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Merlyn Bailly
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03-19-2006 12:32
From: Reitsuki Kojima "Secret meaning"? The flag itself is not inherently racist, (...)</quote> TRUE - the flag itself is just a piece of cloth, like a tablecloth. It was the banner of a rebel government which lost a war. <quote>  ...) nor is everyone who displays it today racist.</quote> WRONG -- Anyone who hangs the Confederate flag in the US today is blatantly stating their support for the slave-holding South who lost the Civil War. I'm a 14th-generation American, and I have ancestors who fought on both sides of that conflict. One aunt is a member of the DAR, and my dad was eligible for membership in the CINCINNATUS group. I could, due to my mother's family antecedents in Kentucky and Virginia, join the Confederate Daughters group, but I'm not really interested in "celebrating" the culture of slaveowners. I can't say I'm really proud of my kin who fought for the CSA; I recognize the historical FACT that the war was fought, and the FACT that the South LOST THE FREAKIN' WAR. Those people who TODAY display the Confederate flag openly are deliberately stating their pride in the "ideals" of the slaveowners who refused to treat their African slaves as human beings (insisting, in fact, on their RIGHT to treat them as animals, like plow oxen and brood mares), and who seceded from the American government, rather than treat other human beings _AS_ human beings. People who fly/display the Confederate flag today are tacitly declaring NOT ONLY that they refuse to admit that the CSA lost the war, but that the Southern refusal to accord human rights to African slaves was wrong. Such people are generally white male, of lower income and low-income background, and are militantly against other races being treated as equal to white men -- generally because they're too damn lazy and uneducated to compete with Asians or African-Americans who HAVE made the effort to get an education. They also deeply resent women being treated as their equals, and are usually rabidly homophobic, regarding gay men and women as vermin and fair game for harassment and discrimination. Jews are another one of their favored targets, since Jewish culture is based on literate education, and these guys are usually semi-illiterate and prefer to base their claims of superiority on their white skin and their genitalia rather than the use of their brains. The women who support them are of the type who prefer to have men take care of them while they have babies and watch soap operas, and who, while insisting on their identity as "Christian", would never treat anyone else in a "Christian" manner unless they were white and Protestant. Phyllis Schlafly, of the EAGLE FOUNDATION, is the Republican doyenne of those who insist on the female right to be confined to housework, babies, and Sunday school. If they had their way, no American woman would ever get a high school diploma, much less go to college and have a real career. There's no secret about this -- the present-day KKK and the Neo-Nazis are as viciously racist and fascistic now as they were during Reconstruction and World War II. They simply use the pseudo-claim that they're not preaching "race hate", they're teaching "racial pride" -- which is absolute BS, a completely false distinction. It's a variant of Hitler's BIG LIE tactic -- say something loud enough and often enough, and no-one will bother to argue with you. Sorry, I'm not one of the ball-less wonders who will sit quietly and let them get away with it. Anyone who displays a Confederate flag today is declaring their admiration for vicious, hateful thugs, and no semantic nonsense will change that.
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Hooka Hulka
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03-30-2006 13:41
I've said it before( http://forums.secondlife.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=965549), and I'll say it again...the adoption of the flag by the 21st Century confederates is A Sign 'O The Times. We all live in an age where protesting the status quo up is akin to treason ("You're with us or your with the terrorists"*), writing inflammatory editorials is too controversial "Rather than change anyone's mind, we would create another controversy"** and the need to put some form of reality on all the lies we consume each day becomes paramount to preserving sanity. I think what is at stake in this topic is not just how Americans are confronted by their incredibly violent past, but also the current effects of "confederate think" on our very modern SL lives. This is a response to fleeing confusion and a willingness to identify a known rationale. This new confederate rhetoric knows no bounds as it forges ahead its attack on what it views as nihilism and moral degeneration. Is it plausible to now imagine a future day when the majority vote in the Supreme court overturns Brown Vs Board of education? We prefer to think not, but the notion that we turn our backs on controversey, refusing to fight bad ideas with good is becoming the new norm. we now have legislators in South Dakota like the segregationists of old. They have intentionally broken the law. They are hoping for court challenges and expect Bush appointees Alito and Roberts to live up to right-wing expectations and overturn the Roe decision. Is it possible to wave the confedrate flag without a direct appeal to the days when whitey ruled? If it is possible to conjecture where waving the flag of confederacy actually rejects that appeal, I'm all ears. Is there such an appeal? Not ever, not once. That minority opposed views will be advocated within the Sl community goes without saying. It is wrong on its face. We have already seen the results of Black avatars in the game as suffering epithets. This is the elites marketplace for ideas, however "gamed" the environment might be, and the elites are white, wealthy, tech savvy and predominently American. The question remains, will good ideas prevail in the marketplace? * President George Bush ** Chuck Baldwin, editor The Argus Leader, the largest newspaper in South Dakota, announced it will not take an editorial position on the new Abortion law.
