Im not a very GOOD dancer in rl..but it is a lot of fun in SL..i mean, you can't go wrong!
So true. The few times I've danced, it was either a 'goofy' dance or a 'normal' one.
In RL, I have the moves of a brontosaurus in a china shop
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Tod69 Talamasca
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09-24-2008 20:14
So true. The few times I've danced, it was either a 'goofy' dance or a 'normal' one. In RL, I have the moves of a brontosaurus in a china shop _____________________
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Nika Talaj
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09-24-2008 20:19
hahah great idea..im actually building a club right now, just to hang out in..maybe I should do that..lol..Social or ANTI social club?> I kid, but seriously, my most social time in SL was before I got land. I talked to everybody, hung out at lucky chairs and made friends, went exploring and made friends ... I think it's really just a matter of making yourself approachable. Have a non-threatening profile, put a pleasant expression on your AV's face, and just hang out in places that interest you, talking to people. You'll be dancing in no time. p.s. It's clearly not a matter of AV looks, Nika has fun with clothes but is definitely not a looker, and always could go dancing. It was actually a relief to begin life again as an alt who doesn't mingle much. . |
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Yummy Freelunch
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09-24-2008 20:24
Yummy you're smart, you're obviously talented and your post have always been interesting, never seen a post that is too emotional or depressing here from you. Trust me you're not missing out much, if they are anything like the the gay guys that I have encounter here are extremely boring and uninteresting even if they do make it on pose ball. I can say most of women I have encountered even one I spent 10k on was quite shallow and uninteresting too. But perhaps its because I am very much a introvert too but on the severely depressed side, and I think very deeply about things, tend to have certain first life things that carry over here that prevent me from finding interesting and stimulating exchanges with most of people I encounter. I don't find clubs that stimulating, and socializing is usually all around "Wootz" or discussions for tend to be focused on shopping or other things I just don't find that interesting and nothing too deeper. D&S and free sex or sex oriented crowd I find pretty boring with few interesting qualities that come across when we discuss things, nor can I really relate to them, or vice versa. Most of my close friends are females too here, I have very few male buddies I spend time with. Sometimes I think I get stuck in certain train of thought that guards me from really letting others in and I just don't get the romantic syrupy pose ball crud it just seems too fake to me. Guys seem to tend to want it casual and fun, and if they are intellectual and creative are very self absorbed in their own creative projects and business ventures and just don't have time for much else. FD, everything you described about yourself IS an introvert! We do tend to think too much about things, mostly daydreams, like to be alone, dont like a lot of drama or loud noises and yes..people always think we're very shy, but it's just how "we" are. Sometimes it can lead to depression, but usually your body will tell you what it needs. Usually just a walk in the sunshine. Theres nothing wrong with being an introvert, its not a personality flaw, its just our personality, period. We only make up about 10% of the population. I do agree with you, there is alot of stupidity out there in SL and RL, when it comes to the dating scene, but surely there are others like us! Not all of us are party pigs, yano  _____________________
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Alicia Sautereau
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09-24-2008 20:25
hahah great idea..im actually building a club right now, just to hang out in..maybe I should do that..lol..Social or ANTI social club?> with the thread name in mind that perhaps something is wrong with us (as in lack of social life ), the anti-social would do as a name if it wasn`t for the fact most of the really anti social people would find it just the right target for them (re-edit) would give something to do if they would show up (we need an evil grin smiley) |
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Alicia Sautereau
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09-24-2008 20:27
Yummy you're smart, you're obviously talented and your post have always been interesting, never seen a post that is too emotional or depressing here from you. Trust me you're not missing out much, if they are anything like the the gay guys that I have encounter here are extremely boring and uninteresting even if they do make it on pose ball. I can say most of women I have encountered even one I spent 10k on was quite shallow and uninteresting too. But perhaps its because I am very much a introvert too but on the severely depressed side, and I think very deeply about things, tend to have certain first life things that carry over here that prevent me from finding interesting and stimulating exchanges with most of people I encounter. I don't find clubs that stimulating, and socializing is usually all around "Wootz" or discussions for tend to be focused on shopping or other things I just don't find that interesting and nothing too deeper. D&S and free sex or sex oriented crowd I find pretty boring with few interesting qualities that come across when we discuss things, nor can I really relate to them, or vice versa. Most of my close friends are females too here, I have very few male buddies I spend time with. Sometimes I think I get stuck in certain train of thought that guards me from really letting others in and I just don't get the romantic syrupy pose ball crud it just seems too fake to me. Guys seem to tend to want it casual and fun, and if they are intellectual and creative are very self absorbed in their own creative projects and business ventures and just don't have time for much else. damnit, my head hurts as that nail comes close  |
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Yummy Freelunch
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09-24-2008 20:27
yes.you have a point..but do you know how much FUN it is to grief a griefer!!!!
