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Jake Reitveld
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12-07-2005 23:24
From: Dark Korvin
I have recently been thinking a great deal about who I am. Years ago, when I first heard the question, I thought it had a simple answer, but now I honestly find it a very hard question to answer. I have come face to face with my desire, instinct, passion, and pursuits, but when I boil all that off, I'm not sure what is left behind that is not connected to my situation in the world around me. In vague terms, I see something desperate to survive at all costs with cold disconnected calculation of estimated consequences when in solitude yet loss of control when conformity is pushed upon me or emotions and desires complicate matters, but again all this connects back into my experience of this life I'm living, and not into who I actually am. I wonder if I fail by trying to look too deep

All this leads me to wonder if you yourself have come to grips with who you are, and are you able to describe in words what you have discovered about yourself when seeking the answer to the simple question of "Who am I?" Have you found a way to describe yourself in a way that explains the essence of you as an individual beyond the reactor to outside influence, or do you think it is a realization not meant to have a description? If I sound crazy right now, feel free to just tell me, and I'll go be crazy elsewhere.


An intersting post. And the answer is both simple and complex. I could say that I have leanred I am an open-eyed man falling inot a well. More prfoundly I would say that I have learned that I am not some little man living inside my own head. Beyond that it is enough to say that the verdict is still out. Sometimes, as my out burst above showed me, I am not always the person I want to be, but i am alway the person i am.

Sometimes the answer is found in being and not thinking. A beginner looks and ses a mountain, as they become student they see theories and possibilties and ideas-they describe and think about the rocks and the trees and the snow and all the parts, and the try to make a whole. A master simply sees a mountain again.
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Jake Reitveld
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12-07-2005 23:26
From: katykiwi Moonflower
I found that the more successful and accomplished I became in my legal career, the more time I had in my life for other interests. Some reasons for this are that, with experience, it did not take me as long to complete tasks as it did when i was less experienced starting out, Also, having staff...becoming the "boss" allowed me to direct time consuming tasks such as legal research and forms etc to paralegals and junior level staff. The day I was able to send a junior attorney to court to handle a minor motion for me was a joy.

After law achool life returns in increments. The greater income I acquired over time allowed me to reduce my case load and be much more selective about my what i wanted to do and when.

The amount of free time also relates to the area of law that is practiced. A corporate or government attorney can have a more traditional work schedule allowing for the occasional fire eruption. A trial attorney or litigator is a different creature. When i was in court almost every day with a very heavy case load I had only the evenings and weekends to get my other prep work completed. This adds up to having no life and most attorneys dont tolerate that kind of schedule for long. They move on to a saner life where they can have a life. It is also interesting to note that most attorneys in the US never set foot in a courtroom.

I have also found that some attorneys cite "no time" for living as an excuse to avoid having to go home for a variety of reasons. Others are overworked because they are too inexperienced to get a better job, or not good enough to move on, or if flying solo, then unable to afford adequate staff and end up having to do it all themselves.

So, ironically, a successful attorney is one whom you might find has more time for activities other than work! Just as your busy gynecologist doesnt spend every minute focused on your pregnancy, your lawyer doesnt spend all his or her time focused on your case!



Wise and true, katy and a great post. But no question. So you will have to be spanked again-rules are rules. Zuzu is clamoring for the opportunity :) thank you for reading and being part of this thread though.
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Jake Reitveld
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12-07-2005 23:27
From: Zuzu Fassbinder
Looks like there's going to be a lot of spanking. Can I do some of it?


Do you have the proper equipment, such as a paddle and a spanking chair?
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Jake Reitveld
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12-07-2005 23:32
From: Nolan Nash
So Katy is Jake's alt?

:eek: :confused: :eek: :D


No. Katy is not my alt, or she would have known better than to post without asking a question. No need for confusion and panic. Just keep in mind that I am aimee webers alt, or maybe she is mine, I never can keep us straight-oh she's the talented one with her own city and club and solar system, and I make thongs for women. :)
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12-08-2005 01:41
Jake, I haven't asked a quesiton in a long time but this one is really important!

Does size really....

oops... wrong one....

At what point in a late night do you say "I'm up this late, I may as well not go to sleep."?
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12-08-2005 08:30
From: Jake Reitveld
Do you have the proper equipment, such as a paddle and a spanking chair?


Would a green branch roughly 3 ft in length and 1/8-inch in diameter cut from the tree outside be acceptable?
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Jake Reitveld
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12-08-2005 11:03
From: koolhand Koolhaas
Jake, I haven't asked a quesiton in a long time but this one is really important!

Does size really....

oops... wrong one....

At what point in a late night do you say "I'm up this late, I may as well not go to sleep."?


Well it depends on a lot of factors, not the least being at what time you need to get up the next morning. People have very different sleep patterns and sleep needs, as sleep is something we do for our brain. In general, for me, the majic number is usually about three hours, If I am not going to get three hours, then I am going to just saty up. Typically in the human circadian cycle, the hours between 2-5 am are periods where we most feel the effects of being tired. At th very least I try to be asleep during this period. If I must be up at say 4:00 am, then I usually got to be early (no later than 10 pm) so that I have a full rest.
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Jake Reitveld
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12-08-2005 11:04
From: Zuzu Fassbinder
Would a green branch roughly 3 ft in length and 1/8-inch in diameter cut from the tree outside be acceptable?

