me with news from my first love. He was his friend in real life and was asked to look after me. It clicked, but I didn’t want to cheat on my bf with his best friend, whom I just had met in MSN, still very much in love after almost a year.

I am about to celebrate my first rezz-day when one of his other girlfriends eventually told me. Yes these were all the same man. Not from the other side of the world, not even from the country the second one claimed to be. He had left me without leaving. He knew how I missed him. He played his little role-play about his real life on 3 avatars over the past year. He hit on me 3 times, asking about the others. I confronted him.. he apologised and I don’t know what to believe anymore. We split up.

What can you do: check on the IP address. When you get mail, you can find that address in the properties. There are sites where you can track that address to a county, even a provider (http://www.ip2location.com/free.asp) . If you don’t get mails you will need to have your own stream running. On the administrator pages of your stream provider you can get the ip address from your listeners. Make sure that only you and the other are present. That he or she listens to the music. At least you will be able to see if the person is from the place he claims to be. And, maybe even more important, the alts come from the same IP.
Look for similarities in text. The use of or or ,maybe miss spellings, the writing of OK and not ok or Ok.

I know this is all so obvious… but now I cant imagine I never saw it. I feel ashamed, fooled, naïve, deceived, ….. I hope this will alert someone that has this slight feeling of doubt.

I know this is a very old thread, but I'm going to reply to the OP anyway...

You asked the wrong question. YOU were having it off with everyone - imagining that you fall in love etc. YOU are the one who can't be trusted.

So I tell everyone to be skeptical, but there's a chance that one day my SL friends will ACTUALLY be contacted by my real-life friend. How can she prove she's for real?

Im thinking you should change your name to Claire Rayner...!