Talk me out of adopting a child

My apologies jedi. We sound liek wasps buzzing round a jam jar.

OK, as long as I'm not the father! !!

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I could not agree more, I think it's insanely bizarre too. I mean really, adults adopting adults who are pretending to be kids……… now surely to god I’ve heard it all.

And how is it a responsibility when all you have to do is log off or check the box so they can’t even see your line.

I find it really hard to comprehend this roleplay, I think it's really weird!

Yes that's exactly what they are, adults pretending to be kids, you have to be 18, I think, to on the grid. Someone will correct me if I'm wrong.

Phew - someone agrees with me. Now I can go to bed and leave arguments to you.

Well, I couldn't give you a "ratio" or anything like that. There are many, many kid avs who are adopted, but there are also areas, numerous whole sims that are kid-av centric, where kid avs hang out by themselves, away from adult avs; and these two groups are not mutually-exclusive. Many kids are "adopted" the way I am - there are adult avs that address them as "family", but otherwise the relationship is mainly friendly rather than familial, so they don't spend all their time on SL with their family. There are kid avs who are truly "roleplaying", who act like kids 100% of the time; there are kid avs who are kid avs simply because that's the way they want to look right now for whatever reason, and otherwise don't really "roleplay" kids. And, there's all degrees in between (I tend to consider myself mostly towards the latter).

There are kid-av "groups", and communities. There's activities, and theme locations, shops and even whole malls. And just like any other group on Second Life, there's plenty of politics and drama, too. Perhaps that's the ultimate proof that kid avs really are quite typical adults.

As for the notion and procedure of "adoption", well - we call it adoption for lack of a better term, really. How else would you describe a relationship where a five-year-old, for instance, suddenly starts "living with" a set of parents she's never met before? In RL, it's true that adoptions are not always happy affairs, and the fact that a kid is available for adoption at all is usually a pretty good indicator that something very wrong has happened in that kid's life. But in SL, we can fly, and teleport. It's not RL, and by and large when kids look to be adopted by parents, they're not wanting to roleplay being the victims of a tragedy. In SL, kids can be available for adoption just because they want to be, without necessarily having been hurt at some point, and all the extraneous details simply don't matter. Their world, their imagination.

Nooo, don't feed me to the wolves!

Any kid AV's willing to say how old they are in RL?

These wolves just wanna adopt you!
Seriously I was working out I could be "adopting" someone who could be THREE times my age. Which is surreal.

In this sense, I agree completely. I meant more along the lines of most of the things that we do in SL. A relationship here can be all RP or it can be a step towards a RL permanent relationship and/or everything in between. If you partner in SL however, it is still a form of RP, though very symbolic to many. To me, adoption is similar to that. There is a real relationship there, but it is a RP in that you are not *really* adopting a child.

Oh what bollix, I don't have kids in RL and I can see the point, this has nothing to do with having kids in RL or not.

Oh no apparently it's normal and you and I are nuts.

Thanks for he careful description. Okay NOW another question. Do you all kinda "mingle" -I mean you look like a teenager as far as I recall. Or is that a different "sect"? You must understand that some people really have a hard time with the notion. Even a person taking on the role of a parent and adopting anoher person is so strange to many of us. And, let's face it, kid avats are some of teh prickliest members of sl out there so its hard to even discuss child issues without combative stances being taken.

Which one is Trout?

I miss his posts

Maybe we should adopt each other and kinda cancel each other out

Many dont want SL and RL to be the same.... would calling it bagel sharing be better than adopting? Hardly, we call it what fits the closest. as far as when Im in SL Im 7.... Im not my RL age, so yes I was adoptable age. Play is supposed to be fun, is it always? nope b ut it certainly should be. Its only sensitive if one makes it so. Should a large portion of SL life be all about drama? Nope again, but it is. Its not been grueling or complex for me and the reason being I wont allow it to be. Im still about having fun in SL, not creating a carbon copy of my RL

I really am off to bed. Its a gentle rain on teh Atlantic coast and Jethro Tull is on my stereo. Goodnight to all of you.
Adoption! Lol!! Roffle!

do the kid avs have sex because that would make it abnormal?

serious question i would like to know

No, I don't have a teenage av. I'm more of a tweener, I guess (if that's the word these days).

But to answer your question...I would say there are "cliques" among kid avs. Groups of friends, whose composition may or may not be homogenous. Anyone can attest that I don't spend as much time in the kid-centric groups and places as most other kids seem to, so take it with a grain of salt...but in my slight experience, it seems to me that GENERALLY, girls tend to hang with girls, and boys tend to hang with boys, although there are occasional exceptions.

As for being prickly - well, as a group, kid avs often feel a little repressed or discriminated against, for reasons I'm sure you'll agree are kind of obvious (although again, in my opinion, the true "danger" is a bit exaggerated usually - YMMV).

In reality I am not, it seems more that you home in on something harmless and want to make those who participate feel bad when in fact it is very innocent.

Most dont but I can not speak for all child avs.... Im a child av to avoid sexual things in SL and its worked out great for me

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Surprised? Just curious where the question would lead to or what you were expecting.

I don't mean to pry, and I'm not actually asking for information. But it seems disingenuous to say that Avoiding Sexual Things is 'the' reason for having a child avatar.

I mean, there's no difficulty in avoiding sexual things in SL. It's quite easy--just don't go to places with 'XXX' or body parts in the description. Couldn't be simpler, really.

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