I beg for help! My first romantic night was a disaster! (read) I need tips for 2nd

Keeping digging when in a hole has now become a joint exercise has it?

Pep (isn't surprised. )

I would supply my version, but I have a strong suspicion that even just the *names* of the places I look for misbehaviour would get the post withdrawn. The only thought that occurs to me is, could it be that you were boring her with this long drawn out process, and by the time you got to he last planned spot, she was about ready to explode?

There's an *immense* variety of different approaches to relationships in SL; a simple trawl of the number of spots whose name ends in "Alley" should show you that. Not everybody thinks of visually impressive places as inherently romantic... you have to work out what they like doing, too.

In your drawn up plan... how much of it was a surprise to her, and how much was mutually agreed beforehand?

I did read the posts, and after carefully rereading, I stand behind my earlier posts. I could argue them, but I won't bother. Regardless, your tone was insufferable. I will say no more on this tangent.

My "insufferable" tone got my point across . . .

Pep ( . . . even if you are more stubborn than some of the others involved. )

Sorry, typo, which I fixed before I saw your post.

Lol!

hi Lindal!

I know how to mute people. I just decided that to block that guy it was too much.
As I see this caused some controversy I will try explain why I didn't block that guy.
First to say that I've just read the IM text. The guy was not copy-pasting the same text multiple times but he was using caps (100%). Even his SL name was all in caps, lol!
This is what happened:
- He says "hi"
- I answer "hi"
- He writes five lines of well written text in a row (already prepared?). His speech is oriented to empathize with me while saying bad words about my gf and suggesting me to leave her asap.
- I say to him something like: "thanks for the tip, but this it's my own business". I say some good words about my gf and I politely ask him to stop sending me IM's.
- He writes four lines of text. This time sentences are shorter and pointless.
- I ask him politely if he is done.
He writes ten more lines of text, short sentences again with no new information.
- I say some more good words about my gf again. I repeat that I am busy and I say him good night!
- He says good night and he leaves.

So, why I didn't just block him?
I thought that I was going to be capable of handling the situation with no need of blocking him. I think it worked! To block him could mean a sign of weakness like if I had nothing to say to refute his words. That's why I didn't block him.

BTW, thanks Linda for what you know. It's in my "pending things to do" list

Welcome to the ESLer Club, Marzial!

Some of us in the Club have English as our only language.....you're ahead of the game!

Sounds like you are going to have lots of fun and adventures....you have a great attitude.

Ummm...wow! Open mouth, insert shoe store!

Pep... Before labeling someone an "ESLer" (which, in itself, is rather rude) for not "comprehending your advice", you might want to read the post carefully to make sure YOU comprehended the post!

Ah, but Katheryne....if you are a member of the ESL club, and English is your only language.....what's-his-name will come in and interpret your post for you....just one of the perks.

Silly question, but how do *you* know she doesn't have an enemy? And if he didn't discuss it with her, how in blazes would he know either way?

Frankly, the only practical way to find out was to talk to her about it. If there is something in the OP's posts that gives any indication that the he had any clue either way as to the identity or motives of the harrassing party, I am not seeing it. Perhaps I don't have your magical comprehension skills.

I respectfully disagree. There's a great quote about those who argue with fools; I wish I could remember it and perhaps someone will help me out.

In general, it's a waste of time trying to argue with fools. Usually, it only serves to encourage them. Thus the common and very good advice: "Don't feed the trolls."

It is worthwhile to give the benefit of the doubt and attempt to communicate. But once it's clear that you're talking to a fool, best to simply let it go. There's no winning when you play their game.

Do not argue with fools, it makes them soggy and hard to light.

Not going to argue with you on that

hi, mickey! Very kind, thanks!

Yes, I've read what an user said about my English in consecutive posts:
"being an ESLer"
"inelegantly expressed"
"the OP does *not* speak English "just fine"!"
"For goodness sake, read the OP's obviously clumsy English"
"poor English"

hehe, I know very well how bad my English is. I know this may cause confusions, misconceptions, lack of depth, lost of details... Fortunately I use to find smart and tolerant people who understand what I try to say despite my many mistakes. Was it necessary to talk about how bad my English is in almost every post he opened?

btw, I love the fact that the he is the most active poster of the thread that the moron opened.

Bravo! You are awesome.

I would be delighted to be able to express myself in a second language as well as you do in English.

Your English is excellent. There was no confusion, rather great depth, and great detail in your colorful descriptions.....

And your English Comprehension scores an A Plus!

This!

No room to sit here. Try another spot.

I don't think your English is bad at all and I thought you story was fun and charming (even though things didn't go exactly how you wanted!).

Oftentimes foreigners say the most beautiful and meaningful things if you are listening.



No, but that's just Pep. Don't take it personally. As others have mentioned, most native English speakers don't pass muster with him

As would be fairly evident to those who read the words written, not what others have written about my words, my posts here were about the inadequacies of the readers of the OP's posts rather than the inadequacies of the OP's posts. Some have conceded, once I had pointed it out, that they *had* misunderstood the OP. If you don't even notice (as was immediately apparent to me, but not to Smithy by his own admission) that a poster is an ESLer, then you are likely to read a post differently from the way you would if you believe that English is their mother tongue. May I point out (Katherine, Alexander and anyone else who seems to have missed the nitty gritty of the matter) that *I* was the one who understood the OP correctly when it seemed like everyone else had followed an initial inaccurate over-emotional over-reaction by Rhonda, and were banging on about the (entirely imaginary) enemies that his date had?

Pep (And I still contend that it would have been better to have muted the griefer immediately, rendering irrelevant any discussion by the OP about what he did.)

PS But then, this is the guy that gives the segments of his dates marks out of ten. Do you reckon he'll be back next week giving his opinions on her cyber-competence?

PPS If Mickey thinks his English is excellent the OP *really* has problems.

Never a truer word spoken.

Pep (Nor are you able to construct a logical argument. )

Pep Redux!

Pep Revengeful!

PEP RAMPANT!!!!!

RUN!!!!

Couldn't resist mentioning that, could ya?