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Tiana Whitfield

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01-18-2008 09:10

I'm a great believer in the mind being one of the most powerful sexual organs..

*sighs* But not everyone is as lucky I guess.. but instead needs a map, compass and directions drawn for them

2k Suisei

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01-18-2008 09:13

From: Yosef Okelly

This is probably true. The AV, however, was created this month. I was born May 1, 1961 but my AV is much younger.

You really blew your cred right there. Still, I'll bite. If you are keeping score for trool points that's another one in your favor, I'll give you that.

The attraction? It really depends on how you view sex in generl. To me, sex is the ultimate from of communication. What you just used as arguments against are the arguments I use for it. There is no touch, no smell, it's totally untactile. Any thing that is done, is done with words. Thoughts are what count. One mind to another. One human to another. Completely seperated from this meat shell we all live in so there is nothing to hide behind or get in the way. You can touch the person where they truly are; inside. You do not even need to be having sex on a pose ball to do this, it is just the intamancy associated with physical sex ehlps the perticipants open themselves up to each other. The same can be said of slow dancing or even sitting on a park bench. After all, once it becomes totaly untactile all you have left is communication; this is where true feeling lay waiting. Why do you think people "fall in love" so easily in SL? They are experiencing a level of communiation that is not normal in RL.

If, on the other hand, sex is just your ability to bust a nut then you don't need a person, just a body. In that case then a partner is superflous anyway.

Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.

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01-18-2008 09:15

From: 2k Suisei

Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.

or even human?
great now im gonna have visions of my cats logging on to have slsex at night while im sleeping

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01-18-2008 09:15

From: 2k Suisei

Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.

Nope.

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01-18-2008 09:17

From: Arua Rotaru

or even human?
great now im gonna have visions of my cats logging on to have slsex at night while im sleeping

damn furries.

Phil Deakins

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01-18-2008 09:18

From: 2k Suisei

Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.

Definitely!

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Kira Cuddihy

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01-18-2008 10:10

From: Lear Cale

To appreciate SL sex, it takes an imagination.
For most humans, imagination is the most important source "G-spot".
Get the implication?

Yes, the "B-spot". Obviously not everyone was born with one. (not refering to you Lear, smiles at him)

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01-18-2008 10:19

Seriously, Im gonna start jumping up and down waving my arms here in a minute but everyone is distracted by sex lol. The OP in world rez day IS in May...I have no clue why it shows as Jan 2008 on the forums but with that in mind, some others we have called alts or newbies could actually be older than the forums say. Doesnt make sense but, blame LL? Interesting that it takes some that long to find the forums only to post about...well, thats self explanitory.

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Trout Recreant

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01-18-2008 10:29

From: Dinalya Dawes

Seriously, Im gonna start jumping up and down waving my arms here in a minute but everyone is distracted by sex lol. The OP in world rez day IS in May...I have no clue why it shows as Jan 2008 on the forums but with that in mind, some others we have called alts or newbies could actually be older than the forums say. Doesnt make sense but, blame LL? Interesting that it takes some that long to find the forums only to post about...well, thats self explanitory.

I think the join date shown in the forums is linked to either the date that payment info was put on file or the date when the person actually started posting on the forums. It's not the rez-date.

OP: What's wrong with you? Seriously. Are you socially retarded or just a jackass? I'm so sick and tired of people coming in here and telling other people what a bunch of losers they are for doing things that the poster doesn't find enjoyable. I bet the OP has some interest that I wouldn't enjoy. That doesn't make him a loser or an idiot. There are apparently developmental steps he has missed in life which make him a loser and an idiot, but not the fact that he does things differently than I do.

People are individuals. They have different likes and dislikes. That doesn't give you license to abuse them and generally act like you are better than them. You aren't being funny. You're just being a dick. When you judge people or abuse them, you aren't "expressing an opinion" you're being a dick. There's nothing you're doing that deserves to be treated with respect. I don't want to hate you or pick on you or anything else. I just want you to stop being a dick and leave people be.

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MadamG Zagato

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01-18-2008 10:31

This should definitley be a poll

Sally Silvera

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01-18-2008 10:32

From: Trout Recreant

I think the join date shown in the forums is linked to either the date that payment info was put on file or the date when the person actually started posting on the forums. It's not the rez-date.

Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums.

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Yosef Okelly

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01-18-2008 10:33

From: 2k Suisei

Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.

