just ignore and let this one die

Yes. It's all so unutterably sad . . .

Hugs to you Scylla.

Thank you Lula!

G'night an g'mornin, thread peoples!

So this weekend saw the finishing of Livingtree Outpost, which is a space that me, Robin, and Pygar are sharing in the Winterfest marketplace sims. I also asked Johnny Spad to put his latest bike creation there, an Redd Columbia might be putting a few goodies out too. I also have a boat rezzer, an toboggan rezzer, an 7 Seas fishing (for some of the Livingtree customs), too. It looks like this:



You'll find it in the Turtle Dove sim, in the southeast corner on the little peninsula.

Also, Livingtree has also gone holiday, with the return of skating on the river, the hoop o' fire and barrel jump, the musical ice floes, and all sorts of goodies. I hope all ya'll will come by an visit! Here's a shot of one of the ice shelters, jes cuz:



Unlike the last few weeks, I actually did quite a bit this weekend, with attending a friend's rez day party, going to a seminar of AM Radio's on using HTML stuff in SL, being at the Tots For Tots fundraiser for Toys for Tots, a Bay City Alliance meeting, an other things too. But not a lot of those are very photogenic, so not as many fun piccies this week!

I will say one thing, though: workin' on all these wintery places sure makes a person awful cold! See?



Have a super day an great week, all!

Hmn....I'd put out two types of freebie boats on my Eggnog coastal parcel, but now that you mention it, I'd better go in and change them to temp rez...

Love the *cold* picture Mari - did you get contacts?

I was on a Polish sim last night and this morning - it's still Fall there. Their Halloween decorations are still up (not shown). I had a lot of trouble with poses... my head kept jerking all around.

Anyway...

Today (in RL) I have jury duty, so I got some new hair for the occasion:

Ohhh Fire on Ice.

*Waits until you are off the ice and tacklehugs you.

Thanks again for the computer advice. One thing is certain, you gamers like flashy, and in many cases ugly cases, don't you? When I come back from my vacation in January I'll start shopping for real. There is also a shop down the street that builds computers. Maybe I'll talk to them and see what they can do.

Hugs and best wishes to everyone who has been a victim of violent crime.
It takes a certain kind of man to abuse a woman~spineless.

That's one of the saddest pictures Mari it looks like you're waiting for a ride that never came.

LOL call it what you will, my case has a clear door so I can see all the flashy thingies and know when its time to hit the innards with some air.

Going to a shop like that could be your best bet. You can have a truly customized computer built for a very low price. Best of all many of the smaller shops give great customer care.

Questions to ask at a custom shop.
1~ What kind of support they offer with a new computer.
2~ How much to build a computer? They should charge somewhere between $90 and $150 to build your computer, some shops have a flat rate and others rates will vary depending on what you're asking for.
3~Do they build the computer from off the shelf parts or do they order the parts when you place the purchase order. If they tell you that they have all the parts on hand it might be a good idea to look elsewhere because they may be recycling used hardware. If they order your parts when you give them your order they are buying at the lowest prices they can and usually the parts will be there over night.
4~Tell them that you want a copy of the invoice(s) for your parts.
5~Try to look up the shop online and see if there are any customer reviews on it.
6~Don't let them up sell you!!! Go in with a good idea of what you want to pay and stick to it.
7~Remember that there are other shops in town, don't get stuck at one if you get a 'bad vibe.'
ETA Look for a shop that has no mark up on the parts they are installing on your computer. People might try to tell you that no one builds computers without a mark up but I know that that's BS. One of my friends opened his own shop in '99 and he charges $169 for a build-flat-no markup. He also shows all his receipts for the parts be bought for his customers.



You have no idea how hard it is not to go into techno babble

FIFY.

Pep (Mindless sexism works in either direction.)

You forgot "spineless." In order to abuse someone there has to be power over that person in one form or another. Anyone who uses their power to abuse another is a spineless PoS.

ETA~Most men are stronger and bigger than most women. For a man to hit a woman out of anything but self defense is gutless. There is nothing sexist in that comment. If you think there is I pray for you whether you want it or not. I'm done commenting on this subject.

Just popping in to drop off some goodies...



