Partner? Or no Partner
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Olympia Rebus
Muse of Chaos
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12-14-2004 13:40
Originally I thought having a "partner" in SL was a novelty, but as I meet more and more people, it seems that most of them either have a partner (of some kind). I realize "partner" means different things to different people. I've never had one- mostly because I don't know anyone well enough to bond with. Also I'm more or less PG avitar, which limits my appeal. Any "match" limmited to SL would be based on mutual admiration and shared values (yeah, I know, real exciting). I'm skittish about getting close (on any level) with strangers. Plus I'm often hidden and absorbed in whatever projects I'm working on, so pairing up isn't a big prority. So there's my story. What's yours? If you have a partner, here's your chance to say something nice about 'em! If you don't, here's your chance, if you want, to explain why. Did you have one at one time and get burned? Are you looking for one? Or is it something you're never been interested in?
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Torley Linden
Enlightenment!
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12-14-2004 13:45
Hmmm Olympia, sweeeeeet idea for a thread. I mean that in a number of ways. I'll answer in full in a bit. 
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Sezmra Svarog
Pointy-Eared Geek
Join date: 8 Jul 2004
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12-14-2004 13:46
Partnerless here! My having a "partner" would make my husband sad I think.  Besides that, I really just wouldn't have time to commit to being anyone's partner. I'm kind of socially independent and very often busy doing something specific. Unless my husband happens to start up being an SL nut, I'll probably just stick to my friendships. 
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Juro Kothari
Like a dog on a bone
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12-14-2004 13:47
Yes. My RL partner is also in SL: Cyrus Apollo. 
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Jonquille Noir
Lemon Fresh
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12-14-2004 13:48
I tried the SL Dating thing, and it really just isn't for me. I'm a hermit more often than not, and when I'm not, I just want to hang out with friends and bullshit and be a goofball.
I'm very happily married in RL (*waves to him* Hi Poohead!) so I prefer to spend my SL doing other things than the chore of a virtual relationship. (c:
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Paris Cellardoor
Jefa del Cartel
Join date: 28 Dec 2003
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12-14-2004 13:50
I don't have a story and maybe it doesn't make sense to some ppl why I have added my hubby (Darko) as my partner in SL as he is my partner in RL for 7 years total. But I am gay that way...hehe....I am very proud to let it be known that I am the wife of a wonderful man. But I do find it very cool that ppl in SL have found someone they feel comfortable sharing with our community that they have a special someone. Also I have heard some beautiful stories of ppl who have fallen in love in SL and have actually met, married or maybe have plans to be together in RL. I find that to be wonderful. 
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Inez Angelus
Elephant Rider
Join date: 11 Nov 2004
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12-14-2004 13:50
I have a few cohorts, but no partner. Not lookin' for one, either. I have a RL husband. I would consider "partnering up" in SL with someone akin to cheating. In addition, I'm pretty introverted and like my private time. Having a partner would get really annoying to me after a while. And yes, I'm also a PG avi (in terms of actions, that is - I curse like a drunken sailor). No one wants a platonic SL relationship! lol Just my two cents. I think people with SL partners are cute, tho 
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MrsJakal Suavage
Purple Butterfly
Join date: 18 Jul 2004
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12-14-2004 13:51
My IW partner is Deklax Fairplay and he's the only one I have had and hope to have. I met him 2 weeks after I started playing SL and we just had so much fun hangin out together. We just celebrated 4 months. There is no (Linden) benefit yet to having a IW partner, however, its nice to have that there as most people do seem to respect that and don't try to "hook up". Huggerz, MJ 
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Ahkin Pierce
Second Life Resident
Join date: 15 Nov 2004
Posts: 227
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I Just took the poll
12-14-2004 13:53
I really only wanted to take the poll. I am currently not partenred but was. I miss it. Having a partner means you are in a whole differnet game. Thats my opinion and feelings. Please do not give condolences...lol.
What are you hoping to get from this thread?
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Olympia Rebus
Muse of Chaos
Join date: 22 Feb 2004
Posts: 1,831
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12-14-2004 13:58
From: Ahkin Pierce What are you hoping to get from this thread?
I'm going to blackmail people  Seriously, I'm fascinated in the duality of SL and RL lives (and interactions)- how people percieve both their virtual selves and other virtual people. It's real, yet not real at the same time. 
