How sensitive are you to forum remarks?

I went with somewhat. There have been times when a comment or two have gotten to me. it often depends on who says it and the level of respect I might have for their opinions. With clear trolling or some of the usual folks who just wanna stir things up (assuming I did not already block 'em), then it's not at all an issue for me.

Briana!

Your Mother Was A Hampster And Your Father Smelt Of Elderberries!

Also, You Have A Lot Of Shiny Stuff In You!

I couldn't really vote because I don't remember anyone aiming personal attacks at me or much criticism either. Not hatefully anyway.

I get sensitive when that is done to others though - unless I've done it and am somehow clueless about it. I get a little harsh with surveys and with people trying to control others.

I don't have any shiny sex toys...

I usually don't care what anyone says. I can take it as well as I give it. The one exception being the troll last week with his "40 year old disabled people are pathetic" post. That one did piss me off just a little bit.

*hugs*

Meh! Stuff about me is a *whateveah* stuff about friends is a horse of a different color though

For me it's not so much a sensitivity thing, as in, I'm not ever hurt per se, but rather it's a 'who I respect' thing. It's entirely possible for me to lose all respect for someone, but that's a prize that few have attained and has to be earned with significant effort. It's been done, though. Usually only the ones with a deep seated need to 'win' the forums join this elite club.

On the other hand, some have seen me go toe to toe with a relatively well known blogger, then turn around and back them up on a different issue the very same week. My skin is ridiculously thick when it comes to people of some substance, even if their views are diametrically opposed.

If someone has been just loopy crazy or trash~talks to work things up, or have just been personally annoying without any discernable reason... I stop reading their words. It's not even conscious really; they simply cease to be worth reading. I think most people have a filter along such lines.

I've been around in some form or another on these forums since 2003, and after six years, well, I doubt another six will change much for me. People come and go, certain people you like stay, and others you don't like, stay. It's not a big deal.

Ah, and there's talk of the forums dying... they won't. Decent forums are so key to a successful platform that even if the current team ditches them, they will be reinvented a year or two later. Just watch.

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Ironically perhaps, I rather enjoy reading both Pserendipity and Jig, even if they might disagree strongly with each other.

I picked that I can't say. But, it does upset me when someone attacks simply for the sake of attacking. I do what I can to keep conversations fun and honest. There are times when honesty overrides the fun and vice-versa. I see the serious harm comes when someone places a post that is neither honest nor fun. Then, sorry, I just can't let that fly. (>_<

The attacks don't even have to be targeted at me or something or someone I directly support. Really, I've found myself having to calm down the mob in one of my own threads lately simply because all I saw were unjustified attacks well after the clear point was made about the initial inflammatory post. It was saddening to see people support a valid argument with, frankly, pretty darned low tactics. (>_<

Going down that path detracts from the topic and threatens the integrity of the popular voice just as much as the unpopular voice. (T_T)

Still... I expect frank, honest, and uncensored conversations here. If I expect to never be offended, that's just stupid. (^_^)y

"How sensitive are you to forum remarks?"






Again?


I'm begining to wonder just how many different ways there are to ask this same thing. Seems it continues to come in but in different colors.

This is kind of a loaded question because people -can- say and do things that cross the line. No matter how much you think you're immune to that, someone can find your button and push it, and then when they realize it is your button, get out a sledgehammer and go to town on it.

Some people are just plain evil about their conduct online - viewing it as a place to be meaner than they are in their physical lives.

There's a lot more room online to get hurt by what others say than there is in 'real life' - because well... this is real life, even if you're not physically there. But the lack of you being physically there can make some people feel their own actions have no consequence.

Yes that is very true also.

It's quite possible to be affected by someone's words, here or face to face.

Twice today, yes.

Stick around, you'll see the same thing posted daily.



I vote for a special forums just for the sensitive souls here.

Sensitive like me.

Rarely is anything done or said by humans new in the continuum of human interaction. Things are constantly repeated, endlessly, and remind those that have forgotten, or never knew.

