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Why do men pay for sl sex when there're so many orgy rooms?

Rebecca Proudhon
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03-10-2008 10:31
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03-10-2008 10:32
From: Caledric Axon
For the short time I worked in the industry I never used one poseball. I took the girl in a completely dark room and told her to set it to midnight and focus on the chat.

I did the same thing. Completely dark room. Set to midnight. Set text to black. Set text window to black. Focus on the black . . feel the black covering you, caressing you, filling you.
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03-10-2008 10:34
From: Soji Slade
I did the same thing. Completely dark room. Set to midnight. Set text to black. Set text window to black. Focus on the black . . feel the black covering you, caressing you, filling you.


LMAO
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Victorria Paine
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03-10-2008 10:58
From: Connor Jun


Most women frown on men entering into relationships for purely sexual reasons. Yet, they don't want you lying to them in order to have sex with them either. And then these same women are often the ones who are opposed to the idea of prostitution and even pornography. It is all a bundle of contradictions.


Hmmm.

I'm not quite sure I see these as being contradictory. In other words, it may be that some women do frown on relationships that are purely sexual, while at the same time not wanting someone to lie to them to get them in bed -- that isn't contradictory, really. It's also not contradictory for women who may have that kind of view about relationships generally to take a dim view of prostitution and/or porn -- in other words that seems consistent, to me, for someone who doesn't like sex outside the context of an emotionally intimate relationship. So I guess I would say that women who held all of those views would not be acting contradictory, but would be acting more or less consistently.

I will say, though, that I'm not sure that all that many women in SL hold these views.
Cleowolf Merryman
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03-10-2008 11:10
I can’t speak for any one else. I’m relatively new to SL and was curious to what sex in SL is like. So far I’ve been propositioned once by a friend at least I think I was and don’t want to jerk any one around by using them as a test subject. So I tried a hoe in SL. Needless to say I found the whole thing ridicules and uncontrollably laughed my way through the experience. Thank god for non-voice chat or the other person would have heard me laughing and become embarrassed. She seemed to take it far more seriously then I do. In RL I am not that good looking, I’m a little chubby as I am built like the farther on American chopper. I dead lift 450lb’s and bench 305lb consistently. I’m not that charismatic but I am not shy. It is fairly easy to meet people just walk up to them and say “hello”. There are women every where i go not just clubs. All you have to do is be friendly. Considering that it is not that difficult (not easy but also not difficult) to get laid in RL I just don’t understand the reason to do it here. Maybe because I’m a man I compartmentalize things but sex is a physical thing and emotional connection is a friendship thing. Will I have sex in SL again probably not.

On a side note most men I know that go to prostitutes in RL do it because financially the price is around the same as a date but involves less head games. You don’t have to listen to or pretend to care about things that you find unimportant. most men i know including my self don't want to deal with a woman who acts like "keeping up with the Kardashians" any longer then necessary.
Rebecca Proudhon
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03-10-2008 11:49
Curious:


Report: N.Y. governor to discuss links to prostitution ring


New York Gov. Elliot Spitzer is set to make an announcement at 2:15 p.m. ET about his ties to a prostitution ring......................

The news just said that in NYC they interrupted even the soap operas to braodcast this story.
Oryx Tempel
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03-10-2008 11:55
From: Nika Talaj
Skye Paris is a crook. Probably she's related to Hitler.

*gets popcorn*
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/me whips off her pants and waves them in salute
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Connor Jun
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03-10-2008 11:56
From: Victorria Paine
Hmmm.

I'm not quite sure I see these as being contradictory. In other words, it may be that some women do frown on relationships that are purely sexual, while at the same time not wanting someone to lie to them to get them in bed -- that isn't contradictory, really. It's also not contradictory for women who may have that kind of view about relationships generally to take a dim view of prostitution and/or porn -- in other words that seems consistent, to me, for someone who doesn't like sex outside the context of an emotionally intimate relationship. So I guess I would say that women who held all of those views would not be acting contradictory, but would be acting more or less consistently.

I will say, though, that I'm not sure that all that many women in SL hold these views.


It isn't contradictory within the bounds of an emotionally intimate relationship. It is contradictory for Men who aren't in an emotionally intimate relationship.
Colette Meiji
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03-10-2008 12:18
From: Phil Deakins
(except Colette, who takes pleasure in being nasty).


Not in the way you mean, I don't .