Well since my thumb is greate than 1/8 inch in diameter, I would say that is acceptable. Thoguh really, if you are to appear professional, you need a paddle and a spanking chair.
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12-08-2005 12:57
What method of spanking will you use when you spank me...(ie: sitting while i am draped over your knees, or having me stand with my back to you while bent forward...etc.,) and, will you spank me with your hand, a belt, wet cloth...hmmm....There is your question Jakie. :)
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12-08-2005 13:02
Katykiwi: Yes. All of it, and a few i haven't thought of yet.
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Jake Reitveld
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12-12-2005 11:08
From: Zuzu Fassbinder
I try to be a good person, but there are times when I get frustrated and angry and still end up acting like a jerk. Should I strive to prevent myself from doing this, or is it good to "let it out"?


At long last, as promised, an answer.

This is not an easy answer, however. You should endeavour to live your live goverend my the principales of tranqulity, acceptance, and passion. Ifyou embody these principals, then you will not get frusttrated and angry. But emlightentment is a place we strive for, and is not easy to come by.

If you find yourself frustrated and agray and still actng like a jery, as all of us who have not attain satori do, then the important thing to let the emotions flow away from you. To try to anticipate how you feel and control it leaves you trapped in the future. To dwell upon your frustration and anger and feel guilty for having those thoughts leaves you pinned in the past.

If you fail in your goal, just take the next step. Don't get stuck or try to skip ahead.
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12-14-2005 12:34
Did this thread die? I hope not, it was one of my favorites.
Jake Reitveld
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12-14-2005 13:22
From: Jessica Robertson
Did this thread die? I hope not, it was one of my favorites.


This thread id not die. I have been mulling over the answer to a very thought provoking question asked of me in IM's and I have been lax in responding to this thread. However it is not dead, merely buried in the current bruhaha.

As Always I will answer anything. Sometimes even correctly. Thank you for reading and keep the questions coming.
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12-14-2005 17:43
Got bored with your own thread, aye?
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12-14-2005 17:55
From: Chance Abattoir
Got bored with your own thread, aye?


No. There was just a period when everyone had an Ask Jake Anything thread. Then a poster put up a veiled personal attack that put me off, mostly because they way i reacted to it. And someone else asked me a question in an IM the sort of develed inot my buddhist nature. Finally I was in sa diego over the weekedn and have been busy here at work.

Thus while many things conspire to keep me away, I truly enjoy this thread, hearing the questions and giving the answers. Even the right ones.
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Jake Reitveld
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12-16-2005 15:55
Well my freinds, this one comes out of e-mail, and my response is not as artful as I would like, but It was difficult for me to answer. Hope is both an illusion and a truth of existence. It is hard to offer hope without hoping. I have again left the poster anonymous. As always I will not allow commentary on this without questions in the thread. But I do hope others will voice related quesiotns in the thread, or to me via e-mail.

The question is: If life becomes absolutely unbearable (subjective) do you have an obligation to stay? If so, to who are you obligated? Why? Does an individual have a right to chose to die? If birth-death-rebirth is nothing more than a transition, then who is it you answer to if such an action is considered 'wrong' ? Within nature cells commit suicide because they are programmed to (http://users.rcn.com/jkimball.ma.ul.../Apoptosis.html) is it possible that we are programmed the same way? If it is wrong, why is it wrong?

Thanks.

Well the classical buddhist answer is that life has become unbearable because you are suffering and suffering is the result of excessive attachment and desire. If you free yourself from attachment to and desire from illusions, then life will not be unbearable.

My own response if more like your death diminishes me, since we are all aspects of a greater whole.

Also I would say that noone knows exactly what is contianed in the next moment, so to say life will be unbearable tomorrow is simply not true, you do not know. Unless you make it so.

You have an obligation to yourself, and to all of creation to folow the full course of your life. If you choose to end your life, that is making a choice to terminate your life. Such a choice is not natural. It is true that everything has a time to die, but you cannot make that choice for yourself or anyone else. To look at all this in terms of "Who do I have to answer to?" or "Who says its wrong" misses the point.

We don't take write action or develope write mind because we are told we must. If I live only because I am told it is wrong to not live, then I am not living. We exist because we exist. We can strip off all our illusions and accept that we live in a moment, when it pasess the moment is gone, and we cannot ever peer inot the next one. All we can do is be that which we are meant to be. We are only ever what is, and to take our own life really is to deny ourselves the potential within us. Your life is my life and your death is my death.
this is not the clearest way to state it, but it is not an easy answer. I hope this is of some help, and I hope you will continue to question my understanding and your own.