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Alicia Sautereau
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09-24-2008 20:28
yes.you have a point..but do you know how much FUN it is to grief a griefer!!!! YES!!!! i take every oppertunity i get, specially if they come to my place ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ |
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Brann Georgia
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09-24-2008 20:37
The OP's is an interesting question but I wonder if some of the guys are just plain frightened.
 Experimentally, I looked around a popular clothing store and this is what I saw: Human gazelles, 80% legs and another 6 inch heel added on. Clothes that pretty much leave nothing to the imagination and simply scream "wanna get laid, dammit". Hair that explodes in all directions and, along with unnerving amounts attachments, give every appearance that the lady is off to the nearest powwow. Of course, then there is the bling and the clackety heels. I know I can't speak for the guys but, in their place, I'd not want to be seen on a dance floor with that. At worst, I'd suspect a good number of these to be either utter bimbos or cross dressers. So then had a look at the profiles. Groups chock full o' BDSM, lesbian, sexclub, escort groups. Surely something you'd want to bring home to mother's. I may well get shot for this, but do guys really find this sort of thing attractive? I'm sure they all appreciate sexy clothes, but would they want most of their date's body exposed to everyone's view when out in public? I'd like to see more of the guys' idea of what "beauty" in SL means to them. Do the outfits bespeak personality? (Assuming here, of course, that dancing generally leads to conversation) Hold the flames: I'm talking about my observations on the grid in general, not about those who've posted here specifically since, of course, I have no idea how most of you dress inworld. B. _____________________
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Alicia Sautereau
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09-24-2008 20:58
The OP's is an interesting question but I wonder if some of the guys are just plain frightened. Experimentally, I looked around a popular clothing store and this is what I saw: Human gazelles, 80% legs and another 6 inch heel added on. Clothes that pretty much leave nothing to the imagination and simply scream "wanna get laid, dammit". Hair that explodes in all directions and, along with unnerving amounts attachments, give every appearance that the lady is off to the nearest powwow. Of course, then there is the bling and the clackety heels. I know I can't speak for the guys but, in their place, I'd not want to be seen on a dance floor with that. At worst, I'd suspect a good number of these to be either utter bimbos or cross dressers. So then had a look at the profiles. Groups chock full o' BDSM, lesbian, sexclub, escort groups. Surely something you'd want to bring home to mother's. I may well get shot for this, but do guys really find this sort of thing attractive? I'm sure they all appreciate sexy clothes, but would they want most of their date's body exposed to everyone's view when out in public? Hell no! I'd like to see more of the guys' idea of what "beauty" in SL means to them. Do the outfits bespeak personality? (Assuming here, of course, that dancing generally leads to conversation) not really, but the profile and joined groups say enough about the person`s interrest and tbh, all that bdsm crap for example is a... you know, same with vampire, master and slave, gor Hold the flames: I'm talking about my observations on the grid in general, not about those who've posted here specifically since, of course, I have no idea how most of you dress inworld. B. normal |
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Anti Antonelli
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09-24-2008 21:10
The OP's is an interesting question but I wonder if some of the guys are just plain frightened. Experimentally, I looked around a popular clothing store and this is what I saw: Human gazelles, 80% legs and another 6 inch heel added on. Clothes that pretty much leave nothing to the imagination and simply scream "wanna get laid, dammit". Hair that explodes in all directions and, along with unnerving amounts attachments, give every appearance that the lady is off to the nearest powwow. Of course, then there is the bling and the clackety heels. I know I can't speak for the guys but, in their place, I'd not want to be seen on a dance floor with that. At worst, I'd suspect a good number of these to be either utter bimbos or cross dressers. So then had a look at the profiles. Groups chock full o' BDSM, lesbian, sexclub, escort groups. Surely something you'd want to bring home to mother's. I may well get shot for this, but do guys really find this sort of thing attractive? I'm sure they all appreciate sexy clothes, but would they want most of their date's body exposed to everyone's view when out in public? I'd like to see more of the guys' idea of what "beauty" in SL means to them. Do the outfits bespeak personality? (Assuming here, of course, that dancing generally leads to conversation) Hold the flames: I'm talking about my observations on the grid in general, not about those who've posted here specifically since, of course, I have no idea how most of you dress inworld. B. Insightful. Nope, not attractive to me (perhaps I'd feel differently if I was into BDSM/sexclub/escort-type activities). I'll go for the girl next door any day of the week. But then again, SL presents a unique opportunity to be a different kind of person than what one might be in real life - so I try (and I think I do a pretty good job of it if I may say so) to avoid judgments of the person behind the avatar. I imagine it can be all kinds of fun setting out to attract the types of guys who do come running for stacked blinged-out sexpots, and one needn't even be an SL-slut to go around looking like one for kicks. And hey, being an SL-slut is probably tons of fun too given some perspective and a sense of humor. I guess what I'm trying to say is that those who match up with the picture you painted are as likely to be perfectly nice normal people as anything else; but they probably aren't looking for a mild-mannered dude like me - so insofar as they are doing a great job of keeping me away, they are dressed perfectly. _____________________
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Cristalle Karami
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09-24-2008 21:28
