Females and SL ???

Pep (has all his illusions shattered at once.)

So Coraline, were you planning to ask each potential client about their real life commitments before you um...? Or is this new line of thinking part of your decision not to follow that particular career path.

^^^THIS!!^^^ I need a shortcut key that says 'THIS'. Ok I will add that, the people that I've spoken to about it, in my time in SL, when they find out their RL spouse/partner is having virtual sex, they are more concerned with the feelings/emotional sharing that often goes along with it, rather than one handed typing. They are often devastated, that intimacy is being shared with another, not 'sex'. They feel emotions, intimacy should be reserved for the RL relationship, but, how can you? Or can you? I don't know, maybe someone (Jig?) can just have a romp in the virtual sack with no feelings involved. I couldn't. But that's just me.

She has to go outside and down to the gatehouse to check and see if she respects them.

LMAO!

Jig....you can slap my pixels anytime

Ahh..what I used to think was the good ole days. Until I met my hubby.

/me adjusts Sable's tilting halo. Don't even think of them as the 'good ole days'!

I've been wondering that since I saw the thread.

The subject line appears to have no connection to the topic.

It may very well be considered "cheating". However, many of those you denounce may be miserable living with someone they no longer love. Some may be scared of divorce because they feel tied down by responsibility and guilt that stems from children and pressures from the rest of their family. Some people just need help building their self-confidence back up after having it torn down by a destructive relationship. For some people, changing their situation is the most difficult and immense decision they will ever face in their life. Everyone wants happiness. Everyone wants to feel loved. Can you blame someone for wanting that?

I'm not religious, so I don't consider it sinful. I do acknowledge the problems it can cause in the family structure. If it's occuring, perhaps divorce is the answer. That's my opinion.

ROFLMAO


Your post does beg the question, washing as in menial chore or washing as in spin cycle?

Quoted for Truth.

This -- or, more specifically, it's cheating if it violates the agreements between you and yours.

Nothing else matters.

Note that there may be implicit agreements. IMHO, they're not a good idea, but that's another topic entirely.

Of course it's cheating and if I ever catch my BF messing with someone then I kick his ass to the curb.

You do of course know that I'm a two faced hypocrite?

Silly Lil. When women cheat, it's cheating. When men cheat, it's just human nature, can't be helped. Don't believe me? Just poll a bunch of men.

OP's initial post can also transcend inworld. Countless times we have read here or seen inworld someone found out their partner is an alt or has one and that alt is partnered with someone else. The avies maybe pixels, but feelings aren't.

Maybe we should meet up tonight to discuss this opinion......


....in private

I AM religious and I also don't consider it sinful. I also feel that it's not mine to judge though. The rest, QFT!

I bet it's common for people to enjoy things in SL that they would in RL, but haven't managed to broach the subject with their RL partners.

I know my sampling is unscientific, but RL women in SL seem to enjoy a lot more kinks than they seemed to back when I was single. No doubt that was partly or largely due ot my half of the situation, probably not being particularly adventuresome.

Put anothe way: are women really kinker than they tend to admit (to me)?

I think so. I bet men are too.

Of course this is skewed by my SL environment, but it was true even before I started hanging out at sex joints and making naughty poses.

Yes, people have many reasons for cheating. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. I live in a glass house, so I think I'll leave them be.

For me, whether or not slex could be considered cheating, would depend more on how much emotional investment there is.
Is it an occasional thing, a pixelated quickie with a random stranger when you're bored, or an ongoing relationship with the whole, "can't wait to see him/her again!" rush.
If you're putting rl emotion into it, it's a rl affair.

ty ty ty my thoughts exactly

it's only cheating if one of the involved parties thinks so (or would if they knew), otherwise, it's not applicable.

not everyone lives by the rule of serial monogamy, or even considers online relationships noteworthy.

but then I'm upfront about that with all my partners, and if it's an issue for them I might discuss possible boundaries, or more likely just pass, for both our sakes.

/me fills in the "Is it cheating?" space on her forum bingo card.

All I need now is... wait, "Update Wednesday?" How old are these cards, anyway?

Hmm good question, is it cheating on your SL partner if you leave your avatar engaged in sex with them but then go and screw your RL partner on the washing machine?

Is it poor etiquette to activate the "BUSY" and "AWAY" tags during SLex?