Partner? Or no Partner

WoooHooo I love Erikur Darkholme!

We have been together in SL for more than 13 months.

He is my partner in everything I do in Second Life. I agree that Partner means different things to different people.

We are not into the SL Weddings that have been happening around us. We live in sin blissfully happy and we have outlived many of the "marriages" around us.

For me, Reve and I chosing each other as Partners was a mutual commitment which means very much to me.

But even if that program had not been started we already share everything. I trust him 100% and more.

*smiles and blows a kiss to the B-Boy* ~x~

That pretty much describes my partnership, Ace. That's how DarkDharma and I play SL. She creates her avatars, I do whatever I feel like. We live together in RL since 8 years. We met in a virtual world almost 9 years ago. The rest is history.

Dream

Those of you that have read Gia's first post know our story. It is amazing to me how love can be found outside of the physical world. If it wasn't happening to me I wouldn't believe it possible. I am thankful every day that she was there that night for me to find. I will never regret a moment of our time together.

Gia, you are my light and my world, I Love you.

Forever yours,
Robin

The most beautiful woman in SL, Yanne Proudfoot and I will have been together 4 months on the first day of the new year.

Awwwwwwwww I love this idea! Its the best way to share moments of with your fellow AV. I ts so cute!

I guess I do and I don't. So I selected don't *laugh*.

My RL hunnie sometimes plays SL, and we would both think that me having a "SL Relationship" would be very similar to cheating. I have no desire for pixel love, as I am a PG player. Power to the people who love virtual relationships. I met my love on EverQuest

And shame on those who have SL relationships when their husbands/wives don't know. If you cannot tell them something important such as having a second relationship on a game, then... erf. I'm not a relationship councillour. :/ I've seen innocent people hurt by things like that though.

Okay.

More beer.

I voted yes because i do have a partner and i love her more then anything in the world.
But why have any kind of partner's at all ? i have found that most people do not care and or dont see the hole partner thing as being something inportant at all.

Wow, my first post, and it's in a thread like this. What would me therapist think?

The 'officially or unofficially' kinda trips me up here - I do have one sweet lady whom I spend some SL time with, but we don't call it partnering. We're just friends. Is that so bad, really?

I sorta disagree with the possibility of platonic SL relationships - the couple of posts here seems to say that they're pretty hard to have. I don't seem to be having that problem in my first few weeks here in SL. My opinion is that one has to open oneself up (emotionally, psychologically, and philosophically) more for a platonic relationship to work.

Anyway, maybe I'll find a partner here, maybe I won't. For now, I'm just exploring and trying to figure out how people with only a week's experience are making fractal wings with scripting when I can't figure out how to make a color-change script function.

Great topic, by the way!

JG

I like you.

*sips more of her Jack and coke and lights another cigarette*

I have only been in SL a few weeks. I originally thought that on-line relationships were a bit of an urban myth - untill I kept meeting people who had been in them for years!

Well, I wasn't looking for one. Just there to create things and chat with folks.
I have made quite a few good male friends, not romantic, just good friends who I feel at ease with and enjoy their company (I am a bit of a tomboy so have always got on well with guys in rl).

But I have now met someone who is a much more special friend. I can't really say I know that much about him yet (we are still on the talking for ages stage!) but what I have seen of him so far is really wonderful. He is someone I really feel comfortable with - I am not a very confident person so that means a lot to me.
I love spending time with him, doing silly things together. He makes me feel special, wanted. I am sure you must be able to see my avatar smiling whenever he is around!

Anyway, to get back to the point! I am not sure if I could ever consider someone I have only met online a 'partner' in the conventional sense. I am reluctant to mix sl and rl for many reasons. But SL has forced me to readdress a lot of my previous convictions.

Well, I have only been here a little while - and a hell of a lot has happened since I got here! So we will see. lol

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Gia and Robin,

Yes, I think it's easy to dismiss the idea of online relationships until you have one. The emotions can be torrential - perhaps even more so than in real life, because the connection is in a way a tenuous one. But when you are with an online partner, you are responding to something in them which resonates with something within you, without the distraction of outside things getting in the way.

So anyway, best of luck to both of you, and I hope your love continues to grow.