The OP's is an interesting question but I wonder if some of the guys are just plain frightened. Experimentally, I looked around a popular clothing store and this is what I saw: Human gazelles, 80% legs and another 6 inch heel added on. Clothes that pretty much leave nothing to the imagination and simply scream "wanna get laid, dammit". Hair that explodes in all directions and, along with unnerving amounts attachments, give every appearance that the lady is off to the nearest powwow. Of course, then there is the bling and the clackety heels. I know I can't speak for the guys but, in their place, I'd not want to be seen on a dance floor with that. At worst, I'd suspect a good number of these to be either utter bimbos or cross dressers. So then had a look at the profiles. Groups chock full o' BDSM, lesbian, sexclub, escort groups. Surely something you'd want to bring home to mother's. I may well get shot for this, but do guys really find this sort of thing attractive? I'm sure they all appreciate sexy clothes, but would they want most of their date's body exposed to everyone's view when out in public? I'd like to see more of the guys' idea of what "beauty" in SL means to them. Do the outfits bespeak personality? (Assuming here, of course, that dancing generally leads to conversation) Hold the flames: I'm talking about my observations on the grid in general, not about those who've posted here specifically since, of course, I have no idea how most of you dress inworld. B. But Brann, most of those "women" that you describe are probably men. hehe. But you do have a point - people that come across as profoundly normal in SL are truly sexy for those looking for something beyond a pixel hookup. _____________________
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Annabelle Babii
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09-24-2008 21:32
no its really me..and gee thanks..but im just a goofy country girl from the midwest..heres the whole pic..not really actress material IMO..lol  In answer to the original question: There's nothing wrong with you. Too bad you like the other side of the fence. _____________________
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Alicia Sautereau
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09-24-2008 21:45
maybe the question is "Is there something wrong with us"
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Rhaorth Antonelli
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09-24-2008 21:47
Im actually in Photoshop atm..lol..maybe that's one reason I dont meet very many ppl. Seriously, Ive had ppl say maybe they're intimidated..but my god..Im the goofiest, easy goingest person around! Im just one of the guys! No reason to be scared! I can vouch for that. after spending some time chatting with Yummy on voice... I found that she is the sweetest, kindest, nicest person I have had the pleasure to chat with (and she has a great sense of humor, she has to in order to spend as long as she did with me on voice LOL) yummy you are not alone. even when I was not such a workaholic in SL and more of a social butterfly, I found that a lot of times I was alone even more so now and I have had the same experience, with folks admitting that they were intimidated by me... which shocked me, as I am not intimidating (at least I did not think so) I think the most flattered I have been is when someone met me at the store and said... YOU ARE RHA!! of RHA! Designs! OMG and wow's ensued hehe I don't think that person was intimidated just enjoy SL for what it is, (whatever it is to you) and the rest will happen naturally _____________________
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Allegria Kanto
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09-24-2008 21:52
I know the old-fashioned thing is to wait for men to ask, but I found (back when i was looking) that's a good way to stand around or dance alone. I don't miss the open chat much, because I've never been very good at that, interjecting witty asides into a general open conversation. I'm much more inclined to like talking to people one on one.
I would go to Frank's or Phat's or Sweethearts, read profiles, and IM people whose profile I found interesting, usually with a comment that made it clear I'd read their profile. If the person i IM'd was busy, waiting for someone, or disinclined, it usually became apparent fairly quickly. After some conversation, I'm perfectly comfortable asking a guy to dance. Or even just IM'ing and asking outright. I usually had a great time going out and doing this. I talked to lots of interesting men, made some friends, and sometimes made some closer friends.  I guess my main point though is ask. Ask a newbie to dance, they're great fun to talk to. Read profiles. You've got nothing to lose but a boring evening dancing by yourself._____________________
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Bree Giffen
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09-24-2008 22:07
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Amaranthim Talon
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09-24-2008 22:21
Yummy - I know u say u r shy and I cannot tell u how to fix that- but do some profile surfing in a club where the music is something u like- then - strike up a convo- heck ask him to dance - do it over and over til it works out- and u know - don't discount the lovely men right here. I have been very fortunate and met two of the nicest men in SL right here
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Czari Zenovka
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09-24-2008 23:17
You know, I've found that too...........a lot of guys will IM me but don't ask me to dance. But, I'm old school..........the guy asks. I think that's my problem. I put in another bid for old school. I never ask a guy to dance and wouldn't have gotten to know my Partner if he hadn't asked me. Now the ironic thing is - when we met, we were both working at the same club and part of his job was to make sure unescorted ladies were asked to dance. He was kept pretty busy too! He became a favorite of some of the women and more often than not, the regulars would come in, make a beeline for him and ask him to dance. One woman would literally walk up to him and say, "Storm, dance." After we got to know each other, he told me one of the things that attracted him to me was that I DIDN'T ask him to dance. He had to take the initiative. Ok, considering his job at the club, it probably wasn't too hard for him to ask me to dance. But what he *didn't* count on was I'm old school other ways. As translated in SL, when we went on dates, I wouldn't even get on a kiss pose ball with him for quite awhile, much less any other kind. _____________________
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Colette Meiji
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09-24-2008 23:27
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Broseybrose Writer
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09-24-2008 23:32
oddly enough, i just figure most girls dont want to be bothered, so i leave them alone. this applies to SL and RL. maybe i act this way because im an introvert. but if someone strikes up a conversation with me then they usually turn into a friend.
