Do You Have an Older Partner in SL?

No, Indiana Jones did. I think. LOL

Didn't she have one when she was being all slave-y? Cant remember right now.. I need to see those again..

Which is, by the way, the best part of a person, the domicile of the soul, and the main sex organ.

coco

I was guessing it as he was 12, and she was 24, and now he's 21 and she's 33.

coco

Just to be a brand new pain in the rectum...I wanted to point out that Alzheimer's is not age related..nor is it a mental disease. It can early stage in people as young as 35 and is a fatal disease of the brain. Ok. Getting pixelated panties unwadded...

Age really should not matter in this medium. To me it is akin to saying, "I met the greatest (insert desired gendered partner here) and we laughed and talked and rode those pose balls like professional bull riders! It was THE BEST TIME and he/she was the BEST PERSON I have ever met!" BUT THEN.....I found out in RL, they can't walk! OMG! We live in different hemispheres and all, and I would never meet someone from SL in RL! BUT OMG! How should I react to this!!!!"

Age, physical ability, height, weight, political affiliation, religious beliefs or lack thereof...on and on...why should it matter unless your sole intent in SL is to find a RL partner?

You're not being a pain in the rectum, but Oryx's point is still well taken, isn't it? Alzheimer's and forms of dementia are generally exhibited more clearly in older people. Not always, but they are certainly more likely to show up as people age. They may not be mental diseaes, but they are conditions which affect people's ability to perform mentally.

I think the point is that unless someone has a condition which impairs them mentally, then there should be no issue, since you are connecting on a mental level in SL. You may develop physical responses to that mental connection, and the emotions and feelings are real, but it's the ability of two people to touch each other on a different level than the physical one that makes the relationship what it is.

Yes, her point is still very well taken. As is so typical with, chat, text, forum posting...intent can be misunderstood. I meant no insult.

:thumbs up:

I meant to add that the second paragraph in your post was spot on. I couldn't agree more.

There is a free Indiana Jones outfit. Search for "Indiana Jones". Might take awhile to find. I'll wear the Princess Leia silk.

I meant "mental disease" in that Alzheimer's affects the way we process memory; that, to me, is certainly "mental." But I know what you mean.

And yes, Trout "outed" me; I am indeed 125 years old. It's a young 125!

And Curl Up and Dye has awesome Princess Leia hairs; 4 or five of her different styles, in fact, including the slave one.

You understand I am not trying to be a pain...those of us who have lost family members to this brain disease are sensitive on the subject. Mental always has that "crazy" stigma..and sadly, if memory is a reflection of "mental" ....I'm crazy as a damn loon, because I can't seem to remember crap these days! LOL!! HAHAHA.

I haven't had a partner in SL in the years I have been here. Mostly I find the men, whatever their age, to be uncommitable to the downright abombinable. I am happy using SL as a tool to explore my sexual nature in ways I never would in RL, and share this with a group of like minded women. I could not, for the life of me, place the age of any of my friends with any hint of accuracy, but I awlays seem to act as if I am "of an age" with all of them. It was suprising to learn one of my wildest girlfreinds became a grandmother.

I think if you are lucky enough to find a partner, male or female, who treasures you, shares your expectations, and respects you, you should keep them, no matter what the age. Being initmate with a guy in SL who is willing to build a realtionship is its own reward, since very few outlast the novelty, and frankly most fall into the category whose pick up lines make me willing to say yes to the first guy that says: "nice shoes, wanna F**k," because at least that guy noticed something about me. LoL

Men are all boys, I accept this, and ultimately its the thing I adore most about them. But if I were looking for a perfectly wonderful partner, then I would look for men over 40, because my chances are much better. Of course, that being said, I have recently been very charmed by a guy I met in a club, and he is barely legal (I pray). So what does that say about age.

To be honest IRL, when I was 17, I spent almost a year having an affair with a 40 year old. As shocking as that sounds on my 28 year old ears now, I was, looking back, hands down, the best realtionship I ever had. My opinion may be skewed, but experience, appreciativeness and patience can make a man irresistable.

