just ignore and let this one die

Joan's as good as My Lady in the dark . . .

(I love seeing the entrepreneurial spirit at work in SL!! )

Ummm, wow: http://tinyurl.com/ykhao4x

(the headline is sort of NSFW)

She even had to quit a job in a biscuit factory because the machines kept setting her off.

Thank you for all who also shared your feelings and gave support. I read each word and appreciate them all.

I did not post to try and make anyone feel shame. I just wanted to let people know that for me this felt like hallowed ground being trampled on. It is a subject and place that is too deep for me to befoul with petty bickering. I also tried to make it very clear that it was my feelings to deal with. No one needs to change thier behaviour to please me. I did ask that in a thread, but after consideration realize I feel it is wrong to ask.

I never want a single person to walk away from these forums or be chased away. Heck even the one person I put on ignore, I wouldn't have suggested they leave. I just could not imagine that they would have anything to say I would ever remotely be interested in. My dilemma now is that I may feel forced to put people on ignore whose comments I am interested in. It is my personal dilemma though. Believe me I won't be making a big deal over anyone I decide to mute. I will just quietly do it.

Yes, the original comment made by Rhonda was harsh. Most of my angst is directed at Pep right now though for constintly pushing it back to the fore front. I also think it is wrong for members to try to drive each other away from here. I am not suggesting I want to become part of any lynch mob on either side. If I deem it neccesary, I know where the mute button is, or how to take a break from the forums for a bit. The only reason I added my two cents is that my post was specifically brought into the conversation. I tried hard not to direct my post at any specific party, but just at the general conversation.

I would not take it upon myself to judge anyone's worthiness to be here. It is just not me.

Thank you for all who also shared your feelings and gave support. I read each word and appreciate them all.

I did not post to try and make anyone feel shame. I just wanted to let people know that for me this felt like hallowed ground being trampled on. It is a subject and place that is too deep for me to befoul with petty bickering. I also tried to make it very clear that it was my feelings to deal with. No one needs to change thier behaviour to please me. I did ask that in a thread, but after consideration realize I feel it is wrong to ask.

I never want a single person to walk away from these forums or be chased away. Heck even the one person I put on ignore, I wouldn't have suggested they leave. I just could not imagine that they would have anything to say I would ever remotely be interested in. My dilemma now is that I may feel forced to put people on ignore whose comments I am interested in. It is my personal dilemma though. Believe me I won't be making a big deal over anyone I decide to mute. I will just quietly do it.

Yes, the original comment made by Rhonda was harsh. Most of my angst is directed at Pep right now though for constintly pushing it back to the fore front. I also think it is wrong for members to try to drive each other away from here. I am not suggesting I want to become part of any lynch mob on either side. If I deem it neccesary, I know where the mute button is, or how to take a break from the forums for a bit. The only reason I added my two cents is that my post was specifically brought into the conversation. I tried hard not to direct my post at any specific party, but just at the general conversation.

I would not take it upon myself to judge anyone's worthiness to be here. It is just not me.

Besides, who says you can only have one man?

HUGGERS.....

No worries. Its just the way it was going to go from the beginning. The need to be right is more important than other people's feelings for some. We were openly sharing life's roller coaster and someone decided that they would benefit by alluding to it. I wont allow my posts to be used as a tool against someone else. Flame me all you want but leave others out of it.

Parents>Husband>Roomie>John> Its all the same .

... and I'm astonished to see you, so insistent that others are overemotional, overreacting in this way.

Pep (I am still unable to work out what to say to my 25 year old SL friend who has been told that she has less than a year to live.)

/me bounces with excitement, in anticipation of today's lunch with Lindal.

HUGGERS.....

No worries. Its just the way it was going to go from the beginning. The need to be right is more important than other people's feelings for some. We were openly sharing life's roller coaster and someone decided that they would benefit by alluding to it. I wont allow my posts to be used as a tool against someone else. Flame me all you want but leave others out of it.

We know you meant no harm. Its over and done with, we're eating chocolate lava cake if ya want some.

I am overjoyed that you both called him on that.

Rafe, you forgot stylist in that mix. /119/bd/349976/1.html

"were" style matters!

It appears that Rhonda has done to him what he tries so hard to do to others. Found a button to push:

There is a slight hope that he has some humanity left after all.

I think your side should lay off too. There is definately humanity there, and humor, and intelligence. Also, one sharp, wicked, ego slicing tongue. If you look at what he mostly pricks though it is peoples ego and vanity.

I know it can sting to have your ego hurt, especailly if your new or insecure. I hate to see it when it happens. It is certainly not my way, but I think people have lost perspective. I hate the war zone.

Goes back to eating cake.

I think your side should lay off too.

Angel only gets one because I only get one girl.

*waves*
Hope all is well in Huntress land.

*hugs*

i'm gonna tell something private here.... i have lost two of the very most important people in my life to cancer. one 15 years ago, one 8 years ago. the first was my adopted mother figure, who i was unable to visit in her last months because i simply could not deal with losing her. she didn't remember me by that time anyway. she died from second hand smoke. she had lung cancer,beat it for 10 years, then it resurfaced in her brain. it was an ugly, slow and painful death for her. i cannot imagine it. she was 56. the second was my Pa. not my real Pa, but my FIL. he smoked for most of his adult, developed lung cancer and had one lung removed. he was always my card partner, and i nicknamed him "one lung". i loved that man so much. no greater man has walked these lands. well, he beat it for about 4 years and then it resurfaced in his liver, which then spread all throughout. i was there the day he died. i stroked his hair after he was gone. i spoke to him and held the door for the coroners when they wheeled him out of the home.

i know about death. i know about cancer. it's brutal.

but you know, we all handle things differently in life. and that has a lot to do with our upbringing. i can take a lot. even when it hurts real bad. depending on who you are in my life at any particular time, you might be the one who experiences my emotions when they affect me. my divorce, for example. a couple of people have walked me through it, and it has not been easy. i cry. who'd a thunk. not me, that's for sure.

but so what. i'll be the first one to make jokes about divorce and death and cancer... because if you can't laugh at life and all it offers, then you are dark inside. i handle things the way i do because that is how i learned to handle them. it is not personal to anyone else. it is personal to me. and laughter IS the best medicine. heck, being fat in this world is probably one of the hardest things to deal with in public. yet, deep down it is heartwrenching for those who are obese... and still, we make jokes about it. you learn to laugh at it, because what other choice is there? i mean really, these are all parts of life.

so, when you see others commenting, perhaps remove your shoes and step into theirs. we all have different defense mechanisms, and we all come from a different perspective. this is not asking someone to have a thick skin, but to instead try to understand that maybe they come from a different place.

on the other hand,the person commenting can also stop and think that maybe their words might affect someone, so there is some responsibility there too, of course. compassion is everything.

but if you see something that strikes a chord in you, try a little harder to figure out that maybe it's not meant to be personal to YOU. in fact, it'd be a pretty safe bet to assume it's not about YOU at all.

I think your side should lay off too. There is definately humanity there, and humor, and intelligence. Also, one sharp, wicked, ego slicing tongue. If you look at what he mostly pricks though it is peoples ego and vanity.

I know it can sting to have your ego hurt, especailly if your new or insecure. I hate to see it when it happens. It is certainly not my way, but I think people have lost perspective. I hate the war zone.

Goes back to eating cake.