A Diabolic Partner

Well, if I needed an example of over-emotional over-reaction that would do just fine. You could have put me on ignore, or set options to omit images, or wait until everyone else stopped posting lolcats which offended me just as much, but instead you gave up something you had presumably hitherto enjoyed. Have you learned something about yourself as a consequence? There's your mirror.


Telepathy is not a great basis for argument.

Pep (I am not responsible for what you think or feel)

PS Nothing to argue with in your post Deira.

If I pay, I can post. So Hal gets 100 lindens.

Interesting discussion on my character. I think Pep is correct; I do need a father-figure. My own fathers have not been failures as such; one (biological) is remote. One (step-) is dead - of dementia finally. He was much older than my Mum. They just had incredibly high expectations which I tried to meet - and did except NOT in what they wanted me to be.

Hal IS concerned I spend an inordinately long time here. My work is to blame. Intense periods of action followed by long periods in the day when I have to wait in relative boredom. I listen to BBC on internet/ read and "find my space" for what I do. I discovered SL by accident that way.

I am nothing like Pep sees me - or any one else for that matter. At least I don't think so! I regard myself as well-educated (to a point - I dont have degrees), funny, and well-liked. I am known for debate and argument. In real, people LIKE me. Maybe I return to forums to repair the "dislike" I sense. I am "audience-reliant" - a dissatified audience means I have failed in some way that I must repair. I am driven by that.

Pep has been accurate to a great degree. Maybe he does "see" me for who I am. Spoilt, irresposnible, noisy (I am always tabled in a restaurant with my guests as far away as possible from everyone else), recovering always from some addictive trait. One poster was wrong - I don't see myself as better as anyone else - I want people to see what I see in how wonderful life happens to be. Real life.

My occupation "removes" me from people. It's quite lonely doing what I do for my "crust of bread". It's not a case of poor litttle rich girl, but more a case of just being me in a crowd of people and realizing they really think I am a bit of a cow, and more than a little spoilt and self-serving. Anyway, must go, coz I am about to start my day.

One additional point - unlike Pep, I DO feel responsible for how other people think or feel. Maybe that is the "artist" in me as opposed to the objective scientist in Pep. But he's not such a bad person if there is such a thing) - more a person who doesnt care for my kind of personality. That's cool.

Hi, Jig. Because of disagreements with my husband about SL, I am not around as much I once was, but I am still around. You (and Pep) are still on my friends list, so you'd see when I'm online, but I guess our schedules don't intersect much. I hope I do see you inworld soon.

Hugs,

Key

But you said:



Amaranthim offered up a very thoughtful post to your question. Did you miss it?



Looks like you missed it, because this was your next poat:



I don't buy that this is not a JIG LOOK AT ME, UNDERSTAND ME, FILL MY NEEDS WITH YOUR PRECIOUS TIME Post at all. You only respond if it is about YOU.....and about YOU getting your fix for the day.

That's great if people want to contribute to that - but it's not going to ultimately give you what you need - and fill all those gaps you have - it will only keep you from attaining it the right way.

I promise I will read what you have written properly when I am home. Jiggy.

Jig, I feel faintly relieved that there is at least one man in SL who is willing and able to act like a grown man - instead of acting like a teenager who has to have the last word and is very much in need of a Nanny! - and if you're only posting on Fridays, then we shall just have to make this one last all week.

PS - I'd let you post for 50 L$. How's that for a good deal?

If I had any idea who your partner was, I'd IM him and recommend that spanking.


















(Actually, I thought for the longest time that your partner was "Prok" when you wrote "Prof"... LOLz)

Any grown man or real man that I know, wouldn't put up with this SH*T for a minute.

Jig has always been about Jig. She loves to "hear" herself talk.

Hmm- not sure Mickey about the validity of the statement regarding her partner. We just do not know him at all from first hand interaction. And even Jig, we do not really know other than what she chooses to show us.

I had hinted at what my thoughts were on Jig's need for a father figure with the subtle reference to pop psy because i figured it was pretty obvious and did not need stating; she is self-aware enough to admit this is a drive in her. So going on a limb and assuming, since I do not have enough information to make a truly informed distillation, I think her partner recognizes this and wishes - for what ever his reasons- to fulfill that need.

Many of us enter into all kinds of relationships - both here and in the physical world - that may not be very obvious to another outside what could possibly be the draw. Granted in our SL many things are far more common than in the physical world, but not the least of value. She asks as part of the orginal question about being influenced. I danced about my answer because really what is between me and those who i share my life with is not necessarily for mass consumption, but I know as Hera, Damien's Partner, I deeply, deeply affected and I carry it out of SL and it truly is not an instant away from my mind regardless of where i am in my day's RL.

Yes, although sometimes the problem derives from the fact that the power relationship was hidden or disguised, or has changed.


Ok, this is dime-store psychologizing, of the sort that one might expect from someone who has just finished reading that 4 page article in "Psychology Today," or a text panel entitled "Electra Complex" in "Psychology for Dummies."

People just aren't that simple or predictable. I can guarantee that Jig isn't, certainly. What's more, you cannot possibly know, on the basis of what you have to go on, the full complexities of her relationship with her partner, or what motivates her. The BEST that you can do here is make some tentative observations about her self-presentation, about her "persona" if you will.

Pep, I am disappointed. I expect better from you. You of all people should be able to acknowledge complexity!

Don't we all? Hell- we are here aren't we?

Oh, missed this point. I agree pretty much, but I'm even more tentative about what I think I "know" about Jig -- or anyone else here.

Not really. I post to engage in conversations with other people that I enjoy posting with. I post to help others get a question answered(when I can help that is..) I don't post to hear myself talk or ramble on about my sex life and how young and beautiful I am.

Oh, I don't know. I have a thing for spoiled chicks. And this one would certainly earn the over the lap time. I sorta can't wait to get old to fulfill my destiny as a dirty old man.

Let me rephrase it.

Not fair to say that the partner that Jig is with....is an example of a mentally healthy and competent man, and an example of what a grown man should represent.....while dissing any other man in SL for NOT being such an outstanding example.....

When in fact.....the other men in SL who do not fit the bill of putting up with this constant nonsense are most definitely an example of a mentally healthy and competent man.

Better?

Hehe- I 'spose- but being rather twisted myself, I can't speak for other's sanity or lack thereof- you know, glass houses and all - but that's just me. I proly wouldn't know sane if it bit me.

As for men in general- I simply do not comprehend them nor would I wish to- the mystery is the great attraction and honestly would not change them one bit.

I'm pretty sure psychologists aren't gonna take your proposed measurement of mental fitness and run with it.

Just a sweeping generalization, Smith....to offset this sweeping generalization:

Oh well, there are one or two I've had the misfortune to have met that I'd change, given the right magic spell.


Into toads.

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Aes

We have your vanity shots for that.


/me winks

Seems to me that if your partner is requesting that you not post, and that if you loved and respected your partner and his needs, you wouldn't post.

Bring 'em on - I'll have 2 before breakfast!

Promises, promises... - oh bugger, I suppose you meant Jig!

Nah- those started out as rats (my apologies to rodentia kind)