Another relationship thread

QFT!

Ill take polyamory FTW

nah not me

monogamy is your friend.

Can I pass? I'm not qualified to answer this question.

So many scars, so many t-shirts.

imogen

Dunno the answer to that. Just know this: do anything you can to keep your lover's crazy EX out of it, up to and including beating them off with a baseball bat.

Figuratively speaking, of course.

/me smiles.

Haha funny...
Don't go chasing him down, hiding in his or her apartment to kidnap them once they don't want to date you any more. LOL

Be honest with yourself .... and the 'other' both SL and RL. Even if you both agree to merely role-play SL the emotion is real. Yes, it's cheating.

Hi FD, Colette, Aeble and all ..love your sig LittleMe

Meet you back here in another couple of months

No- referencing recurring theme.

Actually, that's another discussion. Is it cheating if your spouse and other both know about it and approve?

My husband is a role-player and his characters are sometimes involved with others. He doesn't hide anything from me and is constantly asking me if it's okay. If I had an ounce of problems, he'd stop. And the few times I've had an ounce of an issue... well, it wasn't him, it was the other person that got on my nerves.

I shouldn't answer this at all. But I do anyways...

What comes to balancing, I have to say that only time will teach that. It is hard even after while anyways, there are so many aspects. Main thing is to decide the level of RL interaction, do you want the SL relationships to carry over to RL, and if yes, how much.

My RL hubby doesn't want me to have anything to do with SL, because of the cheating aspect.

Balancing is a delicate act.

In other words, he doesn't trust you?

Brenda, no he doesn't. He doesn't have a reason to trust, I already broke it...but only in SL, not RL.

Ok. Thanks.

My Sl relationship is so so unhealthy, there is no balance!

I like to live in my SL bubble of reality when dealing with issues like this.
No, I dont like my bubble to burst either.

I am not looking to pry details from you that you don't want to give (well, okay, yes I am, but that's just because I am nosey) - but your questions are vague, so it's hard to give pointed advice.

When you say "balance," do you mean balancing between a RL relationship and a SL with a different person? Or do you mean something else?

I use a Kevlar bubble. Keeps SL in, RL out.

and Mrz. Brenda how many prims is that bubble or is it a sculpty?
Oh and pass the LM to pick one up stat. kthxbi

I’ve never understood why people run from the opportunity to share intimacy in a safe structured environment like SL. Why can’t we have our cake and eat it too? Yes there can be pain and heartache but so can sitting alone watching CSI reruns while you spouse is in the next room watching something else. Real life liaisons can have a much greater negative impact on family and one’s self then sitting in front of your pc sharing an animated kiss with your SL lover. Of course some of you will come back and ask “why have relationships at all in SL?” I say. Hurry up before the commercial ends.

I just spent 9 months with someone we'll refer to as my companion, as we were not partnered, never wanted nor expected it.

Very recently, he decided to move on. I think there were better ways he could have handled it that would have made it easier on me. Regardless, all I can really say is, avoid SL relationships like the plague, unless you have a heart made of steel.

It's far too easy to get hurt.

Interesting Blue, well I can say I started my SL relationship never have done this before and knew it was playing with fire. Still did not stop me at all. Although I deluded my thoughts that I would have myself in check in some form or another. I just dont know what my issue is lately maybe its me not seeing our SL world anymore as ours and things have filtered in from this past week?
Yes we are both married and yes you can say its cheating but why would I cheat myself out of missing something like I have had?

Want my serious advice? Get yourself hooked on content creation instead. You accept that your relationship isn't healthy - and I have been in that place myself, wouldn't ever go back there again (I am so lucky and I don't take it for granted for a second). I only regret limping along when I knew I should have ended things, they ended really badly anyway so might as well have done it sooner rather than later.

Get hooked on building and you'll find that all that absorbtion into something fiddly might well sort your problem for you - give you the space and perspective and cool your paramour's heels.

Just remember that not everything is what it seems here - and that even if you are being 100% honest yourself it's very hard to know for sure someone else is being. Maybe this is an illusion you're getting yourself into heartache for, and the others in your RL?

Just a few thoughts.

Because, someday, it is going to end. Count on it. I was fortunate in that my RL husband had already been through this whole scene, and when I spent most of my weekend dissolving into a puddle of emotions, he was there to help me, and let me cry on his shoulder. Doesn't sound like you'll have that, when the time comes. AND THE TIME *WILL* COME.

I hate to be a doomsayer, but it is simply the nature of the beast.

Sorry to hear that sweetie. QFT, too. I'd say "heart of steel and don't actually give a damn about the other person, or so wrapped up with yourself and your own needs that it doesn't matter what they think or feel".

Or you're just an incurable romantic


***edit I should also QFT your next post. Sooner or later it will end - either it will, your RL relationship will or maybe both will. Maybe (hate to say this) his wife will find out and take him for every penny he has, or go into some terrible decline ...

Avatars may be toons, people are real. Sounds like you need to make some cold light of day choices, Her. Sorry.