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Jonas Pierterson
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03-30-2006 15:14
From: someone Anyone who displays a Confederate flag today is declaring their admiration for vicious, hateful thugs, and no semantic nonsense will change that. Wrong. No semantic nonsense would make me support subjugation of an entire race.. From: someone Such people are generally white male, of lower income and low-income background, and are militantly against other races being treated as equal to white men -- generally because they're too damn lazy and uneducated to compete with Asians or African-Americans who HAVE made the effort to get an education. They also deeply resent women being treated as their equals, and are usually rabidly homophobic, regarding gay men and women as vermin and fair game for harassment and discrimination. Jews are another one of their favored targets, since Jewish culture is based on literate education, and these guys are usually semi-illiterate and prefer to base their claims of superiority on their white skin and their genitalia rather than the use of their brains. The women who support them are of the type who prefer to have men take care of them while they have babies and watch soap operas, and who, while insisting on their identity as "Christian", would never treat anyone else in a "Christian" manner unless they were white and Protestant. Phyllis Schlafly, of the EAGLE FOUNDATION, is the Republican doyenne of those who insist on the female right to be confined to housework, babies, and Sunday school. If they had their way, no American woman would ever get a high school diploma, much less go to college and have a real career.
Stereotyping. I am white, male, straight and proud of it. I feel all races and all sexes (male, female, intergendered) should be treated equally-and trully equally. This means no white history month, no black history month, no mens history month, no womens history month. No affirmative action - college admission and jobs base don qualifications, and qualificatiosn again. I am well educated, of middle class, from middle class parents and PROUD of my southern heritage.
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Monique Mistral
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04-06-2006 14:32
From: Sansarya Caligari Do the political views of content providers/business owners affect your decisions to buy from them? Recently I was shopping and accidentally was tp'd to the designer's studio, only to be confronted by a large Confederate flag hung on the wall. Knowing the secret meaning of this flag in the U.S. southern states, I immediately tp'd out of there and am reluctant to return or to buy anything from this designer. It's your full right to do so and feel that way, I guess. What's the problem? From: someone Not just my sense of political correctness kicking in, but the fact that that flag stands for something very ugly for African Americans even today, thirty years after the civil rights movement, I just don't want to support Confederate ideals with my money or by recommending the designer to other residents (despite that I have purchased from this designer in the past and would have again if I hadn't seen what I saw). Anyone have any thoughts on this? (this would have been a poll if I had known what I was asking here.) Being non-American, I don't feel that the old South or the Confederate States stood for anything uniquely ugly in particular. It wasn't like they went to Africa and dragged the slaves out of the Jungle. The African slaves were provided by other blacks who happily sold their racial kin to anyone from overseas who'd pay for them. They were prisoners from the endless, brutal tribal wars in the interior, and the slavetraders themselves were typically Jews, not Southerners. And before the Americas, the biggest importer of African slaves was the Islamic world. They were the ones who actually set up the African slave market before others expanded it. You get hateful thoughts from dealing with Muslims too?
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sandro Melnitz
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04-07-2006 05:53
I don't usually buy things from malls. Actually, I don't use to shop. I'm an interaction/chat addict and good creations appreciation slave. I have many landmarks in my inventory. When I like it, it's not often a store/mall product, it's a person's imagination towards builds not money from builds.
