Have other people found love on SL? How did that turn out in RL?

If fact, people who went OOC too much were shunned. (OOC - out of character- talking about your real self and the real world.)

i learned that internet dating does not work back when 1200BPS was fast, but then again the grrls who were DOS savvy back in those days were very....eccentric,

In SL, a 50 year old bald, married man can, quite realisticly, appear to be a single, hip, 20 year old girl. How well they pull it off may rely entirely on their acting ability.

I would dispute that and actually say its half and half. Half of us here, our avatar IS a virutal representation of our rl selves, without roleplaying. Sure sometimes even i'll put on a squirrel av cause its funny, but I'm still being my silly real self.

Each to their own. It's just a case of being careful and really getting to know someone, being wise, just like in rl. But please don't paint this picture that most people in sl is being completely fake playing a pretend role/character. sl has the full range, its one of the things that makes sl so interesting

here here Arksun!!

i too bring my real life self to my av.

have we exchanged pics yet? no, but we are taking the time to get to know one another, and have made plans to meet later in the year.

I don't think you can bring yourself to an avatar. In SL, you're ultimately just a series of text messages. One literate person is very much like the next. So much so, that it's possible for your partner to put somebody else in his place and you wouldn't even notice.

Why take your time?. Just be upfront ask him if he's a serial killer. I'm sure he'll tell you. Or maybe you're hoping he'll slip up one day and say "BTW, I actually murdered my previous girlfriend."

Seriously though, just ask the necessary questions!

Are you married?

How much money have you got?

How big is your willy?

Do you have your own hair?

Etc...

It's easy!

Considering that we talk, Maggie and I (Yup...I'm her partner) verbally on Skype every day while in SL and even while not in SL...I doubt I could drop someone else at the keys, so to speak, and not have her notice.




She has, and I've answered. I have, and she's answered. Taking the time to get to know someone is more than merely divining the answers to some aribitrairily thought up questionaire. How she and I react to each other's moods, is part of taking the time to get to know each other. Learning the reasons behind vocal changes and changes in speech patterns, is part of taking the time to get to know someone. Listening to each other's jokes and stories...and one another's reactions to our own jokes and stories, is part of taking the time to get to know each other.

I could take six people, sit them down in front of a lie detector, and ask them all the "necessary questions" and still not know a damn thing about who they really are.




So is a 30 year old single man with a 6 figure bank account, 8 inch penis, a full head of hair, and all his own teeth automatically a better match for someone than someone twice his age with half the money, 3 inches less, and a few bridges in his mouth? Judging by the questionarie, many would say so. After getting to know each man however....one might discover that the 30 year old is Christian Bale from American Psycho, and the older gent is Robert Redfort from The Last Castle.

Even my straight ass would take the older chap over the good looking psychopath any day of the week.

From the way you keep responding, one might think that your idea of "getting to know someone" is in and of itself inherently flawed. Perhaps it's not the situation that seems to have you so guarded, but perhaps it's the way one approached the "getting to know the other person" that leads to such feelings.

Assuming that your "necessary questions" weren't asked and answered, merely because Maggie said that she and I are still taking the time to get to know one another, is presumptious and offensive. For you to sit there and think you know the Ins and Outs of our relationship, after but One forum post is, for lack of a better term, silly and wrong. I believe are plenty of real people forming real relationships all across SL, and for one person to sit back and broadly label the whole of SL, or even the majority thereof in one way or another, and to believe that they can know the depth of someone else's feelings and actions is almost comical.

I'd laugh if I wasn't so offended.


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PS.

1. No

2. Enough that two timezones away, she never wants for anything.

3. 7 inches (On a good day, and if I cheat a little on the measurements )

4. Yes. Yes I do.

There. Now that you've asked and I've answered....and I guess you know me, right?
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Now, I'm in my 4th relationship here and it's going very well, the way he talks, how he treats me and provides for me...makes me feel very special. I guess I'll never meet him in rl...but to me he's awesome...and that's all that matters to me.


Mandy does that mean you only have your relationship in SL and don't take it into RL? I personally don't see how that works... How can you be in love with someone and not want to be with him?
To me, this is the hardest part...: the waiting. Due to a number of circumstances, we have to wait a few months before we can actually meet. On the other hand: this will give us loads of time to get to know each other better!

Well, eventually I do wanna meet in RL....but since I'm in Europe for the time being and he's in the US we'll just have to be patient.

Mandy C

nods exactly, its a prime oppurtunity to get to know one another! i do wish You the very best and i hope it works for You and Yours!

(Hi Baby!)

and yes Mandy we are

I don't know anybody who has had a real nightmare experience, or who has gone to meet their online love and never been heard from again. When it doesn't work, it's usually more along the lines of learning that the chemistry you have in text isn't there in person, and then you hug and say you're sorry it didn't work out, and go back to your life.

To me, this is the hardest part...: the waiting. Due to a number of circumstances, we have to wait a few months before we can actually meet. On the other hand: this will give us loads of time to get to know each other better!

Hell yeah, the guy who takes me on romantic outings in SL, could just be an old 50 year-old fat bald fowl-mouthing German

By the way, you'll notice neither she nor I have divulged whether or not I'm a serial killer.

Dun dun.......DUNNNNNN!!!!

I don't think you can bring yourself to an avatar. In SL, you're ultimately just a series of text messages. One literate person is very much like the next. So much so, that it's possible for your partner to put somebody else in his place and you wouldn't even notice.

...It's easy!

1. No

2. Enough that two timezones away, she never wants for anything.

3. 7 inches (On a good day, and if I cheat a little on the measurements )

4. Yes. Yes I do.

There. Now that you've asked and I've answered....I guess you know me, right?
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here here Arksun!!

i too bring my real life self to my av. many forget or would like to forget that at the other end is a real person, still capable of real feelings, even though those feelings aren't reflected in the av. i did find someone here and we are partnered. have we exchanged pics yet? no, but we are taking the time to get to know one another, and have made plans to meet later in the year. so in answer to your question, yes. but i will echo a concern, be careful in whom You choose. make sure they are who they say they are.

and above all be safe.

a/s/l?

Ummmmm.....if you're guessing at my gender....oh nevermind..it's Male. Location is listed right there under my name and post count. You were given 2 out of three the first time I posted. As for age....I don't feel comfortable disclosing that just yet until you've answered my "neccessary questions".

1. Are you a Mormon?

2. If No...why not? If Yes....continue to question three

3. What is your breast size?

4. Are they real?

5. Thong or Granny Panties?

It's easy!