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Paris Cellardoor
Jefa del Cartel
Join date: 28 Dec 2003
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12-14-2004 14:06
From: Inez Angelus I have a few cohorts, but no partner. Not lookin' for one, either. I have a RL husband. I would consider "partnering up" in SL with someone akin to cheating. In addition, I'm pretty introverted and like my private time. Having a partner would get really annoying to me after a while. And yes, I'm also a PG avi (in terms of actions, that is - I curse like a drunken sailor). No one wants a platonic SL relationship! lol Just my two cents. I think people with SL partners are cute, tho  I agree that if you are married or have a partner in RL to have a partner in SL is cheating....I just think we have to take into consideration that some ppl in the SL community might have a mutual agreement with their RL spouse/partner to be able to have an SL relationship or cyber sex. Relationships are different to some of us.
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Chip Midnight
ate my baby!
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12-14-2004 14:18
I don't have a partner. I don't really seperate my second life for my first. I don't seem to be highly evolved enough to compartmentalize that way, hehe. I would have nothing against having a partner in SL, but only if it carried over into RL. You never know where you'll meet that right person for you. I couldn't have a "relationship" as nothing much more than an aspect of playing the game. More power to anyone that can do it. I'm just not wired that way.
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Madison Blanc
Tasmanian Devil
Join date: 20 Apr 2004
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Love my Partner 
12-14-2004 14:24
From: someone Ahkin Pierce I really only wanted to take the poll. I am currently not partenred but was. I miss it. Having a partner means you are in a whole differnet game. Thats my opinion and feelings. Please do not give condolences...lol.
What are you hoping to get from this thread? What I'm getting from this post: There are many partners in SL that have more than just romance in terms of the Famous *Partners* thingy. Could be for business , friendship, or just fun being around that person. Also I've notice it's a *Red Light* for most not to pursue that man/woman or man/man and or woman/woman. However ,lol this is a game, and it's also a sign to venture into said relationships by trying to flirt and to see if you can steal the heart of one of the partners, like a big conquest,, I got him !! or Her!! .. and then move on to the next Big Conquest . I do have a partner and crazy about him, hes fun to be with and I value his love and friendship. From: someone Olympia Rebus:What are you hoping to get from this thread? I'm going to blackmail people Seriously, I'm fascinated in the duality of SL and RL lives (and interactions)- how people percieve both their virtual selves and other virtual people. It's real, yet not real at the same time. LOL at I'm going to blackmail people 
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Nephilaine Protagonist
PixelSlinger
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12-14-2004 14:32
This is a very interesting thread  One aspect of partnering I have been curious about: Is there anyone out there partnered with someone for pure business reasons? Are there any resource or content sharing advantages that make this arrangement advantageous for people who run a business jointly with another person? Just curious! I know nothing about what happens AFTER one is partnered, aside from getting thier name in your blank.  As for myself, I do play sl with my RL hubby, and we have considered briefly the partnership option...but just breifly. Neither of us really know much about it. Curious  Nephi
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Lo Jacobs
Awesome Possum
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12-14-2004 14:33
From: Chip Midnight I don't have a partner. I don't really seperate my second life for my first. I don't seem to be highly evolved enough to compartmentalize that way, hehe. I would have nothing against having a partner in SL, but only if it carried over into RL. You never know where you'll meet that right person for you. I couldn't have a "relationship" as nothing much more than an aspect of playing the game. More power to anyone that can do it. I'm just not wired that way. I am the same way. I read somewhere that there are two schools of thought on SL, that there are the people who say, "SL is a game and completely separate from my RL." In this way, they can have both RL and SL relationships, and many other things different. Other people cannot separate their RL from their SL. I too find it difficult to "compartmentalize", as Chip says; I also find SL a fascinating experiment. Things that happen to me in SL I always relate to my RL.
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Nolan Nash
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12-14-2004 14:34
From: Chip Midnight I don't have a partner. I don't really seperate my second life for my first. I don't seem to be highly evolved enough to compartmentalize that way, hehe. I would have nothing against having a partner in SL, but only if it carried over into RL. You never know where you'll meet that right person for you. I couldn't have a "relationship" as nothing much more than an aspect of playing the game. More power to anyone that can do it. I'm just not wired that way. I was going to post something along these lines, so instead I will just concur with what Chip has written and add that mine did lead to RL, and almost 8 months later, things are going very well 
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Paris Cellardoor
Jefa del Cartel
Join date: 28 Dec 2003
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12-14-2004 14:35
From: Madison Blanc What I'm getting from this post: There are many partners in SL that have more than just romance in terms of the Famous *Partners* thingy. Could be for business , friendship, or just fun being around that person. Also I've notice it's a *Red Light* for most not to pursue that man/woman or man/man and or woman/woman. However ,lol this is a game, and it's also a sign to venture into said relationships by trying to flirt and to see if you can steal the heart of one of the partners, like a big conquest,, I got him !! or Her!! .. and then move on to the next Big Conquest . I do have a partner and crazy about him, hes fun to be with and I value his love and friendship. LOL at I'm going to blackmail people  hehe....now going around trying to conquer someone who is taken isn't cool SL or RL, hence the drama. But I have found that ppl who are involved with someone in SL and also RL become more appealing to ppl. I know this for a fact because I am married to my RL and SL partner and many women/men (could be a man) have hit on my hubby when I am not around IW. I find that to be very disrespectful...just my 2 cents.