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sandro Melnitz
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04-07-2006 05:55
I don't usually buy things from malls. Actually, I rarely shop. I'm an interaction/chat addict and good creations appreciation slave. I have many landmarks in my inventory and no need to buy a thing. When I like it, it's not often a store product, it's a person's imagination towards buildings, not towards getting money from buildings. I think SL political issues depends on one's feelings. It's not RL.
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Toni Bentham
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04-07-2006 10:20
From: Monique Mistral Being non-American, I don't feel that the old South or the Confederate States stood for anything uniquely ugly in particular. As you say, you're not American, you're certainly not African-American. I imagine if a bunch of people tried to disintegrate your nation because they weren't in charge you'd feel differently. There was certainly more to the Confederacy than slavery and racism, but most of the nation's other values were equally despicable, IMO. I find it just as offensive to idolize people who launched a violent reovlution against a democratically-elected government as to idolize people who condoned slavery.
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Jonas Pierterson
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04-07-2006 10:24
And I'm not white. I'm European American, not white. I find it more offensive to lauch an attack against people who chose to leave a union they joined willingly, in the name of stabalizing your own economy, especially while using the issue of slavery as a smokescreen.
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04-07-2006 11:11
From: Sansarya Caligari Do the political views of content providers/business owners affect your decisions to buy from them? Recently I was shopping and accidentally was tp'd to the designer's studio, only to be confronted by a large Confederate flag hung on the wall. Knowing the secret meaning of this flag in the U.S. southern states, I immediately tp'd out of there and am reluctant to return or to buy anything from this designer. Not just my sense of political correctness kicking in, but the fact that that flag stands for something very ugly for African Americans even today, thirty years after the civil rights movement, I just don't want to support Confederate ideals with my money or by recommending the designer to other residents (despite that I have purchased from this designer in the past and would have again if I hadn't seen what I saw). Anyone have any thoughts on this? (this would have been a poll if I had known what I was asking here.) Good for you, Sansarya. If someone chooses to make a political statement in his or her place of business, then he or she should expect that those who do not agree may take their business elsewhere.
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Jonas Pierterson
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04-07-2006 11:16
Exactly.. but as it stands you don't really know the reason someone has a display til you ask. If I hang a confederate flag, its not because of racism, its pride in my heritage. But then, if you can't face up and ask why they display it..then perhaps they don't want the business of those who jump to conclusions or jump to insulting their pride in heritage.
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04-07-2006 11:25
From: Jonas Pierterson I am white, male, straight and proud of it. I feel all races and all sexes (male, female, intergendered) should be treated equally-and trully equally. This means no white history month, no black history month, no mens history month, no womens history month. No affirmative action - college admission and jobs base don qualifications, and qualificatiosn again. I am well educated, of middle class, from middle class parents and PROUD of my southern heritage. Men and women will not be treated fully equally until men take on their share of unpaid work. As women do (according to the Women Count statistics gathered by the Status of Women Canada, a government body) 85% of the unpaid work, this would mean that men would need to ante up a significant amount of the unpaid work allowing women to access more and higher paid work. I believe that once we are on a level playing field (and we are far from that) then sure, get rid of those incentives that make up for the fact that, only quite recently, more than half of the population of the US wasn't allowed to own property, vote, and work for equal wages. In Canada, though the suffrage movement was more complete (women were granted complete human status in the constitution here, unlike in the US) not all women were allowed to vote: not until the 60s. In the US, women were not allowed to own property until the 20s. A populace cannot recover from subjugation without some dispensations. It also takes a considerable period of time for a subjugated population to have full substantive equality with an unsubjugated one. When men spend 50% of the childcare time, 50% of the housekeeping time, 50% of the eldercare time, and 50% of the other volunteering done in society, then great. Do away with international women's day and end alimony. When women are fully integrated into history books, then great, do away with women's history month. When minority groups are no more likely than white folks to end up in jail, die young, or die in infancy, then fabulous, we can get rid of scholarship funds and Aboriginal Women's Centres. Until that time, there is work to do. I'll be happy to be post-feminist in the post-patriarchy.