And I am sure this has been said already to someone else who once said "why are you asking that again" or something similar.

That is the way things are.

I don't really take forum posts too personally....

I've lived long enough to realize that as much as we might share in a forum......we still know so very little about each other that passing judgement is just a silly waste of time. Yeah....some folks are more immature and quicker to make assumptions or nasty retorts.....but ya know what......some of the people am closest to IRL have those tendencies as well.....along with a lot of other qualities that I do admire. So.....I might get mildly annoyed at someone's quick assumption or misunderstanding of my meaning......but I know if I were to actually sit down with that person face to face, we'd likely wind up have a very interesting and good conversation.

It takes a LOT to ruffle my feathers.....even out here in the big bad world beyond the moniter...I don't get too bent by other people's misguided opinions of me. Not everyone is gonna like me...I get that....it's not a problem. I do my best not to be judgemental or harsh or cruel....and I hope others will do the same. *shrug*

I don't go out of my way to belittle or hurt others....I might share some strong opinions on a topic.....but it is never meant as a personal jab......nor do I take such opinions by others personally.

Yes. If someone just reeks constant negativity, I scroll past their words. If I forget to do this I usually regret it. Some people either must post inebriated or are just that mean naturally. Lol.

Thankfully it's rare but most forums have at least one.

Glad to be of service. (^_^)y

Ewwwww, I just got a visual of berries in depends!

Lol. It isn't you.

I think she meant quarters (as in coin operated)... or maybe it was just the jewelry (but coin operated is funnier so lets go with that)

I am very sensitive to what is said to me in the forums since I transfer my feelings to my real life. I depend upon criticism and commentary in my reality. So when I get a personal remark here about me, I tend to take it to heart. It isnt that I am NOT used to comments - it's that I get VERY many in my real world and they even determine my next steps as I do my "work".
A friend of mine told me - in real - that he can get many, many reviews that are glowing and full of praise, but ONE remark or review that has a negative tone or is pointedly nasty towards him even personally simmers with him for two or three days.
Recently I had a criticism in real that was posted to me by old fashioned letter and I opened it and it was scathing and merciless. Totally diminshing of me and what I do. Yet, I had dozens of other really glowing letters and comments that same week. It's the violence in the letter and its venom that stays with me. I keep those "bitter almonds letters".
Forums arent like that. But I dont have a tough skin. I am not used to forums anyway - this is the only one I have ever been on. It seems people do speak more cuttingly than they might in real.

this guy sums up how I feel about all you h8terz

"There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about"

No.

After years of participating in and running various forums, including quite a few flame boards, I've developed a pretty thick hide, and some very sharp claws.

As such, I don't let what people say to me or about me here affect me in any significant way. Yes, I may respond, sometimes rather pointedly, to what someone else says. However, at the end of the day, I go and do whatever I would normally do whether I participated in the forums or not. I slumber well at night, not worrying if people get bent out of shape over something I said. It is a given fact that some will, no matter how innocent and unintentional.

People just seem to have an over-exaggerated sense of importance of their more-or-less anonymous words to other people. To me, it is a matter of perspective; very few to none here are in the category of those who pay my bills, keep a roof over my head, clothes on my back, food in my belly, comfort for when I am down, etc. Consequently, what most folks say doesn't carry a whole lot of weight. Now, I can give basic respect for people's thoughts and opinions, but I am saying they don't give me concern, especially when to or about me.

Some folks have actually gone the requisite length to get to know me, and/or me them. It doesn't change much in the way I respond to them, but we have an understanding of the context of our words to one another. With any random forum person, there is no context, so we are free to wildly assume and judge each other based on nothing other than our limited perception of the words themselves.

Even still, I think people should never let what another (anonymous) person says in a public forum, whether to them or about them, bother them in the slightest. What matters are the words and, more importantly, the actions of those who actually bother to care for you, or about you, in some real way.

As they say, talk is cheap; what matters is what people actually do.

In the end, I believe in just being yourself; those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter. That can't be any more true here in SL (and in virtual worlds in general) than anywhere else.