Where can I find a mate?

*Making note to myself to take some classes at Yosef as well... and Trout... and well a lot of you

Marcel, while one should always be open to learning, you do have your own, very attractive style.

Why, even the night you showed up at the Hangout as a flying book, I could scarcely keep my eyes off you. (I was trying to find out how Chapter V ended.)

Jezabell is dead-on right.

I deal with a *lot* of residents - both as friends, also in business terms. Thousands. There are a few shining-star examples, but for most people (98%?) it goes about like this:

a few weeks of 'really happy'
X weeks of 'normal' - typically measured in weeks, sometimes even years.
Six months to a year and a half of pain, suffering.

It's not just the break with the SL spouse person. It's the disruption of your entire social circle, foolish expensive land decisions and mood repercussions.

Imagine role-playing a nasty breakup and divorce, except feelings aren't virtual - it is gonna hurt deep.

Keep the grid light and fun, and talk to some of the crushed, heartbroken oldbies who drank too deep from the virtual cup before you get involved with anyone.

And yes, I know - the odds of this comment being taken to heart is about nil. But I feel I've done my duty to at least say something. I see the heartbreaks shatter lives literally once or twice a week.

Speaking of books... I nominate Crazod - I have never danced with a more attractive One-Eyed Squid

Maybe one day I will tell you

Faye...

It's not my place to go giving you advice about your life, Second or First. But that's never stopped me before...

In your original post, you said "...I don't have much of a Real Life..." and said you were looking for ways to experience a home life/raising a family situation in SL. You also said there were fertility issues.

In my mind, that breaks down into two areas of dissatisfaction. "Not much of a Real Life" and "no kids".

You should address the first one before tackling the second. NEVER decide that what this marriage needs to succeed is a child to hold it together! Kids are wonderful, I love mine to death...but kids are a STRAIN on a relationship.

Whatever is wrong, whatever is making you unhappy...fix it. Maybe it's a boring job, yours or his or both. Maybe he doesn't spend enough time with you. Maybe you married a jerk. I don't know...but YOU do, or you should with some thought. See a counselor, both of you, if you need to. It can help, a lot. Whatever it takes, fix it. If you have to break up and go your separate ways, well, it's a hard thing to do, but if that's the solution, then it is, and the sooner you face it and get it done the sooner your life will get back on track.

Once you've done whatever it is you need to, to improve your own life/lives, then address the kids issue. I don't know what you've tried, to solve the fertility problems. But even if you have tried everything, there is always adoption. There are thousands and thousands of kids out there who need a mommy and daddy.

So...if you work your way into a happy RL, with kids, will we lose you to SL? Maybe. People with happy, busy Real Lives often don't have much time for virtual worlds. I hope not...because SL is a fun and interesting place, and needs fun and interesting people like you. But, as addicted as I am to SL, I have a mantra that I recite to myself daily: Real Life Comes First.

Love and good luck to you!
Lindal Kidd

Macphisto: Mushroom souffle with bleu cheese sauce. Light yet earthy humor, grounded in a dark forest of intellect, sharpened by a wry and witty strain that never fails to surprise and delight. And really yummy.

And then you can surprise HIM by delivering a swift kick in his cheatin' backside on his way out the door

Well I know what I'm eating for dinner tonight. One Macphisto souffle, please.

Faye one thing I will caution you about in the hopes of keeping it clear between yourself and your perspective "Partner" and avoiding drama in the long run, be upfront with the fact it's roleplay and you are not looking for a real emotional attachment with them. Though there are some who's relationships in SL are mere rolplay, there are other, like my partner and I who did not come for a relationship roleplay or otherwise but now share genuine feeling for each other. The worst thing that can happen is you who are looking for a roleplay relationship to hook up with some one not aware of your position and develope genuine feelings for you/your avitar, then things get messy.

I do wish you luck in search.

Damien... Dark, rich and spicy. Chicken mole, at an all night Mexican diner, like the Hopper painting, south of the border.

Crazod is a buffet unto himself... you never know what the next dish will be, but they're guaranteed to be different and interesting!

Ok Allie, you now have a job just like Trout now. Rating the guys by what kind of dish they are.

Sorry to HI-JACK the thread. "CX"

Hehehe, CX, I can tell you didn't read the whole thread... Lindal and Oryx have me beat by a mile when it comes to the ratings...

I loved the description of Mac makes me want to go get a plate

/me claps and claps and fixes her hands to send Desmond a partnership request

No all jokes aside!
For serious!
We never know what the other person is really feeling, I mean really. I thought I had a slife long partner who liked to play the same way I did. This slove of my life forever and ever and ever who shall not be named (Kenchan) told me things that he thought I wanted to hear, some half truths, and we continued to play, fun for me, but not for him. However, I did not know.
We never know what the other person really expects of us.

Just please OP, be careful, please.

ZOMG! I love you!

It's only cheating if it's against the agreements, baby. I'm lucky: my girl would rather watch than kick. We've been together since Jan 2007.

Last night I had a similar conversation- about how one's perception of what's OK can change in here. Now if SL would get on the band wagon - i.e. why is there only one partner allowed?

((((((HUGS))))))

You know I was just having a conversation with my lovely partner as well...and like I said to someone earlier who disagrees with me...we talk about EVERYTHING! (There is no cheating between us, just honesty)
Yep...Ihave to agree with you Amaranthim... Because the programmers who wrote that in forgot about the polygamists and the Mormons and the old testament saints who had 1000 wives.
I just have 2 wives, one in RL & one in SL...Just like the OP had one husband in RL and soon to have another husband in SL...I don't suppose she could have a fling or two on the side...without everyones approval here???

I already had enough of (certain) peoples overloaded morality yet lack of a sense of humor...
How many of YOU folks out there ever had a fling on the side because you were lonely?

Nothing like turning those men into pieces of meat! LMAO!

I disagree about CX though...I would say that he is more like...

Ice cream - Reliably sweet and delicious. Yet, can offer you a sexy surprise when you are not expecting something extra mixed in!

I think that sounds about right...

I would describe a someone special...but I am afraid that you all might want a bite!

Man, that is so true! I trust easily, love easily, hurt easily...but recover rather quickly, ready to fall all over again! LOL

But the best relationship are those that grow over time, slow and steady...when the passion sneaks up on you and enraptures you so unexpectedly. When you feel like you might be drowning and realize instead...you are floating...

ROTFLMAO

seriously...laughing so hard...I'm speechless!

I told her the same thing in an IM...very good idea, if I do say so...