"Making Love" in SL...

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congrats Strife.

I cannot get in to SL romance. 2 reasons......A....I'm in love IRL...I have a phenominal man and there just isn't any reason/need for me to go the SL romance route. B. I need to have some kind of real attraction to another human being before I can even consider the idea of intimacy...be it RL or cyber. If that person controlling the puppet strings is not my type....my skin is gonna be crawling. I can't do it.

That said...I agree that pose balls and so on can be good for a laugh.....and I've made wonderful friends in SL....male and female and have had some fun experiences exploring....but it is all just a big goof off...... the real connections come from the relationship developed over time...the flash of a like minded soul. I'd much rather have good and true 'friends' than play house when I have absolutely NO intention of making it real....and my own 'life' satisfies those needs completely.

I don't want to make light of anyone's heartache over a Virtual Relationship. Call me jaded and cynical, but personally, I would NEVER let any relationship started here leave the bounds of SL. I make that known to people I'm involved with, there is no other way for me. I think about my SL friends, even miss seeing them when I can't get online, but that's where it ends. And that's all I expect in return. I can't play SL any other way.

Congrats on having a happy real life romance.

Its a shame that not everyone else has one though.

I agree!

Yes. Everyone looks for something different from SL, and you hope you find it. You just have to make sure the person you are involved with is on the same page as you.

and stay away from the eharmony sim.

I have had both male and female platonic friends....even tho many people think cos I'm bi, I would hop into everyone's bed at once.

With my RL partner who is my SL partner too (*waves at Raynor!*), I tried sex pose balls for laughs too...and we took photos...

Oh, and-

CONGRATS TO STRIFE!!!! For all the stuff most people never even realise is from you!

/me waves back

Late at night; no sleep; ...I do think feelings in SL are real and that people feel real love for each other here. (And I also support sex for lust's sake in SL which may be more honest sometimes). But a heart that disregards the pain of others to whom they have made a commitment in the name of love isn't feeling love in RL or VR; to me it is just selfishness.

Enuf said..I'll go back to looking for info on how to keep from crashing..

1) You know what I take VERY seriously? RL marriage. For that reason, I can NOT take seriously someone's post about how beautiful their online extramarital affair was.

2) Her post is entirely inappropriate for this forum. If someone posts in a question-and-answer forum with not a single question, but just an essay on how they are better and more genuine than other people, they should not expect to have their thread taken seriously.

3) Sex is gloriously funny. It may be beautiful, emotionally intense, and a deep bonding experience, but it is still funny as hell. When the subject comes up, it is natural to enjoy the amusing aspects of it.

"Slather" really is an awesome word, isn't it?


Here you go:

I do love nibbling on the earlobes!

Unfortunately, the Concepts of Romance, and Making Love have become Alien and Outmoded to todays way of thinking. It's a lost Art, The idea that two people in love can spend a Romantic Evening together without it Automaticly leading to an Intimate encounter is almost Unthinkable. "What's the point if you didn't get anywhere?" The point is getting to share a deeper understanding of one another, and Strengthening the emotional bonds that hold you together.

People Love to talk about Sex here, Sex is Up front, and In your face, Sex is Fun, and Funny, it's Hot, sweet and delicious. Making Love on the other hand is a Deeply Intimate thing, it's a sharing of thoughts, and feelings that one reserves ONLY for someone who is Very Special. I'll talk about all the times i've had Sex, but Only rarely will i allow you a glimpse of those special times reserved for myself, and my Lovers when we have Really Made Love.

Sex is for Everybody, But Making Love is just for those taking part.

Angel.

I always figure beyond generalities of "right" and "worng" or wtf/e - that this is always a "walk a mile in someone elses moccasins" kind of situation.

Only the OP knows truly whether she needed that affair or how insiduous it was.

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I guess im saying -

Yeah having an online virtual affair behing your RL partners back is bad.

-But-

Let she who is without sin ...


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Of course the OP would have been better off not putting it up for examination by the forums community.

***When people use "Making Love" instead of other terms***

1)When they are trying to get you into bed and think you are hard to get.
----Lets Make Love------

2)When women are trying to brag about how wonderfully romantic their relationship is.
----And then we Made Love-----

3)In Songs.
-----People passing above, and we were making love------

4)When someone is trying to get out of being cuaght redhanded cheating.
------It didng mean anything, I only &@@$$& her, I made love to you------



***When people use other terms instead of "Making Love"***

1)When they are trying to get you into bed and think you are easy.
-------Lets ^&%$---------

2)When men are trying to brag about how hot their latest conquest is.
-------and then we &*%&$& it was so hot-----------

3)In Songs.
--------I want your sex--------

4)When someone catches their lover redhanded cheating
---------And so you &**^*%$ her???!!!----------

Yes, I realize people have their reasons. Nevertheless, it is ridiculously silly when someone uses their infidelity as an example of how they are better than everyone else.

/me wonders how closely what was said in points 1 and 3 comes to saying "how they are better and more genuine than other people"

So talking about one's SL affair on the forum is inappropriate but yucking it up like adolescents in the back row of Sex Ed class is....real classy. Me thinks you are threatened by talking about real emotion. You could have just passed by this post if you weren't interested. Really.

Well, it's hard to defend one's position without suggesting one's position is better than the alternative!

Still, I don't believe I have ever started thread solely to expound on the theme "I am SO much better than the rest of y'all." And if I did, I would hardly be surprised when others laughed and did not take it seriously.

Sort of like my reaction to your post, eh?

"I am SO much better than the rest of y'all."

Where are you getting that idea? I thought the comments you and Richard made were way more "we're so much cooler than you." Jeepers. Just goes to show, the internet is a huge projection screen.

Please keep things in context Abby. I said that I have never started a thread to say that. This thread's OP is the one who did that.

ETA: Who's Richard?

The inappropriate-ness was in using a question-and-answer forum to post not a question, but an essay about her superiority. The comedy was in the fact that she used her extramarital affair as an example of said superiority.

I did not pass on this post specifically because I DID find it interesting. The topic opened for discussion was sex and taking it VERY VERY seriously, something which I find amusing. Obviously you do not enjoy my point of view.

As for real emotion... I expressed my opinion that marriage vows mean something, and that breaking them is not a beautiful thing. That is something I feel very deeply, so much so that I find it difficult to take seriously people who try to glorify infidelity. Frankly, if anyone is a jerk here, I would say it's the people who cheated on their RL partners and expect the rest of us to admire them for it.

Wish they would just make a rule and sticky it that any thread started in Resident Answers pertaining to sex in SL results in an automatic ban for 1 week from the forum.

I am not singling out the OP, I don't know the OP. But any thread about sex in SL in any of it's incarnations ends up badly with hurt feelings. If anyone feels like starting a sex thread here then please do a search first. Everyone's opinion has been stated by someone else already.

"an essay about her superiority."

I think you took her aside about people being sniggery about sex on the forums too personally. She was just saying the sex for her was not silly, it turned into something more emotional.

Your playmate was Raymond, not Richard. Pardon my error.