Ok...would you allow this?

They do me

you know what 70 is right? same as 69, only I owe you one =X

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@OP
if it works for them... :hrug:: I've been in situations where it would work, and ones where it wouldn't.

Added with the current quotes, this will go well in my sig.

Thank you.

Get used to it, I never knew the extent of what people can and will do until I found SL.

That's better than a goo gooing and gaga-ing, huh?

Pretty big gamble to take if you ask me. One would have to ask them selves how much they really valued their relationship to risk shattering it over a sense of pleasure. I would never head in that direction . I value my wife very much not to have something like that destroy what i treasure most.

But 2 each his own . thats how i feel about it

I know 3 couples who ventured down that road. and now all 3 couples are divorced or going thru one. That's 3 and 3. The odds don't look good in those situations. But some can pull it off ..

actually it raises the question of why would you take something your friend told you in private, and post it in a public forum? to me that shows a total lack of respect not only of your friend's privacy, but also your "friendship".

oh and here's my thought on it: if you were my friend, and i told you something this intimate, and you turned around and did this? I'd drop you like a bad habit.

I agree with all the posters who say "none of yours, theirs or my business". Open marriages occur in rl, as does partner swapping in rl. Not our place to judge their relationship.

However, I was wondering if you were more concerned about the "goo-goo" "gaa-gaaing" than anything?

Well, that is a tactic people use to make another person jealous. What is underlying some of these tactics of the jealousy game in relationships is what the couple may or may not need to discuss as usually as jealousy game is played out of insecurities and doubts that they are really loved by their partner, and sometimes it can signal problems in the relationship that aren't being communicated properly.

However, there is no way to know if this was a jealousy ploy or not? This couple could be very secure that their partnership is No.1.

/me snorts coffee out her nose.

LOL!

This. Squared.

Aren't we all?

Of course this is not what you meant, Conifer, but I do wonder how many people are aware that our closest living relative in the world---the Bonobo chimpanzee, with whom we share fully 99% of the same DNA---uses sexuality as the social glue to maintain their community. They use sex as a greeting, as conflict resolution, and just for the heck of it... No Victorian monogamy with one individual, but a social bond with the group. And they're quite creative about it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonobo

It's very familiar sounding, isn't it?

(Please no Biblical references in retort to this. They hold no water for me, since I much prefer animals to people, and always have. Animals are so much more honest.)

I often wondered why ape evolved man is shown without long beards? Did cave men shave?

Also if they had no need to shave, how did male facial hair evolve into what it is today?

Wouldn't an apeman look more like the guys in ZZ Top?

Just guessing, I'd say it's an attempt to distance ourselves from the animal world. Animals are hairy; evolved humans are not (or at least not since the ancient Romans made hairlessness la mode). Artists are people too, ya know, and come with the same set of misconceptions as their book publishers...

That's a dumb way to prove a theory. How can one present a scientific theory if they are blinded by their own misconceptions?

/me snorts.

Do chimps have long beards?

Perhaps that's the one percent difference?

All you are saying in this post is that chimps are still chimps.

Same way as one can present a religious one, I guess

/me tiptoes quietly out...

Well science and religion both have aspects of faith or have come to a certain conclusion based upon a belief system in regards to the evidence, but still one cannot present a scientific theory to the scientific community without taking out preconceived notions or else it's not science; it's merely a represented belief with preconceived notions.

/me tiptoes out too to eat eggs and bacon

Skell, you so bad! O.o

Even though I'm one of those people who say "to each their own," I don't blame the OP (or anyone who posts a similar topic on this forum) for wanting to discuss the issues.

The still very new technology of the internet is rapidly and significantly transforming the ways in which we socialize with each other. These issues are ones we should discuss early and often.

And even though I believe that consenting adults should define their relationships the way they want, I also know that, of the married couples who "play" in virtual reality with others, with whom I am personally familiar, those married couples almost always end up divorcing.

Though I don't discount the possibility that couples could be happy with open relationships, or virtual play, it seems that couples in fact have a difficult time making it work. If they are to figure out ways to make it work, they need to have plenty of discussions like the one in this thread.

And then if people are to successfully identify themselves as people for whom this wouldn't work, they need to have discussions like one in this thread.

So I'm sure to forum regulars, these threads seem like they are beating a dead horse. But to anyone who has not participated in past discussions, it's a brand new issue. Reading the old threads isn't the same informative experience as participating in one, and offering one's own perspectives, and getting feedback from others.

I think these threads are a good thing, if we are to get accustomed to the way in which virtual reality is changing our lives and our society.

I have actually met a few couples that are *considering* a 'swinging' lifestyle in RL (that is not a reference to the chimp discussion ). And one of them told me that swapping and playing around in SL was how they were trying to get an understanding of their true feelings on the whole swinging concept. If they cannot handle it here, in a virtual environment, then they know they should not try in RL. By the same token, if they can do it here and maintain proper perspective and full disclosure and honesty, then they will go ahead and try it in RL.

We all define relationships and sex and intimacy in our own ways. I whole-hearted applaud the ones willing to push themselves and experiment in this world - experiment in any and all ways that they want. Especially if they are using this world to help them in discovering something for RL. That, to me, seems like one of the best benefits of SL or any other virtual environment.

You naughty, naughty boy.



/me loves it

According to people in this thread, you should not publish on the internet what friends have told YOU or they'd consider you no "friend" and drop ya' like a hot potato.

If you'd like to delete your post, just say so in this thread and I'll delete mine too. np