I am hurted you would say such disparaging things about me, your #1 fan.
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03-10-2008 12:21
Ok, since the holy water and crosses didn't work,
Or beating it to death...
I guess I have n choice...
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/me whips off her pants and waves them in salute

I would, but I'm not wearing any...

Ok, now everyone has been scared off, can we please, PLEASE, let this bloody thing die?! Its ridiculous! Everything has been said a hundred times already, and even godwinning didn't work...

/me stands at the entrance to the thread with all the weaponry she can get her hands on...
Don't even think about it!
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Czari Zenovka
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03-10-2008 12:33
From: Cherry Czervik
WOW that is cynical. I'm glad I've always been so flipping picky. I've never wanted money spent on me, I've never expected anything. I still don't, I'm glad to have my "time" returned to me in terms of affection.


QFT!
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Victorria Paine
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03-10-2008 12:53
From: Connor Jun
It isn't contradictory within the bounds of an emotionally intimate relationship. It is contradictory for Men who aren't in an emotionally intimate relationship.


Why? Is it contradictory for a woman who doesn't want a sex-only relationship to not want to be lied about regarding a man's intentions and/or to lack respect for his recourse to prostitutes and/or porn? I mean I'm not saying she's right, but she's being consistent, whether you are interested in emotional intimacy or not.

As always, it's best to find people on the same page.
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03-10-2008 13:04
/me lifts the revolver, puts bullets in the chamber and closes it and holds it aginst her temple.
/me pauses
/me squeezes the trigger....and the world goes black....
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03-10-2008 13:05
From: Claire Silverspar
/me lifts the revolver, puts bullets in the chamber and closes it and holds it aginst her temple.
/me pauses
/me squeezes the trigger....and the world goes black....


Look at what you did, Phil!

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Allegria Kanto
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03-10-2008 13:16
From: JamesMichael Morane
Well thank you for the forgiveness and your understanding. I never meant to say that all women were shallow. I know men can be shallow too. I also appreciate that you do have a depth of personality and are willing to get to know a man that isn't brad pitt. Part of the reason I'd said what I'd said is because when I go out with my friends to a club or something, and we meet girls - the girls usually don't give one of my buddys the time of day because he isn't very attractive. I've never once seen them react to him favorably and never ever seen an attractive woman talk to him first. He has a great personality, but they don't give him much air time. And, yes, those girls are pro'lly shallow. So I still think that some good looking women go for face first and then dig into the inner soul. What's the kicker is that guy isn't shallow, nor am I, but the other two guys are very shallow - and they get along with these women really well. I've also seen this happen when it's just that guy and myself......I always get talked to more while he nurses his drink. It's sad, but true. I think you non-shallow, good looking type women ought to start a club or something so us guys can find you. =p Sorry for the long post.

Geez.....forgot to tie the post up - the whole point is - I think those types of girls carry that mentality into SL and thus end up looking for teh hawt first.....without giving the poor dude in his noob clothes a shot.

kthanksi'llshutupnow


Sorry if this reply has already been covered, but I'm back to work today so just catching up on the forums. :p

I wonder what your friend has in his profile. I always read profiles, and I often talk to newbies (hell, I am one, altho not really cause I'm an alt) and less attractive men. I'm usually attracted to a profile. Another point, are you chatting or saying hi to women? If someone asks me to dance, I never say no unless i have a prior committment. I might leave you on the dance floor if you are a boor, but I start out with the premise that everyone is nice and interesting. I have to say though, I like to be asked. I don't want to have to be doing all the asking.

OOhhh, so sorry to have jumped in this thread.. I thught all the nastiness died down before the weekend. Silly me!

/me calls paramedics and runs to start CPR on Claire.
Connor Jun
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03-10-2008 13:37
From: Victorria Paine
Why? Is it contradictory for a woman who doesn't want a sex-only relationship to not want to be lied about regarding a man's intentions and/or to lack respect for his recourse to prostitutes and/or porn? I mean I'm not saying she's right, but she's being consistent, whether you are interested in emotional intimacy or not.

As always, it's best to find people on the same page.



There will always be men who just want sex. If the women who decide all sex should only be inside a relationship had their way, the only source for sex will be women who want relationships. Thus leaving the men to either change or lie to get sex. Not all the men will elect to change. Thus the pattern established is contradictory.

