Lonely secondlifer

Hi, im just wondering if there is any places in sl where i can meet men, i go to different places and all i see are peole who just joined sl, where are all the people that are not new to sl. I want to be where they all are. So if anyone knows where i can go to meet people not new, please tell me.

hi starling there is a search button at the bottom of your second life screen while in game. u can search for clubs for women there or anything . gl and welcome

In the forum here we seem to be hanging out in the Undead Thread- that wd be the "just ignore this one and let it die" but we didn't thread.

In world- your best bet is search for things that interest you - and go there. Join a few groups and you will have some chats come to you and you can get a feel for where peeps are hanging out. I like dance so I go to those types of places myself- after a while- just like in RL, you need to break the ice. Fortunately in SL- most folks are rather relaxed anyway and chances are - here for most of the same reasons. I have long thought SL self selects- we come in with certain conditions pre-met, so sometimes it is easier meeting folks here and finding common interests.

One place you should look up is The Forum Cartel- nice bunch of folks just hanging out. Welcome

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Why don't you join some clubs or groups with common interests?

Ahh sorry, been there done that. Ive found just random searching for places where people would hang out (Carnivals, Clubs, Etc) in bunches. Its worked for me. Heck I have to admit even stopped by a strip club, from which I met two of the nicest people in SL (so far).

Thanks - I didn't know.. so -hmm- oh well-

I attend a lot of concerts and you can join groups that focus on meeting and dating people. There is also speed dating but that can be laggy. Also, people read profiles all the time. So update your profile, make it inviting and friendly. Also read theirs, usually people post their favorite places in pics with the landmarks. They have sporting events as well. I know the hockey/soccer games are great places to meet guys. *winks* take my word.
LOL I know people tend to down clubs but some are nice and friendly. Use the search engine to look up events. Go to SL5B they have some wonder exhibits there. You can look up groups that have building classes. Most guys really enjoy building here. There are horseback riding clubs. In such RP as Gor and vampire type themes guys are there.

Be wary, if you are looking for a sl relationship that may take some time as guys just like in rl don't want to be pressed into anything. Also watch for the quick lay guys, they like women in sl come a dime a dozen. LOL. Now if you are just looking for sex, there plently "free sex" places you and visit. If I think of anything else I will post it.

I'm not in the habit of going out man-hunting, I just like being with a good crowd. Places like Sanctuary Rock has plenty of men who are not all new and most are good looking!

My advice: Stop *looking* so hard and just go to different places and learn how to talk to people and have fun. Given how long you have been looking for guys, I would say that you are over-focused on that one aspect. If I was a guy, I am not so sure that I would want anything to do with someone that just wants to meet a guy for a relationship.

It is kind of like RL - learn to enjoy yourself in SL, learn how to casually talk to people in SL, learn how to have fun on your own.

Oy! You might want to tone down the attitude in your Picks.

Wow, you've been asking this same question since September?
If you haven't hooked up by now I'm guessing the problem isn't with the men. Or maybe you're looking for something that just doesn't exist in the places you're looking.

Perhaps you can check into one of the dating services (not escort services). Someone there might be able to give you a few pointers, help you sort out your profile and arrange some meetings with compatible people.

Well, heck, if all else fails, there are the escort services.

I agree, my first year in sl was focused on increasing my account to buy land and just exploring. Through the explorations I met wonderful people both male and female, furry, etc. Like in RL sometimes someone just stumbles your way. That is always what happens to me. I have had some wonderful relationships with guys and after it was "over" we ended up becoming even better friends. AND at times we "swirl" with each other as I call it. I tend to be turned off by the guy that is "looking too hard". So I can imagine what a guys thinks when he encounter the girl "looking too hard". However, I do empathize because you can find yourself frequenting places where people are coupled up. But don't look too much in to that, as they may have just met.

Now that I have accomplished my goal of establishing a business and acquiring the type of land that I wanted, my focus is expanding my experience in sl and to accomplish this is by joining various groups, attending the wonderful events even if I don't have a clue what they are or if I even will like them. But I won't know if I don't try. Through those avenues I will make new friends not focus on the obtaining a man aspect.

Additionally, like in RL men respect a woman that can bring something to the table. Most I encountered have been established in SL for quite some time. I own my own land, have my own business amongst other attributes and that in my case seems to remove the "are you a golddigger" aspect.

