Is there something wrong with me?

Not *every* man in sl is taken in rl. Just most of the ones cruising the sl dance places. Most rl single men are cruising dance places and bars in rl.

Pep (And remember, *most* men don't like dancing, so why do you think they are there?)

Umm as guy I have to say long legs can be extremely attractive but only if they are well toned not matchsticks, clicking boots could get annoying after a bit but yeah they are sexy, I could hear a woman in the next isle with a set of clacking heels at the supermarket and had to go to the cereal isle to check her out, and found the most beautiful legs in a set of calf boots. leading to a short skirt and a fantastic looking woman in one of those cling tight 80's bodysuits with a boyfriend shopping :/
Contrary to popular belief many men aren't attracted to florals as much as leather and motor racing badges
As a single guy it's damn hard to find non-floral curtains and bedcovers, I don't live with mother, so it's my business who I bring home

easier to hide a vertual world then going with some one else in rl from the wife

and nope on the question

The one's living in their Mother's basements aren't.

but then again, when being signle, why rent/buy an house when your only there for 3-4 hours a day and sleep while being single, extra cash in the wallet

On a more serious not Yummy, you might need to make a more dedicated effort to meet a man.

They aren't just going to come looking for you - especially if they don't know you are available.

Another thing with SL is people tend to assume long time SL'rs are less approachable.

Ever notice how many online relationships Noobs go through? Its not all because they are just not adjusted to SL.

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And Like Pep says .. the ones who are confident and single IRL are going to be looking IRL ..

So you might be need to make the first, second, and a few other moves.

Maybe try making more friends first? I have a number of female friends in-world and they LOVE to introduce their single friends. One of my good friends introduced me to the club owner where she worked and that was my stepping stone to start flirting. Not that I need a stepping stone for that, but it immediately gave us some common ground.

Anyway, from personal experience in the past, I have been approached initially by woman in a club, but then again, I'm a sexy beast so... I really don't see a problem with a woman approaching a guy. Sometimes I would approach a woman first, but if I didn't it's usually because I'm not interested in anyone there atm or I'm having fun simple hanging otu with friends.

Uh, guys are extremely visual too. At least I am. If your AV is flashy and sexy and being actively social in chat then you are bound to have a guy pester you.

Hang on!

I'll have you know that my mother lives in *my* basement.

/me stands up and applauds

The typical, what was it called in another thread, "Hooker Chic." I am so glad to see another woman who gets the impression of "bimbo" when I see someone like that.

IM me any time

If I'd seen you ingame, I'd have chatted with you for sure. Sexy av, funny name, intelligent, what's not to love?

Maybe you're just so sexy men are intimidated. I never let that stop me in SL. (In RL, I'm unavailable so it's not an issue.)

I find all sorts of things attractive.

Bimbos can be fun. I like intelligence, but frankly, a good attitude matters more.

Sluts can be fun -- but if that's all they're about, it gets old pretty quickly.

Sophisticated elegance, yumm. Natural grace, ooooh. Girl-next-door charm, count me in.

Not classically beautiful but with that something-special difference? Love it.

Full-regalia ball-gown at formal dance club, looking like they're looking for that one special person who can be their everything? ahh, I tend to shy away, but can admire from a distance when done well. Color me fickle if you want, but if you ask the women I know, I bet they'll tell you otherwise. I'm just not looking to be anyone's everything!

Those who bear it, flaunt it? I look, I enjoy. My genes, hormones, whatever .. can't help it. If they're fun to talk to, it doesn't stop at looking.

Those who wear something more teasing than flaunting? Much more intriguing. Need I say more?

Bling? Not so much. Usually best when subtle. However, there are times when it's simply demanded. Hopefully not often.

Breasts? Most SL women set them too big. I suspect in many cases it's overcompensation (um ... probably like men's attachments ...) Again though, it depends on the whole look. But ladies, please remember that many of us *love* small breasted women! In any case, quality counts more than quality. It's what you does with it, not how much you gots!

About my date's body being exposed -- no problem. Depends. Wouldn't want to be with a hooker in a jazz club, or with a hoop dress at the beach. Just hanging at a typical club? Well, dress code is generally pretty open, I like the scenery, and it's just fine if my date is adding to it.

