Partner? Or no Partner

I totally agree with Chip. I don't know if it's "healthy" or not, but I don't separate my RL self from my SL self - I simply am who I am. I'm certainly not judging, but I just don't get it when people have a RL relationship, and maintain an exclusive SL relationship as well. I just couldn't split myself, my emotions, that way.

That sounds like the safest way to go.

I'd hate to get attached to someone in SL, then meet them in RL and find them sporting a swastiska and an elctronic tracking braclet padlocked to thier ankle.

Well, I was going to say "Garth and Pituca" but then I read on down and there was Pituca herself posting anyway

I don't really have a story myself. As many of you know, I met my husband on a MUSH twelve (*blink* TWELVE?!) years ago now, neither of us were looking for a RL relationship but that's what our online - roleplaying - relationship led to eventually. It was different in that we were playing characters at the time (from David Eddings' "Belgariad" series of books), with no pretence of being our RL selves; on Second Life it seems that most residents are never quite that far from their First Lives!

We both play SL now, but we're not in each other's Partner box. His story is that he never got the email asking him to confirm my request to do so - twice

In the last couple of weeks, we've both created our first alt AVs. What do you think, should my alt propose to his this time?

Damn it!! Why can't I have more than one partner.

Seriously, it does strike me as humorous that in an open ended world where in theory you could do almost anything, human nature dictates we form up in the same social patterns.

Where is that poly goldfish AV hive commune I've been looking to join anyway?

Surreal

Coke or Pepsi? Coke or Pepsi?

Seriously why only ONE?!

Who can really say they are happy with just ONE? with relationships in SL lasting weeks or maybe a couple months and long lasting relationships being quite rare....

Go for quantity!

I want my partners box to have a DROP DOWN MENU

Well I'm engaged to Cyrus Apollo, which by default also makes engaged to 1/2 of Second Life....

I'm gonna be getting me some buku presents if we throw a party!

Siggy.

I agree with HoseQueen on that ... some people find it easy to differentiate between role playing and real life. However for me, that would be hard when real feelings are involved. So it was a huge culture shock for me when I came in to Secondlife and realise that there are a number of people who are happily married or are in a relationship in real life and yet are very involved with their online partners.

Because to me, somehow thats quite contradicting to balance a healthy relationship with a real life partner and still nurture an online relationship. Maybe its just my old school views ... but I hope I dont seem too judgemental ... because I have seen one too many rl breakups over friends who cannot balance the online / real life relationship ...

I refer to the article from this link : A house as a home and Heartbroke I guess these are some of the rare people who are able to balance ... so kudos to them ... I dont think I'll be able to do that though ...as egoistic as I can be, I cannot just think about myself because there are real people involved here behind every computer screen. Real people with real thoughts and real emotion ..with inversely real lives and real people involving them. It wouldnt be fair.

How far would be too far? Can one tell between harmless fun and cheating? Do you think you can balance your relationship online and real life? How will you think will affect the other person in real life?

In a nutshell ... communication is very important. Cant go wrong with being honest with each other and vocalise what one's stand is. What an interesting topic of discussion this is on the psychological sense, on a social sense and emotional sense

I am partnered with Fred Extraordinaire in SL, and we get married on Saturday (all welcome), and I love him dearly in RL too, unfortuantely 3660 miles seperate us, but well there is always hope! no?!

Whatever happens I know I love him with all my heart, and he is the sweetest, most adorable guy ever, and I cherish every moment with him he truly does mean the world to me, and to me that's what partnering is about

Love you baby *mwah*

I was partenered up with some one. got togther about 6 weeks ago and she recently broke it off. my two cents if you get involved with any one on here be prepaired for heart ache. i know i have it.

Hmmm interesting thread. I didn't come here to find someone or cyber I came here to build and be an all around smartass Matter of fact I kinda laughed at people who were " together" or " partnered". It's funny...things always seem to happen to you when you ain't lookin. Funnier yet....it started here in the forums

Here I was minding my own business spreading love through the forums ( ok maybe not in practice but in theory...ok not in theory either ) when I started to notice her posts...something struck me about them. Eventually I searched her posts out. Her words intelligent, playful,honest, and very endearing. It wasn't the pixels that got me because we had never met in world....it was her mind

Eventually we met in world but I didn't dare say anything...I mean what kinda goober would do that Didn't see her after that but still she crept into my mind and I watched her posts. Eventually a few private messages were sent back and forth...nothing lurid...a link to a funny animation...a thank you for saying something nice. definately made me more curious and I started to wonder if she might feel the same way. Time passed and we started talking in world...only a lil at first but gradually more. Then one night we talked more...and it kinda came out that I liked her ( ok ...it didn't kinda come out ..I was smacked upside the head with some well timed hints) and it turned out to be a mutual feeling.

We've been together for a little bit now....and yes, I sometimes still feel like a goober.....a happy goober...but a goober none the less . She makes me smile and she makes me think and that can't be a bad thing in this world or any world for that matter. Where will it lead? dunno. We're taking it slow and for once I'm enjoying the scenery and not worrying too much about the destination.

Anyway, like others have stated...communication is a good thing and if you do end up meeting someone in world be honest, and be real. I also agree that in this world at least, I am who I am in the real world as well...there really isn't any seperation...except for the fact my edit menu is borked in real life and I have to go to home depot before I can rez a cube. That being said work calls and today we get to rez steel prims As for my partner in crime ...well I'll let her speak for herself if she wishes ...I'll just leave it at this....Love ya Lash

soooo many sweet stories here, hehehe so here's mine, last february while sciving off work, I was on SL and I met Madison Gardner, she'd come over to complain about the mountain that had sprung up in front of her view overnight. We chatted became great friends and eventualy partners, I went to visit Madison a few months ago in august, and we had a hoot, and now (lucky me) She's coming over to visit for the christmas holidays, what better gift could a person ask for.

Madison you have my heart.

Az

Willow is too wonderful for words.
were together and very happy that way, so it makes sense that others could do the same
it's not ez (unless youve got my girl :0) ) but it's possible.

*wonderful

and NO I am not picking on him, its a cute typo thing we do so

Love you hun xxx

So does this mean I have to stop hitting on you Paris?

Yes! Wheelie is wheelie wheelie wodnerful!

Can I have your girl then? I'm all for an easy life! Or maybe I could just borrow her occasionally?

I love you Kris! Take me back please?

VINDIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII
Control your man!!!

Willow tell her I love her and to come back please

Yep, got a business partner. In the hopes that someday we'd be able to flag our land "Autoreturn, but NOT autoreturn for partner" so that we could share vending space.

*steals Kris fast and runs*

MINE! ALL MINE! MUHAHAHAHA


Seriously though, I know a lot of people that are partnered in world. Some are also partners in RL, some just in SL. I think different people look at the title differently, and so for me personally, I respect that title and uphold it based on individual needs/wants. And I think it is wonderful that so many have found companionship in this world, no matter what their terms are.

For me to have a partner in SL, well my requirements and regulations on having one are not so easy or short to explain. haha.. So I won't say never, but I could say I will probably not have a partner in my SL life.

I am incredibly lucky to have an SL partner who is also my RL partner.

My RL Partner and I joined SL at the same time - we are pretty much buddies with everything we do.

Me to very cool it's nice to have someone in game to turn to and be able to talk to in RL about SL stuff that knows what your talking about LOL

SHHHHHH Pen...nobody is suppose to know about us.. *kisses you*

*pinch*