Starling, in my opinion it is the words in your profile that are keeping people away
to me, they are extremely harsh
sl is supposed to be a place where people can be whoever they want to be
on the first page of your profile and in your picks, you lay out many rules and guidelines
i'm not sure anyone could live up to your expectations
i would be scared i wasn't good enough for you
(i have bad days and sometimes i get a little witchy)
like i said, my opinion only

A/S/L ?

I agree if your profile is standoffish, comes across as mean spirited, demanding and/or even depressing you will get a BIG zero response. Start with something clever like "hey you checking my profile out cool, well let me be the first one to say HI to you." It may sound cheesy but that approach has worked for me. Put a nice pic of you in the profile. List your interests and that you are open to new interests. You may be surprised what kind of response you will receive. I read profiles all the time to get ideas how to make mine better. There are some quite clever and I have used theirs in my approach to my profile. As you can tell, some have looked at your profile and have offered opinions on improvement. Take their advice.

Yeah - don't take this the wrong way, but as a guy, I would never get the chance to get to know you because one look at your profile and I would run for the door. I'm sure you aren't like that, but the way it's written makes you seem like you are very aggressive and not very nice. Maybe toss it out and start from scratch. I understand not wanting "players" or guys that are just looking for a little cyber-hanky panky to bother you, but you are probably chasing off everyone, even the good guys with that profile.

Luckily, it's an easy fix. Just rewrite it. I'm sure you have a lot of wonderful qualities and you're a good friend - concentrate on the good things about you and people will be drawn to that.

Sorry mate, I'm on dial-up.

I have more than my share of dates, and Ive never met any of them in a club. Just go out there, do things and talk to people. There's lots of guys who are friendly, approachable and willing to make a new friend. Don't be bashful, just say hello!

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desperation is not sexah! Not to men, either!

seriously, SL sucks for relationships. don't bother. RL is faaar better. You might get lucky here > count it as your lucky day if you do. Otherwise, just enjoy life, make some friends, relax and just have some fun.

WOW on the profile....Starling, you come across way too intimidating and your posts over the last few months within this subject make you sound desperate.

What the heck is so great about having an SL partner anyway?? I experienced it once, and although most of the time it was a lot of fun, parting ways can be painful. I've found that I enjoy myself in SL just as much without involving the opposite sex

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QTF! I have said this before and will repeat it:

I came to SL strictly to continue an IRC-based rp group. I was "taken" in that rp group, but my companion hated SL so he didn't remain and that relationship thankfully fizzled. However, another guy in the same rp group decided HE wanted to be my companion. I was leery of that situation for a number of reasons and was basically holding it at bay.

Needing to make some lindens to pay rent on the land for our rp group, I took a job and the LAST thing I wanted to do was meet yet ANOTHER guy due to the last two situations. I am not at all a flirty type person and don't like guys who are overt flirts.

To make a long story short, in July I will have been exclusive with a man who also worked in the club who was the "club flirt." Women literally threw themselves at him. However, something about me piqued his interest, he asked me to dance....and now....here we are - happily partnered for almost a year.

My advice - Don't make "looking for a guy" your priority - it reeks of desperation and unless you just want a "one night stand" - guys can pick up on that miles away.

The most consistent feature of all your dissatisfying relationships is you.

Word. I looked at the profile and the picks and thought: I don't want to know this person. The profile is very nasty and the picks are even worse. Tone it down, make it a little friendlier, and people are more apt to talk to you and to friend you.

And no, I'm not on the pull. However, I'd have offered friendship and a group invite so you could be notified of fun events where a lot of guys show up, but I'm not sure I want to with the attitude you present.

Oh my....that really is some profile.

I'm no expert on meeting people. Since I joined in September, I think I can count exactly zero actual friends, despite the lengh of my friends list.

But...oh my...if I read that I certainly wouldn't say Hi. I can see guys reading that and TPing out as quickly as their fingers will let them.

Being single isn't so bad though. My only complaint is that I love to explore, and when I see something amazing, there is nobody there to turn to and say "Wow, look at that". My trip to the SS Galaxy was like that. I spent the whole time wishing that someone was there sharing it with me.

May I suggest getting a first life?