SL sex, is it for despos?

Mmmm...well given that the average RL age of people in SL is actually quite high...i'd say its exactly the opposite to what Booby's saying there.
I think most adults who have had or do have a good RL sex life find the mind to mind contact in SL mindblowing. No touch? no smell?...you aint doing it right friend..lol
Two things required...a mind and a RL sex life.

Reading some of this thread a quote I like keeps popping into my head.

I think it was John Lennon that said,

"Sex is just 99% imagination, and 1% friction."



If you have a good imagination, the friction isn't hard to come by.

agreed LOL

~Lana Tomba

Come off it Jumpybooby ... the lack of originality ... next you'll be going "OMG are you all still talking about VOICE have you no LIFE?"

(I might be wrong. These three might be separate people but yanno what? MEH ... just meh)

ROFLMAO!!

Ok, so I'm not the only one who's done the "Chicks With Dicks" routine!

Sometimes its fun to mess with horny desperate noobs!

I gotta get working on my 2Girls1Cup poseball SOON!

Well you just said the brain is the biggest sex organ!!

I'm still out on whether this is Jumpman or not.

Silence from both quarters.

Sudden reappearance.

Both as egregious.

Occam's Razor is not foolproof ... but ...

lol
that about says it all

bows to Tex.....

Short repsonse:

had great sex in 1st life
had great sex in 2nd life
very interested in sensuality in both lives...

Different forms of the same pleasure.

2nd life sex is as intense in most cases, if done correctly, as 1st life sex, sometimes more so... a direct connection to the other person's mind and emotions... moment by moment communication....

knowing what great sex feels like in the first place is necessary for great 2nd life sex, as well as openness, imagination, inventiveness and willingness to try whatever it is that turns you on that you've not done before.....

and it's not about the pose balls... i've had great sex with my lovers standing near each other in a clothing store....it's about the chat... about the connection... soul to soul....

to repeat... the mind is the most powerful sex organ....

In a clothing store you say...my oh my you are an interesting guy arent you....and if it was a store in a skybox you could say you joined the mile high club.... but personally I think that nothing could be more fun then the bow of the Titanic, how romantic and sexy, or maybe Van Gogh's bridge....lol, the mind is indeed powerful, is it not?

mmmm what a sensual girl you are....
perhaps we should meet....

Hi

Having sex in SL, is not just cartoons "pixelling" each other, nor is it about seeking sexual (physical) enjoyment provided by somebody else ( although masturbating is pretty common when having virtual sex) It is triggering certain emotions just like any interaction between humans.

The OP actually used the right terminology and unknowingly answered his own question, if it was a question. If it was a statement, and not a question, the he proved his own statement wrong by using the term:

Virtual interaction

Yes its virtual, nevertheless an interaction. Just like a griefer pushing an avatar might cause feelings like anger, and distress, virtual sex may convey feelings like closeness, warmness, romantic mood and so on.

"Sex talk" like : "she lets her hand slide into his trousers", does something in the brain of the other person, it releases certain hormones which trigger certain feelings. Just like a phrase like "Jim slaps her in the face" as "Action talk" might upset the other person involved.

A key component of this physical awareness involves the dynamics of personal space, not unlike face-to-face relationships. Users instinctively feel that the area on and immediately around their avatar is THEIR personal zone. Step on it without invitation, and they quickly ask, then demand you to get off.

Persist, and some people will holler for a wizard to discipline you. If members don't interpret your behavior as an invasion, they will experience it as an intimate advance. Simply to move towards and stand next to someone is seen as an act of friendship, or more. Cuddling may convey warm, sexual, or romantic feelings. They can very subtlety create emotional bonds.

Sometimes to the extrem that one person has similar feelings about someone like "falling in love" in RL.

On the other hand there are lots of folks in SL which simply SIMULATE a sexual or romantic interaction to see how it feels. The typical example would be someone with an avatar of the opposite gender.

Just like in real life there is however a big difference between just shagging someone or actually interact intimately with someone you like or care for.....

I suggest you try again...but as the other poster said, with an open mind not with preconceived ideas.

Just a Shrinks two cents

Maggie

Here in detail
http://www-usr.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/psyav.html

OK So... let me follow this one through here. What you are saying is that *your* version is right, everyone *else* is wrong and you prefer to get your humiliation by watching sex athletes doing it for money on DVD, which categorises you outside the "despo" bracket and therefore makes you feel good about your choices.

