Is this being faithfull in SL

It doesn't matter whether you are Cato, or Pep, or the Queen of the May. What matters is who YOU are...how you post, how you respond to others. You (generic, not you specifically) can play nice, or you can troll and flame. Other people will be able to tell pretty quickly if you're someone they want to associate with.

I gotta tell you, you're not off to the greatest start. But it's not too late to change.

He may well be but he may one day be with someone who is not and he may learn a thing or 2. And I stand by what i have said many times what sort of a relationship is it if you have to lie and sneak about. Maybe you should leave SL and take that husband of yours and get some professional help for your relationship cause if it is as bad as you say it is it needs it

What are you talking about Lindal. I have asked three questions in the forum and been honest about my situation. I am also honest about my situation with people I meet in sl as my other avatar. I am even honest with my husband when I tell him that he is too jealous although he doesnt listen to me. Have I been too honest telling people here that Pep has given me advice because you dont seem to like him and I am getting accused of being him and other people I dont have a clue about like this Cato. You say I have got off to a bad start. What have I done wrong. It doesnt really matter anyway as I dont want to associate with people from the forums but I wold like to get answers to my questions. If that isnt going to happen because people are going to think I am someone else and post stupid comments then there isnt much point in asking those questions here.

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gosh, this entire reply closely resembles the one you posted as Askandi. funny that.

it's just a little something he picked up in Wales.

I dont have the first clue what you are talking about now 3Ring and it isnt making me laugh any more so I am going to ignore you from now on.

Your husband is probably flirting with girls in Wii world because you stop him from having ordinary woman friends in rl.

I used to judge the way other people handled their RL relationships (without really being judgemental of course ) and offer all sorts of advice...........

Until I found myself in a situation that is complicated to explain. There are all sorts of reasons that people stay in a dead marriage, so until you have walked in their shoes, be careful what you assume.

He just plays stupid games with his mates on the Wii. I prefer not to know what he does when he goes away so I cant stop him although if he gets in the newspapers like Coley and makes a fool of me then I won't be as forgiving as Cheryl.

Female. But why would that make a difference?

Oh wait....yes it does make a difference. There's a double standard.

Let me give you an example from this week. I will combine the use of alts with the concept of "Faithfulness." And will address it as being on topic to the general discussion.....as I don't have a clue who I'm talking to....but you asked a legitimate question.

Joe Bob has an interest in a relationship with me. I tell him about the alt I use to go dancing....as I have a hard time dancing with business IM's coming in right and left....honest and upfront explanation.
Miss Alt goes to the dance club for a break from work. There is Joe Bob dancing. Not a problem.

Miss Alt waits to dance for a while....in case Joe Bob would like to finish up a dance....then dance with her. No, Joe Bob finishes up the dance...then dances with another. Not a problem.

So...Miss Alt goes ahead and dances with one of her invitations. Immediately following....comes an IM tirade from Joe Bob that I am stalking him and spying on him and cheating on him. During the conversation it comes out that he is married.....in which another tirade begins from him.....involving a lecture to me, who is single......on being "Faithful".....and we don't even have a relationship going yet.

Joe Bob says that because he is married....he expects his SL woman to be Faithful as well. LOL

Can you not see how that might be a tad bizarre?

On the other end of the dance floor....is Billy Bob.....who uses an alt to get away from business....we both know about each other's alts from day one. I had no idea he would be there. It doesn't matter.

Another tirade comes in via IM....that I am stalking and spying on him...and that I am promiscuous. For dancing?

He's using an alt to dance and get away.....I'm using an alt to dance and get away.

For both of these men.....neither of which I have a committed relationship with.....both of which I explained the alt right up front.....they are simply enjoying an evening out....but I am stalking and spying and being a tramp.

Figure that one out.

It seems to me Mickey that you should not have told either of them about your dancing alt and it also suggests that my rl husband being jealous is not unusual.

I tell anyone that I add as a "friend" about the alt....to be honest and upfront, and to avoid any misconceptions that I am using her to "spy" or to be "unfaithful".....if a friendship were to get that far.

You wait too long to explain that.....and you've got a tirade far worse than the ones above on your hands.

"Crouch caught having affair in wii sport shocker!" - The Sun

How could it be worse than the problems you have described. It would only happen if you got caught and I thought it was not possible to know if someone was another persons alt. Although there seem to be plenty of people who seem to enjoy making wild accusations in the forums.

Because then, in fact....you ARE being dishonest. (in my opinion)

Particularly because this is an alt used to dance at places where you will run into those men over and over again.

If you walk in there a couple times a week....and see someone that you have a friendship with.....you know them.....they don't know you....that is unfair and dishonest. They will most likely start a conversation with you. To proceed in any kind of a conversation....and not identify yourself....is wrong.....very wrong.

If they've seen you come in for weeks or months....before starting a conversation with you.....then you inform them of who you are.....they would feel betrayed and very uneasy. I would, if the situation were reversed.

There are lots of places to go to dance in sl. Why dont you go somewhere that you know they wont be or leave when you see them there or just dont talk to them. There seems to be lots of ways you could avoid confrontation although perhaps you are saying you dont want to avoid it because it would not be honest.

/me chuckles. You know, I have *never* heard a woman in RL (yes, I do know one or two) referring to a footballer with that oh-so-very-masculine '-ey' suffix*. That was the kind of suffix reserved for use by boys in school when referring to their mates: Smithey, Jonesy, Bloggsey. Most of the women I know that are into reading about celebrity culture call him 'Ashley' or 'that Ashley Cole', not 'Coley'.

Very, very blokey, that. Might want to brush up on your 'Heat'-reading a bit

Edit: *With the possible exception of the similar-sounding Ryan 'Giggsy' Giggs, for whom it was an accepted nickname used by everyone, including the mainstream media.

Most of the people who only know him through the papers dont know he prefers Coley because he has the micky taken out of him because Ashley is a girls name. Thats what Cheryl says anyway and she should know.

Why would I stop going to places that I like....and adjust a routine that I enjoy....?

I have nothing to hide. No reasons to sneak around.

/me laughs his arse off. Man, it's like a whole different fictional character. Bravo!

I adore the taste of coconut but it makes me sick so I don't eat it. It seems to me that you dont like the problem and you dont like the solutions either.

Pep also told me that if I told the truth noone would believe me so I am laughing even more than you are.

Incidentally, this is classic behaviour and yes I allowed myself to get sucked into it. The OP posts counter-opinions for the sake of it (has a history of that, too) so that other people keep on replying, so they can post more counter-opinion, get more replies and voila: the thread goes on and on!

*tsk*

I call 'crazymaker'. Here, read about them:

http://www.vccaedu.org/inquiry/vcca-journal/johns.html

You're going on ignore, 'madam'. Have fun with everyone else!

lol you (Annabel/Cato/et al) got owned right there


edit: that's gotta rankle, gettin owned by a girl