You asked, so I'll go there.
-- Before I get started, I just want to say for the record, I would perfer the person behind the avatar to be human --

I met a woman. It was love at first "sight." We had so much in common and what was not common was complimentary. Her strengths filled my flaws. We were delieriously happy together. We both understod that we would give each other everything in SL that we could; but SL is all that we could give. But then I found something that said she was not a she at all. I exploded. I was mean and vile. I fucked up. I said things that can never be taken back.

I miss her still. I love her still. But the trust is completly distroyed. There is nothing but heartache there now, for both of us.

I thought I cared whether they other person was male or female. I have since learned different.. I want a female spirit.

I know this is short, curt and without my usually flowery spin but it still hurts on so many levels. The things I said. The pain I caused. The gift I pissed away. It makes it hard to look in the mirror if I think about it to long.

Drama, drama, drama. Everyone has drama. It is the universal constant of SL. This was a piece of mine.

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01-18-2008 10:36

From: Sally Silvera

Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums.

I knew it was something like that. One problem solved.

Now, problem 2: trying to convince the OP to stop being a dick.

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01-18-2008 10:36

From: Sally Silvera

Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums.

I first logged on to the forum a little over two weeks ago. It was the week betwen Christmas and New Years (home on holiday) but I don't remember the specific date.

--edit--
Or maybe I sould say, the first time I remeber. It is possible I wound up on the forums when I was first downloading SL and getting started, but I don't that is the case. Still, hard to say with 100% certanty

Sally Silvera

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01-18-2008 10:39

From: Yosef Okelly

I first logged on to the forum a little over two weeks ago. It was the week betwen Christmas and New Years (home on holiday) but I don't remember the specific date.

/me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then

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01-18-2008 10:42

-wraps her arms around Yosef, and holds Him gently- I am so sorry my dear. For some reason I feel if his/her love for you was genuine they would have eventually forgiven you. At least I would. I have felt that pain before but not because I am not who I claim to be. Just a simple misunderstanding in typed words can do the same thing.

I hope one day this person that means so much to you will find it in themselves to forgive you. Yes it is a genuine loss, but I do believe it is theirs.

/me kisses Him gently on the cheek while ruffling His hair

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01-18-2008 10:46

From: Sally Silvera

/me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then

Mine is showing my actual sl join date. I first visited the forums in 02/07, became a premium member in 12/06. I remember it well. I do wonder however if LL may have changed the rules since then.

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Mortus Allen

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01-18-2008 11:08

From: Booby Babenco

LOL keep telling yourself that. Its got nothing to do with thinking its dirty or being holier than thou, its to do with how ridiculous and unrealistic and unsatisfying I think sl sex is. Of course Ive tried it and in all honesty I didnt expect it to turn me on and I was right, it didnt. In real life Im very much in touch with my inner slut and I dont care how people perceive me.
I suppose if youre a paraplegic obese dwarf amputee with cystic acne vulgaris , a micro penis and genital fungus then sl sex is better than nothing but still I think a porn flick would a better job.

You tried it and didn't expect it to turn you on? Well that is your whole problem Booby, SL Sex, well SL Love Making, is soo much more than hopping on pose balls with a humping animation. If your partner does not interest you in the least you will get no satisfaction out of sex with them, SL or RL. Yes SL sex does not have the physical element between partners, but the mental and emotional involvement is still there, for lovers anyway. Personally I don't thing "Casual Sex" has much emotional involvement, that is just my opinion.

Now when I met the woman/avatar that is now my SL Wife, neither of us were looking for sex or even a relationship for our different reasons. We started to talk, think I opened by complimenting her hair and noticing she was pretty new to SL asked her how she liked it so far. One thing led to another and we fell for each other, I resisted (Yes a guy resisted being with a woman, who knew that could happen?) but ultimately we did fall in love. Now we are partnered, call each other husband and wife, exchange emails as our Avie selves when we can't be in world together, and make SL Love together regularly, and it is very satifying because its not just an animation to us, we rarely follow the animation for our textie love anyway, it is a expression of our deep feelings for each other and our mutual sharing in most aspects of ourselves.

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What is a DESPO???

01-18-2008 11:23

So boobie...what is a despo?
I am not familiar with the word...
Is it short for someone who is desparate?

