How do you find a good guy

Point taken. Maybe my thinking was linear like it would be in the real world. That would make it OK for me to be in IM with several guys at once as well.

Would it still be OK if I was dancing with one guy but still in IM with others.

You know you always loved me.

Point taken. Maybe my thinking was linear like it would be in the real world. That would make it OK for me to be in IM with several guys at once as well.

Would it still be OK if I was dancing with one guy but still in IM with others.

But is she just looking for friendship? She sure sounds like someone who is looking for a cyber mate if you ask me. For somone who has only been in SL a week, she seems to have made up her mind on a lot of things about the people she is coming across. Also if she is just looking for friends, why the big rush? Part of making friends is the learning and discovering things. What does it matter if a guy is "two timing" if all you are interested in is being his friend? What's the big deal in spending some time or so chatting with someone, even if you find you really don't have a lot in common?

Hell it took months before I wanted to stop bashing Chris' face in before we became good friends, and the jury is still out on Damien........

I know that the people who post here might only be a small proportion compared with the numbers in sl and I haven't read much except in the Residents answers forum but even here the guys seem a bit geeky and unsympathetic. I shouldn't be surprised I suppose but I was hoping for better. Perhaps I am picky and impatient but why not..

My experience has been the men on this Forum are LESS geeky and MORE sympathetic to woman on the whole than most men I've met INworld.

That's a hasty judgement call you've made for a very large group of men.

Very true. They all seem to actually get out of the basement, have jobs, lives, and many have even seen a naked woman in RL. Even Tod

Do understand that there are 2 groups here in SL: ones that want an SL love and ones that want something that might progress to RL. If you meet a person that hopes that, but you want it purely to remain SL, be honest about that. Had a few people trying to start an SL only with me, despite my statements that I was not interested in that and it hurts, it really hurts.

But is she just looking for friendship? She sure sounds like someone who is looking for a cyber mate if you ask me. For somone who has only been in SL a week, she seems to have made up her mind on a lot of things about the people she is coming across. Also if she is just looking for friends, why the big rush? Part of making friends is the learning and discovering things. What does it matter if a guy is "two timing" if all you are interested in is being his friend? What's the big deal in spending some time or so chatting with someone, even if you find you really don't have a lot in common?

Hell it took months before I wanted to stop bashing Chris' face in before we became good friends, and the jury is still out on Damien........

I thought that was common. The last couple of dances at the hangout I went to with Hera(Amara), I joined in open chat, the forum group chat, and had im's open to Hera, Mo, and Jer. And I'm not that good at doing multiple conversations. It's sl, that is common. Now most of the time I usually don't do that because I want to concentrate only on Hera.

My experience has been the men on this Forum are LESS geeky and MORE sympathetic to woman on the whole than most men I've met INworld.

That's a hasty judgement call you've made for a very large group of men.

I didn't say I was only looking for sl friendship did I. Surely saying you are married and faithful is going to put a lot of men off.

I would not consider being unfaithful to him in rl but I really miss the company of men.

Point taken. Maybe my thinking was linear like it would be in the real world. That would make it OK for me to be in IM with several guys at once as well.

Would it still be OK if I was dancing with one guy but still in IM with others.

I don't understand the point of talking to someone for longer than you have to if you want to bash their heads in. Surely you could have used that time to make other friends.

I didn't say I was only looking for sl friendship did I. Surely saying you are married and faithful is going to put a lot of men off.

you make some very good points.

When I was reading the posts I kept asking myself... do they want a cyber mate or just a friend.

*shrug*

And yeah, they do know a lot for being in SL such a short time.

I don't understand the point of talking to someone for longer than you have to if you want to bash their heads in. Surely you could have used that time to make other friends.

I didn't say I was only looking for sl friendship did I. Surely saying you are married and faithful is going to put a lot of men off.

So you are agreeing with me then. If not I don't understand your point.

But Brenda says "I guess that depends on you. Personally, I wouldn't take a call on my cell phone while dancing with someone, so I wouldn't go into IM until the dance was over." Is that a difference between men and women here.

well didn't you say in one post that you want to be faithful to your RL hubby???

ahhh sorry this made me think you do not wish to be unfaithful...


For me, if you "do it" in SL it is cheating (unless you are of course,.. roleplaying, and in that case, it won't matter if the person is male, or female, as long as the avatar is male, if you are RPing a male/female relationship... right?)

If you are going to form a relationship in SL, then most likely it will involve emotions (especially since the way your posts are going, it matters to you if you are compatible) then yeah, it is cheating (in my opinion)

well didn't you say in one post that you want to be faithful to your RL hubby???

ahhh sorry this made me think you do not wish to be unfaithful...


For me, if you "do it" in SL it is cheating (unless you are of course,.. roleplaying, and in that case, it won't matter if the person is male, or female, as long as the avatar is male, if you are RPing a male/female relationship... right?)

If you are going to form a relationship in SL, then most likely it will involve emotions (especially since the way your posts are going, it matters to you if you are compatible) then yeah, it is cheating (in my opinion)

When you find a good guy that is taken, stay in touch anyway, but keep your contact very innocent. Two reasons;

Most SL relationships last about as long as the period between high tides. They may not be "taken" for very long.

If you keep it very casual and they push things further, you might just find out that they only looked like a nice guy ... you know, guys that are already taken usually look a little better than they actually are ... forbidden fruit being what it is.

Good luck!