just ignore and let this one die

Yeah. *nods sadly*

When my Dad died (suddenly and unexpectedly), my Mom was very matter-of-fact. Indeed, her largest voiced concern was in the vein of housekeeping - it was for some reason very important that my brother go through Dad's clothing immediately and take what he wanted out of the house. As if Vikings were arriving to pillage Dad's closet the next day.

Denial is a weird weird thing.

Grief came later.
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This is going to sound cold, but there is this thing that it somehow matters if you know a loved one has passed away immediately. A couple of times I have been in that situation where I have been out of contact, and when learning the news a few hours later, accompanied by the hand wringing from the person delivering it, have always asked, gently "Does my knowing it then or now make any difference? They are just as dead."

Over time, I've really changed the way I think about how we treat death. In so many ways we respond so selfishly, as if we have to make a public grief show in order to validate our feelings for the person. And don't get me started on the Business of Death.

LOL

I keep those changed on a regular basis, just like mom taught me.
Just in case I get in an accident, ya know.

Another lost sister? Amara, can you help me out on this?


Wait, but I was going to ask Rio if she wanted to............EWWWWWWWW!

Now you know how I felt when I put two and two together and realized that Mistress called a certain other person sis, and that person called me sis.

Yep. Obama's a guy.

Sarkozy is..well...Sarkozy. *chuckles*

Well, I've since solved that issue for you. Or perhaps I've made it worse?

Well, she still calls me sis. I do not recall if I've heard Mistress mention her as sis since the change in circumstances, but I think I have.

I'm back to that other day when I was mentioning in group chat about James Earl Jones, Mr. T. and a third fella who I can't recall now. I believe they were elephants crawling on the ceiling, with . . . oh, the other fella was Sean Connery . . the elephants were crawlling across the ceiling and Mr. T. kept saying that he pitied the fool who didn't blow into his trunk, with Sean noting that Mr. T. is supposed to use the trunk to trumpet, to blow out of, not have someone blow into; and Jones kept saying "Lexxi I'm your fater . . Lexxi . . . father . . "

It is only related in the "here's my brother Darryl, and my sister Sally, who are also my step father and my mother, and I think the squirrel there is my brother also, but I've become confused on our family relations" way.

today's mission - spank that luscious ass.

Am I the only one who noticed that these posts followed each other?

Oh, I thought Eli posted that picture in response to that other post.

Am I the only one who noticed that these posts followed each other?

I think mine's better , actually.

Just do what you did, comfort your mother and let her comfort you. No matter what your mom said, it's quite possible that the call came out of her own upset, rather than her feeling that YOU had to know immediately.

Death happens every day, but some lucky people go for years and years without having a death in the family, and it hits such folks particularly hard. I've come to expect a little extreme behavior from both friends and family at such times.
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One thing you could do at 4 AM 100 miles away is be there on the other end of the line for your mom, who (I presume) had just lost her sister. Like I said to Brenda, the desire for immediate notification can be as much about the notifier as it is about the notified. Sometimes the shock of losing someone is great and you just want to reach out and hear a comforting voice. Even if the caller can't put that feeling into words, it may be an important underlying part of the need to reach someone right away.

I'm sorry that you had your sleep disturbed for news you feel you could have waited a few hours for, but please consider the possibility that it wasn't just about notifying you.

Obviously I know nothing about your mother, her relationship with your aunt, or the specifics of this situation, so it's entirely possible that none of the above applies. But still, I guess I'm just a little shocked to see comments like this, that don't seem to show much compassion for what the people doing the calling may be feeling at the time. I know that both of you, Brenda and Rioko, are nicer than these comments sound. I really hope I would never begrudge a 4 AM phone call from someone who had just lost a family member, even if the person who died wasn't someone I knew at all.

Good Morning Thread Peeps - super party last night- lots of chair dancing for - Thanks to Gabrielle fro supplying the lovely venue - I was glad to see from the great pix Lil took - tha tmost of us chose a dark style to attnd in
Thanks to Big Dog who provided some awesome tunes and who eve knew to get him- he soo rocked.

And thanks to Lil for being rezzed

Yeah, but how do you define *regular basis*?

It is only related in the "here's my brother Darryl, and my sister Sally, who are also my step father and my mother, and I think the squirrel there is my brother also, but I've become confused on our family relations" way.