keeping it in SL....

You need to try my anims, Brenda!

OK, just kidding: the chat matters more, for most of us. I'd far rather cyber in IM with someone I can't see than pixel bump some unresponsive bot. The poses set the stage; the chat is the play.

Top 10 earworms, from a study of 599 students:

1. Other. Everyone has his or her own worst earworm.
2. Chili's "Baby Back Ribs" jingle.
3. "Who Let the Dogs Out"
4. "We Will Rock You"
5. Kit-Kat candy-bar jingle ("Gimme a Break ..."
6. "Mission Impossible" theme
7. "YMCA"
8. "Whoomp, There It Is"
9. "The Lion Sleeps Tonight"
10. "It's a Small World After All"

I wish I had a nickel ...

well if folks are gonna chat and laugh (and I am not talking sexual intimacy) then why even have the avatars on the poseballs for sex?

never heard them called earworms LOL

and gee thanks, now more song stuck and competing in there GRRR

Why have an avatar on ANY poseball? it's just something to do for fun.

and for some of us, we would rather not cyber at all hehe

It is a big SL world and an even bigger RL world, and in both worlds are a lot of very different people

suffice to say, what works for one, won't for another.

(if anything, this thread has shown us that)

Ooooh. That would send red flags up for me too. And then after the 'breakup' a week later, they are saying it to somebody else after another couple days passes. Scary. Then the first one is left wondering 'wtf'? I know I'm too emotional to put myself through that. Sigh. If they told me they 'loved' me, then how's it possible to now be 'in love' with the new one just a couple days later? I better stay away from 'happy coupledom' in SL.

actually I agree heh

for the most part I stand all the time, except when needing to adjust something then I use the posing stand.

even when I had my house rezzed and with furniture, I never sat on the furniture, I would either be pacing, or just standing around.

sometimes I will sit on a wall, usually when invited to join those sitting there already (but that doesn't happen often)

maybe I have gone a bit sour on SL

used to be a time I would relax on furniture that had nice relaxing poses, while chatting to someone, or join hubby on a cuddle pose ball. (that was the furthest we ever took it, cuddles)

*shrug*

Yes. That is the idea. None of the opinions on this are any more right, or wrong than the other, as is the case with most of SL, I think. There is no one way, or single reason for being here, or doing anything. We seem to have trouble getting over that in a lot of ways.

11. An earworm combining all of the above.

I noticed that too, some folks tend to think their way is the only way, or the right way.

I tell folks about the way I do things, so they get options, they get information, and maybe even ideas as to how they want to live their SL.
I am not trying to say that my way is the only way, or the right way, just that it is one way of doing it, or one reason for being here.

Could be, because I didn't feel a thing.

I agree with this. If you are keeping strictly SL,and there is nothing wrong with that, that is my preference, it can be called friendship plus or something like that, whatever. Even if a partnering is involved,if it is "Love" it's going to have to bust out of SL sooner or later, and I know some will take issue, it has to culminate in a face to face meeting to be a true Love, in the romantic sense. At least for me.

I agree: the only "wrong" posts here are the ones that denigrate someone else's opinions.

Yes, for you. Don't assume this applies to others, and don't tell us what to call it.

Sometimes it is how it is expressed. Not you per se, but you hear too much,"I have no problem with XXX although I would never do it myself" or "I just don't get people who XYZ in SL" and such. It comes of as judgemental and condescending and it makes people defensive. We *inclusive* all do it here in the forums, offering opinions where none was asked, it is happening again in the Typing Anim thread. The OP asked how to turn it off, not what were our opinions on the social ramifications of using it....

Exactly

yes I am guilty of that, I do not think of my comments as being condescending and I do apologize if they have been

I am not sure how else to word it so I give my views without coming across that way.

as for the typing anim thread, yeah I noticed that too hehe

sometimes folks over answer things, and I am definitely guilty of that

I don't think brenda was telling folks what to call it, my take was she was saying how it is for her. nothing more

besides, people can tell me how I should feel, what I should call things, even tell me what I should or should not do... doesn't mean I will listen or comply

There are probably some in my inventory. I have a buttload.......

I am leader of the interwebz.You will obey and conform to all my ideas!


/me cracks whip



Sorry,playing WOW too much this week...


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What kind of anims do you make Lear?

What a wonderful thread. It has taken me more than a few hours to get through everyone's posts.

I am about three months old when it comes to Second Life. However I am more than ten years old when it comes to role playing. I can tell you the difference from pretending to be a character and putting yourself into playing a character.

1.) When you are specifically looking to be creative and just role play a character. Then you have already decided to distant yourself from what you are writing. The same applies to actors/actress. Yes, sometimes when real life movies are in production those two actors can fall for one another. We have all seen it happen.

2.) When you put part of you, your personality, your values and morales into who you play. Then you have already taken a small step in the direction of it becoming personal. Why? Simply because its a part of who you are in reality.

I have been able to do both. Seeing how I am not a long term player as of yet, I'll openly admit that when I came to Second Life I had no intention of ever coming here to look for someone to love. My sole interest in coming to this game was to enjoy music. A offer was made to me to be a DJ for a radio station. Unbeknown to me at that time would I find the love of my life.

No, it didn't happen quickly just over a period of time. We were friends first and he was even engaged to marry someone else in the game. It was the way we were able to joke, flirt and just have a good time together that pulled us closer.

The thing is, he and I never really role played. So if you keep it strictly role play based, then yes, I can see how some - even many are able to detach themselves from getting emotionally involved.

Only you as a person can decide if your going to take what you read personally or not. If just here for a story, then it is best for you or the other party to set the boundary up quickly so no one gets hurt. If there is outside interest then it needs to be done on both parts to once again make sure no one gets hurt.

Is it possible to keep what you see and feeling from hurting? Honestly, if you look deep down inside I don't think so. Even as a writer as I love to be, I at times would feel my own character's heartache, loss, joys and happiness. Not so much to do with me but "I" am the person behind said character. How can you not feel what your typing in a storyline?

Someone brought up a writer writing a novel. Yes, there you can detach yourself. But this is two people coming together to tell a single story. Thus it pretty much negates a single person writing a book to tell a story. And if you throw in friends, family and kids into the mix of it. Well there you have a group of people with real feelings to also consider.

This is such a huge topic and there will never be any right or wrong answers. What it boils down to.... Is what are you willing to put in and receive back? As the saying goes.. " You get what you pay for. " Same applies here. You get what you play.

Want to get personal and take it out of Second Life. Then by all means, do it. So many people get together by way of the internet. You have a million and one dating websites you can go to. Here at Second Life, you are given a chance to create a life with someone.. and if that life works for you and you both are available then by all means. What would it hurt to meet in reality and see where it goes?

Going for the whole story-telling / role play aspect of Second Life. Then I think you should make it clearly noted in your profile what you are looking for in Second Life. That way you are being considerate to others before that road is even traveled down.

Personally speaking, like I said before I never came here with the intention of finding love but just fun. Love found me when I wasn't looking. And I can't be more thankful for those who have supported him and I both through some difficult times. Even in a game as Second Life is.... it at times can be very surreal and perhaps that is what scares people the most.

Spike said it best. Find your reasons for coming to Second Life and then go from there.

I thought they fixed that bug.

Yeah but before they fixed it, it happened so often there's probably tons of stuff still up there that we'll never find......