Talk me out of adopting a child

and I find it easier still when being a child av.... I simply dont wish to take part in it.... my parents may, I dunno It boils down to what each of us are comfortable with and what each of us wants SL to be.

My normal response is simply "over 18." I'll add to it that I've existed since the late 1960s, IRL. This should surprise no one who has ever looked in my store before - this is why my focus tends to be on toys a child of the 1970s mighta grooved on.



I don't "have sex" in SL, nor do I do the "click me here and sit on this poseball" that passes for sex in SL. I'm not here to do that. In fact, I could go so far as to say that in playing a kid I'm also sending a message that I'm not interested in having sexual contact in here.



Much like any other role play, AFAIK. We act out out lives in chat. If there is a need to go OOC, we're chat in parentheticals or put it between asterisks (different people have different preferences). We'll also often IM OOC. We will definitely talk about our RLs at times, but much like "Lord Spampire of the Dark Realm" isn't going to break RP to talk about mowing his lawn, I'm not going to go on about my taxes without making it clear I'm OOC. It can vary for others, but that tends to work well for us. I note it can get muddled when a parent logs in after getting home from work, and some of the RL can get mixed into the overall a lot more than, say, other RP scenarios.

Likewise, when I am working (you see, I'm not *jes* a RP character, I'm also a professional builder and store owner!) in the workshops, or with my work bosses, or whatever, I tend to stay OOC.

I am not an alt: I am a main. Heck, I doubt I'd have time for an alt. The "adult marianne" is behind the keyboard, and she has her own life to attend to. She doesn't fight Goblins. Besides her SL daddy is part of the horde over on WoW, so it wouldn't be polite.

who brought up sex and why?

Right. It's only Monday. Let's save that for a Friday thread.

An *interesting* point, Adz. This was a thread about adopting SL kids, ya?

Given the stigma the rest of the Real World puts on child avatars, I'd avoid it.

Not that I have anything against people RP'ing being kids.

It's Second Life. Indulge your fantasies. Just remember the Real World repercussions if discovered.

Found it!

Yeah I've been there done that too. I guess I don't need to tell you that imagination(tm) is powerful. But, believe it or not, it's not just for fantasy sex!

Thanks for answering the question, no real reason for asking other than curiosity. I don't quite know what I was expecting, I guess I expected that most would be in 30+

I think it's a question that most people, who don't understand about the child AV thing, would naturally be wondering, I admit I was.

I'm usually of the mind set, 'each to their own' but I have to agree with Jig, I find it creepy too. Maybe that's because I don't understand it, it just seems really messed up to me.

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lolz

32.

I'm not in SL to be adopted, I'm just here to be.




(As for the question about sex... Ew.)

come on it's the fantasy of some people
and it's a roleplaying just don't ruin it XD

If you read more carefully, you would see that I wasn't directing this comment at you, and that it related to a claim of rl expertise, not personal views on the advisability of what might be a 21 year old guy pretending to be a woman "adopting" perhaps a 60 year old woman pretending to be a 6 year old boy.

Pep (But if the cap fits, wear it)

Yip I know who you aimed it at, doesn't take careful reading. And I don't wear caps, hat hair and all that!

Once the topic moved to food, I thought we were done... shows what I know.

Your comments have helped a lot... including some inworld.

One thing I've realized (once again) is what a totalistic, black/white mind I have. I wouldn't have thought, for instance, about trial adoptions. I would have just dove in... gone whole hog, like I do with everything else.

But one thing occurred to me after all this, and that is that I don't need to adopt a child avatar to interact with one. Just this morning a little girl and I chatted, and she sold me a goldfish. It was nice, and it was enough for me.

The fact that seeing a child avatar stimulates a maternal feeling in me doesn't mean that I actually have to be that child's mother. Obvious probably to all of you, but I'm a little slow sometimes.

In the end, I'm not going to do it. I really did want to get talked out of it.

But some things have changed. I'm not afraid of talking to child avatars any more. I used to avoid them. I went through the whole consideration of setting up a room and putting a swing set in the yard, and that was fun and interesting.

It's so crazy the way that SL has such unexpected things to do and experience. I never thought I'd ride motorcycles or skydive in SL... and I never thought I'd consider adopting a child.

I decided not to, but it was worth considering. It didn't hurt me... although it gave my friends some anxious moments.

Glad you made your mind up, and it's great to come across somebody who thinks so carefully about what they do.



Nothing to stop you doing this anyway, for any passing kids, or just for yourself. I have a tyre swing which I love, and I only wear a kid avie about 1% of the time - I'll happily swing away in full evening dress or a robot avatar.

p.s. sorry for the gravy hijack

Help! What does OOC mean? I've seen this posted several times and I cannot for the life of me figure out what OOC means?

Out Of Character

OOC = Out Of Character and it describes when you are typing/talking/generally behaving in a manner which is inconsistent with your current role play. Usefully indicated by double parentheses ((OOC words)) in chat.

By the way - this must be the nicest thread (overall) I have ever read in RA. I am delighted (although I can not say that I have helped in any way, other than to offer the sort of conversational diversions that are sometimes of assistance when considering weighty moral issues - white gravy or brown?) that you have been able to make a better decision than otherwise. If only rl decisions were as considered, much less some of the nonsense that is battled about here.

Pep (Goodwill to all men - and women - and men pretending to be women - and . . . oh you know what I mean)

Thanks Pep and Gabrielle. Now I understand what the above poster was saying.

Then if you "feel bad" - is it "very innocent"? I know I never feel "innocent" for most of teh time. And asking questions is just me.

I was never born. (^_^)

I always was. (^_^)

I'm a demon goddess from the third level of hell and I use Second Life to connect myself to this feeble mudball and its meatsack residents. (^_^)

It's 'real life' that's the game. (^_^)y

Don't be hard on Jig, people. I still might adopt her.