Hope all is well with everyone. *goes off to catch up on posts...*

FIFY!

Pep (Your sexism persists.)

Huggers and WB. I hope that we find you in good health.

Not very many posts to read for as long as you've been away.

/me waves at Mo; See you in 3 hours and 10 minutes!!! (Be safe, it's nasty wet out there, sorry about that, I was so busy cleaning up San Diego for your visit I forgot to monitor the weather.......

I've been looking over Canadian statistics on spousal homicide. In Canada, a victim of spousal homicide is nearly 5 times more likely to be a woman than a man; interestingly, while the rate of spousal homicide has been dropping steadily for 30 years, the drop in murdered male spouses is much sharper, something that was reflected also in the US stats that Allegria posted a while back. I have a theory that this may be because of more stringent gun control here, anyway: such weapons as there are must be locked up, with ammunition stored separately, and I suspect that it is the male who is generally in charge of the keys. In other words, women have less easy access to firearms. Sure enough, if you look at the stats, women murderers of their husbands favoured knives, while men favoured guns. (And no, the answer to this is not to better arm women.)

Sorry, that's just sort of a digression.

The point that I really wanted to make is that while women are more frequently the victims of spousal violence of all kinds, the answer has to be to fight hard against violence of ALL kinds, regardless of the gender of the perpetrator or the victim, because it is a larger culture of violence that enables all kinds of abuse and victimization.

Yesterday during the memorial to the Montreal Massacre victims, I made what, in some circles, would undoubtedly be seen as a contentious claim: I suggested that the gunman himself (who came from a disfunctional family with an abusive and misogynist father) was a victim. I stand by that because I believe that violence injures not merely the victim: it brutalizes and cripples the victimizer. Those who commit violent crime are prone to doing so, I suspect, because they have often themselves been victims; committing an act of violence merely accentuates and perpetuates a crippling psychological wound that was probably already there, while, of course, continuing the cycle of violence.

A father rants against women, and beats his wife and son; the son takes a semi-automatic weapon and kills 14 women. There is a certain inevitability to it, is there not?

It has to stop somewhere, with the recognition that ALL violence dehumanizes us all.

HEY! you make the same grumpy/pouty face that I do when I'm cold. LOLOL i can't wait to see Livingtree live. it's looks gorgeous!

abuse comes in many forms. and women do it to men, too. but i think it is quite different when a persons physical self is threatened. definitely.

OMG that looks so good!

Amen.

Pep (Including the waging of wars on foreign soil and the mental abuse of submissives.)

I disagree with using one's childhood as an 'inevitable' reason for becoming violent oneself, unless there's some kind of mental illness involved. At some point, someone has to say, Ok, I had a crappy childhood with crappy parents. Maybe they did their best and maybe not, but *I* am not going to continue it. I am an adult now, responsible for my own choices. Those choices are not the fault, or obligation of my parents, they are mine alone. I am going to be a better person than my father was, but I will remember the lessons learned at his hands, so that I do not repeat them.

My husband made this choice, and often says that if he'd just allowed life to happen to him, he'd be in prison, just like his brother. He made a concious decision to stop the cycle. It can be done. I don't believe in blaming a person's childhood victimization, for the adulthood crimes he chooses to commit. There are ways out, if you have a spine.

The answer IS to better arm women. But that's not the answer to THIS question. Even an armed and trained woman (or any rational person) is unlikely to use a firearm to defend themselves against a spouse.

The armed woman is, however, more than a match for the mugger/robber/rapist.

depends on the woman, Lindal. some people's first natural reaction is to proactively defend themselves. shoot first, til the clip is empty and all you hear is click click click, then ask questions later.

and i agree that upbringing does not seal the deal on a person's fate. lots n lots of people have sad, angry and/or dysfunctional childhoods. it's what comes from deep inside a person that reveals their character, and defines their adulthood. i think it is important for a person to love themselves, and life. and also, take your experiences and use them as learning tools. do not be a perpetual victim.

yes, acknowledge drama and trauma and just general shit - even if it comes at you in wave after wave after wave - but don't let it dictate your mindset and future.

we do all have our limits, on the other hand.