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Rhaorth Antonelli
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10-31-2007 15:00
From: Bradley Bracken Based on that sentence, SL is just a game so I say get married after the first date if you'd like.
My RL partner and I got married in June. We considered then having a SL wedding so that our SL friends could participate. We didn't do it but I think that made at least a little bit of sense. For two people to JUST have a SL wedding is just plain silly to me. More like playing house as a child. Just click to be partners and be done with it. my RL and I almost did the same thing we met in SL, so when we got married in RL, we thought about having the wedding performed in SL (official and all) but we didn't
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Trout Recreant
Public Enemy No. 1
Join date: 24 Jul 2007
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10-31-2007 15:08
From: Rhaorth Antonelli my RL and I almost did the same thing
we met in SL, so when we got married in RL, we thought about having the wedding performed in SL (official and all)
but we didn't AHEM... /me points to the post directly above yours.
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Chris Norse
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10-31-2007 15:16
From: JessyAnne Theas O.o Your main and alts each have separate partners? Wouldn't it be weird for their main and alt to be partnered together?
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Trout Recreant
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10-31-2007 15:29
From: Chris Norse Wouldn't it be weird for their main and alt to be partnered together? NO. Second Life, dude. SECOND LIFE! People dress like ponies and ride each other around with quirts hanging out of their butts. Someone partnering their main and their alt is almost refreshingly not weird.
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Bradley Bracken
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10-31-2007 15:35
From: Chris Norse Wouldn't it be weird for their main and alt to be partnered together? If someone tells you to go "f" yourself, you can just say "ok"
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Tiana Whitfield
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10-31-2007 15:38
From: Bradley Bracken If someone tells you to go "f" yourself, you can just say "ok" Or "Again?" |
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Plato Cochrane
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10-31-2007 15:38
Since SL is not RL why not propose today? What is the downside? Your potential partner says no, you go out to a club and find someone else to propose to. Rinse and repeat.
Once you find your partner, divorce them within 1 month and take the furniture.
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Tegg Bode
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10-31-2007 16:08
From: Okiphia Rayna Just wondering...
What does everyone think is a reasonable amount of time to wait before 'proposing' in a world like SL? Its not as serious (TO most), so it wouldn't be the months and months or years that it is for most in RL... but.. how long?
I'm quite curious ^^ EEEK! We only danced for 3 or 4 hours
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Ann Launay
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10-31-2007 16:42
From: Trout Recreant TIf anyone wants me to preside over their wedding, I'm available. Why am I picturing a mid-air ceremony with the happy couple strapped to the wings of Trout's biplane?
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Ericka Nemeth
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10-31-2007 16:44
From: Ann Launay Why am I picturing a mid-air ceremony with the happy couple strapped to the wings of Trout's biplane? Over the forum's hangout I presume? Would pie be served in lieu of cake? Now pardon me while I go clean the pepsi of my computer moniter...
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Brenda Connolly
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10-31-2007 16:54
From: Chris Norse Wouldn't it be weird for their main and alt to be partnered together? Cherry posted this in the departnering thread earlier today. From: Cherry Czervik I am going to partner my alt tonight then kill her. Then we shall see. I don't like her anyway, she's only any good for keeping a group open! We don't talk. I never see her online when I am ... finito! Would be a pity. I've me her alt. Lovely girl.