Oh! You posting in here was something that I had not expected. I love you my Goddess. I think that people who don't understand what is going on in a Partnership like ours has just not been lucky enough to have the special someone send that tell to get them talking.

I love you my wife. You are the twinkle in my eye, the spring in my step and the smile on my face.

Lost in your love,
Gia

Yes! YOU understand. When I am with her it is everything! The world around me vanishes and it is just her and that is all. You are so right in the outside world not getting in the way. I know her for who she is and she is a beautilful woman. I only hope that she same way about me.

Thank you for wishing us luck. We apreciate it. We just have to remember that the person on the other side is who we love and respect. Spend time and just talk.

Lost in love,
Gia

For me, it's straightforward. An online romantic relationship, SL or other, should have the potential of going RL or it's bent, and I'm not interested. Personally, I don't understand the idea of a "play" relationship with RL limits. I think it's dishonest and potentially devastating. I understand that good people disagree with me and may have good points, however.

I also understand that there are a lot of predators out there, online and in SL (and in RL, too), male and female. I think it's easier to get hammered online and perhaps in SL, because a person doesn't have as much information up front, and deceit is simpler to maintain. So I'm very, very careful these days. It's sad to have to be so careful.

I have to say i'm somewhat ambivalent about partnering. In some ways it seems nice...it signifies a special connection with another person, but at the same time...those connections exist whether they are denoted in your profile or not.

However, I can see the value of it...if you are committed to someone in game, having your partner's name in your profile helps to keep other would-be suitors away.

I do agree with some of the other posts in here...it does seem odd that SL recognizes only a single partnership. There is great diversity among residents, and this particular mechanism doesn't account for some of that diversity...i.e., poly relationships.

Yes - i am in partnership with a woman i meet here in second life.

Words can only begin to tell of my journey to her, with her and of her. She is so much a part of my life, my heart, my thoughts, my feelings that sometimes i don't know where i begin and where she ends. In those moments, flute notes bring peace, awakened i discover myself within her love and within me. I begin anew.

So much has transformed in me these past seven months of loving her! Remembering myself, words hint at our reflected truth. Our hearts ablaze with breathless love - we soar upon winged flights, taking us deeper within our love. Eyes locked in sweet surrender - music sounds our joyful play - we dance in graceful union.

How can the drop know it's separate for the ocean? Does the wind abandon the breeze? My heart sings with her scent caressing me when locked in our embrace. Love touched us, filled us, quickened our journey in remembrance.

I speak to you my love, a pulsating rhythm, a dance with you Mercurious. My temples pounding, these words hazy through the tears streaming down my face as I write. Oh God of my heart, I thank you! What an impossible task - to deepen to this love, to hold her, to hold us - to hold you in Divine remembrance.

Yes partnership I have here in Second Life, in First Life - One Life, One Love.

My forgetfulness overwhelms me, shouts of anguish and fear of my illusions which I throw like bones to snarling rabid dogs. The gate opening silently, tears transform to peace, words do speak of gifts given in silence.

Yes, I am partnered in SeconlLife - a partnership of three, I love you Mercurious, oh God, do i love you!

Wow. That's so beautiful.

Some awful things
will work out
and about this
there is no doubt

I used to think
a while ago
the ship would sink
no crew onboard

I cleaned the glass
and realized
in a final pass
there is some hope

Not all is lost
the sun emerges
and melts the frost
so I can SEE.

I suppose I have at one point. After I took a break we went our seperate ways and are just friends now. Now, since I am playing again a bit more regularly and keeping AV as a stickman, I don't see myself finding a partner. Most people see me as a goofball and wouldn't want to be partnered with a stickman. Rare occasions I will use my human AV but its more fun to be something that expresses me than what is eye candy to women. Maybe someday someone will like me like that...not hoping on it or really care though.(hey...sounds a bit like RL too ).

azreal came to new york this weekend for my real birthday and his sl birthday and he proposed and i accepted.
we are now officially partners.
we are both very, very, very....................................................happy togeather.

Really close poll. No partner here. I tell people this, "I have a lot of friends and everyone else comes first." I guess its a mentor thing. If people can accept that, then we will get along fine.

LOL

I wonder how people see others with partners. Do they take a hands off approach if they see the partner filled in, or do they become more desireable and a challenge to pursue?