The face behind the Avatar

Here's my other irony. I don't play a "character". I'm me. In fact, I am as much me as when I was on IRC.

Some people can't get their heads around someone being here simply to express themselves and have a good time. LOL.

I have no problem with RL pics

mine is on my profile

if ppl choose not to look, then their is their business hehe

(I would not know, unless they outright told me)

Perhaps I'll try to forget about the rl tab. The best one I've seen said only "is offline."

I love your sig.
/me catches her breath.

See we agree

Now I must take my 'self-righteousness' else where, if you will excuse me...

Funny how some of you people react when one has a view, opinion that goes against the (collective) grain. Perhaps, and this is just me as I don't want to be accused to telling anyone what to do (again), but the old saying 'when you point a finger at someone you have 3 pointing back at you' comes to mind... hhmmm

I don't really when it's FL tab ... that's choice. It's the SL tab with the RL picture which spooks me.

And I read profiles a lot, it's rare that you'll see that. Actually, it sort of bugs me if there's an SL picture on the FL tab too ... why bother? If you don't want to post a picture ain't no big deal surely, most people just leave it blank.

Just my personal quirk I guess

Does anyone have a spare irony bypass cos I think one is sorely needed by a terminal case ...

I think I saw one for sale on SLex

With all due respect, he didn't disrespect anybody. He didn't even elude to anyone...he just stated his opinion.

And there is a fraction--we all know--of people that DO fit in his, not so subtle--judgment call.

Quote me where I attacked someone sweety.

hehe thanks. im gonna have to change it soon. i found some great ones that I just can't resist. But i might keep the laser stun printer. It may come in handy.

In 2005 this thread would have been laughed out of existence.

Well said Kelli, I agree.

My self esteem in quite intact however, I immerse completely when involved in fantasy roleplay. I think that's the best way to truly enjoy it. There is something to be said for becoming a completely different creature; very good therapy to offset plain old daily life stress. It's good and healthy for adults to be able to "play".

Re the OP: When not role playing, I consider Solanghe a simple extension of who I am in RL. However, I don't care to share that because I just don't see the need. I won't post a RL photo - if I wanted to do that then I would just join Facebook or whatever. So, the roleplay continues somewhat I guess.

That's not to say I don't share my RL. It greatly depends on the situation and connection I feel to another person. But in general, I'm all about keeping SL and RL seperate.

@Strauss: This doesn't mean there is something wrong with me dude.

Oh, and I avoid the RL tabs like the plague. If I'm attached to your Avi, I don't want to breach the "third wall" and break the fantasy.

Some do yes, but a lot of the time it's not what the opinion is as much as how it is delivered. There is a tendency for some to voice their opinions as absolute truths, that their is no other valid way to see a given issue, and that they alone are enlightened, everyone else is some sort of dullard or backward fool.

I'm not here to argue the point because later you do say 'some' but the above first statement is generalizing. I do believe the above statement shows the -implication- that if you do not share details or keep a certain amount of privacy then you ARE using sl as a gateway to make up shortcomings or self esteme boosters. It is comments like that which could be seen as an insinuation which leads people to become defensive, feeling personally attacked.

Some just dont feel the need to share too much of their RL details but that doesnt mean they are insecure or living an unhappy life. It just means they come here for something different than you. Different isnt bad, its just...different.

It's how he stated it that I have issue with just like with you sometimes Mike.

I don't see any personal attacks or singling out of an individual either. Strauss is very fair and evenhanded in his annoyance.

Delivery style indeed plays a factor. However after the years online my style is 'short, sweet to the point and save the fluff for the peanutbutter'

Some people, like yourself, take that as I am making my opinions as fact and thus come off as those colorful words I was described above. That however is not the case not my intent.

Do I have strong opinions and convictions? Yes. Am I open minded where if someone present a valid point or counter opinion/fact I can have a change of stance? Very possible.

And 'truth' as you must know is little more then degrees of seperation from fact, opinion or worse, rumor.

See, I used to use my RL tab to show off an SL pic because there is just not enough places for me to put in all the pics I take in game and want to share! lol

Now, its just a picture of 2 lil RL hands, neither of which are mine, with a tidbit of info which is really all people need to know about my RL to go on. It shares enough without being revealing. When people ask where I am from, I tell them Orientation Island, cuz its true!. Really, since all you see is me (behavior, personality etc) I dont see the need to hand out a ton of RL info unless I feel like it later as I know the person better.

To be honest, I dont think many even look AT my RL tab. Its just an extra space for me to babble lol

I think you and I need to get together and go bowling.

We have some of the same traits...I don't beat around the bush or walk on eggshells when I state my opinion on a subject. I think many people do their darndest to be diplomatic...but that takes a lot more effort and time...lol...I'm a military brat, and I think my father instilled on me something the military holds dear: say what you mean and be quick about it.

Not that [we] are totally without diplomacy, it's just that we don't tip-toe around how we feel...even if this may hurt someone. Personally, I don't state my ideals and opinions to hurt anyone--on the contrary I do take spectators feelings into consideration when I post--but sometimes a 'shoe fits', and someone is hurt...but even knowing this, I will not hold back the truth of how I feel about something, especially when it's the topic at hand.

I honestly feel that--at times--people don't say what the feel on forums. They are so worried about getting flamed, or yelled at, or have their popularity shattered...forum posters can even go completely against what they believe, just to follow the pack, and be one of the team. I've seen it many times.

Saying what you feel, regardless of the 'others' is a positive, strong trait in a person...diplomacy can sometimes be a weakness.

I am fortunate in that all my work happens at home. When it's done(ish) I come back to immerse some more.

If I was going to dignify him directly, a direct response like that is direct to the poster when quoted.

If he didn't mean me he could have said this of course.

And when did observing a lack of sense of irony = crying victim?

MEH.

I have no desire to see someones RL picture or RL details beyond very basics. Cherry said it very eloquently earlier but to me it would be like suddenly in the middle of the movie to have the action stop and the actor turn and go "Hello, I'm Brad Pitt" then go back to action.

It's not hiding, it's not insecurity, it's fantasy and fun. When I get to know you well I usually get to know a lot more about your RL, but let's just let it happen naturally that way.

I miss the days when people would never have compared SL to Myspace or Face Book or Eharmony.


I'm pretty comfortable discussing my RL with people I care about, I was only half joking about the picture thing with Brenda.

My current avatar as Colette is pretty close to a Virtual version of my rl self. And I never got much into roleplaying.

But put all my RL stuff up for strangers to see? Please.

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Anyone into Role-Playing Should do it and if they don't want to talk about their RL self, they shouldn't have too. Gorean, Trekkie, Jedi, Vampire, Player, Ho, Escort, Furry, robot, question mark -- whatever they like.

We shouldn't be making dispersions people are hiding things or have crappy RLs when we have no clue why they participate in SL.

We are all guilty of thinking someone is pointing at us, but they are actually using "you" in the collective sense...it's a common mistake.

As savvy forum-goers, we have to do our best to pick these instances out. I'm constantly analyzing what someone means, and to whom they are speaking to.

A tactic I use, is placing "you" in brackets...ie. [You] have to realize, people with big feet tend to...

Anyway. I wasn't flaming you...I was just giving you a touch of your own medicine. We all need that from time to time.

Anyway...plus I always bet on the underdog.

Sorry Strauss, there is nothing sweet about your delivery and I'd hesitate to say short as well. To the point I'll give you.

/me just shakes my head.

What flavour medicine IS that exactly, Michael?

***edit*** mistake is a perception also.

/me edits and chuckles at your edit.