Friends With Benefits

I'm just amused by the amount of hypocrisy in this thread.

Of course not.

Exactly. Sounds like you are getting what you desire.

It appears that a few have tried to have a one-to-one with you, in their exchanges in the threads. Difficult to do here, and probably futile. But you hit nerves (which you have said is your intention, many times)....so odds are that they will respond to your thoughts directly. Personally, I quit doing much one-to-one responding in the threads to you, because you rarely respond back......which is fine. That requires some thought and effort put into the thoughts and efforts that were handed to you.....and that's time-consuming and risky.



I pulled the first stereotype that I could think of, out of my head, for a judgment. The withered old, bitter and resentful housekeeper, slaving away for the young ingenue. (minus the innocent part). Probably saw that in a few movies or something. Often sense bitterness in your judgments, and even in your description of your own persona.

I thought we were doing stereotypes and judgment calls again.....



We're not?

I'm sure there are at least 3 other things that fit that criteria... but WTG exaggeration!

now if we're just counting thread topics..... (kidding, although a lot of them are naive)

Why does it seem so harsh to respond to "provocative, rude, arrogant, judgmental, self centered, and annoying?" If they bother someone....why not respond? Why keep it all bottled up? Maybe someone will learn something from the exchange.

Why is it that the thread topics and the way they are worded... blatantly take people "to task" ......but the responses have to be of a different nature? Toned down?

I'm not bored. Human nature is fascinating!

No, we're not.
We follow pretty much every rule, tenet and custom that reality demands.
We have to have "partners", we have to create a world tha has laws and customs entirely dependent upon real laws and customs.
For God's sake, we even build structures with roofs, staircases and bathrooms!
Yet, we can fly like angels.

We havent even scratched the potential for virtual reality but we have encumbered it with all the prejudices and stereotypes and moralisms that are baggage to us in real.

When she starts a thread about her "real life" to throw a ranting, hissy fit because she only got one Christmas Card she most definitely opens her real life up. She might want to ask herself why. If she doesn't want to be pointed in the direction to correct that she shouldn't have brought it up.

I don't have a soapbox, I use a liquid detergent.

We must be hanging out in different places, inworld, then. When I'm out and about as one av....I see all kinds of exploration going on, that pretty much break any rules or customs that I encounter in RL (and I suspect the people I encounter are breaking their rules and customs, as well - - actually, not "suspect"....they tell me they most certainly are).

I don't run across too many people in that world, that want to have partners - that's for sure!

Now, when I'm inworld as Mickey....I often see people who are settling down, and getting married, and having committed relationships...and having kids.....and doing the house thing, as you mentioned. But there could be a huge possibility....that they are breaking out of their RL world, as well....and doing something that is entirely different than what they are experiencing in RL. That could very well be their opportunity to "fly."

I enjoy experiencing both worlds in SL. And I'm sure there are more, that I've not tapped into yet, that fall between both extreme ends of the spectrum. I truly believe that both ends of the spectrum are at least "scratching their potential" for exploration. One end of the spectrum may not be "scratching" the same way I do.....but still some "scratching" going on for the person involved.

Envy will get you nowhere.

Oh Lord, I have not one ounce of envy for you. I feel sorry for you.

Envy, what does anyone have anything to be envious of you for? I can't think of one single thing about you that I would want to emulate.

so you object to the person that builds the dream house they wanted, or prefers to have a roof to keep out randomly falling items (like vehicles, av's, and the occaisional physics object), or think showers and tubs make great scene locations?

given all that, why do you prefer a human avatar? I think you'll find the reasons are similar.

In RL....I've been living in homes that are under construction for a few years. When they get to the "liveable" stage....I have to move! Kicked out!

There is a huge sense of satisfaction in logging into SL, and having each room finished to a T, with no plaster peeling, and hardwood floors that are already sanded and stained, and furniture arranged. Huge Satisfaction. Really balances it out, and provides "contentment" for a few hours. Awesome exploration going on there. Although, to some it would appear to be routine and ordinary and limiting. You just never know what is going on behind someone's Adventure or Exploration.

Yeah, those people that build the houses and script the poseballs and furniture should really be thrown out of SL. I only wish I had the talent to do such stuff.

When you abuse this forum by using it as your own personal diary and toilet to dump whatever random thought pops into your head then you deserve a suspension. At the very least you have to be willing to take verbal attacks in exchange for your selfish behavior.

Jig's proven she can take it just fine. It has no effect and does not deter her from starting two or three threads a day. In fact, you should thank me for giving her some of the attention she desperately needs.

In that case the line for suspensions starts behind me.

If you say so, Brenda, but I can swear you've been helpful a time or two.

Swearing is against the forum rules.

It is fitting to see Torley's words used in regards to the management of these forums as he was so instrumental in their evisceration back in 2006.

LOL

Wow, I've seen a post here about "friends with benefits" or something that has been derailed in JUST this sort of way!

Originally Posted by Torley Linden
Making posts which are deliberately unhelpful or disruptively off-topic will lead to being banned from Resident Answers.


Dang! There won't be anyone left!

Right on, if she doesn't like it, she doesn't need to respond. People get crituqued in other sl forums and threads for far less then this. Don't want someone to comment with their opinion>don't post. Especially if you haven't read the full thread, because you have no idea how it got there. If she wants to get snarky with me she is going to get it right back. Believe it or not, I have said positive things towards her, but for some reason.."oh wait, she wont wear her glasses>to vain" she hasn't managed to read them.

There is much truth in this. I think we have to keep some part of RL with us inworld - probably due to some inner drive or yearning - just to stay grounded in reality, to not become totally lost in the fantasy. My preference is to keep a human form and live in a fairly regular house - that is enough to keep me grounded in reality while I push the boundaries and explore other aspects of the virtual world. Others use different means to maintain that grounding, and some don't really even seem to need it at all.

My only real issue is that though we push boundaries inworld, there are enough threads in these forums to confirm that many would like to impose their RL views and morals on the whole of SL. I try hard not to push my morals and values on others at all, be it RL or SL. Granted, I do not always succeed, but that is what I strive for. Others, whether for relgious reasons or other unknown reasons, feel that it is their duty to reform people to their ways of thinking and acting.

Chuckles... Just add the words "sex and money" to your post and you should be just fine. Oh wait here is another one "ME". On topic all of the way

Who gets to define "abusing the forum"? I actually prefer some of the conversations that come from "whatever random though popped into someone's head". While this is Resident Answers and our primary purpose is to answer questions about SL from other residents, the true "community" feeling comes from the discussions that we have here. Whether it is from one of Jig's inane random thoughts, or something that someone else just happens to pop out, the discussions are entertaining and often enlightening.

So... who gets to decide if Jig's posts are deliberately unhelpful or disruptively off-topic? If she starts the thread, then it would be other folks that would be making the first comments that are off-topic, whether disruptive or not.

As Josh aluded to, laughing at the hypocrisy here is probably the best way to deal with it.