Ten years searching in the deep forest
Today laughter at he edge of the lake.
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Zuzu Fassbinder
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12-16-2005 20:53
If there's no Heaven. No hell below us and above us only sky. And we all were living for today.
If there's no countries, nothing to kill or die for, and no religion to, with all the people living life in peace.
And no possessions; No need for greed or hunger, A brotherhood of man sharing all the world

Would we still crave pie? And, What kind?
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Jake Reitveld
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12-16-2005 21:05
From: Zuzu Fassbinder
If there's no Heaven. No hell below us and above us only sky. And we all were living for today.
If there's no countries, nothing to kill or die for, and no religion to, with all the people living life in peace.
And no possessions; No need for greed or hunger, A brotherhood of man sharing all the world

Would we still crave pie? And, What kind?


Yes. And ii would be Peanutbutter cream pie, a la mode, with chocolate ice cream.
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12-17-2005 12:14
From: Jake Reitveld
Yes. And ii would be Peanutbutter cream pie, a la mode, with chocolate ice cream.


Oh marvelous you would have to mention peanutbutter and chocolate in the same sentence. And here I was doing so well with avoiding being trapped into eating the goodies my friend sent to me for Christmas.

Now the pressure of trying to think of a question, when I am not yet awake, or face having to line up with the others, who didn't ask a question, for a spanking.

What came first the chicken or the egg? :)
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12-18-2005 01:27
Why do we have political parties? It seems it would be better for someone to run on where they stand on issues instead of where their party stands on issues. It would resolve the political bashing and the issue of who owns congress, because it would finally be owned by the people and not a certain party.

Also... Is a question a good answer to a question you don't know the answer to?

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12-19-2005 09:37
From: Felicity Sneerwell
Oh marvelous you would have to mention peanutbutter and chocolate in the same sentence. And here I was doing so well with avoiding being trapped into eating the goodies my friend sent to me for Christmas.

Now the pressure of trying to think of a question, when I am not yet awake, or face having to line up with the others, who didn't ask a question, for a spanking.

What came first the chicken or the egg? :)


The egg. Before it was chicken, something else laid the egg that produced the first chicken. Ulrika has a thread somewhere on Evolution 101. So the fisrt chick was a mutation of some species of link between chicken and dinosaur. This bird-like beastie probable resembled a chicken, but was not quite there. It laid an egg, and its mutant baby was a chicken. The real question is was it free range chicken?
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12-19-2005 09:48
From: Spinner Poutine
Why do we have political parties? It seems it would be better for someone to run on where they stand on issues instead of where their party stands on issues. It would resolve the political bashing and the issue of who owns congress, because it would finally be owned by the people and not a certain party.

Also... Is a question a good answer to a question you don't know the answer to?

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Well I have political parties because I like it when peopel try to sway me with good food, good booze and hot women. Qa little hedonistci indulgence can always buy votes. I'm not easy, but some times I am cheap.

In all truth we have political parties because humans like groups, if you can't rise to power in the real arena, you can do so more easily in the arean of a political party. Being leader of the opposition party is like a booby prize. You didn't get too be president, but you still are the leader of the democratic party.

Political parties have been around a long time. Sometimes they were associated with horse racing factiosn, and other times with class struggle. In gerneal part of the problem is that early on in the history of representative republics, information travelled slowly and was relatively scarce over distance. A party mean that even if you did not know the candidate persoanlly, you might have some Idea of what they stood for. I mean how many people who voted for Licoln had actually seen him speak?

Also we can discuss numbers intellectually, but practicall we still count 1,2,3..many. Thus rater than have twent people with different stances for each spot, we reduce the number to something managable. It also helps that the parties are well funded and a good way of organizing mass support.

Finally sometimes a bunch of people agree on the same issue, and they like to band togetehr to shout down the opposition.

And yes it is always acceptable to answer a question with a question. Though it is sometimes better to just say "i don't know" and look up the answer.
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12-19-2005 10:17
Perpetually swimming up stream spending every ounce of energy.
Fiercely struggling against the currents intended for only the strong and paired.
Never reaching a destination and no destination in sight.

Incapable of rejuvenating or breathing easily.

Fruitlessly treading water as a last attempt, and conforming to the voidness of hope and energy.

Over taken by the force of the current, and finally submitting.
Submitting to the triumphant flow. Impaired by defeat and wasted attempts.
Knowing the current is maliciously pulling back to the beginning.

To swim again? :/
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12-19-2005 11:43
From: Marina Mauriac
Perpetually swimming up stream spending every ounce of energy.
Fiercely struggling against the currents intended for only the strong and paired.
Never reaching a destination and no destination in sight.

Incapable of rejuvenating or breathing easily.

Fruitlessly treading water as a last attempt, and conforming to the voidness of hope and energy.

Over taken by the force of the current, and finally submitting.
Submitting to the triumphant flow. Impaired by defeat and wasted attempts.
Knowing the current is maliciously pulling back to the beginning.

To swim again? :/


A good question.

To swim is to exist, to not swim is to not exist. Swim are not swim, youare still a fish and stream flows.
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12-25-2005 11:38
Jake

Are you having a happy christmas?
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