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Max Herzog

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01-18-2008 11:31

From: Sally Silvera

/me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then

It shows my rez date, if that helps

I only started using / viewing the forums pretty recently

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01-18-2008 11:38

From: Kira Cuddihy

Mine is showing my actual sl join date. I first visited the forums in 02/07, became a premium member in 12/06. I remember it well. I do wonder however if LL may have changed the rules since then.

I'm not sure. My rez day is 2/22/07, but the forum join date says March, 2006. I also put payment info on my account the first day I joined SL last February. I thought the date listed in the forums was the date you first posted to the forums. But that doesn't seem to be the case for some people.

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01-18-2008 11:45

From: Graphicguru Gustav

So boobie...what is a despo?
I am not familiar with the word...
Is it short for someone who is desparate?

I was thinking despot or despotisim. Imagine my disapointment when I read the post. Gee, talk about crushing someone's hopes.

Isabeau Imako

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01-18-2008 11:49

From: Yosef Okelly

I was thinking despot or despotisim. Imagine my disapointment when I read the post. Gee, talk about crushing someone's hopes.

(I thought the same thing. I guess we're just not into this lingo.) What must that mean about us for rushing to view the thread? Hmm...

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01-18-2008 11:50

From: Claire Silverspar

Careful, Say his name too many times and he might just appear. Kinda like beetlejuice. Only wierder...and much more harmless.

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*laughs and snorts* Good one Claire.

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01-18-2008 11:57

From: Graphicguru Gustav

So boobie...what is a despo?
I am not familiar with the word...
Is it short for someone who is desparate?

Boobie's long gone, lol! But yes, you're right, Urban Dictionary:

1. despos

plural: see despo

people who are desperate, who hang around waiting for something to happen.

I would guess that Boobie means, are people who do sex in SL just desperate for sex? And I am going to buck the trend here and say, yes often that's true. By far the largest number of people who walk up to you and say 'ur hawt' are just looking for pr0n, either desperately or for lulz.

Interestingly, many here have chosen to answer a different question ... is SL sex a good expression of intimacy? And oh yes, of course it is. But Boobie isn't a giving enough, or fully-fledged enough, avatar to get near that emotional space.

Intimacy is good, no matter where we find it. When our hearts are cracked open to another, more than just their spirit floods in ... the world floods in.

Yosef, I had a similar thing happen, not over gender but other RL details ... we broke our trust and tho we still care, what we had is gone. *hugs you* Maybe it will come back for you, it isn't impossible to heal these things. (tho, lol, certainly mine & my guys will not come back, no.) Meanwhile, have some fun!

whatamisaying? clearly, no need to tell YOU that!

