"Making Love" in SL...

Says a lot, I think, that in most of the threads I've seen on the subject of online sex, this phrase rarely shows up. I partnered in SL with a very close online friend - we made a brief, very happy life, which had to end recently for RL reasons. All sorts of moral issues, all sorts of problems, difficulties, problems with time, RL families - yet at the heart of it were two people who felt a mutual, honest, open love. We talked, we danced, we talked, we shared our lives, we talked, we furnished a small skybox, slowly, with snapshots in frames... lots of flowers.

So - we made love. We used the toys, we bought a bed or two, we got the nice pose sets - but the point that seems so lacking among all the giggling and fashionable "snarkyisms" on the boards is that we were in love. So that's what we made.

Lovely post........
Personally I have several female friends who love me in very platonic way and visa versa.
for me I prefer to make love in platonic way and sex pose balls are for laughs but nothing more.
But that is just me.

Sorry, what was the question again?

It makes you wonder if SL love is worth the hassle. Eveline, would you ever get involved in a SL relationship again or have you to come to realise that the emotionals involved in having an SL partner put to much strain on RL relationships?

I have heard so many different stories, the common one is that people are not 100% truthful and someone gets hurt, but there are also many like Eveline, who fall for their partner but aren't able to live with the guilt and issues they may feel in RL. Maybe many of these loves end because a RL bridge will never be built and it soon dies out. It would be interesting to see how long on average these loves last for before they end.

In before res/mod makes lock to this thread.

/me pulls out the old Barry White records and hopes Ray's in the mood.

are you still tied up with Brenda?

Nope. We slathered ourselves up with pie filling and squiggled our way free.

OMG

My point was, I guess, that SL can be a venue for genuine, loving relationships. Would I do it again? My ex-partner and I agree, we would. We've known each other - online only - for more than two years, and become probably the best friends each has in the other's life. This despite clear agreements never to meet, never to call, no contact in RL. We tried for a long time to sort out all the sides to our "marriage" - in the end, we gave up and just agreed that we had a small, happy space in the SL world that belonged to us. So we lived there. Was wonderful. To speak to the original point - our sex life was, too.

Is that "OMG run and hide" or "OMG I bet that pie filling is yummy"?

I'm not sure why you felt you had to share this with us in the forum but I am really glad I'm not married to you in RL personally.

Congratulations Strife for your win; you are probably out celebrating...so lots of opps for bets on who is the last one.

Wait... is Strife going somewhere?

Of course. I tell this to people all the time. Some people are just very narrow and constrained in their views, but not all of us are. I'm sorry to hear of your loss, but I'm heartened to see that you can look on the good parts of what was, and take comfort in them .. (directed at the peanut gallery: .. as we do in ALL of our relationships that for whatever reason do not work out..).

Yes, I have been there.. I have fallen in love in SL and because we used voice to touch each others real life..I fell in love in RL too.. It hurts when it no longer is there. It hurts when one of the parties begins telling lies about why they are no longer able to be in SL the same number of hours as they use to...It hurts when you find out they have an alt avatar and have forgotten to tell you or you are the last one to know...It all hurts.. the emotions are real and the feelings are real... Would I do it again. probably NOT..I will leave the hurt to RL only..The more I read on this forum about the pros and cons of SL loving, relationships, sex, etc.. the more I realize.. it is merely virtual fun...and nothing more.

Ava, I think I lost an earring. Did you find it by any chance?

How many prims was it?

Thank you for sharing that Eveline. I had a very similar loving relationship, partnered for two years in SL. We both were married to someone else in RL. It eventually had to part when she began to fear that her RL was beginning to suspect something was up. We broke it up before anything unpleasant could happen. But I still miss her terribly, we both felt alot of hurt and heartache at parting, but we have many wonderful memories and really were the best friends either of us had during the time we were together. We were deeply in love, but the limitations and obligations in RL prevented us from taking it any further.

Nevertheless, it was real and deeply heartfelt love that we shared. And yes the sex was great, largely because the love and emotions were real. We remain friends, but at a distance, its too hard otherwise.

It's sad to see this thread being used for jokes. Probably by people who think that (whatever sort of) real love does not exist in a virtual world.

I find this post impossible to follow.

Especially the second part.

Strife win what?


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Im guessing you mean you disapprove of having virtual affairs behind RL married partner's back and that Strife will come along and lock this soon.

It's OMG, you just posted the best sentence ever.

Not at all. I have found real love and real pain through SL relationships. Just not something I would discuss on a public forum that is here to answer resident questions.

This is a general discussion thread that is really not appropriate for this Resident Answers forum, so the resident answerers are just having some fun since there is no resident question to answer. Feel free to ignore the pie posts and revel in deep discussion until Strife gets back and locks this thread.

Strife won LL's Innovation Award in the Best Community Organizer category (see the latest Blog).

Hence the idea he may be out celebrating and not around to close this thread.

Congrats, Strife!