... though generally, people who actually *do* feel good about their choices, don't prop up their decision by crapping over the decisions of others.

There's a simple reality check which can easily be performed to see whether your outlook and choice mix is working well: next time one of your old friends tells you he's making a porno movie, go along to help out and listen in. You will rapidly discover that those pretty vacant types you're watching up on the screen have opinions on their audiences which make yours sound like Oprah delivering a cuddly fireside chat: hatred and contempt are barely big enough as words to encompass the range of their emotions. They are uber-sexual-winners, and not all that smart, and they really do not want to hear about how all us paraplegic dwarfs with galloping psoriasis are making more money than they do.

(oh, you don't have friends who make porno movies? Actually, that might explain a lot...)

Yeah but it's not about that. This is the classic "socialisation is humiliation" theme from the darker recesses of Planet Nerd: the only tokens we are permitted to pass to and fro are about how arcane our rules are and what traps can be sprung on the unsuspecting. The more arcane the rule, the funnier it is - and playing the sexual 'bad guy' (irrespective of gender) seems to be something that happens a lot in SL without people ever looking deeper than the surface script - barbie-doll bitches are automatically treated like barbie-doll bitches, and fat balding slobs in flip-flops ditto.

it's like it's hard-wired. Which should be a field for study, not a field for goons with issues over their social position to interfere with other people's fun.

I am unrezzed clown who has lots of platonic fun
I have had several in my bed just for the cuddles and hugs, and nothing more
I can care and be cared for deeply but the poseballs I am sorry just make me laugh but this is from a guy who hasn't had any sex in years and doesn't miss it, cyber, poseball or rl sex.
If I was younger maybe it would be different.

I played around for a while with some of the Eliza-type systems and chatbots, back in the 90's. One system (which I now can't find) uses a pre-built vocabulary file along with a general parser to spit back at you what you feed into it: it took about an hour to "train" this system to be a halfway convincing Dominatrix. The really neat part was making it speak with a foreign accent, thereby covering up the little code glitches... I did this after seeing some stats from a guy running those phone sex lines, that showed clients were gravitating towards the lines which presented lower-IQ scripted fantasies. One of those clever ideas which was possibly a bit before it's time.

Casting aside booby's evident troll motivation for a sec, if you discard the body-fascist insult vocab and the humpty-dumpty social smugness, there is an underlying point: a lot of the sex on offer in SL is low-quality. Much like a lot of the sex on offer in real life, in fact: people don't tend to pay attention to doing good sex. This is often because their intellect gets turned off when their genitals are turned on: in SL this is where one gets the old game of "holding down the M key".

Too much exposure to that could easily make any of us see things "the booby way".

That is interested I spent few years long time ago in my 20s working for phone sex line.
Some guys wanted very complex fantasies, where others just wanted to talk and were lonesome. Then there were really strange callers.

Well indeed; and the persistent point which everyone seems to be re-surprised by over and over again is, both SL and these forums are haunted by another breed of "strange caller": the social hot-button basher. I tend to characterise these guys as glum college students, but I suspect the source group is a bit wider than that: people who have lost out socially somehow, and have decided that they should spread the gloom, wherever possible. We call them "trolls" and "griefers" but even those labels don't seem to lessen their impact, or indeed get them out of whatever depression drives them to do their thing.

So when these threads (or the incidents that spark them) kick off, what I think we have here is a kind of "Virtual Columbine". Being English, it tickles me to claim that this is purely an American problem, and other nationalities have other sins; but there are plenty of examples of depressive players from all the places able to connect to SL.

perhaps we should......

I smell Troll pew pew..someone get the bleach

well i should look at the page amount next time..i never would have thought this one would go to 10 lol

Gummi makes some very interesting points. (#143).

Something I have noticed and found interesting is why certain people have to degrade or insult anything they don't like.

For an example if I say I like folk music, people that don't will respond that they like rock, classical, or whatever better. For some reason, certain people can't leave it at that, they insist on telling you why they hate folk music and why I should to. I really don't understand where the "if I don't like it, it has to be wrong" attitude comes from.

The Bible.

That made me LOL.

Younger, my father told me, (after hearing me say I hated such-n-such music)
"No such thing as bad music. There's only music you like, and music you don't like."
You can apply this to just about anything. His observation always stuck with me.