Another relationship thread

I wonder how many would react to the idea that this entire thread could just be a sophisticated example of gaming/trolling the forums.

Where’s that Groan button when I need it.

You don't think theres a possible coincidence in the fact that "Her Quandary" had this happen to her?

Is it a case of a self-fulfilling prophesy instead?

I believe that exploring the full depth and range of ones capabilities both mentally and emotionally is not a sin but a blessing and I have yet to find myself alone in that journey.

I think from what I’ve read in all these “relationship” threads she just happened to come up with a cool name is all.

or she's an alt

or she's an alt

Neither precludes the theory I mentioned.

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Its most certain that she is an alt.

The question more is - is this a legitimate concern she has, or something else?


That someone named "Her Quandary" would show up out of the blue and wish to discuss this topic in front of/with total strangers is what would be strange.

Its really not a trolling issue, I did and still kind of do have a dilemma with the entire situation. We have talked my and things are smoothing out. I am so lucky to have an understanding man by my side in world. I do appreciate the actual ability of everyone here to have a intellectual discussion on this over played thread from the past. Its just proof to me that the forums are not as bad as ppl say as too mean posters and no "real help" offered here. ty

There are no such things as alts- they are revolting... Or did.. I forget..

and this was answered above.

We are waiting for the right time to revolt.

or she's an alt

We are waiting for the right time to revolt.

In that case, the chintz curtains may be the last straw...

You answered it above.

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Whether or not I accept the answer; that is a different story.

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I wont belabor the point - I just spoke my opinion. I wasn't the only one considering the possibility.


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Good luck in your SL romance and your Real Life relationship.

Often they do not work out - and if its the Real Life relationship that suffers that is a lot harder to handle.

SL relationships are often lot easier to replace.

To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
SL and thrills of Secret Romance,
Or to take arms against a sea of poseballs,
And by opposing end them? To Log Off: to Sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand virtual shocks
That an Avatar is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To Log Off, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep offline what dreams may come
When we have shuffled off this virtual coil,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calamity of second life;
For who would bear the whips and spankers of time,>> snip

I missed that poem I guess it was deleted?
It was nice one, I didn't see it.

To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
SL and thrills of Secret Romance,
Or to take arms against a sea of poseballs,
And by opposing end them? To Log Off: to Sleep;
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand virtual shocks
That an Avatar is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To Log Off, to sleep;
To sleep: perchance to dream: ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep offline what dreams may come
When we have shuffled off this virtual coil,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calamity of second life;
For who would bear the whips and spankers of time,
The oppressor's wrong, the proud man's contumely,
The pangs of despised love, the lag's delay,
The insolence of office and the spurns
That patient merit of the unworthy takes,
When he himself might his quietus make
With a ruthed bodkin? who would fardels bear,
To grunt and sweat under a second life,
But that the dread of something after Log Off,
The undiscover'd Region from whose bourn
No traveller returns, puzzles the will
And makes us rather bear those EMOs we have
Than TP to others that we know not of?
Thus conscience does make cowards of us all;
And thus the native hue of resolution
Is sicklied o'er with the pale cast of Windlight,
And enterprises of great prims and moment
With this regard their Avatars turn awry,
And lose the name of animation. - Soft you now!
The fair Desired Avi, in thy orisons
Be all my sins remember'd.

Eku, you win the thread. Brilliant.

Solanghe

or she's an alt

You yourself wrote the effective means for emotional boundaries only 1 paragraph below where you said it can't be done:

That's right.. it doesn't mean that you should or can properly choose all choices that lead deeper into love.. if that love (or the extent of it) is proving to be a problem.
When the outcome of a particular choice is known from experience, it becomes predictable. If it's predictable, it can be averted. If someone knows from experience that snuggling, for example, leads them to feelings of intense emotional bonding and that's a danger area for them... logically choosing not to engage in that little bit of snuggling averts the problem end result before it can affect them. A logical choice has just put into play an emotional boundary and avoided a situation where one knows they'll lose control. It's not rocket science.. alcoholics have been using this same method and choosing NOT to have that first drink for ages. In the same way Logic CAN temper love and be a powerful asset, one just has to be willing to let it.

I'm aware that it's real, to most people, myself included. However, those of you who who meet your SL loves and take it to RL (and make it work) are *still* in the minority.

I love your blog... and i get you totally

like i said me and my SO met online too.. and yes its a leap of faith but its like that for everyone...
how many times have you heard a friend say .. boy did he/she change when we got married...

and thats ppl who met in RL

but meeting online lets you communicate far more than in a RL relationship... the whole thing is accelerated... and more intense

but the funny thing is .. 4 years later and we still talk as much.

way to go Randoym ^^