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Vivianne Draper
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04-07-2006 13:07
From: Jonas Pierterson I am white, male, straight and proud of it. I feel all races and all sexes (male, female, intergendered) should be treated equally-and trully equally. This means no white history month, no black history month, no mens history month, no womens history month. No affirmative action - college admission and jobs base don qualifications, and qualificatiosn again. I am well educated, of middle class, from middle class parents and PROUD of my southern heritage. But... every month is white male month. Our entire history has (and I'm talking in the western hemisphere - its not just the US), for the most part, glorified the acts of white males everywhere while forgetting contributions made by people of minority races, women of any race, etc. Also minorities and women have been discriminated against by employers, college admissions departments, etc. This hasn't changed. All Affirmative Action does is even the playing field a little bit. Look at the BOD of any openly traded company or college. Nine times out of 10, 90% of the board will be white males. Its taken Affirmative Action this long just get a mere 10%. Even at my job, most of the meetings I go to I'm the only female in the room and usually there are no minorities. I know the minorities must exist because we have Affirmative Action -- but they aren't in the meetings I go to. Sorry you feel discriminated against. Kinda sucks don't it? Welcome to my world. Glad to hear yer all proud of being a southerner and a white male. But really, who cares?
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Aliasi Stonebender
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04-07-2006 13:18
From: Toni Bentham As you say, you're not American, you're certainly not African-American. I imagine if a bunch of people tried to disintegrate your nation because they weren't in charge you'd feel differently.
There was certainly more to the Confederacy than slavery and racism, but most of the nation's other values were equally despicable, IMO. I find it just as offensive to idolize people who launched a violent reovlution against a democratically-elected government as to idolize people who condoned slavery. Well... you see, that's the funny think about America, you know. Kind of hard to disapprove of violent revolution when it served us so well, back in the late 1700s...
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Vivianne Draper
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04-07-2006 13:19
From: Sansarya Caligari Do the political views of content providers/business owners affect your decisions to buy from them? Recently I was shopping and accidentally was tp'd to the designer's studio, only to be confronted by a large Confederate flag hung on the wall. Knowing the secret meaning of this flag in the U.S. southern states, I immediately tp'd out of there and am reluctant to return or to buy anything from this designer. Not just my sense of political correctness kicking in, but the fact that that flag stands for something very ugly for African Americans even today, thirty years after the civil rights movement, I just don't want to support Confederate ideals with my money or by recommending the designer to other residents (despite that I have purchased from this designer in the past and would have again if I hadn't seen what I saw). Anyone have any thoughts on this? (this would have been a poll if I had known what I was asking here.) Well.... I wouldn't necessarily think that someone displaying a confederate flag was a racist. I might think they were silly. Depending on the contents of the shop, I might think it was appropriate decoration. For instance a shop filled with a still, mint juleps, southern belle dresses, magnolia trees, marble columned mansions, tobacco, jack daniels, cotton, lynyrd skynnyrd posters, posters of blues greats, mississippi style gambling boats... these are the things I associate with the south (and I have lived in the south for a large portion of my life -- over 20 years -- I grew up in the south) and a confederate flag would be appropriate. It is true that many people who are racists are also all "oh the south is gonna do it again" and display confederate flags. I'm not exactly sure what the south is going to do again because it isn't like they won or anything but I digress.... Its also true that many people who are NOT racists are also all "oh the south is gonna do it again" and display confederate flags. I don't digress much though. The war between the states was a very low point in US history. Most people don't realize that it had little to do with slavery -- slavery was a subset. It *really* was about states rights. The southern states didn't want to follow the dictates of the northern states (where the capitol was) and decided to secede. The rest of the US didn't much care for that idea and hence there was a war. I wouldn't read all that much into a confederate flag though. However, you are certainly right to shop where you please and if a confederate flag offends you, then damn straight don't shop there!