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Nika Talaj
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10-31-2007 16:56
From: Trout Recreant My point is that I'm technically able to preside over weddings in RL. So far nobody has been brave enough to let me. Probably wise on their part. But if I can do them in RL, then I can certainly do them in SL. Another idea to get Trout in trouble: SL needs a Vegas wedding chapel with Trout presiding (when he feels like it)! Think of it ... a little 512 plot in the strangest district you can find on mainland, a weirdo chapel, and you're in business! I'm sure we can find Elvis AVs somewhere, so some of us in the cartel can "assist" at ceremonies *grin* Elvis Weddings, ltd. Or unlimited. whatever. I bet the guy who did the neons for the clubhouse has some that're just right for a vegas-style wedding chapel! In fact, I know he gave me an anarchist's flag neon! Let me know if you need it ... |
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Brenda Connolly
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10-31-2007 16:58
From: Nika Talaj Another idea to get Trout in trouble:
SL needs a Vegas wedding chapel with Trout presiding (when he feels like it)! Think of it ... a little 512 plot in the strangest district you can find on mainland, a weirdo chapel, and you're in business! I'm sure we can find Elvis AVs somewhere, so some of us in the cartel can "assist" at ceremonies *grin*
Elvis Weddings, ltd. Or unlimited. whatever.
I bet the guy who did the neons for the clubhouse has some that're just right for a vegas-style wedding chapel! In fact, I know he gave me an anarchist's flag neon! Let me know if you need it ... If it's SLVegas than we need SLvis. Who's the SL equivalent of Elvis?
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Oryx Tempel
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10-31-2007 16:59
From: Nika Talaj Another idea to get Trout in trouble:
SL needs a Vegas wedding chapel with Trout presiding (when he feels like it)! Think of it ... a little 512 plot in the strangest district you can find on mainland, a weirdo chapel, and you're in business! I'm sure we can find Elvis AVs somewhere, so some of us in the cartel can "assist" at ceremonies *grin*
Elvis Weddings, ltd. Or unlimited. whatever.
I bet the guy who did the neons for the clubhouse has some that're just right for a vegas-style wedding chapel! In fact, I know he gave me an anarchist's flag neon! Let me know if you need it ... Sweet! Hey I got married in RL in Vegas. It totally rocked. Got hitched, had a reception in a bar, then went out gambling in my wedding dress. I won a lot that night.  |
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Okiphia Rayna
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11-01-2007 00:28
From: Tegg Bode EEEK! We only danced for 3 or 4 hours Lol yous is silly..but you dance wonderfully (btw I know I'm kinda resurrecting a dead thread, but I just got home!)
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bilbo99 Emu
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11-01-2007 06:20
From: JessyAnne Theas Ohhh Strife... wanna get married? *bats eyelashes* Hands off!!! He/she/it's mine!! ..... oooh! pie!! Trout!!! I think there's a serious conflict of interests in this new proposal (oops! there's that word again!) Seriously, can you stand there and say you can act in all sincerity as a minister performing the holy act of marriage whilst conducting your earlier Slut Rating Establishment? Do you think you could timetable the two services without a conflict? What if you got the photos mixed up for instance? Okiphia, I say go for it. It's between you and your partner. Seize the day. Ultimately it's your future you're wishing to share with your partner. Confide with them absolutely. Don't be hemmed in by others opinions. There is no 'play safe'. Not really. We all die, so get a life in first
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Ceera Murakami
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11-01-2007 07:03
From: JessyAnne Theas O.o Your main and alts each have separate partners? And why not, since I make it very clear that each relationship extends only to that avatar, and not into RL? And since I make sure in advance that anyone I might get that close to has no issues with that limit? My main, Ceera Murakami, has a Partner. My Partner and I each have two alts that we got in order to get the same surname as each other, and for roleplay, and we're also partnered in those pairs. Same Players on both ends, and same given names. In RL my Partner and I are merely friends, not at all intimate. But I also have a male alt that very much has 'a life of his own' in SL, and he has a female Partner completely unrelated to myself or my main's Partner. And my Partner has several alts, a few of which have, or have had, other Partners. And I have several other alts that have no Partner at all, nor do they want one. Some, shockingly enough, are completely celebate in SL.
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Brenda Connolly
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11-01-2007 07:19
From: Ceera Murakami And why not, since I make it very clear that each relationship extends only to that avatar, and not into RL? And since I make sure in advance that anyone I might get that close to has no issues with that limit?