I confess I particularly enjoy the nipples peeking out look (in a suitable place). I blame it on my hormones.

That answer your question? JMHO, of course.

It's the smell of catnip.

"Is there something wrong with me?"







Gotta' tell you, you have cojones for coming here with your opening thread. But at the same time you're making yourself sound terribly desperate for a man.

Can't be that bad..or can it?

Ricardo, do you *ever* have anything nice to say, or positive to contribute?

That's a given right there.

But you forgot to add, and no butt, no thighs and no hips. None, nada, zip, zilch. Unless you travel to the outer regions.

Hmm...let's see...nope!

But seriously, what did I say that isn't true?

Oh, you think I should get in line and follow the lead to what most are saying?

Not at all. But why enter the thread at all, other than to hear yourself talk, or to be insulting to the OP?

Couldn't have just stayed out of it, thinking "nothing good to say, probably shouldn't say anything at all"?

I always just dance with the voices in my head...

well, sometimes I borrow the voices in Immy's head when I want extra company on the dance floor.

But I have noticed that over all, there tends to be two types of males in SL. The sort of shy, respectful type - they always seem to already be taken. And then there is the rude testosterone filled - and they always seem to appear in places where I'm not allowed to shoot them.

I'm going to agree with Annabelle on this one. I find the grass is greener on this side of the fence.

First off, I wasn't trying to be insulting. Trust me, had I wanted to be insulting there would of been a lot of material to work with.

I merely said, her statement makes her sound desperate for a man. Now, you can deny it all you want but you don't think for one second it doesn't? C'mon, now.

Had it been someone else, someone not of your little group, someone most of you don't kiss up to, most of you would of been all over her and you know it. It happens all the time but then that's not insulting, right?


I don't insult, there's no reason to. But I don't sugarcoat either. It is what it is.

I feel more alone and overwhelmed in crowd personally.
You know what turns me on more then any animation or pose ball and I have intense amount
of pleasure with?
When I find right person we can just create things together, bounce ideas. designs and techniques...
sometimes it is intensely funny, even if we are just discussing personally dramas and can find
humor and art in this.
It is even more exciting when we can merge our ideas and imagination together to do something
very interesting, and produce something very beautiful...this is type of "child" I like producing
with special friends.
It is whole lot more exciting then humiliating a sub, serving some master or any cyber sex personally.
I find this whole lot more exciting then any laggy club.
Music is great and all but its so better if you can truly connect, merge interest, imagination intellectually and creatively.
Sometimes it can be very, very sexy too.
I can be naughty too but hard part is finding right friends to do this with.
I don't care what the gender of the person is personally. I have my preference but we can be truly anything we want here so I just need to find willing partner who doesn't mind being creative and doesn't have attachment to one specific gender.
I can be respectful, shy but I can also be respectful naughty sleazy horn dog too with proper encouragement but I figure most people wouldn't be interested in me for numerous reasons.
One most people are pretty shallow and another is lot of people are pretty judgmental and uptight about everything.
I don't have college degree, I am not making six figures, I am ill, I am not overly confident or even mildly confident 100 percent of the time, I am not dominate or aggressive, I can't care and provide for others financially, I am guy but there is more to me then society traditional stereotypes that
most will never get and could accept because they get caught up what society says is male so my choices of partners are pretty close to nil.

Wow...I'm in a group?? Wonder when that happened!

This here and 3Ring's comment here



plus being naturally shy, introverted, tends to cut down on the number of times that I ask people to dance.

I do not and have not grief'd, baring accidental teleports into people's homes when teleporting around second life, nor have I ever asked for sex. Also, as noted, tend to be shy about asking people to dance.

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I just noticed the part where 3Ring noted "where i don't know anyone." I did not notice that at first and I thought it was a overall assumption that all men that ask to dance are expected to make a pass.

I should have just quoted this message and said "agree."

/me seconds Lears post.
Yes we are simple, attracted to bright shiney sexy things or elegance and beauty that give us simple signals, "yes I,m interested" or "no, I'm not" or "maybe", but then many of us do need more to keep us interested especially if we are the intellectual non-football type.