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Sansarya Caligari
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04-07-2006 13:34
From: Jonas Pierterson Exactly.. but as it stands you don't really know the reason someone has a display til you ask. If I hang a confederate flag, its not because of racism, its pride in my heritage. But then, if you can't face up and ask why they display it..then perhaps they don't want the business of those who jump to conclusions or jump to insulting their pride in heritage. Guess I have to ask, what is that heritage and what does it stand for today, 30 yrs after the civil rights movement and 100+ years after emancipation, when black people still have trouble voting (as do Native Americans) because somebody within your heritage considers them less than equal human beings? Southern pride is fine--does it have to be centered around the Confederate Battle Flag? Every person I've talked to of southern heritage, of black heritage, of Native American heritage, etc. has stated emphatically to me that the Confederate Battle Flag signifies something that cannot be condoned. I still have trouble figuring out why people will rally around a flag that has historically been used to oppress people of another race in addition to the anti-American sentiment it has signified. Why haven't I confronted the person who displays this flag? It's her land, her business, and her sentiments, which she is free to express, while I remain free to not support the statement. This thread really had nothing to do with free speech. It had to do with symbols that oppress. The Confederate Battle Flag is one of them, and I would also argue that for many, so is the American flag. If we don't confront the symbols then we fail to confront the attitudes and meanings embedded within them. Land of the free, home of the brave--unless you are not white, male, and a landowner, right?
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Jonas Pierterson
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04-07-2006 15:51
Only one quote here, but other replies. From: someone But... every month is white male month. Our entire history has (and I'm talking in the western hemisphere - its not just the US), for the most part, glorified the acts of white males everywhere while forgetting contributions made by people of minority races, women of any race, etc. No, every month is NOT white history month. I see women in the history books, minorities in there. Feel free to pick up any high school history book made after 1990. Especial attention should be paid to the civil rights activism period. Considering one (at least) of my ancestors fought and died during the civil war: YES. Unless you don't think anyone should be proud of the american flag as it stands..being so not connected with racism. We'll just ignore the slaves in the north, and more recently internment of those of asian descent during WW2. If people have a problem with a symbol of my pride then it is completely on their end. I sure have a problem with the klans symbols myself. Of course theres always the swastika.. a symbol I have moved past attaching to nazi sybolism. Sure, they used it, but they bastardized it. Just like the iron cross that wa sused prior to WW2. This thread is entirely about freedom of speech. The confederate flag only oppresses in a persons mind. Move past your own biases and take a look at things from the others point of view. I know I have. Affirmative action puts minorities and women above other candidates. I have been shut out of a job despite being better qualified, based only on one thing: The color of my skin. And the employer admitted it. That is racism, and theres no pretty way to glorify it, no way at all to justify it. Men taking half of the unpaid work has already been done but it is an individual thing. No legislature can change it. So, you know what? Suck it up when I refuse to support any history month/week. In current times they aren't needed, and shouldn't be in the future to come. The last 'black history month report' I ever did in school was on how Martin Luther King, Jr. would DISAPPROVE of black history month. The teacher tried to give me a failing grade, but the principal (a black woman, by the way) agreed that was out of line, and the grade was raised to 100. Everyone can be racist, and black/womens/etc history month is racist and/or sexist. There no getting around it, and I don't support any form of racism or sexism.
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04-07-2006 16:16
From: Jonas Pierterson Only one quote here, but other replies. I would be curious to hear you specifically address my reply, Jonas, as you did not seem to come anywhere near it. For one thing, as a teacher, I would never fail a student for having ideas that differed from mine, especially if he or she could support his or her ideas with reasoning, examples or proofs. This would not make him or her right, however. It would mean only that the student engaged in thought, came up with a different answer, and should be graded for the degree to which he or she supported the thesis as advanced. You seem to be saying "it is so because it is so" It simply is, you tell us, sexist to have a women's history month. Take a look at the history channel. Take a look at the indices of a textbook and then tell me if women represent 52% of the entries there. If they do not, then history still, largely, belongs to men. Women's history was actively repressed and destroyed. Take, for example, the nun playwright whose name translated to strong voice. I believe (though it is ancient german so I may be wrong) her name was Hrotsvit. She wrote plays in the tenth century, but who, outside of feminist theatre practitioners and theorists, knows about her? She wrote some very compelling dramas about martyrdom, but in her time her works were burned and destroyed as heresy not because of what they contained but because a woman had written them. Women's histories have been systematically erased. This has happened for centuries. How convenient it must be to be able to use the flawed thinking that redressing sexism is itself sexist to be able to further erase them. Some people persist in believing that women enjoy economic equality with men, yet in the 2001 (pretty sure it was 2001 unless our library carried an older edition) Who's Who in the Fortune 500, there were only 6 identifiably female names. That's out of several thousand entries. Considering, Jonas, that racism and sexism against those who have been subjugated and marginalized persists, how would you recommend redressing that? Do you not feel the slightest bit silly at claiming equal subjugation for white men?