My main, Ceera Murakami, has a Partner. My Partner and I each have two alts that we got in order to get the same surname as each other, and for roleplay, and we're also partnered in those pairs. Same Players on both ends, and same given names. In RL my Partner and I are merely friends, not at all intimate.
But I also have a male alt that very much has 'a life of his own' in SL, and he has a female Partner completely unrelated to myself or my main's Partner.
And my Partner has several alts, a few of which have, or have had, other Partners.
And I have several other alts that have no Partner at all, nor do they want one. Some, shockingly enough, are completely celebate in SL. It really is Your World. Your Imagination.
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Argent Asbrink
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11-01-2007 07:21
Virtual weddings make me throw up in my mouth a little.
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Brenda Connolly
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11-01-2007 07:23
From: Argent Asbrink Virtual weddings make me throw up in my mouth a little. Virtual Vomit?
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bilbo99 Emu
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11-01-2007 07:35
Okiphia, ignore this post!!!! From: Argent Asbrink Virtual weddings make me throw up in my mouth a little. It's a difficult concept to get into I must admit. My first SL wedding (as a guest!!!!) was all very solemn and serious and quite lifelike. Sadly, the couple broke up soon after, SL and RL. I was sorry to hear this, really. My second, I was actually Best Man to a RL buddy I introduced to SL. This one was most strange. He's married/divorced/married again in RL and the whole SL thing was a publicity stunt for his Dekadance internet radio station. My RL/SL fiancee accompanied us but the whole spirit of the event was quite sickening to us both, making a joke out of the whole thing. I'm not sure which event proved to be the greatest travesty.
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Amaranthim Talon
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11-01-2007 08:08
The seeds of its end are in its beginning - do it if you feel like it - but eyes wide open.
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JessyAnne Theas
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11-01-2007 08:34
From: Trout Recreant NO. Second Life, dude. SECOND LIFE! People dress like ponies and ride each other around with quirts hanging out of their butts. Someone partnering their main and their alt is almost refreshingly not weird. People do that in 1st life too....... |
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Czari Zenovka
I've Had it With "PC"!
Join date: 3 May 2007
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11-01-2007 08:48
From: Ceera Murakami How long? Long enough to have had a good discussion about each other's likes and dislikes, and expectations. Long enough to have seen both the best and the worst sides of each other. Long enough to know whether either of you expects it to overflow into a RL relationship. Long enough to either know the other person's RL gender, or to be certain you really couldn't care less if tey later turn out to be other than how they appear.
I think rushing is a mistake. There's virtually no penalties for 'failed romance' in SL, aside from the emotional ones. No pregnancy, no child support, no alimony... But it can hurt, a lot, to break up. So be sure, before you conect. This is one of the best responses I've seen imho. Coming from years of online interaction in IRC, the "rule of thumb" there was 1 month online = 1 year offline. Of course how much time spends online plays into this formula as well. If one is online 8 hours +/day it is a lot more potential time to get to know another person than say being online 2 hours/week. Also, saying SL is a "game" depends on the people involved. I personally do not see this as a "game" at all (if I'm missing something here, would love to know what the "end game" is or where the higher level planes are. I need some ubar loot in my inventory...oh wait...this isn't EverQuest  ) In our case my Partner and I met, hung out, and got to know each other for approximately a month before making our relationship exclusive (like "going steady" , another month before we were engaged and another month before we were partnered. It seemed like a very long time, but we are each online approximately 8 hours/day. I wish you and your intended the best |
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Rhiannon Meredith
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11-01-2007 10:26
My partner swept me off my feet and proposed when we had known each other less than two weeks. It has gone to RL also. As odd as it sounds, we are in love although we have never met and he lives on the opposite side of the world. Somehow when we are talking together, it all seems to make sense. And we are both middle-aged people, not kids.
Anyway, to answer the question of how long: I don't believe there is a definitive answer. If you want to partner with someone, do so. With life, you only go around once, and no one gets out alive.
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