sl community full of deviants?

Maybe you shouldn't ask too many questions if you don't get the answers you want
You missed all those humans lying by appearing as Furries and Robots perhaps, Elves that aren't really elves...................

You remind me a lot of a guy at one of the infohubs who asked every female avatar in local chat or IM whether they were really female, without even them having anything to do with him at all, just randomly asking any female in view.

Thank you, I was going to post that after reading this thread.

Second Life has never imposed any expectation that people have to be what they are in RL - there is no expectation that they must be of the same age, gender, race or even species. I'm celebate in SL but since when has sex been a deviant activity?

There is a difference between living a fantasy life and lying or cheating to gain personal advantage, though. Saying you'll pay someone LS2000 to build a house for you and then not paying them after they've finished is wrong. But if you are a female rabbit when you build the house but in RL you are a 20-stone male ex-wrestler, that's not wrong.

I've seen for myself that there are some perverts, deviants and griefers in SL and they go beyond the bounds of what's acceptable. Most of us would be happy to see measures taken against these things. Apart from the usual no-nos, my own pet hate is people with obsessions about death and the macarbre in SL. I don't mean ordinary goth fashion so much as Things like mutilated prim corpses in pools of blood that some people like to put in their gardens. That's just sick!

The clue is in the name: 'Second Life' - not 'Expanded Life' or 'Virtual Me'...

Personally I don't give any details about my RL except which country I came from (Britain). Just once did I did tell one person about my RL in-game and that led to question after question and lots of IMs - a benign form of stalking. Asking my dress size is hardly a muting offence but one has to stop somewhere or you'll be giving away your address, phone number, credit card details etc.

What's the definition of a deviant? I've met some very odd people doing, and saying, very odd things, but that makes SL what it is. That's what makes RL what it is. If I don't like what someone says or does, I ignore them. If something offends me, I go elsewhere.

Diversity is the spice of life. If you don't like it, go live under a rock.

To Op if you're having hard time I am truly sorry.
I hope you find things that make you happy.
Personally I seen good and bad, but mostly I seen lot of really nice, generous and brilliant people here and few who do enjoy stretching the truth but they seem to be having good time at it so really none of my business.
And I usually see most reality pretty unrezzed....

ROFL, best Ahern picture yet !

There's always room for one more Rocky!

Please make sure you drop into an infohub and give all your stuff to the nearest noob so it doesn't keep clogging the asset server unused till 3008

SL? Isn't this the City Of Heroes Forums?

So are actors liars? And by the OPs terms, deviants? How about authors of fiction? Playwrights? Poets? Let's throw in abstract sculptors, and games designers too. And anyone playing those games. Everyone playing an av that's not a fair representation of their RL self... furries, tinies, robots, vamps and neko. The transgendered here and in RL.

Kick them all out of SL, and it'll be great. No liars, no lag, no drama. But by the sacred jockstrap of Robert E. Howard, it'll be dull.

Under this description http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deviant_behavior I'm a deviant and I've just tried to excuse it by rhetoric and Neutralisation Theory. You know what? I'm happy to admit it.

You've stayed on SL for 4 years despite always coming across people who lie.
Eventually, while wallowing in "in this sea or cess pool rather, of dishonesty, filth, and cheap virtual hookers" you met someone who became your RL finance.
Personally I'd be a bit wary of someone I met in a "sea or cess pool rather, of dishonesty, filth, and cheap virtual hookers", buy hey, since you were already swimming in it maybe that thought didn't occur to you.

He quit SL ages ago due to the reasons above, the liars, the freaks, the deviants.
-- and you stayed on -- for ages by your own admission.

He quit in disgust
But you stayed in a place that he despised. You stayed - for ages.

So he's dumped you then?
- for being a filthy deviant.



"I'm sorry that this has happened to you"

IBTW.










W = Whatever.

Since when was anybody honest on the internet? SL is fraught with the same inherent social problems as the internet as a whole, but it's usually more fun.