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Dain Shan
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09-25-2008 00:14
Pretty Oldscool here myself.
If i see super hyped up Ava in every aspect i dosent even bother to look into the profile. I found that 99% of them dosent want to be bothered. Also when i enter a place with many people, but no chatting in open chat at all, im out again. I always assume automatically that this is a thight group that chat in groupchat or even in IMs all the time. Somehow i always feel that im not welcome in such areas. But when i feel comfortable with an area, may it be a club or something else i will talk to the crowd. Usually in the open first but i might also read profiles. If there is noted that IMs are welcome i will do so. But i tend to be shy at first. So i dosent ask Women often for a Dance. Even if i hang out at Phat Catz and similar places. |
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09-25-2008 01:23
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Pserendipity Daniels
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09-25-2008 01:24
Some of you know me here and in SL. I'm single in RL and in SL, which for the most part, I enjoy. I like to have time to work and don't really like to have someone watching over my shoulder, and Im a bit of an introvert, so it's really a life style choice. My problem is, there are times I like to go out and dance, and well, just be with the opposite sex. Most of my ingame friends are women, I also have a few men "friends", but sometimes, I'd like more than just a friend. Anyway, it seems whenever I go dancing, I always end up dancing by myself, which , really doesnt bother me, I mean, Billy Idol does it! I just want to know if there is something wrong with me, do I stink? Am I ugly, hideous? Or am I just NON approachable. Or maybe Im just old fashioned and believe the guy should approach me first? Does anyone else feel this way? Five pages on my screen and nobody has actually cottoned on to the reason you don't get the calls Yummy? This is lifted from your profile: "One more thing, if you're married in rl. then dont be knocking on my back door." Since I reckon the large majority of the men that are cruising the dance floors in sl are married then you aren't going to get many calling you. Why bother when there are so many other females who don't care about your status, and who you don't have to lie to? Rose has already had most of this discussion in another thread. I admire your honesty, but you should not really be surprised. Pep (This doesn't explain HoneyBear's situation though) _____________________
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09-25-2008 01:25
hahah great idea..im actually building a club right now, just to hang out in..maybe I should do that..lol..Social or ANTI social club?> Lol, too busy building a shopping centre and skyboxes myself to socialise There's nothing wrong with you or your profile. you are a very attractive woman, you run a long running sucessfull business, maybe the fact you have a son is a put off to some but you don't want guys who aren't interested because of that anyway, so being honest up front is great. Maybe there's just something wrong with all us geek types guys in SL, maybe some of us find creative women unnerving, personally I like the idea of a partner who has a creative side. You are possibly just on the wrong side of the planet for me Maybe this timeslot is wrong for meeting US guys too just us crazy Aussie yobbos and some Europeans on the loose Women can do anything.......... except cut through the chaff and ask a guy out Sorry, I'm a bit oblivious to the subtle approach and when if I ask a girl out and she says "no", I believe her and don't bother any further Anyone got a nice long 1mx0.25ish megaprim that would be good for a low fence? _____________________
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Yummy Freelunch
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09-25-2008 01:30
Five pages on my screen and nobody has actually cottoned on to the reason you don't get the calls Yummy? This is lifted from your profile: "One more thing, if you're married in rl. then dont be knocking on my back door." Since I reckon the large majority of the men that are cruising the dance floors in sl are married then you aren't going to get many calling you. Why bother when there are so many other females who don't care, and who you don't have to lie to? Rose has already had most of this discussion in another thread. I admire your honesty, but you should not really be surprised. Pep (This doesn't explain HoneyBear's situation though) does this mean that EVERY man is really taken in RL! it's such bad karma!!!!! sighs _____________________
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