Getting back to the age thing, thus far, the only thing which has separated my older friend and I from each other is the fact that he doesn't know the music I listen to and doesn't watch TV at all. Has no sense of pop culture. Now, this IS kind of a problem, but since our role play isn't incorporating I Love Lucy, Mork and Mindy or How I Met Your Mother (trying to cover several generations of non-TV viewing here) - it still makes little difference. There's a world of other things we find to talk about, and we have yet to come up for air. Those 20 years between us melt away, because we have that elusive "chemistry".

I came to SL with the firm intention to get an avatar who was pretty close to the real me (the reason for that was experience in another virtual world where I had been as a different age, gender, species - well everything. Thats's a different story). BUT it's very difficult you know. If you try and stay your true height here, you look a midget because of all the eight-footers. If you try to stay your true build, you look a wimp because of all the kens and barbies. If you try to be your right age you can't actually get the skins and body tones.

So the result is that is that on the whole avatars look pretty, but less like real people than is already technically possible. I do think that's a pity. On the other hand, I dont think it's much of a pity because I quite like wearing my goat horns, which are hardly noticeable at all in real life. We are all here to get something we can't get at home after all. What a joy. Call me ageist, but I really didn't fancy the thought of an RL lover in her 20s, whereas here I go round with a permanent smile on my face and enormous rewards from such a relationship (even if it took a long time for me to believe it - MUCH too sexy and intelligent to be so young, I thought, must be 50 at least. But there you are. Serves me right for type-casting. I learn that people under 30 can be sexy and intelligent too.)

For the most part who really knows what age their partner really is?

MMMM Oryx in a Princess Leia slave girl outfit!!!!!!!!!!!! Be still my ...................heart.

As an aside, I wonder if there's anyone out there who prefers women/men who were born at almost precisely the same instant in time that they were (ie were EXACTLY the same age) =)

"Aren't you a little short for a Stormtrooper?"

On topic .. thanks to the internet, I am now engaged to a grandmother!

I checked her driving licence.

I'm in the *ahem* "mature" group and my teeth are set on edge when I encounter things like some of the more obnoxious sound spams (especially when the same person plays it over and over and over...I was out shopping last night in a place where there were dancing campers...I think I have about 25 people on my mute list now...but I digress) and "l33t speak" - both of which I tend to attribute to the youngish set...however...

While this may be true "in general" - I have found that often there are people in their 40's+ who act like juveniles, and some really fantastic 20's/30's who are more mature acting than those twice their ages.

Once again going to the point that it's not the age "generally" but the person that is mature...or not.

Well, let's give him a few kudos that his opening line wasn't "Oi, oi, girl...you do sexies now?"

*Grins* I'm with ya Amaranthim!

Oh yes!!!

I don't care how wonderful someone's AV looks if there's no mental/intellectual/emotional commonality.

I'm in the "ahem" boat with Czari, I guess. My partner, my best online friend, my lover, was - in her mid-20's - half my age. She disproved every expectation I might have had about difficulties between generations. We each brought what we had to the partnership: she her new eyes, her happy enthusiasm; me, my "experience of life", such as it was. Between us we kindled something astonishing.

I don't think that first life ages should have anything to do with relationships in SL. In SL I am partnered up with another 2004 person and the thought of being partnered to a 2007 person would take some hard thinking.

I always laugh when I hear about "oh, all 22 year old are so aansgty and impatient" when the same damn thing happens to adults, they just use age as a cover half the time. I am twenty two years old, and SL allowed me to find a 40+ year old woman whom I have an intimate relationship with. Some of my age group is bad, but the same could be said of ANY age group at all, we just get the stigma of the emo idiots... so it becomes socially acceptable to generalize us.

Not all of us early 20s people are idiots, and when people don't bother to give us a chance because of their own prejudices, I feel sad for them.