Its a virtual world, now i`m not being funny but most people don`t actually want to wander round in a virtual world being an exact carbon copy of the person they are in the Real World. Whats the point in that?

If i want to go to a club or swimming or have mad kinky sex as the real world me, you know what I do...I actually go and wander around in the real world and do just that, and you know what else....its actually much more realistic and much more fun than it is in SL.

If however I want to go to places and do things I would never normally do in the Real World, I can create an Avatar and explore those things in a Virtual world...now 90% of people doing this are probably not very likely to create an Avatar that mirrors there real self....some will be close copies and others will chose to create something that is the complete opposite of what they are..is that lying, well yes it is, but you have to be a very naive person if you thought everyone you met was the same as the Avatar they have created, the entire naming of SL even suggests it...Second Life...i.e its not a replacement for your normal Real World life its a chance to create another life that does not mirror your real world life.

Now yes there is an awful lot of sex in SL, just as theres an awful lot of sex on the internet, why does a virtual world attract large numbers of people to do this...well its quite simple...people can choose to reveal as much as they want about there real selves and so feel more inclined to explore fantasies that they have that they would never share face to face in the real world. Its also done in a place where the people involved could be on other sides of the world, so risks in performing these acts are much less than they would be in the real world ,your are not going to catch a disease...get pregnant...end up being killed by an axe murderer, the worst that can happen is you have to log out to get away from any situation your avatar gets into...so based on this people will take fantasies to extremes and thats why you see so much of what you class as deviant behaviour.

SL as well as bringing out the worst in people also brings out the best of people...how many shopping malls in R/L can you wander into and strike up a conversation with a complete stranger I wonder.?...in real life it rarely happens...in SL you can wander up to people you have never met before and maybe find a friend....where you decide to take the friendship/relationship after that is up to the people involved.

SL does not attract all the deviants of the world...what it does is it allows people to explore there dreams, fantasies, desires, which they are unwilling or unable to perform in the Real World.

I so agree Crighton, Sl has so many wonderful things which does get overlooked it seems.

I have met some very wonderful ppl that I call friends. Maybe someday even meet in RL. Yes have I been lied to about stuff, "YES" but for the most part I didn't care. It wasn't important.

I sure as heck don't look like my AV. My av is over 7 feet tall with long Pink Hair. So am I a liar?

I have friends that are guys playing females, did they tell me from the get go no but after we became "friends" then they did tell me, did they have to? no

Only sort of lying I don't like is if someone manufactures a story to get my sympathy and then I find out it's a lie. But I have learned that unless it's one of my close friends in SL I try to stay more objective about it.

I have had friends donate to the epilepsy foundation IN my son's name. Now again how horrible is SL? I find the ppl here for the most part incredible. I think you get out of it what you put into it.

Sexy Partridge

I'm a total deviant. A couple days ago in the sandbox at NCI, I rezzed a sewer. Really - a whole sewer. Talk about gutter trash - it was everywhere! Literally!

I just wanted to say that. Freaks and deviants rule! They make sl interesting.

I found pornos in your sewer. (=_=)

Some of MY best friends are EXPENSIVE virtual hookers!

No wonder you are in SL. It's safer.

What is a deviant?

Well this deviant is starting her day with a fresh pair of pants!

just no undies :0

this concludes the P.S.A.

as you were

Now I understand finally. Thank you.

All the time I was wondering why my Second Life was so "clean". Hardly know how that prim appendage works (but I can pee with it, as far as I remember). Thought there was something wrong with me.

But its Second Life! Being a deviant pervert in RL, makes me a decent guy in SL. Just wish it was the other way around, as SL is full of pretty girls. And if they are not pretty enough, you can ask them to adapt their shape too! Asking my RL gf to change some rulers and attach her newest prim pussy was less of a success though.

Damn SL!

don't, i can't resist...


I'm a CHILD AVATAR !!!! and this is my 69 posts !!!!!

Did I won the deviant's prize ?