Where can I find a mate?

Im a total Noob to SL, I joined a while ago and didnt like it much so I didnt play. I recently came back and am enjoying myself somewhat more.

Im wondering if any of you know any place I can go and actually find guys who are looking to role play a family like situation. I was planning on just artificially inseminating myself on the game but I would rather share the experience with a partner.

I kinda get the feeling from most of the guys Ive met on here that they are kinda just in it for the XXX aspect and on top of that Im super shy and am not really sure what to say other then "Hey Im Faye wanna spend your SL with me?" lol.

So please if anyone can point me in the right direction I would appreciate it.

Seems like a pretty hard question to answer.

There are, as far as I know, no places dedictated to meeting possible partners, though there might be dating services in SL. So that might be the thing to look for.
What I would to though, is socialize. Go to places where people meet, like live music events, hangouts, anywhere where people are.

On the other hand, I would not bring the insemination thing up as first subject. If I owuld meet a girl in RL who starts about kids before even the first kiss, I would run away scared! Another thing is that with a partner, in the end the sexual thing might be fun too

Thats about all I can say, since I am not in SL for all of this, I am merely a builder/scripter, and I fill the forum groupchat with nonsense as a poor excuse for a social life .

Take care, Marcel

Hi, Faye
Welcome to Resident Answers.

First let me say I admire your courage for posting such an intimate question. See? You're not as super shy as you think.

If you haven't yet, go to the control panel and turn on PM's (Private Messages). The control panel is the link up top that says "User CP" on the menu just below the banner. This will let any super shy guys respond directly to you.

Now the bad news. Finding a SL mate is a lot like finding a RL mate. There are no easy answers. I do know there are match making services in SL but I don't know how good they are. Also, you could try posting a personals ad. Personally I would start with making friends. Lots of friends. Let them know what you are looking for and they can help find Mr. Lucky.

I have a reputation as a flirt for some reason (/me snickers) but believe it or not I am tempted by the offer to settle down. However, I have not been in game more than 30 minutes total the past month. I would not make a good family man

Good luck, Faye. I hope you find your perfect match.

Oh I dunno, it's only role play. I don't think the law will force us to pay maintenance on the prim babies. and this kind of thing is quite unusual and so it's not likely that the OP gonna find somebody just by chance that is willing to go along with it. So I gotta admire the OP for being up front.

There was a time when I would've made fun out of this thread, but it all seems so normal these days.

Yes I see where youre going and you have a point there. Might be a good thing to put the wish in her profile, you never know how many people read that.

Must say though that any thread you do not make fun of, surprises the hell out of me

Yeah! putting it in the profile is a great idea. and prevents having the pee taken out of you on a public forum!.



Hey, I'm a good boy!

lol well Im glad no one is making fun of me, I can usually take it with a grain of salt and joke about it anyway to be honest.

I feel weird saying this but I dont really have much of a RL, Im married in RL and have numerous fertility issues and so my ideal SL is having a family like that and of course my RL hubby thinks SL is dumb so there is no chance of him being my SL partner. Ive thought of making another person and trying to do it that way so Im controlling both and I have the computers to do it lol but I imagine it wouldnt be as fun.

I know Im probably not the norm when it comes to SL and I was really about to stop playing it again because it just wasnt suiting what I wanted but I thought I would ask on here before I make any drastic decisions lol. I have some friends and a few guys Ive met, one already involved with my best friend on SL and one who just really isnt looking for what Im looking for. Ive gone to a few clubs but it seems like everywhere is dead that I go.

I will turn on my PM's as soon as I finish this post. I forget that on some forums you have to do it yourself.

I would suggest looking for groups that suit your interest. Though searching for 'family' might get you people pretending to be the mafia. Try adoption groups.

Stick with SL Faye, just look for some areas people meet in, hang around and chat, meeting people around camp fires will probably be better than meeting them at a club.

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Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!
I am warning you!

Remember this day, remember you have been warned.

Unless you plan to also RP the demise of a family, don't rp the relationship, someone is going to get too attached and possibly wind up getting hurt.


Wanna have an SL baby? Go to the club, take some "Joe" home, get pregnant, and spend the rest of your Slife looking for him again with your baby in your arms. (hmmmm, good idea, guess what I am going to do today).