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04-07-2006 17:13
I feel not in the slightest silly to say men and women are equal in the modern world. Affirmative action has no place and I applaud the colleges that have rejected it.
Fortune may not have caught up with many women yet- but the equality is there. The chance to earn it. Currently, few women have attaine dit yet, but it is not the fault of the government nor me. Many historic women were mentioned in my high schools history, nearly as many as men. Why only nearly? You tell me. Its not sexism, thats for sure. You aren't 52% of the indices? You have an equal shot of making it in the modern US. Equality is not entitlement, you have an equal shot at making the history books as I - THATS equality. To earn a historical note, you must earn it, not be given it because of your race or gender. So no, I don't feel silly, because I speak truth. Giving more priveledges to 'right' or redress old wrongs is not equality. Giving an equal footing is. Alimony isn't going away, though its definition as ex wife support is. Men can sue for alimony as well as women, and get it. That is equality. Now to stop forcing men to bear responsibility for a pregnancy while giving the woman options.. A couple becomes pregnant.. to woman : let me go over the options.. to man: if she keeps the child you'll have to support it.. Don't even try the 'should have kept it in his pants' either. BOTH participated.
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04-07-2006 23:02
I agree that men should be able to opt out of parenthood, actually, but that women should also have the same right. Noone should be forced to be a parent. However, a man who has been a parent, (just as a woman who has been a parent) should bear responsibilities for that child after the relationship breaks up.
And men need to do 50% of the unpaid work or women's economic situations will never improve.
We aren't going to make any headway on the whole affirmative action thing. I still think that white men playing the role of subjugated victim sound a little silly usually. I have known some men who were victimized, and that is different. But to claim that white men are the underdog while they make up the vast majority of those with the greatest wealth, while women make up the vast majority of those with the direst poverty, seems ludicrous. I hear your point of view, Jonas, and you have reasons for feeling that way. We aren't likely to convince one another here.
What do you think about the unpaid work thing? Do you do 50% of the unpaid work in your relationship? Mine's easy: I live alone so it isn't an issue. When I was married, though, my husband made $4 more per hour as a labourer (for which his education was irrelevant) than I made as an administrator with a related master's degree. To make 50% of the income, I had to work 2 jobs, putting in 8 hours more per week (not to mention the 8 years more of schooling) in order to make equal wages with him. Even still, I wound up doing about 70% of the unpaid work. It took several months of keeping statistics to affirm this and he was genuinely surprised. He had thought he was doing his share. But the tasks he took on were seasonal or occasional and tended to simply take much less time than tasks such as cooking, cleaning the bathroom, scrubbing the floors, etc.
Until this issue is addressed, there is no equality in any substantive way between men and women. Also keep in mind that the US isn't an island. It is impacted strongly by a global climate of male supremacy. Substantive equality is when you look not just at the rules but the outcomes and say ok, it is true that she was legally able to go to a shelter when she was beaten to a pulp, but she was killed anyway and why was that? often in our search for substantive equality, we may find systemic reasons why someone isn't actually achieving equality (the unpaid work factor, for example, or having shelters staffed with ethnocentric mission workers, for another).