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SL sex, is it for despos?
Tiana Whitfield Forever And A Day Join date: 1 Apr 2007 Posts: 702	01-18-2008 09:10 I'm a great believer in the mind being one of the most powerful sexual organs.. sighs But not everyone is as lucky I guess.. but instead needs a map, compass and directions drawn for them
2k Suisei Registered User Join date: 9 Nov 2006 Posts: 2,150	01-18-2008 09:13 From: Yosef Okelly This is probably true. The AV, however, was created this month. I was born May 1, 1961 but my AV is much younger. You really blew your cred right there. Still, I'll bite. If you are keeping score for trool points that's another one in your favor, I'll give you that. The attraction? It really depends on how you view sex in generl. To me, sex is the ultimate from of communication. What you just used as arguments against are the arguments I use for it. There is no touch, no smell, it's totally untactile. Any thing that is done, is done with words. Thoughts are what count. One mind to another. One human to another. Completely seperated from this meat shell we all live in so there is nothing to hide behind or get in the way. You can touch the person where they truly are; inside. You do not even need to be having sex on a pose ball to do this, it is just the intamancy associated with physical sex ehlps the perticipants open themselves up to each other. The same can be said of slow dancing or even sitting on a park bench. After all, once it becomes totaly untactile all you have left is communication; this is where true feeling lay waiting. Why do you think people "fall in love" so easily in SL? They are experiencing a level of communiation that is not normal in RL. If, on the other hand, sex is just your ability to bust a nut then you don't need a person, just a body. In that case then a partner is superflous anyway. Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?.
Arua Rotaru Registered User Join date: 28 Jun 2007 Posts: 390	01-18-2008 09:15 From: 2k Suisei Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?. or even human? great now im gonna have visions of my cats logging on to have slsex at night while im sleeping _____________________ Check out my items: http://www.slexchange.com/modules.php?name=Marketplace&MerchantID=72411
Brenda Connolly Un United Avatar Join date: 10 Jan 2007 Posts: 25,000	01-18-2008 09:15 From: 2k Suisei Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?. Nope. _____________________ Don't you ever try to look behind my eyes. You don't want to know what they have seen. http://brenda-connolly.blogspot.com
2k Suisei Registered User Join date: 9 Nov 2006 Posts: 2,150	01-18-2008 09:17 From: Arua Rotaru or even human? great now im gonna have visions of my cats logging on to have slsex at night while im sleeping damn furries.
Phil Deakins Prim Savers = low prims Join date: 17 Jan 2007 Posts: 9,537	01-18-2008 09:18 From: 2k Suisei Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?. Definitely! _____________________ Prim Savers - almost 1000 items of superbly crafted, top quality, very low prim furniture, and all at amazingly low prices. http://slurl.com/secondlife/Seymour/213/120/251/
Kira Cuddihy Registered User Join date: 29 Nov 2006 Posts: 1,375	01-18-2008 10:10 From: Lear Cale To appreciate SL sex, it takes an imagination. For most humans, imagination is the most important source "G-spot". Get the implication? Yes, the "B-spot". Obviously not everyone was born with one. (not refering to you Lear, smiles at him) _____________________
Dinalya Dawes =^.^= Join date: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 424	01-18-2008 10:19 Seriously, Im gonna start jumping up and down waving my arms here in a minute but everyone is distracted by sex lol. The OP in world rez day IS in May...I have no clue why it shows as Jan 2008 on the forums but with that in mind, some others we have called alts or newbies could actually be older than the forums say. Doesnt make sense but, blame LL? Interesting that it takes some that long to find the forums only to post about...well, thats self explanitory. _____________________ http://slgrandillusion.blogspot.com http://www.flickr.com/photos/dinalyadawes/
Trout Recreant Public Enemy No. 1 Join date: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 4,873	01-18-2008 10:29 From: Dinalya Dawes Seriously, Im gonna start jumping up and down waving my arms here in a minute but everyone is distracted by sex lol. The OP in world rez day IS in May...I have no clue why it shows as Jan 2008 on the forums but with that in mind, some others we have called alts or newbies could actually be older than the forums say. Doesnt make sense but, blame LL? Interesting that it takes some that long to find the forums only to post about...well, thats self explanitory. I think the join date shown in the forums is linked to either the date that payment info was put on file or the date when the person actually started posting on the forums. It's not the rez-date. OP: What's wrong with you? Seriously. Are you socially retarded or just a jackass? I'm so sick and tired of people coming in here and telling other people what a bunch of losers they are for doing things that the poster doesn't find enjoyable. I bet the OP has some interest that I wouldn't enjoy. That doesn't make him a loser or an idiot. There are apparently developmental steps he has missed in life which make him a loser and an idiot, but not the fact that he does things differently than I do. People are individuals. They have different likes and dislikes. That doesn't give you license to abuse them and generally act like you are better than them. You aren't being funny. You're just being a dick. When you judge people or abuse them, you aren't "expressing an opinion" you're being a dick. There's nothing you're doing that deserves to be treated with respect. I don't want to hate you or pick on you or anything else. I just want you to stop being a dick and leave people be. _____________________ From: Jerboa Haystack A Trout Rating (tm) is something to cherish. To flaunt and be proud of. It is something all women should aspire to obtain!