I was discussing men who pay for sex. Not men who are looking for relationships. Men who want relationships is a different subject. Men who pay for sex outside of their relationship is also a different subject.
Cleowolf Merryman
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03-10-2008 14:08
From: Victorria Paine
Why? Is it contradictory for a woman who doesn't want a sex-only relationship to not want to be lied about regarding a man's intentions and/or to lack respect for his recourse to prostitutes and/or porn? I mean I'm not saying she's right, but she's being consistent, whether you are interested in emotional intimacy or not.

As always, it's best to find people on the same page.


because almost every woman i have meet claims to want a nice guy then looks down their nose at nice guys and reacts positively to bad boys. for instance i am uncomfortable treating people like dirt but can play the game short term. as soon as the woman figures this out we end up breaking up. by that time we have already had sex. it used to trouble me but now i no longer consider it a big deal. the funny thing is the more frequently i play the treat women like dirt game the longer i can keep up the front and easier it becomes. i figure eventual i'll be what i pretend to be.

the paradox that most heterosexual men face is we get our emotional needs met through male friends (i.e men i made friends with when i was in the army) and our sexual needs met through women. one of my ex-girl friends was amazingly jealous of an army friend who i have been friends with since the first desert storm war. he lost his arm saving my life, and has always been there for me when i need help as i am with him. one day after she throw a jealous fit i asked her if she would sacrifice her arm to save my life. guess who got kicked to the curb?

i'm willing to bet that a lot of men have decided that getting our emotional needs meet through women is more trouble then it is worth.

that why men use the the saying "bro's before hoe's". read Shakespeare's HENRY V to get a good understanding of men.

" We few, we happy few, we band of brothers;
For he to-day that sheds his blood with me
Shall be my brother; be he ne'er so vile,
This day shall gentle his condition; "
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03-10-2008 14:16
Sheesh
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03-10-2008 14:22
Good Gads!

Most of us - man or woman - aren't perfect. Yes, I said most! Not many - most.

If you are a man who feels they've been treated unfairly when it comes to past relationships, you are not alone.

If you are a woman who feels they've been treated unfairly when it comes to past relationships, you are not alone.

We usually attract what we put out.

Crap happens.

Crappy people exist - no gender is above the other.

Instead of wondering so much about what the other gender is 'doing' or how they're 'acting' toward you (which you have no control over anyway), try analyzing what it is exactly that YOU are doing to attract these asshats!

Work on yourself and what you are willing to accept in others.
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Derbor Torok
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03-10-2008 14:26
From: Cherry Czervik
Sheesh


QTF :)

Shakespeare quotes in an orgy thread... now this thread has hit bottom.

If I relied on my male friends to meet my emotional needs I would be in deep trouble. They don't even want to hold hands.. :D

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03-10-2008 14:33
From: Derbor Torok
QTF :)

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Quick tiny flies?
Quirky toe fungus?
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Congratulations and shame on you! You are a bit of a slut.
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03-10-2008 14:34
From: Isabeau Imako
Most of us - man or woman - aren't perfect. Yes, I said most! Not many - most. QUOTE]

So.........some, not many but some are perfect? I didn't think you knew me that well..... :D
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Czari Zenovka
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03-10-2008 14:39
From: Isabeau Imako
Good Gads!

Most of us - man or woman - aren't perfect. Yes, I said most! Not many - most.

If you are a man who feels they've been treated unfairly when it comes to past relationships, you are not alone.

If you are a woman who feels they've been treated unfairly when it comes to past relationships, you are not alone.

We usually attract what we put out.

Crap happens.

Crappy people exist - no gender is above the other.

Instead of wondering so much about what the other gender is 'doing' or how they're 'acting' toward you (which you have no control over anyway), try analyzing what it is exactly that YOU are doing to attract these asshats!

Work on yourself and what you are willing to accept in others.


IMO, this is the wisest post in this entire thread!!!
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Isabeau Imako
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03-10-2008 14:41
From: Stormy Dyrssen
From: Isabeau Imako
Most of us - man or woman - aren't perfect. Yes, I said most! Not many - most. QUOTE]

So.........some, not many but some are perfect? I didn't think you knew me that well..... :D



Yes, unfortunately for the rest of us, some are perfect. :D

I believe Trout mentioned at one point, something about hitting these people with crowbars until they reached the same level of unperfectness as the rest of us. Haven't tried that yet.
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03-10-2008 14:42
From: Ann Launay
Quixotic tunnel ferrets?
Quick tiny flies?
Quirky toe fungus?


/me laughs.. now Ann is picking one a poor sleep deprived, finger impaired, forum denizen?

waggles finger.. bad kitty! :)

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