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04-07-2006 23:22
Not only do I do my share of the housework, but because my fiance is disabled, I tend to be helping her with tasks such as reaching, evnd even getting up in the morning when shes likely to fall over. In case you haven't seen somebody who suffers from fibromyalgia, my fiance does. She has good and bad days, and on the bad ones she can barely manage from the bed to a chair. One of the fuels for my views is how if a woman cries 'rape' its instant sympathy (not saying sympathy isn't deserved in msot cases) but if a man claims 'rape' then they are usually laughed at. Trust me on it. Domestic abuse is another.. if a man steps forward and says his wife/fiance/gf is abusing him in some way, its usually ignored or joked about. 'What did she do, call you snookieboo?' With a woman claiming it.. its completely different and the suspect is oftentimes locked up at least overnight on just her word. Until we move past all these conceptions between genders..we won't have true equality. Edit: I have worked as a Nurses Aide (do not do so currently by choice). As a male I was paid 1 dollar more an hour, yes, but it came at its own cost. I was asked many times a day asked by the female aides to help with a task, adjust a heavier person, etc. Being a greeable I would say yess unless I could not leave the locked ward (for alzheimers etc) or was busy. 98% of the time I said yes. When I asked for help with soemthing, asking these same people whom I helped mind you, I was 90% of the time told they were too busy. Most of this 'busy' involved gossiping about dates between rounds and meals.
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Monique Mistral
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04-08-2006 15:37
From: Toni Bentham As you say, you're not American, you're certainly not African-American. I imagine if a bunch of people tried to disintegrate your nation because they weren't in charge you'd feel differently. . No, I am not African-American. I'm European. As for "I imagine if a bunch of people tried to disintegrate your nation because they weren't in charge you'd feel differently", I am not sure what you are trying to say... Yes, my nation is being disintegtrated as we speak. Within a hundred years the muslims will account for the majority population in countries like France, The Netherlands and Sweden. Our culture, the European culture, the civilization that we have built and of which you are a part in the US, will cease to exist as the remnants of ourselves descend into dhimmitude. You know what dhimmitude is? From: someone There was certainly more to the Confederacy than slavery and racism, but most of the nation's other values were equally despicable, IMO. I find it just as offensive to idolize people who launched a violent reovlution against a democratically-elected government as to idolize people who condoned slavery. I'm not sure what you are trying to say here either. The Confederates, I am fairly convinced, could find support for their cause of self-governance within the constitution. It was the Union side that broke the social contract. As for values, whatever your values are, I have a certain interesting quotes from President Lincoln himself, but that can wait for another time...
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Monique Mistral
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04-08-2006 16:02
From: Vivianne Draper But... every month is white male month. Our entire history has (and I'm talking in the western hemisphere - its not just the US), for the most part, glorified the acts of white males everywhere while forgetting contributions made by people of minority races, women of any race, etc. Simple. There are just about no glorious acts and contributions of minority people to celebrate. Especially not since they need to be glorious to us, not only to them. I'm sure all people are proud of their own heritage and they have every right to be, but what does it concern us? It does not. In fact, if a minority did something that was gloriuos to us but ignoble to themsleves, I'd feel embarrassment and shame, not rejoice due to their lack of integrity. Women? Who are you trying to fool? We have never had it so good as we have it now and that is all due to the white male. Who do you think would allow women being payed support by their divorced men? Arabs? Blacks? Come on! When the Titanic went down it was "women and children to the lifeboats!". Men could be sacrifized and were indeed ready to give their lives... for us. They were expected to. In sub-Saharan Africa it would have been everyone for himself, and guess who'd won that race...
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04-08-2006 16:14
From: Jonas Pierterson In case you haven't seen somebody who suffers from fibromyalgia, my fiance does. She has good and bad days, and on the bad ones she can barely manage from the bed to a chair. My mother suffers from that, albeit lightly. I know what you mean and feel for you.
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04-08-2006 19:26
From: Toni Bentham There was certainly more to the Confederacy than slavery and racism, but most of the nation's other values were equally despicable, IMO. I find it just as offensive to idolize people who launched a violent reovlution against a democratically-elected government as to idolize people who condoned slavery. Oh? What were some of these other despicable values? Be particularly careful here to not name ones that were also values of the north at the time... Idolizing revolution is totaly dependent on who wins. The generations following, the descendents of the victors idolize the winners and demonize the loosers. That says very little about either side, and much more about the sheep-like nature of people in general. As for rebelling against a democratic government... you DO realize that the primary purpose of much of the constitution is to protect the people from the government, right? The government SHOULD fear the people. When that stopped being true was the darkest moment in our nation's history.
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Jonas Pierterson
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04-08-2006 23:44
She wouldn't be able to mention racism and slavery if she didn't mention despicable behaviors of the north too.
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