Try the Date Bar. It is a yuppie-like bar for sexy singles to mingle. We mostly all use voice and the people are usually normal. We have relationship chats, speed dating, pool parties and formal events. You can find a bunch hanging out getting their chat on late at night.

There is a free-to-join vendor sysetm that you can have your profile added to for matchmaking. Most get hooked up by just meeting people that enter the venue. Just check my picks to teleport over and check it out.

It is so tempting to tell you now that there are some very friendly folks gathering daily at Bear Infohub. Almost too easy. So I won't

I own POP Industries and provide pregnant bellies and other like items.I will tell you there is no shortage of men willing to help you out and roleplay a family in this realm that I work and play in.


I literally had to beat them off with a stick it seemed at first when I went out solo, Bu then again Im not a shy person. Stop in and introduce yourself. I have 2 guys in mind who are real people and wouldnt have a problem hooking you up in their cases.

POP Industries #1 and #2 on VERONA and also on Unknown Tranquility!
Ciera Spyker
The Preggo Goddess

http://slurl.com/secondlife/verona/63/202/25/ This is for POP2
http://slurl.com/secondlife/Unknown%20Tranquility/123/134/24/ POP1

some of my busiest times are 11pm to 2 am CST

Might as well put it in your forum signature, and the caption for your forum picture.

You could put "I'm looking for a mate." in a titler so you have hovertext saying that floating over your head all the time.

Perhaps a "Mate Wanted" t-shirt.

First of all, welcome!

Second, there IS NO "NORMAL" in SL. We are all here for varying reasons. Some for business, some for pleasure, some for both, some for research, etc. Each and every single person here wants something a little different than everyone else, just like in RL. If we were all the same, it'd be one hell of a boring place. Just like in RL.

Third, the best way to find anything is to not look for it, just like in RL. If you want only to go through an SL pregnancy and have a prim baby, go for it. You don't need a man to care for a baby, just like in RL. Millions of women do it every day. Sounds like what YOU want is a full-blown family role-play. You might try hanging out in some "kid" oriented places, like Livingtree. Note that the "kids" that you see will actually be adults pretending to be kids. This is what THEY want out of SL. They might be able to help you find a family. Good luck and remember that there is no normal here.

Here is a chance for a service industry....A MatchMaker or Dating Service.

The artificial insemination thread is back, and it has taken an angry turn.


Seriously, Oryx's advice is good. If you want to RP having a family you might really like spending some time with SL kids, maybe even forming a family with one or more eventually.


As for a partner, it might work out fine as strictly roleplay, but feelings can get very real here. Something to keep in mind.

Good Luck!

I totally agree. I think that it is wise to make your intentions clear from the beginning. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up to be disappointed or hurt. Plus, with the information being offered straight away, you are more likely to find a person with the same interests.

There are dating services in world, I have seen a couple of them. I had a friend who put his information up and had some luck! I think that the t-shirt idea is a great one!

I would say that your best bet is to go to couple friendly places like Franks or Sweethearts and start meeting men who are interested in something other than just sex.

If you start the old fashioned way and have patience, you will meet someone that you are really interested in spending IW time with. Instead of someone that you tolerate and end up sharing custody of your child av with.

As far as Jez's advice...it is right and wrong. I think that the fact is that 50% of rl relationships end in divorce and I would guess that the % IW is quite bit higher. The likelihood of someone getting attached and hurt is pretty much a guarantee. But IMO, the risk is worth the reward. I would rather spend a short time with someone special and hurt for a short time than miss the whole thing.

Since you are married IRL, why not have your husband come in world and role play together. Otherwise...this might affect your marriage.

Just my (way more than) 2c

Damn, if you are interested in meeting someone...fix that profile man!

I keep on hearing about the Bear Infohub...what is that?

See the "Full Sim" thread. Enter at your own risk.


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You could always bonk them over the head, then use an entrapment HUD to drag em into your virtual crib, but nvm that's against TOS.

I KNOW...

1. Go to onna them lil companies who makes your skin w/ your RL face.

2. Use Simon Cowell's face instead of your own.

3. Hit the nightclubs. INSTANT pootie-tang!

I'm not really interested in virtual stuff. I like to be able to taste my soup.

Oooh, yeah. I'm new to SL, but not new to MMORPGS, and I've seen things happen to RL relationships because of IW goings-on. Bring the spouse into the game and everyone has fun.