MadamG Zagato means business Join date: 17 Sep 2005 Posts: 1,402	01-18-2008 10:31 This should definitley be a poll
Sally Silvera live music maniac Join date: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 2,325	01-18-2008 10:32 From: Trout Recreant I think the join date shown in the forums is linked to either the date that payment info was put on file or the date when the person actually started posting on the forums. It's not the rez-date. Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums. _____________________
Yosef Okelly Mostly Harmless Join date: 26 Aug 2007 Posts: 2,692	01-18-2008 10:33 From: 2k Suisei Does it matter to you whether the person behind the avatar is male or female?. Or even human?. You asked, so I'll go there. -- Before I get started, I just want to say for the record, I would perfer the person behind the avatar to be human -- I met a woman. It was love at first "sight." We had so much in common and what was not common was complimentary. Her strengths filled my flaws. We were delieriously happy together. We both understod that we would give each other everything in SL that we could; but SL is all that we could give. But then I found something that said she was not a she at all. I exploded. I was mean and vile. I fucked up. I said things that can never be taken back. I miss her still. I love her still. But the trust is completly distroyed. There is nothing but heartache there now, for both of us. I thought I cared whether they other person was male or female. I have since learned different.. I want a female spirit. I know this is short, curt and without my usually flowery spin but it still hurts on so many levels. The things I said. The pain I caused. The gift I pissed away. It makes it hard to look in the mirror if I think about it to long. Drama, drama, drama. Everyone has drama. It is the universal constant of SL. This was a piece of mine.
Trout Recreant Public Enemy No. 1 Join date: 24 Jul 2007 Posts: 4,873	01-18-2008 10:36 From: Sally Silvera Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums. I knew it was something like that. One problem solved. Now, problem 2: trying to convince the OP to stop being a dick. _____________________ From: Jerboa Haystack A Trout Rating (tm) is something to cherish. To flaunt and be proud of. It is something all women should aspire to obtain!
Yosef Okelly Mostly Harmless Join date: 26 Aug 2007 Posts: 2,692	01-18-2008 10:36 From: Sally Silvera Join date in the forum profile is the date the person first logs into the forums. I first logged on to the forum a little over two weeks ago. It was the week betwen Christmas and New Years (home on holiday) but I don't remember the specific date. --edit-- Or maybe I sould say, the first time I remeber. It is possible I wound up on the forums when I was first downloading SL and getting started, but I don't that is the case. Still, hard to say with 100% certanty
Sally Silvera live music maniac Join date: 17 Feb 2007 Posts: 2,325	01-18-2008 10:39 From: Yosef Okelly I first logged on to the forum a little over two weeks ago. It was the week betwen Christmas and New Years (home on holiday) but I don't remember the specific date. /me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then _____________________
Kira Cuddihy Registered User Join date: 29 Nov 2006 Posts: 1,375	01-18-2008 10:42 -wraps her arms around Yosef, and holds Him gently- I am so sorry my dear. For some reason I feel if his/her love for you was genuine they would have eventually forgiven you. At least I would. I have felt that pain before but not because I am not who I claim to be. Just a simple misunderstanding in typed words can do the same thing. I hope one day this person that means so much to you will find it in themselves to forgive you. Yes it is a genuine loss, but I do believe it is theirs. /me kisses Him gently on the cheek while ruffling His hair _____________________
Kira Cuddihy Registered User Join date: 29 Nov 2006 Posts: 1,375	01-18-2008 10:46 From: Sally Silvera /me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then Mine is showing my actual sl join date. I first visited the forums in 02/07, became a premium member in 12/06. I remember it well. I do wonder however if LL may have changed the rules since then. _____________________
