Reasoning behind your partnership status

No shit it is none of my business what anyone else does. But I am entitled to my opinion and can voice it like every one else is. I personally think it is a shitty thing to do to your unsuspecting spouse. And who the hell is talking about abusive relationships? Stay on topic,thanks.

PS here is one for you

(o) No, because she ain't said "yes" yet. (T_T)

I always thought it meant She Who Mostly Balked (at) Oral when I was married.

Well this just blew the thread out of the water for me since a comment like that is entirely too broad sweeping and I personally do not feel any need to go into my own personal reasons herein. Just leads this into the eternal is it cheating subject and now the OP's original question is mucked in it. Carry on-

And with that I am out of this thread. Sorry OP for going off on a tangent there and changing direction of this thread. Happy partnering people.

There is always some selfish prig that wants to take things away from people just because they don't like it. If it isn't directly affecting you, don't worry about.

Busy bodies suck.

Well, that is a problem with hoping on a personal bitch out soap box in a topic like this just because a person wants to spew their personal opinion.

It totally craps on the topic and makes people not want to respond since their actions are already prejudged.

This could have been a nice conversation with stories about people getting partnered and their reasons, but when some tosses out a judgmental post, people tend to keep quiet and avoid the topic.

Some of us form a relationship without paying LL for the privilege. I must say i do tend to agree with Rioko Bamaisin about those married in RL

here was the topic:


You were way off it to start with.

Thanks for your "personal bitch" derail.

Briana, I couldn't care less what you do. I was joking about LL getting rid of it. I am stating my opinion on it that I think it is wrong to do when you are married in RL, that is all. Don't like it,don't read it. Ignore button is that way---->

Always some selfish prig telling people how and what to post. Busy bodies suck.

With respect to the OP,I will delete my posts and apologize to him.

Weird that you say this when this is what you were doing in the first place. Kinda how you said i was derailing it when you were the one doing that as well....

Whatever. Part of participating in a thread is having the ability to judge whether or not a post you will make will totally bomb out the thread and then actually caring about not doing such a thing. If that was your intent, well, we know what that is.

Telling someone to "ignore" is rather 'after the fact'.

I just thought you cared more than to shit up and derail a thread with personal bitch bombs.

Whatever.

I wouldn't use the word 'bitch' cause a) Rio's my friend and though yeah the post rankled I wdnt want her to think i meant she was a bitch - and b) shit happens in peoples' lives and this is a thorn for her apparently - so - other than this reply, i think i will move on- but yeah i do agree with your general statement - it definitely throws a pail of water on the fire.

I agree with her too, in principal, but not the 'personal bitch' part. It's not a pet peeve or anything. I respect and even admire many of the SL partnerships I see. The reason I agree with Rioko, the concept of what she said, anyway, is that I, personally know that it would hurt my husband to know that I was being intimate, on any level, with someone else, virtual or not. Emotional infidelity would hurt him, knowing my emotions and heart, confidences, dreams, were being turned another way, towards someone else. I love him and would not want to hurt him. I honestly feel he would care way more about those intangibles, than about pixel sex. Knowing myself, also, I am positive that I couldn't keep it at a 'pretend' level, as someone mentioned earlier. So for me is best I stay away. Also important to impart is, that until I've walked in someone else's real life shoes/marriage, I cannot judge them, and why they do what they do. I can only speak for me. I know why *I* didn't 'just get a divorce when I was in a troubled, abusive marriage. I'm sure they have reasons too, and I respect that those reasons are none of my business. You can look at some SL partnerships and see true respect and happiness. Just because something isn't for me personally, doesn't make me chalk it up as a bad thing, even in my own mind.

Very soon after I came to SL I decided I'd never be partnered. I want to be free here - in a way I suppose I'm partnered with the whole grid and everyone in it!

So, I put yes.. even though it is actually an alt that is the official partnered one in the box. It is romantic. I have a RL patner and a SL partner. Both know all about the other. My RL and I don't expect to fill every need in each other. We have had very open talks about what our lines are and what we save for just each other.

I don't feel there is any harm in some love, friendship and romance outside of my primary relationship. Like any relationship it takes work to make sure everyone stays on the same page. This is actually my second SL relationship and believe it or not... My RL was totally understanding when I moped and cried about the first one ending.

The "Is it cheating?" can only really be answered by each of us according to our own experiences and personal stuations. Some couples have open relationships where each partner is free to explore other oportunities be they real or virtual. Others may be "cheating" on an unsuspecting partner. But even then, I can't judge, personal relationships get complicated, there are so many factors that cause people to look to others for comfort beyond their spouses, it's all a personal choice. Personally, I would not want to be the third wheel in a relationship, so finding out a potential partner was involved with someone else already would be a deal breaker for me.

Well...there were different options offered in the poll.

You can only respond with your opinion if you choose "It's romantic"....???

the jury is instructed to disregard that testimony.

Well i would like to clarify i am not calling her a 'bitch'. I put it in quotes simply to emphasize it was the words she was using.

I am not calling her that and if my post seems that way then i will change it.

You are not sleep.

And you are not in SL.

D-I-V-O-R-C-E ! ! ! ! !

Okay if everyone keeps commenting on it,I am going to find it impossible to keep my big mouth shut. I apologize if I offended anyone,that was not my intention. Was just stating an opinion I hold dear and yes, this was probably not the right thread to do that in. Please carry on with the regular intent of the thread.

Well, for what it is worth, I am rather thin skinned i am learning.

Shall I break out the duct tape, dear?

what about yes I married him in RL