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Juro Kothari
Like a dog on a bone
Join date: 4 Sep 2003
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12-14-2004 14:40
From: Nephilaine Protagonist As for myself, I do play sl with my RL hubby. . .
So.. who is he? Enquiring minds want to know! 
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Madison Blanc
Tasmanian Devil
Join date: 20 Apr 2004
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12-14-2004 14:49
From: someone Originally Posted by Paris Cellardoor hehe....now going around trying to conquer someone who is taken isn't cool SL or RL, hence the drama. But I have found that ppl who are involved with someone in SL and also RL become more appealing to ppl. I know this for a fact because I am married to my RL and SL partner and many women/men (could be a man) have hit on my hubby when I am not around IW. I find that to be very disrespectful...just my 2 cents. Very true Paris  I agree with you.. that's why I mentioned it. They have tried it on me ,, and it's quite funny. They think all men or woman are *Dawgs* and wouldn't mention it to the other partner, But * Yoo Hoo * he did.. he told me just what they said and did and sent to him .. *Silly Rabbits* LMAO But, it's their ego!! They must try their hands at coming on to your man or woman .. or hint that they would make a better partner .. 
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Paris Cellardoor
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12-14-2004 14:56
From: Madison Blanc Very true Paris  I agree with you.. that's why I mentioned it. They have tried it on me ,, and it's quite funny. They think all men or woman are *Dawgs* and wouldn't mention it to the other partner, But * Yoo Hoo * he did.. he told me just what they said and did and sent to him .. *Silly Rabbits* LMAO But, it's their ego!! They must try their hands at coming on to your man or woman .. or hint that they would make a better partner ..  haha...so true....good thing my husband is honest and tells me these things...or I would never know and the funny thing about it, it is ppl I thought were my friends. Now that is shitty.
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Siobhan Taylor
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12-14-2004 15:18
This is a topic close to my heart. Last year, I met someone wonderful. We were unofficially together in November 2003, married in January 2004, and partnered as soon as the option was available. We're no longer together, nor partnered. It's a long story, and to tell it would hurt us both, and anyway, most of you already know the story. I'm with someone else now... we're not partnered, but I'm hoping she'll ask me soon ... Sio You know who you are... 
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Madison Blanc
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12-14-2004 15:33
From: someone Originally Posted by Paris Cellardoor haha...so true....good thing my husband is honest and tells me these things...or I would never know and the funny thing about it, it is ppl I thought were my friends. Now that is shitty. Honeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy Let me tell you LOL... it's always a so called Friend They want to share .. rofl . But it's really sad that no one will honor whats close to your heart. Makes you wonder why their so sad within themselves to want to hurt someone in that matter. I just feel for them in ways of hoping they will find that special person and place a name in the Partner Field and hope that the Bad Karma will swish by
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Ursa Falcone
Rocket Scientist
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12-14-2004 15:41
ME, alone at last! Never in SL... not my style. Lots of friends to be made though
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Pituca FairChang
Married to Garth
Join date: 17 May 2003
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12-14-2004 16:04
Quoted from Madison Blanc "There are many partners in SL that have more than just romance in terms of the Famous *Partners* thingy. Could be for business , friendship, or just fun being around that person"
Garth and I have been together in SL for 15 months now, and as most of you know our relationship has moved in to RL. We are Partners in love, SL marriage, business and friendship.
I think that partnership is not to be entered into lightly and that there will be more benefits added in the future.
Quote from Olympia Rebus "I've never had one- mostly because I don't know anyone well enough to bond with. Also I'm more or less PG avitar, which limits my appeal. Any "match" limmited to SL would be based on mutual admiration and shared values (yeah, I know, real exciting). I'm skittish about getting close (on any level) with strangers. Plus I'm often hidden and absorbed in whatever projects I'm working on, so pairing up isn't a big prority."
What Olympia said pretty well summed up Garth and me too, neither of us were looking for an SL relationship, it just happened. 
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Hank Ramos
Lifetime Scripter
Join date: 15 Nov 2003
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12-14-2004 16:06
Partnered to my RL and SL husband, David Fate.
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