Mortus Allen Registered User Join date: 28 Apr 2007 Posts: 528	01-18-2008 11:08 From: Booby Babenco LOL keep telling yourself that. Its got nothing to do with thinking its dirty or being holier than thou, its to do with how ridiculous and unrealistic and unsatisfying I think sl sex is. Of course Ive tried it and in all honesty I didnt expect it to turn me on and I was right, it didnt. In real life Im very much in touch with my inner slut and I dont care how people perceive me. I suppose if youre a paraplegic obese dwarf amputee with cystic acne vulgaris , a micro penis and genital fungus then sl sex is better than nothing but still I think a porn flick would a better job. You tried it and didn't expect it to turn you on? Well that is your whole problem Booby, SL Sex, well SL Love Making, is soo much more than hopping on pose balls with a humping animation. If your partner does not interest you in the least you will get no satisfaction out of sex with them, SL or RL. Yes SL sex does not have the physical element between partners, but the mental and emotional involvement is still there, for lovers anyway. Personally I don't thing "Casual Sex" has much emotional involvement, that is just my opinion. Now when I met the woman/avatar that is now my SL Wife, neither of us were looking for sex or even a relationship for our different reasons. We started to talk, think I opened by complimenting her hair and noticing she was pretty new to SL asked her how she liked it so far. One thing led to another and we fell for each other, I resisted (Yes a guy resisted being with a woman, who knew that could happen?) but ultimately we did fall in love. Now we are partnered, call each other husband and wife, exchange emails as our Avie selves when we can't be in world together, and make SL Love together regularly, and it is very satifying because its not just an animation to us, we rarely follow the animation for our textie love anyway, it is a expression of our deep feelings for each other and our mutual sharing in most aspects of ourselves.
Graphicguru Gustav Accepts head scritchings! Join date: 5 Oct 2007 Posts: 775	What is a DESPO??? 01-18-2008 11:23 So boobie...what is a despo? I am not familiar with the word... Is it short for someone who is desparate? _____________________ I am officialy lurking the forums, trying real hard to not be noticed... Junk & stuff I do... http://tinyurl.com/3549gg
Max Herzog Cloudy Join date: 9 Jul 2006 Posts: 1,073	01-18-2008 11:31 From: Sally Silvera /me hopes someone will come along with the right answer then It shows my rez date, if that helps I only started using / viewing the forums pretty recently _____________________ I do not like your tone. It has an ephemeral, whinging aspect. Gratuitous Flickrage http://www.flickr.com/photos/24213150@N04
Sunni Jewell Who said so? Join date: 22 Mar 2007 Posts: 748	01-18-2008 11:38 From: Kira Cuddihy Mine is showing my actual sl join date. I first visited the forums in 02/07, became a premium member in 12/06. I remember it well. I do wonder however if LL may have changed the rules since then. I'm not sure. My rez day is 2/22/07, but the forum join date says March, 2006. I also put payment info on my account the first day I joined SL last February. I thought the date listed in the forums was the date you first posted to the forums. But that doesn't seem to be the case for some people. _____________________ Why, anybody can have a brain. That's a very mediocre commodity. Every pusillanimous creature that crawls on the Earth or slinks through slimy seas has a brain-The Wizard of Oz
Yosef Okelly Mostly Harmless Join date: 26 Aug 2007 Posts: 2,692	01-18-2008 11:45 From: Graphicguru Gustav So boobie...what is a despo? I am not familiar with the word... Is it short for someone who is desparate? I was thinking despot or despotisim. Imagine my disapointment when I read the post. Gee, talk about crushing someone's hopes.
Isabeau Imako P'tite Poulette Join date: 13 Sep 2007 Posts: 2,335	01-18-2008 11:49 From: Yosef Okelly I was thinking despot or despotisim. Imagine my disapointment when I read the post. Gee, talk about crushing someone's hopes. (I thought the same thing. I guess we're just not into this lingo.) What must that mean about us for rushing to view the thread? Hmm...
Solanghe Sarlo Gypsy Free Thinker Join date: 19 Jul 2006 Posts: 644	01-18-2008 11:50 From: Claire Silverspar Careful, Say his name too many times and he might just appear. Kinda like beetlejuice. Only wierder...and much more harmless. . laughs and snorts Good one Claire. _____________________ The key to a contented life: Figure out who you are, what you are, fix what you can and make peace with the rest.
Nika Talaj now you see her ... Join date: 2 Jan 2007 Posts: 5,449	01-18-2008 11:57 From: Graphicguru Gustav So boobie...what is a despo? I am not familiar with the word... Is it short for someone who is desparate? Boobie's long gone, lol! But yes, you're right, Urban Dictionary: 1. despos plural: see despo people who are desperate, who hang around waiting for something to happen. I would guess that Boobie means, are people who do sex in SL just desperate for sex? And I am going to buck the trend here and say, yes often that's true. By far the largest number of people who walk up to you and say 'ur hawt' are just looking for pr0n, either desperately or for lulz. Interestingly, many here have chosen to answer a different question ... is SL sex a good expression of intimacy? And oh yes, of course it is. But Boobie isn't a giving enough, or fully-fledged enough, avatar to get near that emotional space. Intimacy is good, no matter where we find it. When our hearts are cracked open to another, more than just their spirit floods in ... the world floods in. Yosef, I had a similar thing happen, not over gender but other RL details ... we broke our trust and tho we still care, what we had is gone. hugs you Maybe it will come back for you, it isn't impossible to heal these things. (tho, lol, certainly mine & my guys will not come back, no.) Meanwhile, have some fun! whatamisaying? clearly, no need to tell YOU that! _____________________ . To contact forum folks, join the inworld group "The Forum Cartel". New residents with questions about SL more than welcome! We has parties! To contact forum scripters, join the inworld group "Scriptoratti" (thanks Void!). New scripter questions welcome!

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